Zvemukati
- Wadii mapato ese akaisa nhamburiko?
- Ukama Rut
- 1. Bata hukama semunhu kwete sechinhu!
- 2. Uri kuita sei?
- 3. Confucius anodaro
- 4. Singin 'mumvura
- 5. Maburi asina miganhu
- 6. Mirror, Mirror pamadziro
- 7. Simoni anodaro
- 8. Roma haina kuvakwa nezuva rimwe
- 9. Gogodza kunze kwepaki
- 10. Kushamisika, kushamisika
Mumakore mashoma apfuura, ndakawedzera kusangana nevanhu vazhinji, vese varume nevakadzi vakaratidza "kufinhwa" nehukama hwavo kana zvakaipisisa, nemichato yavo. Mutsika yekutsvagisa, ndakatsvaga kutsvaga kuti ndezvipi zvimwe zvezvikonzero zvekufinhwa uye heino kuunganidzwa kwezvimwe zvezvikonzero zvandakakwanisa kuwana:
- Zvirongwa zvakabatikana
- Yakawanda maitiro uye kufungidzira
- Kudzokorora kunonetesa
- Kusava nekushamisika kana kufara muhukama
- Kuedza kupa mhuri kuchengetedzeka uye chengetedzo
- Kufunga kwekushayikwa kwekuzvivaraidza kunze kwemuchato uye mhuri (yevakadzi)
- Pfungwa dzekushomeka kwechirongwa chekubatana uye kuronga zvine simba ingava vaviri kana semhuri (yevanhurume)
Hukama hwakaoma uye michato yakatonyanya kuoma. Izvi ndezvechokwadi nekuti mari dzakasimwa dzakakwira kumusoro. Nekudaro, mukuwedzera pakugara nekugadzirisa matambudziko, kutsungirira uye chimiro che "Ini ndiri mazviri kuti ndihwine", ndiwo akakosha panguva yakaoma / inofinha nguva. Chero bedzi iwe uchiziva kuti hukama hwakakunakira iwe, uye ini ndoda kusimbisa kukosha kwekusiyana ikoko, chengetedza hushamwari uye nechishuwo chiripo.
Mune chinyorwa cha2014 muHuffington Post, murume ane makore makumi maviri nemana anotsutsumwa asingazivikanwe nezve chokwadi chekuti ave kufinhwa muhukama hwake nemukadzi wake, zvekuti ari kufunga kurambana. Kunyunyuta kwake kukuru: "haafarire chero chinhu, asi isu". Anoenderera mberi achiti kunyangwe iye asina basa kuti haashande kunze kwemba, uye ndiye muriritiri, asi ane hanya kuti "haatombofarira zvekuvaraidza". Mukati meiyo tambo, zvinonakidza, mupomeri pane iyo tambo, mukadzi anopindura kuti "anogona kunge asiri iye uye angave ndiwe". Anotaura izvi mushure mekunge ataura kuti murume wake anosarudza kuenda kupati neshamwari dzake nenzira isingaite, nekudaro anonzwa kuti anoda kuve iye anoona. Isu tinoti, pamwe mubatanidzwa. Zvinotora zviviri kuna Tango sezvavanotaura.
Wadii mapato ese akaisa nhamburiko?
Uye kwete hazvisi zvekungo "spicing" iyo nematoyi ebonde uye nezvimwe "zvekunze" zviitiko, nekuti izvo zvinogona kupedzisira zvaunza kusuruvara futi. Zvakadii pachinzvimbo, isu tinotanga nekudzivirira izvo zvatinofanirwa kuita, uye toita zvatinonzwa, tobva tatanga kubata hukama kunge munhu kwete chinhu.
Vakaroorana vazhinji vanofunga kuti hukama hwakanaka hwakangonaka. Zvinonakidza, zvine rudo, zvinonakidza, nezvimwewo zvese zviri zvega, saka vanofungidzira kuti kana hukama hwavo hukasagadzikana, hukama hwakaipa. Kwete Chokwadi.
Yakanga iri panguva yeSeason 6 uye Chikamu 15 cheBonde neGuta kuti ini ndakatanga kuwana chiito "kusunga". Iyo episode yakatsanangura kuti sevakadzi, isu tinonyanya kunetseka pakuita zvatinofanira kuva. Semuenzaniso, shoo yataurwa, inofanirwa kuve yakaroorwa tisati tasvika makumi matatu, tichiwana mari yakadzikama uye nebasa repamusoro pazera ramakore makumi matatu, uye vana vasati vasvitsa makore makumi matatu nemashanu, nezvimwewo Samantha anga achangobva mukuongororwa kwekiriniki uye kwete saka chinonakidza chiitiko chakamurova kumeso.Gare gare, mukucherechedza, Carrie akaratidzira mukoramu yake ndokunyora, "Sei tiri kuzvishingisa pachedu?"
Ukama Rut
Pano ini ndinotsunga kupinda mumusoro weRelationship Rut nemamwe maonero iwayo asi zvakare ndichitora maonero epasirese nekuti ngatizvitarisei, 50% yekurambana mwero haisi chinhu chekuzvirova dundundu nacho. Chekutanga chinouya rudo, kwozouya muchato, chashanduka kuita chekutanga kunouya kurambana kwozouya kubhuroka. Chii chinopa?
Ndinoda kutanga ndatanga nesumo; kuti hausi hukama hwese hunofadza hunofanira kupera muwanano.
Haasi machato ese anofara anoda kuve nezvibereko, (chimwe chezvandinofarira zvemuShumba bhaisikopo ndicho chikamu chemutambi Nicole Kidman achitamba saamai vekurera vaSheru vanomuudza kuti kumutora kwaive sarudzo uye zvaisave nekuti iye nemurume wake haikwanise kubereka vana). Uye hausi wega wekugara kwenguva refu imba inobudirira muchato nekuti wakaramba uripo.
Iyo poindi ndeyekuti isu semhando yezvipuka tine zvakawanda mativi kwatiri uye imwe yeaya maficha ndiko kwedu kuda kurondedzera uye kudyidzana. Isu takave takashongedzerwa kwete kwete kungo roora uye tobva tasiya mumwe nemumwe semurume nemukadzi, asi kuti titore mumwe kana kurarama hupenyu hwedu sevamwe uye kana tiine vana, simudza vana vedu pamwechete navo. Asi dambudziko idanho harina kuuya nebhuku remuridzi.
Tsika dzakasiyana uye vanhu venyika, vakararama, vakada uye pamwe vakaroora nenzira yavo uye vane ngano dzekutaura. Idzo ngano dzakapa hupenyu kuzvinhu zvazvino uno uye sevane zana ramakumi maviri nemasere vagari vepasi, isu tinorarama humbozha kunhonga nekusarudza hunhu hunotishandira uye hwatino "fanirwa" pane kuwira mairi.
Kunyangwe kumashure mumazuva apo sarudzo dzaive dzvinyiriro yakadzvanyirirwa segore rakaomarara pavakadzi, sezvakataurwa nechinyorwa chaPBS Khadija, mudzimai wekutanga weMuporofita Muhhammad uye munhu wekutanga kutendeukira kuIslam, aive muzvinabhizimusi ane chivimbo uye akangwara. Akatanga kushandira muprofita kuti amutungamirire makaravhani ake ekutengesa, uyezve kunyangwe makore mazhinji ari mukuru, akaronga kuroorwa naye. Dai aigona kusarudza nzira yaakararama nayo hupenyu uye hukama ipapo, isu tese tinogona zvakare.
Heano mazano angu epamusoro gumi ekudzivirira hukama rut:
1. Bata hukama semunhu kwete sechinhu!
Funga, ronga, ita ndizvo zvatinovadaidza. Funga nezvekuti chako chakakosha chimwe chinokuita kuti unzwe sei uye sei iwe waunoda kumuita kuti anzwe. Ronga mazuva, kubuda, kutaurirana mapoinzi, getaways iye ega uye neyenyu mese. Uye pakupedzisira, tamba chikamu chako nekuita iwo marongero. Uye kana iwe ukaona zvikanganiso kusvika pane zvavanogona kuita zvirinani, usamise. Mushure mezvose, chikamu chakakura chekugadzirisa kusawirirana mune chero hukama ndechekufanoona uye kuronga zviitiko zvakanaka pane kunzvenga nhaurwa dzisina kugadzikana.
2. Uri kuita sei?
"Ne foni kana uri munhu, bvunza mumwe wako, ndezvipi zvitsva muhupenyu hwavo kamwe chete pazuva uye teererai nechinangwa."Dzvanya kuTwitter
Izvi zvinokubatsira kuti urambe uchitsvaga pahukama, uye iwe uri munhu anoshanda pane kungoita wega. Nekuti vakadzi vanonyanya kutaura, varume vazhinji vanonyepera kuti ndivo vari kutarisira hukama uye ivo vanomirira nekumirira mukadzi kuti ataure zvavanoda nezvido zvavo. Uye izvo hazvisi zvinofinha chete asiwo hazvigutsi zvakanyanya kumukadzi.
3. Confucius anodaro
Seboka remagariro, vekuAsia vekuAmerica dzimwe nguva vanonzi "mamodhiya mashoma" Izvi zvinoenderana nekubudirira kwavo (mubhizinesi nedzidzo), hukama hwakasimba hwemhuri (uye yakaderera kurambana mwero), uye kutsamira kwakaderera pakubatsirwa neruzhinji. Seboka, maAsia America vane chikamu chepamusoro chemuchato (65% kana 61% yevachena) uye yakaderera muzana yekurambana (4% maringe ne10.5% yevachena).
Hapana tsika yakakwana nekuti, sekuziva kwedu, hapana munhu akakwana. Asi, kuva izvo kuziva kunopa hupenyu kune hunhu, zvine basa kuziva zvimwe zvetsika tsika zvinogona kubatsira nekuchengetedza hurefu muhukama hweAsia.
Sekureva kwa www.healthymarriageinfo.org, kumwe kusiyanisa kwakakosha kwakadaro inyaya yekuti maAsia havatendi kuti rudo muhukama runofanirwa kuve rwekutaura; mune mamwe mazwi, ivo vanodavira kuti panzvimbo pekutaura kwekuratidzira kwerudo, hukama hwakanaka hwakavakirwa pazviito zvinyararire, asi zvinoshingirira zvekuzvipira uye kwenguva refu uye kuzvipira kusingagadzirisike.
4. Singin 'mumvura
Iwe unoziva kuti rwiyo rumwe kana nhevedzano yenziyo, idzo iwe paunongonzwa iwe pakarepo, inounza unodziya kunzwa kune moyo wako kana ndangariro inofadza yenguva dzinofadza? Ko kana iwe uchikwanisa kutevedzera iko kunzwa uye kuwanda ne gumi? Tora nguva yekuita playlist yenziyo dzaunofarira imi mese munoda. Gadzira runyorwa rwekunonoka uye runyorwa rwekutsanya nziyo uye wovadaidza "Nziyo Dzedu".
5. Maburi asina miganhu
Kumwe kwekunyunyuta kukuru kuripo muhukama kunoenda seizvi:
- “Haambonditeereri”
- “Anogara achinyunyuta”
Izvi zvirevo ndezvimwe zvezvikonzero zvinoita kuti kufinhwa kupinde mukati. Uye mukuwedzera pakufinhwa, zviuru nezviuru zvingangoita mamwe manzwiro asina kunaka akadai sekugumbuka, kana kugumbuka. Freud baba ve psychoanalysis vaitenda muitiro inonzi Free Association. Apa ndipo paunobuditsa uye kubuda uye kubuda uye kubvumira pfungwa dzako nemanzwiro ako kuyerera zvakasununguka uye kuratidza pasina kunzwa kutongwa kana kukanganiswa. Anenge foni yemunhu wese inouya yakashongedzwa nerekodhi rezwi mazuva ano. Panzvimbo pekufonera shamwari yako, nhengo yemhuri yako kana mumwe wako mushure mekunge musina kumuona mushure menguva yakareba zvakadii, shandisa chirekodhi kune zvemukati memwoyo wako kubuda uye kuburitsa uye kuburitsa zvimwe. Uye kana yako venter yaburitswa kunze, iwe uchaona kunzwa kwekusununguka, izvo zvinokutendera kuti usanyanya kunetseka, uye kuzorora zvakanyanya.
6. Mirror, Mirror pamadziro
Zvichienderana nepfungwa yedu yazvino yekuzvimirira, uye zviitiko zvakapfuura nemamwe mabasa, isu tinogara tichienda kubva kunzvimbo yekunzwa kuenda kunzvimbo yekuziva. Mune mamwe mazwi, dzimwe nguva isu tinoda kuti vatinoshanda navo vatinzwire tsitsi uye vangoteerera, uye dzimwe nguva tinoda kuti vatinoshanda navo vatibatsire kugadzirisa matambudziko. Panzvimbo pekungobuda pasina chinangwa, tanga wafunga mupfungwa dzako wega kuti uri munzvimbo ipi usati waunza mumwe wako mubhodhi, nenzira iyi unodzivirira musungo wekunzwa kusanzwika kana kufunga kuti mumwe wako haakwanise kukubatsira.
7. Simoni anodaro
Goverana uko musoro wako uripo. Mutsara mumwe ndizvo zvese zvinotora. Ex. "Ndave nezuva rinonakidza uye ndinonzwa simba!" , "Ndave nezuva rakawandisa uye ndinonzwa kupera simba!", "Ndanga ndine mamiriro newandaishanda naye uye ndinonzwa hasha!", "" Mwanasikana wedu anga achingonetsekana kweawa rapfuura uye ndinonzwa kupera simba ". Nezvimwewo.
Iyi hunyanzvi hwepamoyo maitiro anoita zvinhu zviviri panguva imwe chete:
- Iko inokutendera iwe kuti ubvume zvaunonzwa, uye
- Inozivisa mumwe wako izvo zvavanogona kutarisira uye zvaunogona kutarisira kwavari.
Iyi nhanho inofanira kunyatsoitwa mushure mekunge watoita # 3. Wobva watanga nemutsara, kumbira mutsetse wenguva we5. 10, kana maminetsi gumi nemashanu, wozopedzisa nemutsara mumwe unopfupikisa manzwiro aunoita / kufunga sekutsanangurwa kwazvinoitwa # # wopa ruzivo kune mumwe wako. .
Semuenzaniso. Ini ndinonzwa ndakabatirirwa nemamiriro ekubasa uye ndinoda rubatsiro rwako kumatambudziko kugadzirisa. Kana
Ini ndakatsamwa kwazvo nechimwe chinhu chakaitika nhasi, uye ndiri kugovana icho newe kuti urege kufunga kuti ndezvewe.
8. Roma haina kuvakwa nezuva rimwe
Kudanana hakusi kungombundirana nekutsvodana, maruva uye chokoreti. Izvo zvakajairika zvido. Haufanire kuvanza vhiki rese kana mwedzi wese, nekuti wakamirira zororo iri, chiitiko ichocho, kana iko kukokwa. Rarama hupenyu hwako hwanhasi uye kuvaka nguva dzezuva nezuva pamwechete. Vaka bhaketi rondedzero yezuva nezuva zviitiko, fungidziro, nzvimbo, kana zviwanikwa zvamunofarira kuita pamwe chete uye zvichienderana nehurongwa hwenyu, sarudzai zuva rimwe revhiki rekuchinjana nekuzviita pamwe chete.
9. Gogodza kunze kwepaki
Kune iwo masvondo evhiki pawave uine rakabatikana zvikuru, rinonetsa uye rinogona kunge rinosemesa zuva rebasa, chengetera kurovedza muviri kusingafungi uko iwe mese misiyei imwe hutsi muchiri nekunakidzwa uye neupenzi nguva. Ehe, pane zvakajairwa "ngatidyei chikafu uye veg pamberi peTV, zvakadii nezvezvimwe zvezviitiko izvi: kutamba mutambo wevhidhiyo waunofarira kubva kuraibhurari yako ye" Nziyo Dzedu "kubva pa # 2 pamusoro, kutora maminetsi gumi nemashanu wakabata maoko, kucherechedza nzvimbo dzakakukomberedza uye usingatauri izwi rimwe chete, kutamba tambo yaunofarira yekuzorora / yekusimudzira (zvinoenderana nesimba rako remagetsi) paired negirazi rakanaka rewaini, mukombe wekuzorora tii inopisa, kana mukaka unodziya neuchi uye ginger nekutamba pamwechete , nezvimwewo.
10. Kushamisika, kushamisika
Vazhinji vakaroorana, kunyanya avo vane vana vadiki vanowira mutsika yekufunga kuti vanofanirwa kuita chero basa mumba mavo vasati vaedza kuita rudo nemumwe wavo. Chikanganiso Chikuru! Kuvhara, mimhanzi uye chiito ndizvo zvatinotaura! Zvepabonde pamberi pechinhu chero chipi zvacho. Kuchengetedza zvakanakisa zvekupedzisira haisi iyo nguva dzose nzira yekuenda kuvanhu!
Rangarira chiitiko muPretty Woman, uko Richard Gere anodzokera kuhotera apedza basa, uye Julia Roberts kana Vivian sekudanwa kwaanoitwa mufirimu anomukwazisa nemuviri wake wakashama, asina chaakapfeka, asi tai yaakamutengera pakutanga zuva naKenny G arikutamba kuseri? Vhara maziso ako kweminiti imwe uye fungidzira mumwe wako kuchitofu, uye mumwe achifamba nepasuo. Unochinjana kukwazisa nekukurumidza uye wotarisa ipapo woenda kunowanzoitwa nebasa rechikoro, uchiwana chikafu patafura, wozobvisa ndiro nekutsvaira uye usati wazviziva, dzave nguva dza8pm uye nguva yekurara.
Panguva ino, kuda kwako kwakatsiviwa nemavara pahembe yako kubva pakubika, wakaneta tsoka uye pamusoro pekukurudzirwa kubva mukuomerera kune zvese zvinodiwa kunze kwako uye bonde rinoratidzika kunge rimwe basa. Flip switch uye woisa iko kunakidzwa kwekutanga uye zvaunazvo rudo rwakawanda mukicheni, runyararo rwakawanda uye kutandara pakudya kwemanheru kutenderedza vana, uye kunyemwerera kwakawanda.
Uye oh hongu, usaunze Tube iyi mumba yekurara. Ndinodzokorora usaunze Tube mubedroom Izvi zvinosanganisira, malaptop, Ipads, mafoni, uye kunyangwe mabhuku, ehe ndati nyangwe mabhuku. Yako yekurara inofanirwa kuve yako tsvene uye yekudzokera bako. Chinhu chete chinosimudzira uye chinonakidza mukati mayo munofanira kunge muri vaviri imi.
"Usatarise wanano yako seyakagadzirwa, asi asi sechimwe chinhu chekurima."Dzvanya kuTwitter
Iyo inzvimbo yeConfucianism inopesana nepfungwa yekumadokero zvakare, iyo inotenda kuti roorano ndiko kutanga kwenyaya yerudo pane kuguma kunofadza kwerudo.