Zvemukati
- 1. Trigger-pfungwa
- 2. Kutadza kutsungirira kukuvadzwa
- 3. Kukura mumhuri ine vanhu vanoshusha
- 4. Kushaikwa miganhu muwanano
- 5. Kusava netsitsi
- 6. Kushandisa zvinodhaka
Zvakajairika zvinotyisa - vanhu vanoroora, tariro yekuve nemufaro nekusingaperi, uye pavanotarisa kumuchato wavo rimwe zuva, kunyepedzera kwemurume ane mutsa uye ane rudo murume anenge aenda kure. Iye munhu wavaifanirwa kuvimba nehupenyu hwavo uye mufaro ndiye munhu chaiye anovakonzera kusuwa zvakanyanya uye zvinosuwisa, anowanzoisa panjodzi hutano hwavo nekuchengetedzeka nekuzvibata mukuroora.
Kunyangwe hukama hwakadai huri pasi peongororo yepfungwa kwemakumi emakore, hazvigoneke kutsanangura zvinokonzeresa zvehukama hunoshungurudza, kana chii chinokonzeresa mushungurudziri kuita chiitiko chemhirizhonga.
Zvisinei, kune humwe hunhu hwakajairika hwemichato yakawanda yakadai, uye yevakawanda vanoita zvisimba. Heino runyorwa rwezvikonzero zvishanu zvakajairika nei kuroorwa kwevakaroorana kunoitika muwanano, chii chinokonzera kushungurudzwa mumuviri uye nei vanoshusha vachishungurudza:
1. Trigger-pfungwa
Hukama hunoshungurudza hunotanga sei?
Kutsvagurudza kunoratidza kuti izvo zvinokonzeresa zvakananga mhirizhonga munharo dzemuchato kuteedzerana kwemifungo yakaipa kwazvo, iyo inowanzo kupa mufananidzo wakatsauka zvachose wechokwadi.
Hazvina kujairika kuti hukama huve nenzira dzakarongwa dzekupokana idzo dzinowanzoenda kwese uye dzisina zvibereko zvechokwadi. Asi muhukama hwechisimba, pfungwa idzi ndizvo zvikonzero zvekushungurudzwa uye zvinogona kuva nenjodzi kune akabatwa.
Semuenzaniso, kumwe kushoma kwekuziva kwakanganisa uko kunowanzoitika mundangariro dzemutadzi, kana kumashure kwepfungwa dzake, ndeichi: she think she is, speaking to me that way? ”,“ Rakadaro benzi haringagoni kuunzwa kuzofunga neimwe nzira kwete nekumanikidza ”, nezvimwe.
Kana izvi zvitendero zvikauya mupfungwa dzeanobhinya, zvinoita sekunge pasina kudzokera shure uye mhirizhonga inenge yave pedyo.
2. Kutadza kutsungirira kukuvadzwa
Zvakaoma kuti munhu wese arwadziswe neiye watinoda uye isu takazvipira hupenyu hwedu kwaari. Uye kugara nemumwe munhu, kugovana kushushikana kwemazuva ese uye kuoma kusatarisika kunozotungamira mukukuvara nekuodzwa mwoyo dzimwe nguva. Asi vazhinji vedu tinosangana nemamiriro ezvinhu akadaro tisingaite zvechisimba kana kushungurudza mupfungwa kune vedu vakaroorana.
Asi, avo vanoshungurudza vakaroorana vanoratidza kutadza kushivirira kuitirwa zvisizvo (kana maonero avo sekukuvara nekugumburwa). Vanhu ava vanoratidzira hunhu hwekushungurudza vanoita marwadzo nekurwadzisa vamwe. Ivo havagone kuzvibvumira ivo pachavo kuti vanzwe kunetseka, kusuruvara, kuratidzika kunge vasina kusimba, vanotambura, kana kudzikisirwa munzira ipi neipi.
Nekudaro, chinoita kuti hukama hunoshusha mune dzakadai ndechekuti ivo vanobhadharisa panzvimbo uye vanorwisa vasingaregi.
3. Kukura mumhuri ine vanhu vanoshusha
Kunyangwe asiri iwo wese anoshusha anouya kubva kumhuri inoshusha kana ine hukasha hwehudiki, vazhinji vevamanikidzi vane dambudziko rehudiki munhoroondo yavo vega. Saizvozvowo, vazhinji vanobatwa nekushungurudzwa kwevakaroora vanowanzo wobva kumhuri mune izvo simba raive riine chepfu uye richizadzwa nekushungurudzwa kwepfungwa kana kwepanyama.
Nenzira iyoyo, vese murume nemukadzi (kazhinji vasingazive) vanoona kushungurudzwa muwanano sechinhu chakajairwa, pamwe sekuratidzwa kwehukama nerudo.
Pamitsetse mimwe cheteyo, tarisa vhidhiyo iyi apo Leslie Morgan Steiner, murume wekushungurudzwa mudzimba, achigovana zvaanoona iye mumwe wake, uyo aive nemhuri isina kusimba, aigara achimushungurudza munzira dzese dzinobvira uye achitsanangura kuti sei vanhu vekuitirwa mhirizhonga mudzimba vasingakwanise kubuda zviri nyore muhukama hunoshusha:
4. Kushaikwa miganhu muwanano
Kunze kwekuregerera kwakadzika kwekukuvadzwa nemunhu anoshusha, uye kushivirira kwakanyanya kune hukasha, michato inoshungurudza inowanzo kuverengerwa neinogona kutsanangurwa sekushaikwa kwemiganhu.
Mune mamwe mazwi, kusiyana nehukama muhukama hwakanaka hwepamoyo, vanhu vari mumichato inoshusha vanowanzotenda muchisungo chisingadambuke pakati pavo. Izvi zvinogona kungopindura mubvunzo une vanhu wekuti nei kushungurudzwa kuchiitika kunyangwe mune anonzi hukama hune rudo.
Ichi chisungo chiri kure nezverudo, chinoratidza kuparara kwemiganhu iyo inodikanwa kune hukama. Nenzira iyoyo, zvinova nyore zvese kushungurudza mukadzi uye kushivirira kushungurudzwa, sezvo pasina anonzwa akapatsanurwa kubva kune mumwe. Nekudaro, kushomeka kwemiganhu kunobuda seimwe yezvikonzero zvinowanzoitika zvekushungurudzwa mumuviri.
5. Kusava netsitsi
Chikonzero chinotarisirwa chinoita kuti mutadzi aite mhirizhonga kune mumwe munhu wavanogovana naye hupenyu hwavo kushayikwa kwetsitsi, kana kunzwa kwakadzikira kwakanyanya kwekunzwira tsitsi, uko kunopa nzira yekumanikidza nguva dzese. Munhu ane hunhu hwekushungurudza anowanzo tenda kuti vane simba rinenge repamusoro rekunzwisisa vamwe.
Ivo kazhinji vanoona kutadza kwevamwe uye kushaya simba zvakajeka. Ichi ndicho chikonzero, pavanotarisana nekushayikwa kwavo kwekunzwira tsitsi mukukakavara kana pachirongwa chepfungwa, vanopokana nechido chakadai.
Zvisineyi, chinovatiza ndechekuti kunzwira tsitsi hazvireve kungoona zvinokanganiswa nevamwe uye kusagadzikana, zvine chekuita nazvo uye zvinouya nekutarisira nekugovana manzwiro evamwe.
Muchokwadi, zvakawanikwa mune imwe ongororo yakaitwa neUniversity yeBarcelona kuti kuisa uyo anoshungurudza mushangu dzeanotambudzwa achishandisa inonyudza chaiyo chaiyo system, avo vanoshungurudza vakakwanisa kuona kutya kwavanotambudzwa navo pavanenge vachishungurudzwa uye zvakavandudza maonero avo manzwiro.
6. Kushandisa zvinodhaka
Kushandisa zvinodhaka ndechimwe chezvikonzero zvinowanzoitika zvekushungurudzwa muhukama. Sekureva kweAmerican Journal of Public Health, zvakawanikwa zvakare kuti vaviri ava vanehukama-nepakati nepfungwa yekuti dzimwe nguva vanoita zvekushungurudza vanomanikidzawo vavanoshandisa kushandisa doro nezvinodhaka. Zvikamu zvizhinji zvechisimba zvinosanganisirawo kunwa doro kana zvinodhaka zvisiri pamutemo.
Gender dynamics mukushungurudzwa kwemurume / mukadzi
Izvo zvinonakidzawo kuziva kuti kuwanda kwekushungurudzwa kwevakaroora munharaunda yeGBBTQ kwakanyanya kushumwa zvakanyanya nekuda kwekutya kwekuwedzera kushurikidzwa senharaunda, maonero epasi nezve simba revarume nevakadzi uye nezvimwe.
Iko kusarudzika kunowanikwawo kana mabasa echikadzi achishandurwa muhukama hwepabonde, uko hunhu hwemunhu anoshungurudza husingapiwe kukosha kwakanyanya paunenge uchimhan'arwa kuti uyo anoshungurudza mukadzi. Zvese izvi zvinogona kuwedzera kushinga mubati kuti aenderere mberi nemhirizhonga.
Kuroora kunogara kwakaoma uye kunotora basa rakawanda. Asi hazvifanirwe kumbounza kushungurudzwa kwevakaroorana uye kutambura kubva kudivi revaya vakagadzirirwa kuchengetedza vavakaroorana navo kubva mukukuvara. Kune vazhinji, shanduko inogoneka, nerubatsiro rwehunyanzvi uye nhungamiro, uye michato yakawanda inozivikanwa kuti inobudirira mushure mekuiwana.