Zvemukati
- 1. Kana nhanho dzako dzikave mu-sync
- 2. Paunosvitsa mumwe wako pamberi pemumwe munhu
- 3. Paanova shamwari yako yekuzvidavirira
- 4. Paunenge uine "isu taura"
- 5. Paunovhara yako epamhepo kufambidzana maapplication
- 6. Kana muchinyatsotenda munemumwe nemumwe
Pane zvimwe zvakanyorwa pamasaini ekuti muchato wako wakananga kudare rekurambana mazuva ano kuti vashoma varikutarisa imwe sarudzo - paunenge wakananga kuartari.
Iwe unoziva sei kuti hukama hwako hunogara huchienderera-nekusingaperi? Munzvimbo yekutamba kwekudanana, pane akakosha majuniti ayo anoratidza kuti kubatana kuri kufamba munzira yekuroora. Unoyeuka yako here?
Kubatana ndezvenguva uye kuenda kune kuzvipira kunosanganisira nzira yavo. Mukuteerera mhiko dzewanano nezuro pamuchato wevatanga-nguva ndakavanzwa vachigovana 'nguva' idzo mumwe nemumwe ainzwa kuti chisungo chavo chakasimba uye yega yega nguva iyo yavaiziva kuti iye / ndiye.
Paunorangarira ndangariro idzodzo, dzinogona kusanganisira chimwe kana zvimwe zvezvinotevera, mazhinji andakaona nezuro.
1. Kana nhanho dzako dzikave mu-sync
Mune rwendo rwakananga kune kubatana kune kubatana. Paunotanga kupedzisa mazano emumwe neumwe, fungidzira zvido zveumwe neumwe uye mugova anchor yemumwe kune kufamba mune iyo nzira. Achiratidzika kunge asingadi, Dana akazivisa. .
"Yakanga iri panguva imwe mangwanani paakaisa mbatya dzangu muhombodo yake yekutsvaira yakaoma ini ndakaziva kuti chichava chinguva".
Kuna Stu, nguva iyoyo yakauya apo Dana akashevedza kukurumidza kumisikidza chiremba kwaari pazuva raakaita musangano mukuru webhizinesi. Zviri mukati meiyi nguva apo iyo "Ini" inova "isu" uye iyo "iwe" inova "isu"; iyo vaviri-ngarava iri kugadzira.
2. Paunosvitsa mumwe wako pamberi pemumwe munhu
Paunoona kuti unosvikira mumwe wako pamberi peumwe munhu, unoona kuti mumwe wako ishamwari yako yepamwoyo. Pakutanga, hukama hwese hwakanyanya uye zvinoenderana naDr. Helen Fisher, rudo kupindwa muropa. Ndimi vanhu vanonyanya kukosha kune mumwe nemumwe uye dzimwe nguva vanhu vega kwechinguva muhupenyu hweumwe neumwe. Kuti vanobatsirana vanokoshesana - kunyanya pakutanga - kusiira vamwe, mucherechedzo wekuvandudzwa kwechikepe-vaviri.
Kana vanhu vakaroorana vakazvibvisa, kunyangwe kwechinguva, kubva kunyika yavo, hachisi chiratidzo chakaipa nguva dzose. Ichakurumidza kukwana kuti vapinde munyika yavo zvakati siyanei, ikozvino vari vaviri uye kwete sevanhu vakazvimiririra. Kuchinja kwavo kana hukama hwehukama mucherechedzo wekuti ivo vakananga kunoshandisa hupenyu hwavo pamwechete.
Maererano naPeter. .
“Ndakaona kuti ndaizoparadzanisa Jan ndega uye ndainetsekana kuti zvaive zvisina hutano asi mushure memwedzi mishoma ndakazomupinza mudenderedzwa rangu. . . ndipo pandakaziva kuti anga aripo kwenguva yakareba ”.
Kuna Jan, zvaive zvimwewo. .
"Pandakaudzwa nezve rimwe basa rakakura ramazino raidiwa ndakaenda kuna Peter pachinzvimbo chaamai vangu."
3. Paanova shamwari yako yekuzvidavirira
Sezvo kutamba kuri kuenderera, nhanho dzinoenderana. Muhukama hwekuumba, vadyidzani vanove umwe neumwe wekuzvidavirira wekudyidzana. Ivo 'vanoongorora' kune mumwe nemumwe icho chine hutano uye chinotsanangudza chikamu chehukama nevakabatana. Ivo vanoita izvi vari kuve nebasa kune mumwe kutanga. Iwo "GM" uye "GN" zvinyorwa chikamu cheichi, kugashira zuva uye kubvuma kupatsanurwa mumatanho ekutanga. Hukama huri kutora iwo matanho zvinoratidza kuti zvinhu zvava kuita zvakakomba.
Kuna Gwen, kutaurwa kwenhau dzekurapa yaive nguva yakakosha. .
"Pandakafonerwa naDoug zvichitevera kushanya kwachiremba wake wemapfupa ndakaona ... panguva iyoyo ndipo pandakaziva kuti Doug ane hanya neni zvekugovana ruzivo rwakakodzera panguva iyi uye takave chikwata".
Uku kutarisa kwaari kwaive chiratidzo chekuwedzera kwake rudo uye rudo.
4. Paunenge uine "isu taura"
Kunanga kuartari kunodzikisirwa nekuwedzera huwandu hwe 'isu' kutaura-ndiko kuti, unozviona sevanhu-ngarava. Kuenda kubva kuna 'ini' kuenda ku 'isu' kwakakosha pakuti inotsanangura nzvimbo yevaviri.
Kuna Sara, yaive mundege pavakanga vachigadzirira kuenda. .
"Pandakanzwa Dan achibvunza mutariri wendege kana vachigona kuenda kunogara kumberi nekuti" 'isu' tine pfupi pfupi ", ndakanzwa chimwe chinhu muzwi rake uye panguva iyoyo, ndakaswedera padhuze naye kwaari mubatanidzwa. ”
5. Paunovhara yako epamhepo kufambidzana maapplication
Amanda paakafunga kutarisa kunze kwematch.com akaziva kuti yaive nguva kwayo. Akange aripo paapp nguva nenguva kuti aite hutsva hwake uye ongorora mamiriro eJordani epamhepo. Asi ikozvino akange asisanzwe kudiwa kwekuvhurwa kwake sarudzo kana kuramba achiongorora mumwe wake.
Izvo zvakati, kuvhara yako yepamhepo kufambidzana uye kufambidzana maapplication chiratidzo chekuti hukama hwenyu hunenge hwakatungamirwa kune monogamy, anotungamira, kazhinji, kuartari. Kunyangwe vanhu nhasi kana vachidanana kazhinji 'vanosiya zvavanogona kuvhura' sezvo iri nzira zvakareruka nekuwana kwatinako nemapurogiramu ekufambidzana. Kana izvo zvangovharwa chibvumirano chinoitwa kanenge mupfungwa dzeimwe, izvo zvinowanzoendesa kune mumwe kuita zvakafanana.
Amanda akashuma. . .
"Takaita 'hurukuro' uye ini ndakabvunza Jordan nezve kuvapo kwake online, izvo zvandaiziva zvakanyanya kubva kuma periodic cheki. Akataura kuti anga asisade kutarisa uye anga achivhara account yake. Kwandiri, iro raive danho rakakomba. ”
6. Kana muchinyatsotenda munemumwe nemumwe
Pamwe chinhu chakakosha kwazvo kune kubatana kune hutano pfungwa yekuti vadyidzani vanotenda kune mumwe nemumwe. Apo Stephanie paakaziva kuti Jake aizomubatsira kuti apedze kupera kwevhiki kwavo nemhuri yake akaziva kuti aigona kutendeukira kwaari chero chinhu.
"Paakandiudza kuti achange achindijoinha, achiziva kuoma kwekuita pamba, uye kuti anozova buffer ndaiziva kuti aive aripo kwenguva refu".
Sezvatinotanga kubatana tinozviwana tichitora mazano emumwe wedu. Kuremekedza, kuyemura kana kunyangwe kufunga kwenguva pfupi - iyo 'ndinotenda mauri', inotanga kuumbika. Kuremekedza kwakanyanya uye kana izvozvo zvikaitika, kunyanya pamwe chete nezvimwe zviratidzo. Zvinogona kureva kuti imwe mamiriro ekupedzisira ari muchimiro.
Zera, kukwezva, njere uye kubudirira hazvina basa. Kunyange imba yekurara; seyepabonde-murapi, hazvindishamise kuti nguva idzi hadziwanzo nezve bonde. Inguva dzekubatana dzinokosha. Inguva idzodzo uye nekuwedzera apo patinenge tichikura pamwe chete izvo zvatinofanira kubatirira nekurangarira.