Zvemukati
- 1. Kusaziva kuvimba
- 2. Kurwara nepfungwa
- 3. Kukwikwidzana zviratidzo
- 4. Vana
- 5. Kuvhura hukama
- 6. Kufinhwa
- 7. Zvepabonde
- 8. Kudzivirirwa
- Chii chekuita kana achidhonza?
Izvo hazvitore degree mune rocket sainzi kuti uzive kuti michato inofara haingogumi nekukurumidza.
Muzvokwadi, michato inowanzo kupunzika mushure menguva yakareba yemarise uye kunyange kuramba. Kazhinji, varoorani vanoedza kuomerera nekuisa kumwe kusimbisa pakurairana nekutaurirana.
Izvo zvakati, vazhinji vakaroorana vanogona kunongedza kune imwe nguva kana nguva apo zvinhu zvakanyatsosvika padanho rekusadzoka.
Asi heino chinhu chinoshungurudza. Dzimwe nguva vanyowani vanobva kure nemichato inofadza kana hukama hwakanaka. Kusimuka uku kunosiya mumwe wako achinetseka, "Chii changoitika?" Muchikamu chino, tinotarisa zvimwe zvezvikonzero zvinoita kuti vakadzi vasiye michato inofadza. Pane chimwe cheizvi chinoshanda kwauri here?
Verenga pamusoro kuziva kuti sei vakadzi vachitsauka uye paanomira kutarisira mune hukama.
1. Kusaziva kuvimba
Kune dzimwe nguva mune vavakaroorana navo kuvimba kwavo kunopikiswa nekutadza kutaurirana uye zvinoita sekusawirirana. Zvinotoshamisa kuti, hutano hwemumwe muchato unofara hunogona kukamira pane imwe nguva.
Mukadzi anodhonza kubva pamoyo mureza mutsvuku muwanano inofadza.
Kune chakanaka kana chakaipa, zvikasadaro michato ine hutano uye inofara inogona kuraswa nekuda kwekuvhima.
2. Kurwara nepfungwa
Tese isu takatambura ne "blues." Kana mukadzi achidhonza, kushushikana kwehunhu, kushushikana uye zvimwe zvingave zvinomutsa shure kwekubva kwake kamwe kamwe kubva pahukama.
Kazhinji, kushushikana kunokonzerwa nekurasikirwa uye kwakanyanya muchimiro. Nekudaro, pane dzimwe nguva idzo hutano hwedu hwepfungwa hunosvika kure kupfuura kushushikana.
Chirwere chepfungwa chinoonekwa hachikwanise kukanganisa zvinangwa zvemunhu asi chinogona kukanganisa hunhu hwese hwehukama huripo, kunyangwe mumichato ine hutano uye inofara.
Vakadzi - nevarume vechinhu ichocho - vanogona kusiya roorano kana chirwere chepfungwa chichikanganisa kufunga kwakanaka, kwakanaka.
3. Kukwikwidzana zviratidzo
Imwe yemifananidzo isingabatsiri yakasungwa kune yakasununguka yekuroora ndiyo pfungwa yekuti "vaviri ava mumwe."
Imba ine hutano uye inofara michato inobvumidza nzvimbo yakakwana kune vese vaviri kuti vanyatsoongorora uye vagamuchire zviono zvebasa, hupenyu, mweya, nezvimwe zvakadaro. Nekudaro, pane dzimwe nguva apo vamwe vavo vanoona kuti zviono zvavo zvinokwikwidza zviratidzo. Mune zvakawanda, kutsauka kwakaparadzana kunoitika muhukama.
Kana mukadzi kana mumwe wake achinzwa kuti chiono chavo chenguva yemberi hachienderane neyakajairika nzira yemuchato, muchato unogona kupera.
4. Vana
Havasi vese vakaroora vanosarudza kuita vana sechikamu chemhuri yavo "equation."
Uku kushaya simba kwevana kwakanaka chero bedzi mapato ese ari muchikepe nenzira iyi. Nekudaro, vakadzi kazhinji vanonzwa kukweva kwekuve mubereki kana vamwe vavo vanokosha vasingadaro. Kana paine kusagadzikana uku muhukama, roorano inogona kunge yave padhuze.
Imba yakapesana pachayo haigoni kumira. Nenzira imwecheteyo, kusawirirana pane "mwana kana kwete mwana" nyaya kunogona kuita chibvumirano-kutyora.
5. Kuvhura hukama
Vamwe vakaroorana vanoita chibvumirano chinobvumira "kushamwaridzana pachena."
Nepo kuvimba kukuru kuchidikanwa pakati pevabatsiri vanobvumidza kutaura kwehupombwe kupfuura hukama, hukama hungazotambura nekuda kwazvo.
Hechino chinhu, kuvimba kunodzikira kana tarisiro yedu yakanangana neanopfuura hukama hwepedyo. Vakadzi muhumwe hukama hwakasimba kana michato inofara vanogona kubva pahukama kana vachinzwa kuti wavanodanana naye ndiye anowirirana nehupombwe kunze kwechisungo chemuchato.
6. Kufinhwa
Sezvo mamiriro emunhu anochinja, yedu nguva yekuziva inowedzera. Nekuti tekinoroji nemishonga zvinowanzotipa nguva yakawanda yekuzvivaraidza, isu tinogona kusarudza kufamba kana kuita dzakasiyana siyana dzekuzvivaraidza.
Asi kunyangwe isu tichitevera zvinhu zvekuzorora kuti zvinhu zvifadze, tinogona kuzofinhwa nehukama hwedu huripo. Vamwe vakadzi, pamwe nevarume, vanogona kunzwa sekunge mumwe wavo haasi kunakidza kana kushingaira zvakakwana kumanikidza kuzvipira kwenguva refu.
Hatimbofa takarwa nemumwe wedu, asi tinogona kuzofinhwa navo. Nekudaro, vamwe vakadzi vanoenderera mberi nehupenyu vasina yavo yazvino yakakosha imwe.
7. Zvepabonde
Vamwe vanyakuroorana vari mukati mehupenyu hwavo hwewanano kana mumwe wevavo akaona kuti vanokwezvwa nenhengo dzebonde rimwe chete. Mumwe wako anogona kuda mumwe wake pachokwadi asiri kukwezvwa kune waanodanana naye.
Kana mukadzi (kana murume) akabvuma kukwezva pabonde kune mumwe murume kana murume, zvinogona kureva kupera kwehukama hwazvino.
Kunyangwe kupatsanurwa uye kurambana kunogona kuve kwakaomarara, zvinogona kuve zvichidikanwa.
Isu tese tinotsvaga chokwadi kana tiine hutano. Mukushayikwa kweichi chechokwadi, tinogona kuwedzera mukuzvidzora nekushushikana. Kuva wechokwadi kumatarisiro kunogona kureva kuti chinzvimbo chehukama chakakodzera.
8. Kudzivirirwa
Nepo zita racho rinoreva mhando dzese dzesarudzo, chinangwa ndechevamwe. Paanomira kuyedza chiri chechokwadi-moto fungidziro chiratidzo kuti mukadzi ari kutsigira kubva muhukama.
Pane nguva apo vakadzi (nevarume) vanobva pahukama hwakanaka nekuti ivo vanoona "yakaipa mwedzi" padhuze. Dambudziko rehutano, chirwere chisingarapike, nezvimwe zvakadaro zvikonzero zvinoita kuti mumwe wako afambe kubva pane "chinhu chakanaka" kana kumanikidzwa kukwevera kure nehukama nekuti ivo vanoda kuchengetedza vavakaroorana navo.
Mukuyedza kwedu kuchengetedza vamwe kubva kumatambudziko atakasangana nawo, tinogona kuita zvinokuvadza kupfuura zvakanaka.
Chii chekuita kana achidhonza?
Paanodhonza, mupe nzvimbo uye anogona kudzoka.
Dzimwe nguva, vafambidzani vanofamba kubva pane chinofanirwa kuve chinhu chakanaka. Zviri kushungurudza, zvinorwadza, asi zvinoitika. Kana zvikaitika, zvakakosha kuti mudiwa pamagumo ekugamuchira enhau dzakaipa kuti ave akavhurika muchadenga achiramba achiramba aine tarisiro yekuti kusangana zvakare kunogoneka.
Kukurukurirana kwakasimba kunofanirwa kumhuri dzinofara. Uye, pakupedzisira, kugamuchirwa kwechero mhedzisiro iri mumakadhi ehukama.
Saka, chii chekuita kana achinge ave kure?
Panzvimbo pekutsvaga nekukurumidza kugadzirisa maitiro ekudzokera kumashure muhukama, zvakakosha kutanga wamupa nzvimbo, ita shuwa kuti hapana chimwe chinhu chawakaita kumugumbura chaunoziva, uye bvunza kana angave achida kuenda kunopihwa mazano.
Hatigone kuita sarudzo kune vatinoshamwaridzana navo kana ivo vakasarudzika vachida kudzosera kumashure muhukama. Tinogona, zvakadaro, kuzvitarisira zvakanaka pachedu.