Zvemukati
- Chii chinonzi narcissist?
- Nei ichiita sekunge kupopotedzana narcissist hakuna zvakunobatsira?
- Ndedzipi dzimwe dzetsika dzakajairwa narcissists dzinoshandisa panguva yekukakavara?
- 1. VaNarcissist vanoda kukunda
- 2. Vachadzivisa kupindura mibvunzo yakananga
- 3. Vanotsausa gakava
- 4. Stonewalling yakajairika kune vanonyengedza
- 5. VaNarcissist vanowanzo shandisa kufungidzira mune nharo
- 6. Kuvhenekera gasi
- Unoita nharo sei narcissist?
- 1. Usataure mazwi "zvakanaka" kana "zvisizvo"
- 2. Usatora chirauro
- 3. Kukunda narcissist kunogona kuda kunzwira tsitsi nemanzwiro avo
- 4. Panzvimbo pekushandisa "Iwe" kana "Ini," shandisa "Isu"
- 5. Kukunda zvakare narcissist
- Kuputira kumusoro
Tese isu tingave tichiziva kana kuve neruzivo neanorisissist pane imwe nguva muhupenyu hwedu. Vamwe vedu takatombodanana neanodhakwa.
Kunyangwe iyo narcissist mumwe munhu waunoshanda naye, munhu munharaunda yako yemagariro, kana kunyangwe wako wawakaroorana naye, uchiziva nzira dzakanakisa dzekukakavadzana narcissist zvinobatsira kana kukakavara kukamuka.
Iwe unofanirwa kuziva kubva pakutanga kuti kupopotedzana narcissist ingangove iri isina basa. Nedudziro, narcissists vanogara vachifunga kuti vakarurama uye havazombofi vakauya kuzosvika pane yako maonero (kana kutombozviteerera!).
Chii chinonzi narcissist?
Ngatitangei nekutsanangura chinonzi narcissist. Kupesana nezvinofungwa nevanhu vazhinji, hachisi chirwere chinowanikwa.
Iwo akateedzana ehunhu hunoitika pane kuenderera, chakanyanya kutaurwa kweichi kuve kuzvifunga.
Kana iwe uchirangarira ngano yako yechiGiriki, Narcissus aive mukomana aive akanaka kwazvo akadanana nekuratidzira kwake padziva remvura.
Kubva mungano iyoyo kunouya izwi rekuti Narcissist, munhu ane chinonyanya kukosha ari iye.
Humwe hunhu hunoumba hunhu hwehunhu hunosanganisira:
- Hapana kunzwira tsitsi kwemanzwiro evamwe
- Manipulates uye anotora mukana wevamwe kuzadzisa zvinangwa zvavo
- Kugutsikana kuti vanogara vakarurama, uye vamwe vese vakanganisa
- Anonzwa kumusoro kwepfungwa kune ese akavapoteredza
- Anozvikudza
- Kutenda ivo vakakosha uye hunhu uhwu haunzwisiswe nemunhu wese
- Grandiosity, pfungwa yekukwirira, inowedzeredza kubudirira uye matarenda (kazhinji kunyepa nezvavo)
- Kushatirwa, kutsamwa, kusanduka kwemamiriro
- Sense yekodzero
- Kunyanya kudiwa kwekuyemura
- Kusazvidemba kana uchikuvadza vamwe
- Mhirizhonga kumhuka nevanhu
- Pasina kunetseka pamusoro pemhedzisiro
- Kuzvidza chiremera; inofunga kuti vari pamusoro pemutemo
- Kusazvibata, hunhu hune njodzi husinei nekuchengetedzeka kwevamwe
- Maitiro ekunyengera, kusanganisira kubiridzira kwevamwe
- Kusazvibata, kusaremekedza uye hutsinye hunhu
Hunhu hwese uhwu hunoita kuti zviome kuuya kune chero gadziriso ine revo kana uchikakavara narcissist.
Izvo zvakakosha, saka, kuti udzidze mamwe matipi ekukakavara nemunhu anonyengerera. Uchishandisa aya matipi, iwe uchatendeuka kuita nharo neye narcissist kubva pachiitwa zvekuita mukushushikana kusina maturo ku (zvirinani) nzira yekuti uchengete hurukuro iri munzira uye yakatarisa.
Iwe haugone kuwana mhedzisiro yawakatarisira nekuti narcissist haakwanise kutora chikamu munhaurirano yevagari vane chinangwa chekuwana mvumo, asi iwe unozorodza hunyanzvi hunobatsira apo iwe paunodzidza zvinhu zvekutaura kune narcissist.
Uyezve Tarisa:
Nei ichiita sekunge kupopotedzana narcissist hakuna zvakunobatsira?
Kukakavara narcissist chiitiko chakasiyana zvachose kubva kuhukama hwese kukakavara.
Ngatitangei nepfungwa nhatu dzinoita kuti kukakavara nemunyori chiitiko chakasiyana.
- Kana uchikakavadzana nemunhu anonyengerera, ziva kuti ivo vanofarira kukunda kukunda muchokwadi.
- VaNarcissist vanoda kuchinja mhosva. Vanoshandura mhosva yezvinhu zvese zvinoenda zvisirizvo kwauri kuitira kuti varege kunetseka pamusoro pavo.
- Narcissist nharo matiketi akati siyanei. Ivo havana hanya newe zvakanyanya, saka vane zvishoma zvishoma zvinokurudzira kudzokera kumashure.
Ndedzipi dzimwe dzetsika dzakajairwa narcissists dzinoshandisa panguva yekukakavara?
1. VaNarcissist vanoda kukunda
Ramba uchifunga kuti vanonyengedza vanoda kuhwina, kutonga, uye kukuisa munzvimbo inonamira zvisinei kuti zvadhura zvakadii.
Vachaita girazi, dombowall, kunyepa, kukanganisa, kupopota uye kupopota mukuyedza kukukuvadza iwe pamoyo uye kunyangwe panyama dzimwe nguva.
2. Vachadzivisa kupindura mibvunzo yakananga
Vachakurova nezvinodaidzwa nevanhu neshoko saradhi (tambo yemazwi isingaite chero pfungwa) uye kazhinji inotonga hurukuro.
Vachaenda zvachose nenyaya, vachiratidza kuita nharo. Pakarepo uchaona kuti musoro washanduka.
Aya maratidziro enarcissist nharo mazano ese akaitirwa kuti akanganisa uye kukuvhiringidza iwe kuitira kuti pakupedzisira, iwe udonhedze nharo kunze kwekushungurudzika. Ipapo, narcissist anonzwa kunge vakunda.
3. Vanotsausa gakava
VaNarcissist vanopandukira varwi. Kana ivo vakaona kuti havagone kupokana nezvako chokwadi, ivo vanodhonza tarisiro kumwe kune chimwe chinhu chechipiri, chisina basa, kana chisina hukama.
Semuenzaniso, vanozochinja kutarisisa pamazwi awakashandisa, maitiro ako, zvaunokurudzira, nezvimwe.
4. Stonewalling yakajairika kune vanonyengedza
Narcissist stonewalling ndeimwe nzira inozivikanwa yekushungurudza, kwavanongoerekana varamba kubatana, kuteerera, kutaura newe.
Kana iwe ukazviwana iwe uchikakavadzana nemunyengeri uye ivo vachingofunga kubuda mumba kana kukuomesa kunze kwemazuva, iwe watemwa nematombo.
5. VaNarcissist vanowanzo shandisa kufungidzira mune nharo
Izvi zvinoreva kuti vanoratidzira hunhu husingadiwe hunobva navo kwauri. Nzira yakajairika yekushusha, vanopomera vamwe matambudziko avo pane kutora mutoro wavo.
6. Kuvhenekera gasi
Kuvhenekesa gasi inzira yekusaina narcissist! Apa ndipo pavanokuita kuti ufunge kuti unopenga, kunyanyisa kunetseka, kana kufungidzira zvinhu.
"Unogara uchitora zvese zvese chaiko !!!" narcissist anozoti pavanokuvadza manzwiro ako panguva yekukakavadzana. Havangambotore mutoro wekukuvadza manzwiro ako.
Unoita nharo sei narcissist?
Kunyangwe iwe usingakwanise kukunda uchipesana narcissist, aya matipi anobatsira kufambisa hurukuro pamwe nekusagumbuka kwepamoyo sezvinobvira.
1. Usataure mazwi "zvakanaka" kana "zvisizvo"
Kana iwe uchida kutsetsenura zvinhu pamusoro paunenge uchikakavadzana nemunhu anonyengerera, usatarisira kukunda murwi nekuedza kuita kuti vazive kuti ndiani ane mhosva.
VaNarcissist havatombobvuma kuti vakakanganisa nekuti vanoshandisa hukuru-pfungwa isingaitwe yekuva vakakwana –kuwedzera pfungwa yavo isina kusimba yekuzvimirira, kuti iwe uvaratidze kuti ivo vakarasika uye wotsanangura kuti nei zvaisazobatsira. Vangatoda kukupa mhosva!
2. Usatora chirauro
Kana uchikakavadzana nemunhu anokanganisa, vatarisire kuti vataure zvinhu zvinokanganisa uye zvakaipa. Ivo vakasungwa kuti vave vanoshusha.
Ivo vanoda kuwana mhinduro kubva kwauri. Iyo imwe nzira yavanogona kutora kutariswa, kunyangwe kana iri yakaipa. (Izvi zvinokuyeuchidza nezvemwana mudiki waunoziva? Kufunga kumwe chete!)
Usazvidonhedze uye unyure padanho ravo. Nzira yakanakisa yekukuvadza narcissist (uye kudzivirira kurwa kukuru) ndeyekuregeredza chirauro chavakakombamira pamberi pako.
Kana iwe ukaregeredza kutuka kwavo uye ukasasimukira kune chirauro, unogona kazhinji kudzivirira nharo isina musoro.
3. Kukunda narcissist kunogona kuda kunzwira tsitsi nemanzwiro avo
Nekuti narcissist vanobudirira mukutariswa, kushandisa tsitsi kana uchikakavadzana narcissist inogona kuve nzira inobatsira. Vaudze kuti unonzwisisa uye unonzwira tsitsi nemanzwiro avanoita.
Izvi zvinogona kazhinji kudzikisira nharo nekuti narcissists vanogona kudzikiswa nekutaura kwako kwekunzwisisa. “Unofanira kunge wakanzwa hasha dzakanyanya. Ndiri kunzwisisa manzwiro ako nenzira iyoyo. ”
4. Panzvimbo pekushandisa "Iwe" kana "Ini," shandisa "Isu"
Narcissist mhosva yekuchinjisa yakajairika, asi vanogona kuita zvakanaka kana iwe ukashandisa "isu" mutauro kana uchikakavara narcissist.
Semuenzaniso, fungidzira kuti uri kukakavadzana nemurume anonyunyuta.
Unozvidzivirira, uye zvino imi vaviri makabatwa mumakakatanwa ari kuwedzera pamusoro pechinhu chisina chekuita nemusoro wepakutanga (nekuti kutsauka mugakava kunowanzoitika kune ve narcissist). Misa gakava nekutaura chinhu chakanaka chinosanganisira iyo "isu":
“Ndinokuda, uye iwe unondida. Chinhu chekupedzisira chandinoda kuita kukukuvadza iwe kana kuita nharo newe. Ndinofunga isu tese takadzikiswa. Ngatitsvodei tigadzirisane. ”
5. Kukunda zvakare narcissist
Zano rakanakisa rekurova narcissist kuramba uri mukutonga kwakazara kwemanzwiro ako. Izvi zvinoda moyo murefu, kufema kwakadzama, uye kumwe kusungwa nekuti narcissists vane hunyanzvi hwekukutsamwisa.
Kana iwe ukachengeta manzwiro ako uye mutauro mukutarisa, iwe unoshongedza narcissist, uye iye anosara kune ake ega maitiro.
Achavhiringidzika paanovimba newe kuti umupe moto wehasha dzake. Nzira yakanakisa yekupindura kune narcissist haisi yekupindura mupfungwa.
Kuputira kumusoro
Unofanirwa kuzviwana uchitsamwirwa kuita nharo nemunyori, kushandisa aya matipi kuchakubatsira kuti ugare kunze kwekutaurirana kwenguva refu, kusingakundike.
Sangana nekutsamwiswa kwavo nekusarerekera, kusurukirwa, kana kusanzwisisika. Nekudaro, iwe unodzivirira kudururira mafuta pamoto wavo uye chengetedza yako wega kugara zvakanaka kubva kune kumwe kuyedza kweva narcissist kwekusimbisa kwavo kushoma kuzviremekedza.
Kunyangwe iwe usingambo "kukunda" nharo nemunyori, iwe unogona kuita navo vese uchichengetedza yako yakatendeka. Uye ndiko kukunda pachako!