Zvemukati
- Kurambana kunotangwa nevakadzi futi
- Saka ndedzipi njere uye matanho anogona kuchengetedza roorano?
- Chivimbiso cherudo
- Invest. Chengetedza zvakawanda
- Asi kana iko kubatana kuri kudonha, pamwe chiratidzo chinoda kukwidziridzwa.
- Uye chimwezve chinhu: pamwe chinonzwa kupa hachina kukwana, kana kuenda kuchicheka.
Hupenyu hwemazuva ano - isu tinovavarira kufambira mberi munzira dzakasiyana siyana senzanga. Kana zvasvika pakuroora - tiri kufambira mberi sei, munzvimbo yehukama hwehukama hwevanhu? Kana isu tikayera zvakaringana nemitengo yekurambana, zvimiro zvevanhu zvakakunda zvinogona kutiita isu titende kuti mwero wekurambana unongoramba uchikwira.
Chokwadi ndechekuti, zviyero zvekurambana zvinosiyana zvisingaite kubva nyika kuenda nyika, zvichibva pazvinhu zvakawanda. Kuongororwa kwemamwe matunhu ane huwandu hwakakwira, senge zvikamu zveEurope (ongororo dzichangoburwa dzinoratidza Belgium, Luxembourg, France, Czech Republic nePortugal nemitero inopfuura 60%, Belgium inokwidza 73%!), Inoratidza kuti kushomeka kwenzvimbo, zviyero zvezvikonzero zvekurambana, zvinongova zvinhu zvishoma mukutamba. Ipo iyo U.S. ichiramba iri pamusoro gumi muhuwandu hwepasirose pasirese, huwandu hwehuwandu hwanga hwave kudonha kubvira kurambana mumakumi manomwe / makumi masere; dzidzo yepamusorosoro inoita senge yepamusoro yekunyorerana buffering chinhu; avo vari kana vari pasi pezera rehurombo ndivo vari panjodzi huru.
Kurambana kunotangwa nevakadzi futi
William Doherty, U weMinnesota Psychologist, anoti mukufungidzira kwake, zvingangoita 2/3 zvekurambana zvinotangwa nemadzimai, saka patinofunga nezvenyaya yekurambana, anodaro, tiri kufunga nezvenyaya yekuchinja kwevakadzi tarisiro - kufunga kunonzwisisika zvakakodzera kuongorora zvimwe. Kubva kutanga kusvika pakati pezana ramakumi maviri emakore, maitiro ewanano nehunhu zvakaramba zvichichinja; senguva dzose, vamwe vari nani, pamwe vamwe kwete. Ipo makore 50 apfuura, iwe wakaroora kweupenyu hwese, uye ndozvazvaive. Zvino, isu tinowanzo tarisa sarudzo dzese; zvirokwazvo, yedu yazvino tsika ethos uye psyche, ini ndingati, yakachinja zvakanyanya kubva mukusavimbika basa rekuzvipira, kana waroora (chaicho chaicho).
Nekudaro, sekusimbiswa kwenzanga pakufara kwega nekugutsikana kwazova chikamu cheyedu psyche, ndingati isu takanyanya kubatwa mumubvunzo, "Chii kwandiri icho?" Isu tinogara tichiziva nezvekodzero dzedu, zvatinogona kusarudza, uye kutsvaga kwedu mufaro. Zvakanaka kwatiri. Izvo chete, kudzoka kumubvunzo wezera rekare - chii chinonzi mufaro wechokwadi, unowanikwa kupi? Peruse Psychology Nhasi zvirimo, izvo zvine akawanda akanakisa zvinyorwa, zvisinei iwe unozoona tambo dzemisoro yekutsvaga kugutsikana kwemunhu.
Saka ndedzipi njere uye matanho anogona kuchengetedza roorano?
Chii chatinoshandisa pano? Ndinoda kuisa zvakataurwa naM. "Hupenyu hwakaoma". Anoenderera mberi achiti, vazhinji vanopedzisira varapwa, kana mumatambudziko atinoita, nekuti tinodzivisa basa rakaomarara rekugadzirisa matambudziko edu. Tinoda mapfupi. Kuisa mari kunotora basa. Izvo hazvikodzere iwo mafungiro eedu anowedzera chiriporipapo ekugutsa tsika, handizvo, kutambura zvisina kukwana zvido.
Hapana hukama hunombosangana nezvose zvatinoda, nguva dzese. Asi, kana iwe ukazviwana uchinzwa kusagutsikana, zviri nyore, uye ini ndaizopokana, pamwe kunyange zvakasikwa, kutarisa, paunenge uchinzwa kudzikira kudzoka neumwe wako. Peck akadaro, uye vamwe vakazvitaura nedzimwe nzira: usimbe kupokana nerudo. Zvichida kutadza kusvika pakuputirwa nemufaro wedu pachedu kunowona chikamu chikuru chekukanganisa zvinhu.
Kana tsika dzedu dzevanhu dzichitanga kutitengesera pfungwa yekuti, pamwe "zvinhu hazvigare nekusingaperi - kunyangwe ukagara pamwe chete", (ndinokutendai Sheryl Crow) - kana tikatanga kutenga mukufunga ikoko - saka panzvimbo pekupetwa pasi apo marwadzo ekusagutsikana anomuka, tinogona kunyengerwa kuti tigamuchire pfungwa dzerudo zverusununguko nerwerudo rutsva, kana kumbosiya izvo zvatinoona senzvimbo yekurwadziwa kwedu.
Chivimbiso cherudo
Pamwe zviri mune chairo chivimbiso cherudo rusina mugumo, kuti chimwe chinhu chinogara chingararama. Kana usiri kuzvinzwa, pamwe wakasungwa pakati a) fungidziro yekusuwa kana kunyengerwa nechimwe chinhu, vs. b) kunzwa uchifanira kugadzikana kana kutambura, ini ini ndinopa mugwagwa unoenda kune wechitatu, pakupedzisira unogutsa pfungwa, imwe izvo zvandinotenda zvizere zvinowedzera kupesana netsika?
Invest. Chengetedza zvakawanda
Zvinonzi tinoda chimwe chinhu chatinoisa mari mukati. Heck, kunyangwe muhukama husina kusimba, zvinonzi isu dzimwe nguva tiri "kudzingirira mari yedu, kuyedza kudzosa mibairo yedu. Ikozvino handitaure kwete nezve husina hutano, michato isina kusimba uko pasina kudzoserwa chero. Zvichida iwe une mumwe wako ari kuongorora. Kufanana nezano iri, zvinopfuura chishandiso chimwe chinowanzodiwa pabasa racho. Ini dzimwe nguva ndakashanda nemutengi munzira dzinovhiringidza dzekutora pfungwa dzemumwe wavo, pamwe kutodhonza kwavo kupa mune imwe nzira, kwenguva yakati, nechinangwa chakanangwa kana chinangwa. Tichitarisa zvakawandisa pane zvatinoda zvisina kukwana, zvinodzipa zvido zvedu. Isu tinonzwa nezvevamwe vachiedza nzira yekuparadzanisa, kana mumwe munhu achisimbisa marwadzo edu, uye isu tinogona mukati kurova yekuparadza bhatani.
Asi kana iko kubatana kuri kudonha, pamwe chiratidzo chinoda kukwidziridzwa.
Buda munzira yako kuti uve anofunga; ita zvimwe zvinhu kune mumwe wako zvinonyatsovaratidza rudo rwako. Uye zvipire kwairi kwechinguva - chizvipe iko kamwe kushoma kwemavhiki, kuti mumwe wako awane mutsauko. Usaende uchidzingirira kubvuma kwavo. Ingo zviita. Iva akatsiga; vabikire. Ita kuti hupenyu huve nyore. Vabvunze nezvazvo uye nezvavanofunga. Funga kuti unozadzisa sei zvavanoda. Funga mune dzako dzakavanzika pfungwa, nezve hunhu iwe hwaunokoshesa uye nekukoshesa nezvavo.
Ongororo ichangoburwa inoti kufungidzira ndicho chinhu chinonyanya kuratidza rudo pakurarama. Kurudzira rutendo rwemazuva ese rwemunhu uyu wawakasarudza kuenda pachigaro chepamusoro muhupenyu hwako. Kana vasina kunge uri munhu waunonzwa kuda, funga kuti dai mamwe masimba ehupenyu angave akaakanganisa. Isu hatigone kumira kuti tinzwisise kushushikana, kushushikana kana nhanho nhanho, nyaya yekurapa, kana kurwira kwehupenyu shanduko. Idzo idambudziko, kana tiri vakatendeseka tinogona kusanganawo nesu. Imhandoi yemamiriro ekuroora yatiri kuvaka isu tikatenga mune pfungwa yekufamba uchienda kana zvanetsa? Imwe nyaya yemutengi yandakanzwa nguva pfupi yadarika zvakataurwa nevanoona nezvekurapa kwavo kuti nei vamwe vakaroorana vachizviita, nepo vamwe vasingadaro? "Kune vamwe, hakusi kusarudza kurambana."
Uye chimwezve chinhu: pamwe chinonzwa kupa hachina kukwana, kana kuenda kuchicheka.
Vazhinji vanosiya michato yavo chaizvo nekuda kwezvavanoda; zvisinei nevakawanda vandinosangana navo vakasiya, kana kazhinji kazhinji, vasina kumira kuti vabvunze nenzira yakajeka zvakakwana, kuti zvavanoda zviitwe, kunyatso kupa vavakaroorana navo mukana wekusimuka. Pamwe kudyara kwako kune mumwe wako, kuita icho chinhu chaicho - mira uye ukumbire zvaunoda kuti zviitwe. Zvinotipa isu kusagadzikana; zvinotitorera isu kudyara zvakakwana kuti timirire pavari, asiwo kuvapa mukana. Uye hongu, isu tingatoda kushivirira, apo isu tichifunga chero mutoro wehupenyu wavanogona kuremerwa nawo. Mutemo wegoridhe - zviri nyore kwazvo kudzoka, mukupenya kwechimwe chinhu chitsva. Murazvo wakadzikama wemoto wakachengetedzwa, unopa kupenya kwakasiyana zvachose.