Zvemukati
- Iwe wakasarudza munhu wako, uye ivo vari kukusarudza iwe zvakare
- Hukama hwevakuru hunoda mhinduro dzevakuru
- Maitiro ekuratidza kuzvipira muhukama
- Hukama hunodarika nekukwira nekudzika
- Vanhu vanokura uye vanochinja nenzira dzakasiyana
Kuzvipira kwaunoita kune mumwe wako kuti uve imwe hafu muhupenyu ihombe kwazvo.
Pane chinangwa chekugara nekusimba pakati pako kana iwe uchizivisa kuzvipira muhukama.
Iwe wakasarudza munhu wako, uye ivo vari kukusarudza iwe zvakare
Kuita zvipikirwa nekutora mhiko chikamu chechirongwa ichi. Unosarudza kuzvipa zvakakwana kune mumwe munhu nechinangwa chekugara pamwe nekusingaperi; zvino hupenyu hunoitika, zvinhu zvinobva zvaoma, iwe unonetseka, iwe unorwa, uye ungangoda kurega uye kupatsanuka.
Kufunga iyi iri nyore nzira yekubuda iko kukanganisa, ndinovimba kana uri kunzwa nenzira iyi, unomira wozvifunga kwenguva refu uye zvakaoma usati wasiya mumwe wako uye warasa rudo rwako.
Sekurapa ini ndakabatsira vakaroorana mune dzakasiyana mamiriro akasiyana kuti vawane nzira yavo yekudzokera kuhukama hune rudo uye hwepedyo uko ivo vese vanonzwa vachikosheswa uye kukosheswa. Ndinoziva kuti zvinogoneka, kunyangwe zvisingaite senge panguva yacho.
Tinonzwa zvakawanda nezve "mazuva ekare" apo vanhu vaigara pamwe chero zvodii uye vainakidzwa nekuzvipira kusingaperi muhukama.
Isu tinoziva kuti vazhinji vevakaroorana vakazvishandira, vakawana nzira yekugadzirisa matambudziko avo uye kuenda kumberi, uye zvinoreva zvakare kuti kwaive nehukama hune huturu uye hunoshusha uko vavakidzani vakavharirwa nekunzwa senge vasina sarudzo kunze kwekugara navo mumwe wako.
Kunyangwe zvaireva kuti vairarama nekudhakwa kana mhirizhonga, vakafunga kuti havana imwe sarudzo asi kugara; muchikamu chikuru nekuda kwechimiro chetsotsi chenguva yakaiswa pakurambana uye vakadzi vasina kuroora vezera rekuroora vakasarudza kusave nemumwe wako.
Ndinovenga kuona vakaroorana vari kugara pamwe nekuda kwechimwe chikonzero kunze kwekuda uye kuzvipira asi vamwe vakaroorana vanogara pamwe chete nekuda kwevana, nekuda kwezvikonzero zvehupfumi kana kushomeka kweimwe sarudzo dzinoshanda.
Pakati pazvo, kuzvipira muhukama kunoreva kuchengeta zvawakavimbisa.
Kunyangwe pazvinenge zvakaoma, kunyangwe kana iwe usingafarire. Kana iwe ukavimbisa kuva munhu wemumwe munhu, kuvapo uye kuratidza muhupenyu hwavo, iwe unofanirwa kutora izvo zvakanyanya.
Hukama hwevakuru hunoda mhinduro dzevakuru
Ini ndingati hazvina kukosha zvakanyanya kana iwe usati wakaroora zviri pamutemo. Vimbiso inofanira kunge ichisunga pamuri mese. Kunyange isu tichigona kutsamwa, kukanda mapfumo pasi, kunzwa kunamira kana kupererwa, isu tinofanirwa kutora nhanho kumashure uye titarise iyo hombe mufananidzo.
Rangarira zvivimbiso zvako kune mumwe nemumwe uye kuzvipira kwako muhukama kuti uzvione zvichizadzikiswa. Usakanda mapfumo pasi parudo rwako zvakare nyore, zvakakodzera kurwira.
Kana iwe wakaroora zviri pamutemo iwe une kuzvipira kwakadzika uye chibvumirano chinosunga.
Iwe waunganidza shamwari dzako dzese nemhuri kuti vaone kuzvipira uku zvine mutsindo, wakaita mhiko pamberi pevose kuti mudanane uye muchengetedzane nekusingaperi.
Iwe une hukama hwepamweya uye hwepamutemo kune wawakaroorana naye uye mhuri yako. Une chokwadi chekuti waronga kuchengeta mhiko idzi. Iyo nguva yekurangarira iyi ndipo kana kuenda kuchinetsa uye iwe unonzwa sekurega.
Kuzvipira muhukama kunoreva kukudza izwi rako muzvinhu zvidiki pamwe nezvikuru.
Maitiro ekuratidza kuzvipira muhukama
Chiratidzo chakakosha chehukama hwakazvipira kuve mukuve iye waunoda mumwe wako pane chero zuva rakapihwa.
Kana iwe uchida kuve wakasimba, iva wakasimba. Kana mumwe wako achinzwa kushaiwa, chiratidza uye uvape zvavanoda.
Iva akatendeka, gara uchienderana, uye uve mumwe munhu waunovimba naye kuti achengete izwi rako.
Zvinotaridzika kunge zviri nyore, asi ini ndinoziva dzimwe nguva zvingave zvakaoma kwazvo. Vedu vatinoshanda navo havawanzo kudiwa. Ivo havasi kunyange vanogara vachidikanwa! Apa ndipo apo kuzvipira kunonyanya kukosha.
Ratidza kuzvipira kwako nekuva nemutsa, kubatsira, uye kukudza mumwe wako kunyangwe vasipo.
Chengetedza bhizinesi rako rakavanzika pachivande, usazvidze kana kutuka mumwe wako pamberi pevamwe vanhu.
Vaise panzvimbo yepamusoro, uye varegedzere pamusoro peshamwari dzako uye kunyangwe mhuri yako. Izvo zvakakosha kune mumwe wako zvinofanirwa kuve zvakakosha kwauri, uye kana zvisiri, unofanirwa kufunga nezve chinzvimbo chako.
Ichi chimwe chikamu chekuzvipira muhukama - Kuva chinhu chimwe, timu inomira pamwechete.
Hukama hunodarika nekukwira nekudzika
Hazvisi nyore kugara nemumwe munhu zuva nezuva. Mikwende yese yatinounza kuhukama hwedu, maitiro edu, zvatinokonzeresa; hazvisi nyore nguva dzose kune vamwe vedu kuti vanzwisise kana kurarama nazvo.
Pachave nenguva dzamusingade zvakanyanya, uye ungangoda kubva kune mumwe wako kwechinguva.
Enda mune imwe kamuri, famba famba kana kumbotandara neshamwari. Zvakanaka kunzwa nenzira iyi, munhu wese anoita, asi kuzvipira kunoreva kuti unosangana nekusafadza panguva, uye kana iwe uchifamba, funga nezvekuti une hanya zvakadii nemumwe wako, uye kuti kuzvipira kwako kwakadzika zvakadii.
Hukama hunopfuura nepakati uye iwe nemumwe wako mungasave muchigara muchienderana zvakakwana. Izvo zvakakosha kuyeuka kuti izvi zvikamu zvenguva pfupi izvo hukama hwese hunopfuura.
Vanhu vanokura uye vanochinja nenzira dzakasiyana
Ino ndiyo nguva iyo iwe yaunoda kuve wako ane moyo munyoro uye ane rudo uye kudare mumwe wako.
Kana iwe urikunzwa kushoma murudo kupfuura zvawaimboita, inguva yekuzadzisa kuzvipira kwako kuda uye kukoshesa mumwe wako nekuziva iye munhu wavari iye zvino, panguva ino muhukama hwako, kuti uvadzidze zvakare uye kudanana. navo patsva.
Kuzvipira muhukama kunoratidzwa zvakanyanya muzuva nezuva kurarama kwatinoita nevatinoshamwaridzana navo. Izvo zvinhu zvidiki zvatinoita kuratidza isu tiri zana muzana nemumwe kuburikidza neyakaonda uye yakaonda, kuburikidza nenguva dzakareruka uye nenguva dzakaoma; kweupenyu hwese.
Stuart Fensterheim, LCSW inobatsira vakaroorana kukurira kukamurwa muhukama hwavo. Semunyori, blogger uye podcaster, Stuart akabatsira vakaroorana kutenderera pasirese kuti vawane hukama hwakasarudzika umo mavanogona kunzwa kusakosha uye kukosha, vane chivimbo mukuziva kuti vanodiwa zvakanyanya uye kuti kuvapo kwavo kunokosha.
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