Chii chinonzi Emotional Labor muhukama & Maitiro Ekutaura nezvazvo

Zvemukati

• Chii chinonzi basa rezvemweya?
• Zvekuita nezve kushushikana kwemabasa muhukama?
• Zviratidzo zvauri kuita ese emanzwiro basa muhukama
• Matanho mashanu-Matanho Ekuenzanisa Balance Emotional Labor
• Maitiro Ekutaura kune Wako Mudiwa Kuti Ubatsirwe Nebasa reMweya
• Maitiro Ekuenzana Kupatsanura Emotic Labor NewaWako Wako
• Mhedzisiro Mhedzisiro YeVarume Vanotora paEmotional Labor
• Mhedziso

Iwe unogona kunge usati wanzwa nezwi iri kushungurudzika mupfungwa muhukama, asi kana iwe uri muhukama hwakazvipira kana muchato, zvakakosha kuti unzwisise pfungwa iyi.

Kushushikana mupfungwa muhukama, kana ikagoverwa zvisina tsarukano, inogona kukonzera nyonganiso. Pano, dzidza nezve kushushikana mupfungwa mukati mehukama uye nemabatiro aungaita nayo, kuti irege kuzoita dambudziko.

Chii chinonzi basa rezvemweya?

Basa rekushushikana muhukama izwi rakajairika rinoshandiswa kutsanangura mutoro wepfungwa unodiwa kuita mabasa epamba, kuchengetedza hukama, uye kuchengetedza mhuri.

Chikamu che kushungurudzika mupfungwa muhukama inosanganisira kugadzirisa matambudziko, kupa rutsigiro kune mumwe wako, kubvumira mumwe wako kutaura newe, uye kuva neruremekedzo panguva dzenharo. Ese aya mabasa anoda kushanda kwepfungwa kana kwepamoyo, uye anodawo kuti isu tigadzirise edu manzwiro.

Imwe nzira yekutarisa kushungurudzika mupfungwa muhukama kufunga nezvazvo sekuedza kunodiwa kuchengetedza vamwe vanhu kufara muhukama.

Kuedza uku hakuwanzo kuoneka, uye kunosanganisira mabasa akadai sekugadzirisa zvirongwa, kuyeuka kutumira makadhi ekuzvarwa, uye kutaurirana nezvezvinhu zvakaoma.

Chidzidzo chechangobva kuitika mumagazini Psychology yeVakadzi Quarterly vakaongorora kushushikana kwebasa revakadzi uye vakaona kuti yavo kushushikana mupfungwa yaisanganisira zvinotevera:

• Basa repfungwa rinodiwa kuzadzisa zvinangwa zvemhuri
• Kuronga uye kuronga
• Kufungidzira zvinodiwa nemhuri
• Kudzidza nekurangarira ruzivo uye ruzivo
• Kufunga nezve maitiro evabereki
• Kuita zviitiko zvekutonga zvemhuri, senge kudzora zvinodiwa uye kugadzirisa matambudziko
• Kugadzirisa kwavo kwavo maitiro uye nemanzwiro kubatsira mhuri

Mabasa chaiwo akabatanidzwa mu kushungurudzika pamba.

Sekureva kwechidzidzo ichi, zvaisanganisira kupa rairo kuvachengeti vevachengeti nevachengeti kana vabereki vachinge vasipo.

Pfungwa dzakavagadzirira kudzoka kumba mushure mezuva kubasa uye kutamira kune basa remukadzi naamai, kukudziridza hunhu uye zvitendero zvakakomberedza huzivi hwevabereki, kuona kuti vana vari kudya nekurara zvakanaka, kugadzirisa zvipingamupinyi zvenguva, uye kuronga zvirongwa zvemabasa epamba.

Zvekuita nezve kushushikana kwemabasa muhukama?

Emotional basa muhukama hazvidziviriki.

Chikamu chemuchato kana kubatana kwakazvipira kunotsigirana, kushanda pamwechete kugadzirisa matambudziko, uye kubata nemabasa epfungwa, sekurangarira kuti zvikwereti zvinofanirwa riini, kuona kuti vana vanodzidzira nenguva, uye kubata mabasa epamba.

Kana paine kusaenzana kwepfungwa ndipo panosangana nematambudziko muwanano.

Psychology yeVakadzi Quarterly inoti zvakare vakadzi vanozviona sevari kuita ruzhinji rwe kushungurudzika mupfungwa mumhuri dzavo, zvisinei kuti vari kushanda here uye danho remurume wavo rekubata.

Kunyange zvisiri nguva dzose kudaro murume wangu hapana chaanoita pamba, chokwadi ndechekuti vakadzi vanowanzo takura mutoro we kushushikana mupfungwa, pamwe nekuda kwetsika dzakajairika dzechikadzi.

Nekufamba kwenguva, izvi zvinogona kutungamira mukushushikana uye chigumbu kana nhengo imwe yemubatanidzwa ikanzwa kuti vari kuita zvese zve basa remanzwiro.

Iye mudiwa uyo anotakura ruzhinji rwepfungwa mutoro anogona kuzonyanya kushanda uye kunetsekana kana vachinzwa kuti havana rubatsiro rwekutarisira kushushikana mupfungwa.

Mune ino kesi, inguva yekuita hurukuro nezve kupatsanura mabasa. Iyo kushungurudzika mupfungwa muhukama inogona kunge isingadziviririke, asi zvinokwanisika kutora mimwe yemitoro kubva kune mumwe wako saka yakagovaniswa zvakaenzana.

Zviratidzo zvauri kuita ese emanzwiro basa muhukama

Kana iwe wanga uchirwira neizvo zvinoita senge kusaenzana kwepfungwa, heano zvimwe zviratidzo zvawave uchiita ese emanzwiro ebasa muhukama nguva dzese:

• Iwe unoziva yakazara mhuri yemhuri nguva dzese, nepo mumwe wako asingazive.
• Unoita zvese zvinoenderana nezvinodiwa nemanzwiro evana vako.
• Ndiwe unoona nezve ese mabasa epamba anoitwa.
• Iwe unotarisirwa kuve uripo nguva dzese kuteerera matambudziko emumwe wako kana kuvatendera kuti vataure, asi ivo havaite zvakafanana kwauri.
• Iwe unonzwa sekunge iwe unofanirwa kukanganisa miganhu yako kana zvaunoda kakawanda kupfuura zvinoita mumwe wako.

Kazhinji, kana iwe uri kutakura ruzhinji rwevashandi vezvemanzwiro muhukama, unogona kungonzwa kukundwa.

Matanho mashanu-Matanho Ekuenzanisa Balance Emotional Labor

1. Kana uri kubata ne kusaenzana kwepfungwa mukati mehukama hwako, danho rekutanga kuona dambudziko.

Rangarira, kushungurudzika mupfungwa kazhinji isingaonekwe nevamwe, saka zvinogona kunetsa pakutanga kuziva kuti dambudziko nderei.

Nekudaro, kana iwe ukaona zvimwe zvezviratidzo zvauri kuita zvese zve kushungurudzika mupfungwa muhukama, mutoro wepfungwa wawakatakura ungangove unopomera.

2. Kana uchinge waona dambudziko, danho rechipiri nderekuita hurukuro nemumwe wako.

Ramba uchifunga kuti murume / mukadzi wako kana mumwe akakosha angave asingatomboziva kuti urikunetseka nazvo kusaenzana kwepfungwa. Iwe haugone kufunga kuti mumwe wako anoziva nezvedambudziko. Ichi ndicho chikonzero hurukuro yakakosha.

Muvhidhiyo iri pazasi, Jessica naAhmad vanotaura nezve hurukuro dzakakosha dzatinofanira kuita nemumwe wedu. Itarise:

3. Tevere, munofanira kubvumirana nenzira yekukamura kushungurudzika pamba.

Buda pachena nezvezvaunoda kubva kune mumwe wako. Zvinogona kubatsira kuvandudza manzwiro evashandi yekutarisa iyo inoratidza uyo ane basa kune mamwe mabasa mukati memhuri.

4. Nhanho yechina ndeyekugara uchiongorora nemumwe wako, maunokurukura kuti manzwiro evashandi yekutarisa iri kushanda uye kuti mumwe nemumwe wenyu ari kubata sei mabasa ake.

5. Nhanho yechishanu, iyo inogona kunge isinga fanike nguva dzose, ndeyekutsvaga hutungamiriri kubva kune nyanzvi. Kana iwe usingakwanise kusvika pane imwechete peji nezve zvemweya basa muhukama, bato risingarerekere, senge yemhuri kana vaviri varapi, vanogona kukubatsira.

Therapy inogona zvakare kubatsira mumwe nemumwe wenyu kuti ashande kubudikidza nezvinokonzeresa nyaya zvakatungamira kune kusaenzana kwepfungwa chekutanga.

Maitiro Ekutaura kune Wako Mudiwa Kuti Ubatsirwe Nebasa reMweya

Kana iwe uri kutsvaga rubatsiro kubva kune mumwe wako kugadzirisa kusaenzana kwepfungwa, zvakakosha kuti utaure zvaunoda zvinobudirira.

Panzvimbo pekupa mhosva, kugunun'una, kana kudonhedza mazano, zvinobatsira kuita nhaurirano panguva yaunonyatsoratidza izvo zvaunoda kubva kune mumwe wako. Funga nezvekuti ungade kuti zuva rako riende sei uye kuti mumwe wako angakubatsira sei kuti zuva riitwe nyore.

Munguva yekukurukurirana, iwe unofanirwa zvakare kuve wakasununguka kuti unzwe maonero emumwe wako uye kukanganisa.

Imwe nzira inobatsira kana uchitaura nemumwe wako kukumbira rubatsiro ne kushungurudzika mupfungwa mienzaniso. Semuenzaniso, iwe unogona kutsanangura kuti iwe unogaro gadzirisa marongero evana ezuva nezuva, kuronga purogiramu yevhiki nevhiki yemhuri, kana kuita zvese legwork yekuungana kwemhuri.

Tevere, tsanangura kuti mutoro wekuita zvese kushungurudzika mupfungwa zvinokutapura. Iwe unogona kugovera kuti iwe unoremerwa, wakamanikidzwa, kana kuti haugone kuenzanisa zvirevo zvekubata iro rese mutoro wepfungwa uri wega.

Iwe unogona kupedzisa hurukuro nekupa mazita mashoma emanzwiro ako emanzwiro aungade kuti mumwe wako atore mberi mune ramangwana. Ive neshuwa yekukumbira rubatsiro pane kuita mukutsoropodza.

Semuenzaniso, hurukuro haigone kufamba zvakanaka kana ukati, "Haumbobatsira pamba!" Pane kudaro, bvunza izvo zvaunoda, nekunzwisisa kuti tariro yako ndeyekuti mumwe wako achatora aya mamwe mabasa mune ramangwana pasina kuda kugara uchiyeuchidzwa.

Micromanaging kana nagging mumwe wako kuti aite izvo zvinhu zvavakakumbirwa kuita zvinova kushungurudzika mupfungwa mukati mawo uye mukati mawo.

Maitiro Ekuenzana Kupatsanura Emotic Labor NewaWako Wako

Nekuda kwemaitiro echikadzi, mazhinji emabasa epamoyo anogona kuwira pavakadzi, asi zvinokwanisika kupatsanura mabasa aya zvakaenzanirana. Kugovana zvakaenzana basa repamoyo, zvinogona kubatsira kugadzira iyo manzwiro evashandi yekutarisa, zvakafanana nerondedzero yebasa.

Bvumirana pamusoro pekuti ndiani achatora mamwe mabasa, uye vhura mukana wekukanganisa uye nekufunga simba remumwe wako uye zvaunofarira.

Pamwe mumwe wako anogona kutora mutoro wekufamba imbwa, asi iwe uchaenderera nebasa rekutora vana kubva kuchikoro uye kuona kuti vadya chisati chaitika nhabvu ichiitwa.

Paunenge uchifunga nzira yekukamura basa repamoyo, unogona kusarudza kuti haudi kuti ugadzire 50/50 chiyero pakati pako nemumwe wako.

Zvinogona kubatsira kugadzira rondedzero yezvose zvinodikanwa zvehukama muhukama uye kuona zvidimbu zvishoma izvo mumwe wako angave achida kutora kudzikisira mutoro wako.

Izvi zvinogona kudzikisa kukakavara uye chigumbu zvinovaka kana mumwe wako akatakura ruzhinji rwepamoyo mutoro.

Zvisinei iwe ukafunga kupatsanura basa repamoyo, zvinogona kubatsira kuratidza runyorwa rwemabasa emunhu wese pachena, saka haufanire kuyeuchidza mumwe wako nezvebasa ravo rezuva nezuva.

Mhedzisiro Mhedzisiro YeVarume Vanotora paEmotional Labor

Chokwadi ndechekuti hukama hunonetesa hukama hazvinakidze. Kana mumwe wako akatakura huwandu hwemutoro wepfungwa, hasha uye chigumbu zvinogona kuwedzera, uye unogona kuzviwana uchingogara uchinetsekana nemumwe wako kana kutanga kurwa pamusoro pekushayikwa kwekutsigirwa kwaunonzwa kuti unogamuchira.

Ichi ndicho chikonzero varume vachitora kushungurudzika mupfungwa inobatsira zvakanyanya kuhukama. Kana mumwe wako achinge achinge achishanda newe kugadzirisa kusagadzikana kwepamoyo muhukama, ungangoona kuti unonzwa kusanetseka, pamwe nekukoshesa mumwe wako.

Zvese izvi zvinoreva kuti hazvingogadzirise pfungwa dzako chete, asi hukama hwako huchavandudzawo.

Muchokwadi, ongororo ya2018 yakawana kuti vese vakaroora uye vanogara pamwe chete vaive nehukama hwakanaka kana basa rakatenderedza imba rakakamurwa zvakaenzana.

Mhedziso

Basa repamoyo chikamu chehukama chero hupi.

Iwe nemumwe wako munofanira kugadzirisa kusawirirana, kuve nechokwadi chekuti mabasa epamba anoitwa, uye kuita zviitiko zvekugadzirisa hupenyu hwemhuri uye zvirongwa. Nepo mabasa aya achida kuronga nekurongeka uye ari kunetsa mupfungwa, haafanire kuunza matambudziko muhukama.

Basa repamoyo inova nezvinetso kana mumwe wako arikuita rese basa uye achivaka chigumbu kune mumwe wake anoita kunge ane kadhi rekubuda mutirongo.

Kana zvirizvo zviri muhukama hwako, ungangove une kusaenzana kwepfungwa, iyo inogona kugadziriswa nehurukuro yakatendeka.

Kana kutaura nemumwe wako zvisina kukwana kugadzirisa mamiriro acho ezvinhu, inogona kunge iri nguva yekutsvaga mazano kuvakaroorana kana kufunga kuti maitiro ako ari kubatsira kusaenzana kwepfungwa.

Iwe une shuwa yekugara uchitonga here? Kutora kuwanda kwebasa repamba kunoita kuti unzwe uchidiwa here? Chero chingave chikonzero chekusaenzana kwepamoyo, zvakakosha kuti uzvigadzirise, zvese kune hwako hutano uye hutano hwehukama hwako.