Zvemukati
- Chii chinonzi kudanana kwepamoyo?
- Nei kushamwaridzana kwepamoyo kuchikosha muwanano?
- Maitiro ekuvaka kushamwaridzana kwepamoyo muhukama hwako
- 1. Vimba nemumwe wako pasina pokugara
- 2. Ziva chikonzero nei uri pano, pasi pano, uye neuyu munhu chaiye
- 3. Funga zvakanaka
- 4. Iva munguva
- Sekutaura kwaOprah, iva wakanaka pauri
Hukama hwakakura iacchemy yezvinhu zvakawanda, pakati padzo yakanaka kemesitiri yebonde, kutaurirana kwakanakisa pakati pevanhu vaviri vanobatanidzwa, kubatana, pamwe nekuramba uchidzamisa pfungwa yehukama hwepamoyo.
Yekutanga inowanzo kuve nyore kuchengetedza, kunyanya mumakore ekutanga ehukama kana bonde richitsva, rinonakidza uye vaviri vacho vachifara kudzidza mashandiro anoita muviri wemumwe nemumwe uye kupindura. Yechipiri, kutaurirana, kunogona kunetsa kutsigira dzimwe nguva muwanano, kunyanya kana uchifamba nepakaoma chigaro, asi vakaroorana vanoshanda pakubatanidza nzira dzakanaka dzekutaurirana vanoona kuti izvi zvinopa mufaro wavo. Kubatira pamwe sevanhu vaviri, kungave kuri kurera vana kana kubata nevasina mutemo, chikamu chakakosha chekuchengetedza imba yenyu ichifara. Asi chinhu chechina-kushamwaridzana kwepamoyo-izvo zvinorevei chaizvo? Kune akawanda mabhuku akaburitswa pamusoro pekuita bonde rakanaka, maitiro ekuvandudza hunyanzvi hwekutaurirana uye mashandiro eboka sechikwata, asi pane chero munhu akambonyora Emotional Intimacy Book?
Chii chinonzi kudanana kwepamoyo?
Kushamwaridzana kwepamoyo chibereko chehunyanzvi hwepamoyo. Uku ndiko kugona kuziva nekutaurirana zvaunonzwa nemudiwa wako uye kuti ugamuchire kuziva nekuteerera mumwe wako kana achinge ataura manzwiro ake newe.
Nei kushamwaridzana kwepamoyo kuchikosha muwanano?
Pasina hukama hwakadzama hwepamoyo, vaviri vacho havana kukwana uye vangangogara pamwe chete kwenguva refu. Bonde rakanaka rinogona chete kubata hukama pamwe kwenguva yakareba. Panofanirwa kuve nehwaro hwekuchinjana kwepamoyo kuti vaviri vacho vakure pamwe chete, vazivane zvachose, uye vabvumirane nzvimbo yekuratidza kusagadzikana pasina kutya kwekushoropodzwa kana kunyadziswa. Kushamwaridzana kwepamoyo kunobvumidza vaviri kuva 100% yechokwadi kune mumwe nemumwe, uye vachiri kunzwa kudiwa uye kuchengetedzeka.
Maitiro ekuvaka kushamwaridzana kwepamoyo muhukama hwako
Vakadzi vanoonekwa sehunhu hunonyanya "kushushikana" uye zvirinani pakuratidza manzwiro. Ivo ndivo vanochengeta, vachiteerera nemoyo murefu kana mwana ave nezuva rakaipa kana kushushikana mupfungwa. Ivo vanoshanda kuti vaburitse manzwiro kubva kune wavakaroorana naye kana asiri iye munhu anoratidza manzwiro zvakasununguka.
Nekudaro, kuti vaviri vaite mushe pahutano hwakanaka, hazvigone kuve iye mukadzi ari kushandira kushingairira kusangana kwepamoyo. Kana zvirizvo, mhedzisiro yekupedzisira ichave kushatirwa uye kutsamwa, fungidziro yekuti mumwe chete wevabatsiri ndiye ari kuita zvese zvinorema kusimudza kuwedzera kwehukama hwehukama mune vaviri vacho. Izvo zvakakosha kuti vese vakaroorana vadyidzwe mukugovana yavo yemanzwiro mamiriro uye kunyatsoteerera kana mumwe ari kuratidza kwavo manzwiro.
Dai mumwe aizonyora Emotional Intimacy Book, zvaizosanganisira zvinotevera:
1. Vimba nemumwe wako pasina pokugara
Zvinopera pasina kutaura kuti hukama hwako hwakakosha - imba yako - inofanirwa kuvakirwa panheyo yekuvimbika kwakazara. Pasina kuvimba kwakadzika, haugone kusangana nehukama hwepamoyo. Kana iwe uchivanza zvinhu kubva kune wawakaroorana naye, kunge chinhu chepamhepo (online kana muhupenyu chaihwo), hazvigoneke kuti hwehukama hwehukama hutore midzi uye kukura. Iko kugona kuvimba nemumwe wako zvizere, uye kumuita kuti avimbe newe, kunodiwa kuti udyise hukama hwehukama uye uchitendere kuti hukure pakati pako.
2. Ziva chikonzero nei uri pano, pasi pano, uye neuyu munhu chaiye
Mumwe nemumwe wenyu ane zvishuwo uye zvitendero nezve izvo zvinounza chinangwa kuhupenyu hwake. Sezvo iwe uchigovana izvi, iwe unovaka chisungo nemumwe wako. Kana imi mose muchitora jasi rerudo rwenyu, hukama hwepedyo hunosimbiswa. Iwe unobatanidzwa nebasa rako rakajairika kuti usvike kunze kwako uye ubatsire kune chimwe chinhu chakakura kupfuura iwe.
Ziva zvaunofarira. Zvinogona kunge chiri chinhu se "kuponesa nyika." Sarudza mhando yebasa raungaite pamwe chete kuti ubatsire kuzadzisa chinangwa ichocho. Mienzaniso inogona kunge iri yekuzvipira pamwe chete kunzvimbo inoshandiswazve kana kuenda kuchikoro chenyu pamwe chete kuti muite musangano nevadzidzi nezvenzira dzavanogona kubatsira kuponesa nyika.
Kana kuda kwako kukabatanidzwa nemumwe munhu waunofarira, huwandu hwako hwekuzvipira kuhukama hwako hwadzama, uye nhanho yehukama hwehukama muhukama hwako ichawedzera.
3. Funga zvakanaka
Regedza izvo zvinodiwa kuti uve akarurama, iko kuda kwekuudza mumwe wako zvekuita, iko kudiwa kwekunongedza zvaakakanganisa uye zvaasingakwanise, uye kuda kwekutora zvibodzwa. Kubvisa izvi zvehukama hwepedyo blockade zvinoguma zvakanaka, zvinotsigira, uye nemoyo manzwiro ekupa mumwe wako.
Mumwe wako achaita, ehe, kuita zvinhu zvinokusvota. Dzidzira kukanganwira, uye fungisisa kuti ungapindura sei pahunhu hwake. Kuzvinongedzera kungamukuvadza here? Pane here nzira yekuti iwe ugadzirise zvinoshungurudza usingamupe mhosva nazvo, nekushandisa, semuenzaniso, "ini" meseji? Iwe unogona here kufunga kurega izvo zvinoshungurudza zviende usina kutaura nezvazvo?
4. Iva munguva
Imwe yedzakareruka nzira dzekuwedzera hukama hwehukama nemumwe wako ndeye kujekesa kutarisisa kwake paari kutaura newe. Isa pasi foni yako, rega kutaipa pakombuta. Kana iwe wakamira pasink uchiita madhishi, mira, isa muviri wako kwaari, uye umutarise mumaziso uchiteerera. Iwe unozoshamiswa nemaitiro ekuita padhuze neichi chidiki chidiki.
Sekutaura kwaOprah, iva wakanaka pauri
Dzidzira mwero wepamusoro wekuzvichengeta maererano nehukama hwako hwepamoyo. Kana uchinetseka kuratidza manzwiro ako nenzira yakanaka kana kushaya nzira dzehunyanzvi hwekuita izvi, isa mari muzvikamu zvinoverengeka nemupi wezano wezano anogona kukupa mamwe mazano. Kutamisa simba rako pakuva wega wakanakisa uye uchave nekwaniso iri nani yekuwedzera hukama hwehukama muhukama hwako.