Zvemukati
- Kerry naTim: Kutengesa kunokonzerwa nekubata kwevabereki
- Cynthy naJerry: Unyengeri husingaperi
- Therese naHarvey: Mukadzi asina hanya
- Carrie naJason: Vakaramba mikana yekuzvitakura
Wakambonzwa here mufananidzo wamambo namambokadzi vakatuma mwanakomana wavo wedangwe, akafanirwa kuve mambo, pakutsvaga pasirese mukadzi anokudzwa, ane moyo munyoro, akangwara kuti agovane chigaro chake? "Ramba wakavhura maziso ako," vabereki vake vakaraira vachiomerera sezvo dangwe ravo rakasara pakutsvaga kwake. Kwapera gore muchinda akadzoka nesarudzo yake, vakadzi vadiki vanobva vadikanwa nevabereki vake. Pazuva remuchato, nemanzwi akasimba kupfuura aya akamboshandiswa asati afamba, vabereki vake vakapa rimwe zano, panguva ino kune vaviri ava: , paunotarisa uye nekuregerera kweupenyu hwako hwese hwekuroora. Uye yeuka, kana ukamboita chero chinhu chinokuvadza munzira ipi neipi, kurumidza kukumbira ruregerero. ”
Shamwari yepedyo ine makore echiitiko segweta rekurambana yakapindura huchenjeri hwemufananidzo uyu. Kutarisa, kusarudza nyaya dzako, uye kukumbira ruregerero nezvehunhu hunokuvadza izano rakachenjera kupfuura mamwe ese. ”
Kunyange zvakangwara seiri meseji, zvakadaro, kuregerera hakusi nyore nguva dzose kuwana. Hongu, hongu, zviri nyore kuregerera murume anokanganwa kufona achiti achanonoka kudya kana ave kushanda zvakanyanya uye achishushikana. Zviri nyore kuregerera mukadzi nekukanganwa kutora murume wake pachiteshi chechitima kana akakurirwa nemabasa ake.
Asi isu tinoregerera sei kana isu tichinzwa kukuvadzwa kana kunyengedzwa nekubatana kwakaomarara kunosanganisira kutengesa, kurasikirwa, uye kurambwa? Chiitiko chakandidzidzisa kuti mumamiriro ezvinhu akaita seaya nzira yekuchenjera haisi yekuviga zvinokuvadza, kutsamwa kana kunyangwe hasha, asi kutsvaga mazano kune nzwisiso izere nekuziva, nzira yakatendeka yekuregerera iyo inopawo gwara rakanaka. Mienzaniso kubva kutsika yangu inojekesa iyi nzira inotevera.
Kerry naTim: Kutengesa kunokonzerwa nekubata kwevabereki
Kerry naTim (kwete mazita chaiwo, ehe saizvozvo), vabereki vemudiwa mukomana wemwedzi mina-mukomana, vakasangana kukoreji uye vakawira murudo mushure memusangano uyu. Vabereki vaTim, vaviri vakapfuma, vanogara mamaira mashoma kubva kumwanakomana wavo nemuroora, nepo vabereki vaKerry, vane mari shoma, vanogara mamaira chiuru. Kunyangwe amai vaKerry naTim vasina kuwirirana, vabereki vaKerry vaifara nekambani yemukwasha wavo (sezvinoita Tim yavo) uye vaive padyo nemwanasikana wavo.
Tim naKerry vakatsvaga kurairwa nekuti vaisakwanisa kumira kukakavara nezvechangobva kuitika. Pamberi pekuzvarwa kwemwanakomana wavo Kerry akatenda kuti iye naTim vakabvumirana kuti havaizotaurirana nevabereki vavo kusvika pakuzvarwa kwemwana. Kerry paakangotanga kusununguka, zvakadaro, Tim akatumira mameseji kuvabereki vake, avo vakamhanyira kuchipatara. Tim akapedza yakawanda yebasa raKerry achitumira mameseji kuvabereki vake achivaudza nezve kufambira mberi. "Tim akanditengesa," Kerry akatsamwa akatsanangura muchikamu chedu chekutanga, achienderera, "Vabereki vangu vakanzwisisa kuti vaizonzwa kubva kwatiri mushure mekusununguka zvakachengeteka. "Tarisa, Kerry," Tim akapindura, "Ndakuudza zvaunofanira kunzwa, asi uchitenda kuti vabereki vangu vaiva nekodzero yekuziva zvese zvinoitika."
Mumwedzi mitatu yekushanda nesimba Tim akaona kuti anga asina kutora danho rakakosha mumichato yakabudirira: kukosha kwekuvimbika kubva kuvabereki kuenda kune mumwe, chimwe chinhu chakanzwisiswa nevabereki vaKerry. Akaona zvakare kuti zvaive zvakakosha kuita hurukuro yemoyo naamai vake, wavakaona akatarisira pasi mukadzi wake nekuda kwekushaya kwevabereki vake hupfumi uye nezvavanofunga kuti "kushaya chinzvimbo munzanga."
Kerry akaona zvakakodzera kupa hushamwari kuna vamwene vake, avo vaakaona kuti "hazvingambove zvakashata - mushure meizvozvo, akarera mwanakomana akanaka." NaTim zvakanyatsotsanangurwa tarisiro kuna amai vake, uye kutsunga kwaTerry kurega mafi, kusagadzikana kwakadzikama, uye chitsva, chitsauko chakanaka chakatanga kumhuri yese.
Cynthy naJerry: Unyengeri husingaperi
Cynthy naJerry vaive mumwe nemumwe ane makore makumi matatu nemashanu ekuberekwa, uye vaive vakaroora kwemakore manomwe. Mumwe nemumwe aive akazvipira pabasa, uye aisada vana. Cynthy akauya kune counselling ari ega, sezvo Jerry akaramba kubatana naye. Cynthy akatanga kuchema paakangovharwa musuwo wemuhofisi, achitsanangura kuti aive asisina chivimbo nemurume wake, “Handizive kuti ndotendeuka kupi uye ndakuvara zvakanyanya uye ndakatsamwa nekuti handifunge kuti husiku hwaJerry husiku hwakanangana nebasa, asi haataure neni nezviri kuitika. ” Achitsanangura zvakare, Cynthy akagovana, "Jerry haasisina basa nekuita kwedu rudo, uye anoita kunge asingafarire mandiri semunhu wenyama. "
Pakati pemwedzi mitatu vachishanda vese, Cynthy akaziva kuti murume wake aimunyepera nguva yese yewanano yavo. Akayeuka chiitiko pakutanga kwehupenyu hwavo hwekuroora apo Cynthy akatora zororo rekusavapo pabasa rake seakaunzi accountant kutungamira shamwari yake yepedyo kuhofisi yakasarudzwa nehurumende. Mushure mesarudzo, iyo shamwari yake yakakundwa nemavhoti mashoma, Jerry akaudza Cynthy zvakatonhora uye achifara, "Aive mumiriri wako, kwete wangu. Ndanyepedzera kumudzorera kuti ndikunyarare. ”
Mumwedzi wake wechishanu wekurapwa, Cynthy akaudza Jerry kuti aida kusiyana. Akafamba achifara, uye Cynthy akaona kuti aive arerukirwa nekugona kupedza nguva nemumwe. Nguva pfupi mushure mekuziva kwake kufarira kwake kwenhengo yekirabhu yake yemabhuku ane mukadzi akafa gore rapfuura, uye hukama hwavo hwakakurumidza kukura. Cynthy ainyanya kuda kuziva vana vaCarl, vasikana vaviri vadiki, ane makore matanhatu ne7. Nenguva ino Jerry akaziva kuti akange akanganisa zvakanyanya. Kukumbira mukadzi wake kuti arase zvirongwa zvekurambana uye amuregerere, akaudzwa, "Ehe, ndinokuregerera. Wako wakandiunzira kunzwisisa kwakanyanya zvekuti ini ndiri ani, uye nei kurambana kuchikosha. ”
Therese naHarvey: Mukadzi asina hanya
Therese naHarvey vaive nemapatya vanakomana, vane makore gumi nemashanu, apo Harvey akadanana nemumwe mukadzi. Pakati pechikamu chedu chekutanga, Therese anoratidza hasha nezve nyaya yake, uye Harvey akataura kuti naiyewo akatsamwa nekuti hupenyu hwese hwemukadzi wake hunotarisana nevanakomana vavo. Mumashoko aHarvey, "Therese akakanganwa kare kare kuti ane murume, uye handigone kumuregerera nekuda kwekusaziva. Sei ndisingazoda kuzogara nemukadzi anoratidza kundifarira? ” Kuvimbika kwaHarvey chaive chokwadi chekumutsa mukadzi wake.
Therese aive akatsunga kunzwisisa zvikonzero zvehunhu hwaakange asina kuziva kana kuziva uye nekukurumidza akaziva kuti nekuti baba vake nemunin'ina vake vakafa pamwe patsaona yemotokari paaive nemakore gumi nemapfumbamwe, akange ave kunyanyobatanidzwa nevanakomana vake, vakatumidzwa kunzi baba vake vanononoka uye hanzvadzi konama. Neiyi nzira, akatenda kuti achakwanisa kuvadzivirira kubva kune imwecheteyo baba vake nemunin'ina. Harvey akaziva kuti aifanira kunge akataura nezvehasha dzake uye nekuodza moyo mukadzi nekukurumidza, pane kuzvibvumira kukura. Panguva yekunzwisisana uku, nyaya yaHarvey yakanga yapera; kuziva kwakavaswededza padyo kupfuura zvavaimbove vakaita; uye njere dzakadzora kutsamwa kwese.
Carrie naJason: Vakaramba mikana yekuzvitakura
Carrie akanonoka kubata pamuviri nekuti Jason aive asina chokwadi chekuti aida mwana. "Ini ndinoda kugona kusununguka kwatiri kuti titore uye tinakirwe pese patinoda," aive amuudza kakawanda. "Handidi kurega izvozvo." Jason achiri aisada kuve mubereki apo wachi yaCarrie yekuzvarwa, pazera ramakore makumi matatu nemashanu, yakatanga kushevedzera "Zvino kana Never! ”
Panguva ino Carrie akafunga kuti kana kana asina kana Jason, aive akatsunga kubata nhumbu. Uyu musiyano unoratidzika kunge usingagadzirisike, uye hasha dzavo kune mumwe nemumwe nekuda kwezvishuvo zvaisatenderwa kubvumirana, zvakavaunza kurapi.
Panguva yebasa redu Jason akaziva kuti kurambana kwevabereki vake aine makore gumi, uye baba vasina kumufarira, zvakamuita kuti atye kuti aisava ne "zvinhu zvekuva baba." Zvisinei, basa redu richifambira mberi akaona zvese izvo zvaairamba mukadzi wake, uye akavimbisa "kudzidza kuva izvo zvandaifanira kudzidza kuva." Rutsigiro netsitsi izvi zvakadzora kutsamwa kwaCarrie, uyezve, Jason akaziva kuti hasha dzake kuna Carrrie "hadzina musoro uye hutsinye."
Panguva ino, zvakadaro, bvunzo dzisingaverengeke dzakatevera kutadza kwaCarrie kubata nhumbu (Jason aigara ari padivi paCarrie) kwakaratidza kuti mazai aCarrie akange akura zvekutadza kubatwa nembeu. Kumwe kubvunzana kwakatungamira mukudzidza kwevaviri nezve mukana wekuti "zai rinopa," uye pamwechete Carrie naJason vakatsvaga bazi rine mukurumbira uye vakawana mupi akanyatsosarudzwa. Iye zvino ndivo vabereki vanopenya vaJenny, makore matatu. Vanobvumirana kuti: “Taigona sei kutarisira chero ani zvake anoshamisa kupfuura mwanasikana wedu?” Uye zvimwe. Mumashoko aJason, "Ndinotenda kuti ndinogona kudzidza kuona zvese zvandainyima mukadzi wandinoda zvakanyanya, uye nekutenda kuti ndakazvipa rufaro rwakagovaniswa."