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- Isu tinowanzobatwa pakati peicho chaicho, uye nezvatinoda
- Zvinorevei kuva shamwari musati mafambidzana
- Shamwari kutanga, ipapo vadikani
- Unogona kudanana nevamwe vanhu
- Kuvaka hushamwari usati wadanana
- Chinokosha
- More by Dr. LaWanda N. Evans
“Ngative shamwari!” Isu tese takambozvinzwa kare.
Funga kumashure, unoyeuka here kunzwa mazwi aya kasingaperi uye usingazive zvekuita uye kunzwa kunetseka, kupenga, uye kuenda panguva yakaoma yekuzvigamuchira?
Ivo vaida kuve shamwari yako, asi nekuda kwechimwe chikonzero, iwe wakachimonyanisa ndokuchichinja uye ukaita zvese zvawaigona kuyedza kuvaratidza kuti kuva shamwari kwainge kusiri izvo zvawaida. Iwe waida hukama. Shingairira sezvo inogona kunge isiri imwe nyaya yerudo rusina kukumbirwa.
Kukudziridza ushamwari pamberi pehukama pakupedzisira chinhu chakanaka chenyu mose.
Isu tinowanzobatwa pakati peicho chaicho, uye nezvatinoda
Mushure mekuyedza kuvanyengetedza, iwe unogona kunge wakazopedzisira wafunga kuti yaive nguva yekurega uye kufamba uchienda. Asi zvakakutorera nguva yakareba kuti urege kuenda.
Vanhu vazhinji vakave kuburikidza neizvi. Vanhu vazhinji vanoda kuve nemunhu asingade hukamauye inongoda kuve shamwari kana kungova shamwari vasati vadanana.
Saka kuchengeta hushamwari pamberi pehukama kwakanaka here kana kuti kwakaipa? Ngationei.
Zvinorevei kuva shamwari musati mafambidzana
Hushamwari ndicho chinhu chekutanga chaunoda uye chakakosha zvakanyanya kana zvasvika pakuvandudza hukama. Kuva shamwari kunokupa iwe mukana wekuziva iye munhu nezvavari uye zvinokupa iwe mukana wekudzidza zvinhu nezvavo zvaungadai usina kudzidza neimwe nzira.
Kana iwe ukasvetukira muhukama usina kuva shamwari kutanga, mhando dzese dzenyaya nematambudziko zvinogona kuitika. Unotanga kutarisira zvimwe kubva kumunhu uye dzimwe nguva unoisa zvisizvo zvinotarisirwa.
Nekuisa hushamwari pamberi pehukama, unogona kusarudza zviri nyore kuti ndivo vakakwana here kudanana kana kwete sezvo hakuzove nekunyepedzera uye yakawanda yakavhurika nzvimbo yekutaura pamusoro pezvinhu zvakakosha.
Shamwari kutanga, ipapo vadikani
Sei uchiisa kumanikidza kwakanyanya pane mumwe munhu nekuda kwezvaunotarisira nezvido zvako? Paunokudziridza hushamwari hwechokwadi, hapana zvinotarisirwa. Imi mose munogona kuva chokwadi chenyu. Unogona kudzidza zvese zvaunoda kuziva nezve mumwe nemumwe. Haufanire kunetseka nezvekunyepedzera kuva munhu wausiri.
Wako wauchazodanana naye anogona kuzorora mukuziva kuti vanogona kuva ivo pachavo, uye vasinganetseke nezve kana uchizobvunza nezvehukama.
Kukudziridza chisungo chehukama hukama husati hwave nani pane kungorega kukwezva kuchikunda uye nekuzoona gare gare kuti haugone kana kuita shamwari dzakanaka.
Unogona kudanana nevamwe vanhu
Kana zvasvika kune hushamwari, hapana tambo dzakabatanidzwa uye wakasununguka kudanana uye kuona vamwe vanhu kana uchida. Iwe hauna kusungwa kana kusungirwa kwavari. Hauna chikwereti kwavari chero tsananguro yesarudzo dzaunoita.
Kana wako wauchazodanana naye akakukumbira kuti iwe uve shamwari navo, tora munzira yako, uye uvape izvo chaizvo. Mupe ushamwari asingatarisiri kuti itumbukire muhukama. Iwe unogona kuona kuti kuve shamwari kune kwakanakisa uye kuti iwe haudi kuve muhukama navo.
Zvirinani kuti uzive panguva yehukama chikamu chausingade hukama, pane kuti uzive gare gare, pawakabatana pamweya navo. Kuva shamwari pamberi pevadikani kunoonawo kuti kwekutanga kwekutamba kunopera.
Iwe unokwanisa kuona mumwe munhu nezvavari uyezve nekupa yako chaiyeiye kwavari, inova hwaro hwakanakisa hwehukama hwakareba. Chero zvazvingaitika, hushamwari muhukama hwakadai hwakakoshawo kuti macog atendeuke.
Scarlett Johansson naBill Murray vakazviita (Vakarasika Mukushandura), Uma Thurman naJohn Travolta vakazviita (Pulp Fiction) uye kupfuura vese Julia Roberts naDermot Mulroney vakazviita zvemhando yepamusoro (Muchato weShamwari Yangu Yakanakisisa).
Zvakanaka, ivo vese vakaisa hushamwari pamberi pehukama uye yavo platonic chisungo chakashanda zvakangonaka. Uye zvinogona kuitika nenzira iyoyo muhupenyu chaihwo futi. Chete kana kuvaka hushamwari pamberi pehukama kuri pamberi pako.
Kuvaka hushamwari usati wadanana
Kuva shamwari musati mafambidzana hakumbofi kwakaipa pfungwa sezvo zvichireva kuti hapana chinhu chepamusoro pamusoro pehukama. Muchokwadi, iyo mikana yekuve nehukama hwakabudirira zvakare inokwira kana iwe uri shamwari kutanga.
Asi usati waumba hushamwari usati waita hukama hwakakomba, unogona kuve nekukanganiswa chaiko uye nemibvunzo yakadai sekuti 'ungave sei shamwari usati watanga kudanana' kana kuti 'munofanira kuva shamwari kwenguva yakareba sei musati mafambidzana.'
Zvakanaka, zvese zvinoenderana nekuti yako yekutanga kemisitiri yakaita sei uye kuti inokura sei sekusvika kwekuzivana. Kune vamwe, shanduko kubva kushamwari kuenda kune vadikani inoitika mukati memwedzi apo vamwe vangatora makore.
Saka, nguva inotevera pavachakukumbira kuti mugova shamwari, fungai kuti zvakanaka, uye rangarirai kuti uyu mukana wekuti uvazive usina kusungwa pamoyo. Haisi kupera kwenyika kuisa hushamwari pamberi pehukama.
Kunyangwe zvisiri izvo zvaunoda kana kutarisira, hapana chakaipa nekuva shamwari yavo uye nekugamuchira kuti izvi ndizvo zvavanoda. Nguva zhinji, kuve shamwari ndiyo yakanyanya kunaka sarudzo.
Hezvino gumi nezviviri zvikonzero nei kubvuma ngative shamwari, ndicho chinhu chakanakisa chinogona kuitika kwauri, nekuti-
1. Iwe unosvika pakuziva kwavo chaiko chaiko uye kwete kuti ivo vanonyepedzera kuva ivo
2. Unogona kuva iwe
3. Haufanire kuzvidavirira
4. Unogona kudanana uye kusvika pakuziva vamwe vanhu kana uchida
5. Unogona kusarudza kana kuve shamwari kuri nani pane kuva muhukama navo
6. Haufanire kunge uri pasi pekumanikidzwa kuti uve iwe kana kuve mumwe munhu
7. Haufanire kuvagutsa kuti vakude
8. Haufanire kuvaratidza kuti ndiwe "Mumwe"
9. Iwe haufanire kutaura nezvekupinda muhukama navo
10. Iwe haufanire kupindura mafoni avo kana mameseji nguva dzese kana iwe usingakwanise kana usingade
11. Haufanire kumanikidzwa kutaura navo mazuva ese
12. Haufanire kuvaratidza kuti uri munhu kwaye
Chinokosha
Kuisa hushamwari pamberi pehukama kunokupa iwe mukana wekusununguka, wakasununguka kuva zvauri, uye wakasununguka kusarudza kuve muhukama naye kana kwete.
Verenga Zvimwe: Mufaro Kuroorwa neShamwari Yako Yepamoyo
Ndinovimba, mushure mekuverenga izvi, iwe unozoona kuti "Ngativei Shamwari" hachisi chirevo chakashata, shure kwezvose.
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