Zvemukati
- 1. Shamwari yakangwara, inaku ine hunhu
- 2. Maonero akachinjika kune hunhu hunodiwa mune mumwe wako
- 3. Kuva nezvakada zvakafanana asi zvisina kufanana zvakanyanya
- 4. Kutsvaga rudo muwanano yechipiri
- 5. Nyaradzo uye mufaro muhukama hwepabonde-nemumwe
- 6. Kuputsa maitiro ekudanana nemhando isiriyo
- 7. Uyo anoburitsa zvakanakisa mauri
Isu tese tinoedza kuva nehukama hwakakwana. Asi isu tinonyatsorevei ne "kukwana?" Yakakwana chiitiko chekuzviisa pasi, chimwe chinotsanangurwa zvakasiyana nemunhu wega wega waunotaura naye. Ngatitarisei kune anotevera vanhu tsananguro yezvinoita hukama hwakakwana kwavari, uye tione kana paine chero zvakajairika mune izvo zvavanorondedzera sehukama hwakakwana munzira dzakasiyana.
1. Shamwari yakangwara, inaku ine hunhu
Molly, 25, ane mwedzi mitanhatu muhukama hwake hwerudo. "Mukomana wangu akakwana," anodaro. “Akangwara, akanaka, uye anoseka zvikuru. Muchokwadi, izvi ndizvo zvakandikwevera kwaari. Kekutanga pandakamuona, aiita kumira-kumusoro kukirabhu yemuno yemamhanzi. Akandisarudzira kunze kwevateereri sechimwe chezviitiko zvake. Kunyangwe ndaive nekunyara zvishoma, ndakaenda kwaari mushure mekuratidzwa kuti ndizvizivise. Akandibvunza kunze, uye zvakanaka, zvese zvakakwana (kusvika zvino)! "Ndinoda chaizvo kuti ari kugadzikana kutamba pamberi pevanhu uye kuti anofarira zvemitambo yake."
2. Maonero akachinjika kune hunhu hunodiwa mune mumwe wako
Steve, 49, ane maonero akasiyana pakukwana. Iko hakuna mutemo wechigunwe kune hukama hwakakwana uye dzimwe nguva, manzwiro anochinja zvakanyanya. Uye ndizvo zvakaitika naSteve.
“Hei, ini ndakarambwa nemurume saka ndinoziva kuti zvingaratidzika sezvakanaka paunenge uine makore makumi maviri nemaviri zvinogona kuchinja kana wave nemakore makumi mana. Pandakadanana nemukadzi wangu, ndaifunga kuti akakwana. Akanaka, chaizvo mukuchengetedza chitarisiko chake, uye muridzi wemba chaiye. Ini ndaidzoka kumba ndichibva kubasa uye zvese zvaive zvakanaka: imba yaive yakachena, kudya kwemanheru pachitofu, uye aigara achitaridzika kunge akanaka. Asi izvi zvakava zvinofinha gore negore. Haana kumbofarira kufamba zvakanyanya — sekutaura kwandaita, aive munhu anogara pamba — uye aive nezvaaifarira zvishoma kunze kwekutenga nekugadzira bvudzi rake.
Ndakadanana nemumwe mukadzi wandakasangana naye kuburikidza nekirabhu yangu yekumhanya. Ndakaguma ndarambana nemukadzi wangu wekutanga, uye ikozvino ndinogona kutaura zvechokwadi kuti ndine hukama hwakakwana. Samantha (mukadzi wangu wechipiri akafanana neni - mutambi, anozvipira panjodzi, uye anoda kuzvipokana. Anogona kunge asina kundikwanira pandaive nemakore makumi maviri, ichokwadi, asi iye zvino ndave mukuru uye chii Ndiri kuda kubva pahukama hwangu zvachinja. ”
3. Kuva nezvakada zvakafanana asi zvisina kufanana zvakanyanya
Camille, 30, anoti anofunga kuti hukama hwakakwana ndewekuti vanhu vaviri vane zvakafanana zvakafanana asi vasina kufanana zvakanyanya. "Unofanira kukwanisa kuunza chimwe chinhu chitsva muhukama, kakawanda uye kakawanda," anodaro. “Iwe haudi kuve zvinopesana polar - izvo zvinogona kunge zvakaoma nekuti hapana chinhu chamunowirirana, asi hamudi kuve muhomwe dzeumwe neumwe nguva dzese. Izvo zvingave zvinofinha.
Ini ndinoda mwero wakanaka apo mumwe wangu neni tine zvinhu zvikuru zvakabatana - zvematongerwo enyika, chinamato, dzidzo, maonero atinoita mhuri - asi tine rusununguko rwekubuda pedu tega kuti tiongorore zvimwe zvinhu senge zvatinoita isu nenguva yedu yekuzorora . Semuenzaniso, ini ndinoda kutamba tenesi pakupera kwevhiki, uye iye anoda kutora mashoma maawa kuti apfure mifananidzo nekirabhu yake yekutora mifananidzo. Kana isu tese tikasvika kumba tichibva kuzviitiko zvedu zvakasiyana, tine zvakawanda zvekugovana. ”
4. Kutsvaga rudo muwanano yechipiri
"Hukama hwangu hwakandinakira, asi ndingadai ndisina kumbofunga kuti hwaizoshanda ndisati ndasangana naMike," anodaro Cindy, 50. “Ndakanga ndakaroora kare, kumurume anochengetedza chaiko. Isu tanga tiri vaviri avo vese vaiitira godo uye vaida kufanana. Imba yakanaka, mabasa akanaka, vana vanoita zvakanaka muchikoro. Isu tanga tiri vanoenda kuchechi uye takadzorera kunharaunda.
Mushure mekunge murume wangu arwara uye akashaya, handina kumbofunga kuti ndaizoroora zvakare. Zvirokwazvo kwete mumwe munhu saMike. Mike akaberekerwa, mune zvematongerwo enyika akazendamira kuruboshwe, anonamata asi haanamate. Asi ndakakweverwa kune simba rake, uye isu takadanana. Chishamiso chakadii! Ndine rombo rakanaka sezvo ndakave nemukana wekuve nehukama huviri hwakakwana. Chimwe nechimwe chakasiyana kwazvo. Ndinofungidzira zvandiri kutaura ndezvekuti "kukwana" kunouya mune zvakawanda zvinonaka. Ndinofara! ”
5. Nyaradzo uye mufaro muhukama hwepabonde-nemumwe
"Ukama hwangu hwakakwana pamwe hausi izvo zvinonzi nenzanga zvakakwana," anodaro Amy, 39. “Mumwe wangu mukadzi. Vamwe vanogona kusadana ichi hukama hwakakwana, asi iye akandikwanira. Ndingadai ndakadanana naye kunyangwe dai anga ari murume! Iye ane moyo munyoro, anosetsa, uye anondiratidza kuti anondida munzira dzine miriyoni zuva rega rega. Tiri vakaenzana vechokwadi muhukama. Isu tinopokana, chokwadi, asi gara uchitora nguva yekuteerera kudivi remumwe nemumwe. Uye hatimborara takatsamwa. Kana izvozvo zvisingaratidzike sehukama hwakakwana, handizive kuti chii. ”
6. Kuputsa maitiro ekudanana nemhando isiriyo
Kathy, 58, zvakatora nguva yakareba kuwana hukama hwakakwana. "Ini ndaifambidzana nevarume vazhinji vasina hunhu-pese pandaive mudiki," anodaro. “Uye ipapo ndakamira. Ndakafunga kuti ndingadai ndiri ndega pane kuva nemukomana anonwa, kana kubhejera, kana kusandiremekedza zvakakwana kundibata zvakanaka.
Ndipo pandakazorega kubvuma kurapwa nevarume uye ndikazorora kubva pakudanana ndipo pandakasangana naGary. Gary aive akandikwanira, ipapo chaipo bat. Ndiye mumwe weavo varume anofunga, anofunga, anogara achichengeta shoko rake, anoratidza manzwiro ake. Tine shamwari dzakafanana, dzakagovana zvishuwo, uye zvese zviri zviviri kufarira kukumbundira nekutsvoda! Ndiri kufara kwazvo kuti ndakasimudza zviyero zvangu zvekuti ndingafambidzane nani. Dai ndisina kudaro, ndingadai ndakave neupenyu hwevamwe vandinyadzisa, uye ndingadai ndisina kumbosangana naGary. ”
7. Uyo anoburitsa zvakanakisa mauri
"Unoziva chii chinoita hukama hwakakwana?", Anobvunza Maria, 55. “Mumwe wako anoburitsa zvakanakisa mauri. Ndakaziva kuti James ndiye wandaona kuti akandiita kuti ndigare ndichisvika kune nyeredzi. Anoita kuti ndide kupokana neni, saka ndinogara ndichiyemurwa naye. Oo, ndinoziva kuti angandida chero chandinoita, asi anoita kuti ndinzwe ndisingakundike! Iye anotenda mandiri, anonditsigira uye anondipa iyo nzvimbo yandinoda kuti ndirambe ndichikura. Ndinoita zvimwe chete kwaari. Ihwo kwandiri hukama hwakakwana! ”
Chii chatinodzidza nezve Hukama Hwakakwana kubva kuvanhu ava? Zvinoita sekunge hukama hwakakwana hwakasiyana kune wese munhu. Ichi chinhu chakanaka. Kana hukama hwakakwana hukangouya muhukuru humwe chete, paizove nevanhu vazhinji vakashungurudzika kunze uko! Izvo zvakakosha kuti utsanangure kuti chii chako "chakakwana", kuti iwe ugone kuchiziva icho kana chichiuya nenzira yako.
