Zvemukati
- Kukakavara kunogara kuri pachena
- Iwe unowana "A" yekuedza
- Hupenyu chakavanzika
- Dzidza matsva matsva
- Kuwana murapi chaiye
Vakaroorana havawanzo tsvaga mazano evakaroorana kana kurapwa kwehukama kusvikira mamiriro avo aparadza. Kupa mazano kwevakaroorana kazhinji ndiyo nzira yekupedzisira kune vaviri vari mudambudziko.
Kuzvidzwa kunosanganisirwa neanoda kurapwa kwehukama kunogona kudzivirira vazhinji vakaroora kubva kuenda kune vekurapa kurapwa panguva iyo dambudziko parinotanga, kana kunyangwe matambudziko asati atanga, zvachose.
Zvakare, nguva yekuenda kune vakaroorana kuraira? Uye nzira yekuwana sei vemba varapi? Pane mimwe mibvunzo iyo vakaroora vanogona kuwana yakaoma kupindura.
Nekudaro, kazhinji kazhinji, vakaroora vakashinga vanouya kune vakaroorana hukama kurairana kunyangwe pasina chakaipa. Vaviri ava vanotsvaga kudzivirira pane kurapa matambudziko ehukama hwepakutanga.
Kuroora kunoda kuronga kwakanyanyisa kwekuti vaviri vave neremangwana rakanaka. Uye kunyangwe uine rudo rwakadii kune mumwe nemumwe, munosungirwa kuve nekusawirirana uye misiyano.
Kunyangwe zvinhu zvakawanda muwanano zvisingawanzo kuve zvakakosha kuti utsvage kurairana kwevakaroora, dzimwe dzenyaya idzi dzinogona kukura kuva dzakajairika hukama hwehukama hwakareba.
Saka ngazvive kuburikidza vepamhepo vakaroorana kurairana, zvekuroorana kuraira usati waroora, kana kungo kurapa kwehukama nyaya zvinogara zvakanaka kuti uwane iyo mabhenefiti evakaroorana kurairana kwehukama nyaya zvinhu zvisati zvabuda musimba.
Kuti uwedzere kumisikidza nharo pano pane zvimwe zvikonzero nei kutsvaga mabhenefiti evaviri kurapa kana pasina chakaipa kungave kuri nani pane kutanga kana matambudziko atotanga kana kuti kunonoka kupihwa zano rewanano:
Kukakavara kunogara kuri pachena
Kunetsana kunowanzo nyatso kuoneka kune akamira pane kune mapato anobatanidzwa.
Matambudziko akavharirwa nekusafambidzana zvakanaka muwanano kana hukama zvinogona kuita kuti kugadzirisa matambudziko kuve kwakaoma sezvo vaviri vacho vatadza kugadzirisa zvavanonetseka, ndoda kuti vanzwisise zvinotarisirwa nemumwe wavo.
Nekudaro, dambudziko parinotanga kukurudzira, kutadza kwevaviri kuti vataurirane zvakanaka kunotanga kukanganisa dzimwe nzvimbo nehukama hwavo.
Kune rimwe divi, varoorani vanotsvaga nyanzvi kuvabatsira kuona matambudziko angangovapo muwanano vangave ivo vasingatomboziva vari vakashongedzerwa zvirinani kugadzirisa kusawirirana muhukama hwavo kana wanano.
Ehezve, havazi vese varoorani vanoda murapi kugadzirisa matambudziko avo, asi kuve nechinangwa chechitatu chikamu mukamuri zvimwe hakukuvadze.
Iwe unowana "A" yekuedza
Iko kuedza, kwega, kunodiwa kuti zviite kune vakaroorana kurairwa nguva dzose kunogona kureva kuti vaviri vari kuisa simba rakawanda nesimba muwanano uye mukugadzirisa matambudziko kupfuura avo vasina.
Pfungwa yekupinda vakaroorana kupa mazano ekudzivirira kuchengetedza pane kudzora dambudziko kunogona kuve kwakakosha kwazvo. Kuita kuti vakaroorana vape mazano pekutanga kunogona kutungamira mukunzwa kwekubatana pamwe nekubatana.
Hupenyu chakavanzika
Nekugara kwehupenyu husingafungidzirwe, hapana murume nemukadzi vanogona kuva vakachengeteka zvechokwadi kubva mukukanganisa kana nhamo - iyo yakasimba vaviri vaviri hwaro kubva pakutanga, zvirinani.
Vaviri vacho vanotora nguva yekuve neyakavakirwa yekutarisana, ingave vhiki kana chero payakaenderana hwaro, vanogona kuve nemukana wekutora hupenyu pamwe chete uye nekumisikidza kunzwa kwekuchengetedzeka uye kubatana.
Nokusingaperi uye nekusingaperi inguva yakareba, uye chero chinhu chinogona kuitika, saka zvinogona kunge chiri chinhu chekugadzirira pamberi.
Rangarira kuti kurairwa hakusi kwevakaroorana vari mukutambudzika chete asiwo kune vakaroorana vanofara nehukama hwavo.
Dzidza matsva matsva
Imwe bhenefiti yekutanga kuraira kwevakaroora ndeyekuti iwe unosvika pakudzidza hunyengeri hutsva, quirks, uye maitiro.
Kunze kwebhenefiti iri pachena yekuvandudzwa kwekutaurirana uye kudzidza gakava kugadzirisa, vakafanorongerwa vaviri vakaroorana vanogona kusimudzira zvimwe zvikamu zvehupenyu hwako hwega. Mamwe acho akanyorwa pazasi:
- Anopa zano chipangamazano kana murapi anogona kukubatsira kuongorora maitiro ako uye kuona chinokonzeresa maitiro akadaro. Kana maitiro akadaro achinge aonekwa, iwe unogona ikozvino kudzora iwo.
- Inokubatsira iwe kumisikidza tarisiro chaiyo kwete chete nemumwe wako asi newe pachako zvakare. Vaviri kupa mazano inogona kubatsira iwe kutarisa mukati uye kugadzirisa ako madhimoni uye kusakwana muhupenyu.
- Iwe unodzidza kuzvidavirira pane zvako zviito uye nekugadzira imwe yechokwadi mufananidzo wehukama hwako.
- Inodzamisa hukama hwepedyo hwaunogovana nemumwe wako. Iwe unogona kudzidza nzira nyowani dzekuhwina rudo rweumwe wako, uye ivo vanogona kudzidza kukuitira zvakafanana kwauri.
Kuwana murapi chaiye
Sevaviri, kana imi makasununguka kune pfungwa yekutsvaga mazano kune vakaroorana musati masangana nedambudziko riripo, izvo zvinonyatso kukubatsira iwe kusimbisa imba yako.
Asi chimwe chezvikonzero zvikuru zvekushushikana kwevaviri kutsvaga mazano evaviri ari kutsvaga akakodzera chipangamazano kana murapi. Rega ndikubatsire kuburikidza neiyo conundrum.
Tevedza nhanho idzi seye gwara rekutsvaga akakodzera uye akakodzera chipangamazano:
Nhanho 1 - Kutanga kutsvaga
Iyi inhanho yakakosha zvikuru yekutsvaga vakaroorana mazano akanaka. Iwe unogona kutanga nekubvunza shamwari dzako uye mhuri kune mazano; iyi ingave iri nzira yakatsvakirwa zvakanyanya sezvo iwe waizowana mhinduro kubva kune mumwe munhu waunogona kuvimba.
Kana kubvunza kurudziro kusingakufarire iwe, unogona kutarisa kuburikidza nehunyanzvi uye hwakavimbika madhairekitori akadai se:
National Registry yeMuchato-Shamwari Therapists, Iyo International Center Yekunaka muEmotionally-Focused Therapy (ICEEFT), uye IAmerican Association yeMuchato neMhuri Therapists (AAMFT).
Iwe unogona zvakare kutsvaga kutsvaga rubatsiro kuburikidza neinternet. Nekudaro, iyi inofanirwa kuve yako yekupedzisira sarudzo.
Nhanho 2- Tsvaga hunhu chaihwo uye ruzivo
Kana usati watopihwa, kumbira giredhi redzidzo kuti uone kuti vangakwanise sei kugadzirisa zvinokunetsa.
Pamusoro pekudzidziswa kwehunyanzvi, bvunza nezve ruzivo rwehunyanzvi. Kusarudzira chipangamazano ane huwandu hwakakura hwechiitiko kunogona kuve kwakakosha, zvakare.
Nhanho 3- Zvakakosha chipangamazano hunhu
Iyi nhanho yaizokubatsira iwe kuti unzwisise zvirinani izvo hunhu uye hunhu zvaunofanira kutarisa kuti riini kusarudza chipangamazano chevaviri.
Kutanga nekubvunza mibvunzo yekuongorora, ndeapi masisitimu avo ekutenda, kana vakaroora kana kwete, kana vakarambana, kana vane vana, nezvimwe.
Mibvunzo yakadai yaizokubatsira kuona kuti unowirirana zvakadii nemupi wezano wako.