Imba Yakaparara: Kana Zvinhu Zvikashata

Zvemukati

• 1. Takaroora vachiri vadiki uye tichikurumidza
• 2. Kutaurirana kunotyisa
• 3. Mushandi wekubiridzira
• 4. Nzira dzakasiyana
• 5. Hapana hupenyu hwepabonde

Hatimbodi kuzvifungidzira patinotanga muhupenyu hwedu hwewanano, asi zviverengero zviripo: 46% yemichato muUnited States inoguma nekurambana. Haisi michato yese inopera nekuda kwezvikonzero zvakafanana, saka takafunga kuti tinotaura nevamwe vanhu vakarambana kuti tinzwisise chakakanganisa hukama hwavo. Nyaya yemunhu wese yakasarudzika, asi zvese zvinogona kutibatsira kuti tinzwisise dzimwe dzenjodzi dzekudzivirira kuti tigone kunakirwa nemichato inogara kwenguva refu.

1. Takaroora vachiri vadiki uye tichikurumidza

Susan, uyo akarambana aine makore makumi mashanu, anotiudza zvakaitika kumuchato wake. “Ndakasangana naAdam pamutambo wechiuto; mukoma wangu anga ari muAir Force uye akandikoka kumafaro aya pa base. Isu takanga tiri vadiki kwazvo-mune yedu yekupedzisira 'makore ekuyaruka, uye kukwezva kwaive kwekukurumidza. Ini ndinofunga iniwo ndakakwezvwa nezvandaiziva nezve hupenyu hwemauto - kuti nekuroora Adam, ndaizove nehupenyu huno hwekufamba nenzanga. Saka paakange ave kuda kuendeswa mushure memavhiki matanhatu tasangana, ndakamuroora. Kukanganisa kwakadii.

Isu takanga tiri vadiki kwazvo uye tanga tisingazivane.

Uye zvechokwadi zvese izvo deployments zvaive zvakaomarara pawanano yedu uye hupenyu hwemhuri, asi isu takazvichengeta pamwe chete kuvana. Asi imba yedu yaive izere nekurwa uye hasha, uye vana pavakakura nekuenda, takarambana.

Dai ndaifanira kuzviita futi futi, Ndingadai ndisina kumboroora pazera diki kudaro, uye ndingadai ndakamirira uye kufambidzana nemunhu kweinenge gore kuti ndinzwisise kuti vaive ani chaizvo.”

2. Kutaurirana kunotyisa

Izvi ndizvo zvakataurwa naWanda nezve muchato wake. “Hatina kumbotaura. Izvi ndizvo zvakazoparadza imba yedu. Ini ndaizvikudza kushamwari dzangu nezvekuti isu naRay hatina kumbobvira tarwa sei, asi chikonzero chatisina kumborwa ndechekuti hatina kumbotaura zvachose.

Ray akavharwa mupfungwa, zvachose kudzivisa chero chidzidzo chingamuita kuti anzwe chimwe chinhu.

Uye ndine chido chakakura chekuvhurira mumwe wangu pamusoro pezvinhu- zvinofadza kana zvinosuwisa zvinhu. Kwemakore ndakaedza kumuita kuti asangane neni ... kuti titaure nezve nyaya dzaikonzera matambudziko muwanano yedu. Aingovhara uye dzimwe nguva kutobuda mumba.

Pakupedzisira, ndakanga ndisingachakwanisi kuitora. Ini ndaikodzera mumwe wangu aikwanisa kuvhura neni nezve zvese, aive nemanzwiro. Saka ndakaendesa kurambana uye ndiri kuona mukomana mukuru anokwanisa kuve wepamoyo padhuze. Musiyano wakakura zvakadii! ”

3. Mushandi wekubiridzira

Brenda aiziva kuti murume wake akange ave nehupenyu hwekufambidzana vasati vafambidzana. Chaasina kuziva, zvisinei, ndechekuti iye aive nechido chekuenderera achiona vazhinji vakaroorana kunyangwe mushure mekunge vasunga banga.

"Ini ndaidanana nemurume wangu akanaka, anonakidza, wepati-mhuka," anotiudza. “Philip aive hupenyu hwemafaro, uye shamwari dzangu dzese dzakandiudza kuti ndakaita rombo rakanaka sei kuti murume wangu aive akanaka uye ane hushamwari.

Handina kumbofungira kuti anga achishingairira kufambidzana maapplication nemawebhusaiti kudzamara ndawana Facebook meseji kubva kune mumwe mukadzi achindiudza kuti murume wangu anga achidanana naye kwemakore maviri apfuura.

Kumuka kwakadii! Ndakanga ndisingazive asi ndinofungidzira kuti ndiyo njodzi yezvese internet-yakavakirwa nzvimbo dzekubaya-murume wako anogona kunge aine hupenyu huviri uye achihwandisa zviri nyore. Saka ndakatarisana naye uye ndikaziva kuti ichi chaive chikamu chehunhu hwake uye hazvingachinje. Ndakaendesa kurambana nguva pfupi yapfuura. Ndine mukomana akanaka izvozvi, uyo asina kunaka kana kushamwaridzana saFiripi, asi anovimbika uye asingazive chinonzi kudanana app! "

4. Nzira dzakasiyana

Melinda anotiudza kuti iye nemurume wake vakangosiyana. “Zvinosuwisa zvikuru nekuti mupfungwa dzangu muchato ndewoupenyu hwese. Asi patakakura, zvido zvedu nemararamiro edu zvakangoenda nenzira dzakasiyana. Ndinofungidzira taigona kunge takashanda nesimba kuti tikoshese zvido zveumwe neumwe, asi ndaida chaizvo murume wangu "wekare" adzoke, mukomana aive shamwari yangu yepamwoyo, wandaingotandara naye patinenge tisingashande.

Anenge makore gumi nemashanu muwanano, izvi zvese zvakachinja. Akapedza vhiki dzake dzevhiki achingoita zvake basa - kungave kungofungidzira mumusangano wake kana kudzidzira imwe marathon. Izvi zvinhu hazvina kundifadza pazvishoma saka ndakagadzira yangu network yemashamwari, uye anga asiri chikamu cheizvozvo.

Kurambana kwedu kwaive kusarudzana. Izvo zvaisangoita zvine musoro kugara pamwe chete kana isu tanga tisiri kugovana chero chinhu.

Ndinovimba ndichawana mumwe munhu anoda kugovana neni zvido zveupenyu hwangu, asi parizvino, ndiri kungoita zvangu, uye ex wangu ari kuita yake. ”

5. Hapana hupenyu hwepabonde

Carol anotiudza kuti kusavapo kwehupenyu hwepedyo, hwepedyo hwaive huswa hwaityora musana wekamera ndokutungamira mukuparara kwemuchato.

“Takange tatanga muchato wedu nehupenyu hwakanaka hwepabonde. Hungu, yakanga isati iri iyo glue yakatisunga isu pamwe chete, uye wangu wekare anga asina chiyero chakafanana chechishuwo chandakaita, asi taizoita bonde kamwe pasvondo, zvirinani.

Asi nekufamba kwemakore, izvi zvakadzikira kusvika kamwe pamwedzi. Nenguva isipi tichave tichienda kunotora kwemwedzi mitanhatu, gore rimwe, tisina bonde.

Pandakarova makumi mana, uye ndainyatso kusununguka paganda rangu, rangu libido raive pamoto. Uye wangu wekare anga asingafarire. Ndakazviudza ndega kuti ndaitofanira kumubiridzira kana kumusiya. Ndakanga ndisingadi kuita zvepabonde - iye haana kukodzera izvozvo - saka ndakamukumbira kurambana. Iye zvino ava nemumwe munhu anoenderana zvakanyanya (iye haafarire bonde, sekureva kwake) uye neniwo. Saka zvese zvakanaka zvinopera zvakanaka! ”