Zvemukati
Mune yangu yekupedzisira posvo "Nzira Inopfuura Iyo Yakaomesesa Dambudziko Mukutaurirana", ndakataura nezveCurious kubvunza senzira yekutaurirana pachena iyo inowanzo shandiswa nevarapi asi zvakare inoshandiswa pakati pevamwe. Ini ndakatsanangurawo zvakanakira zvese zvakaVharwa uye Yakavhurika Nzira dzekutaurirana. Kubvunza kwekuda kuziva kunoenderana nekusimbisa nekuti munhu arikuda kuziva anoda zvechokwadi kuziva zvakawanda nezve mumwe. Saizvozvowo, kuudza mudiwa wako izvo zvaunofunga nenzira yakatwasuka kunogona kugutsa hunhu hwekuda kuziva kana kuvhurika kune avo maonero kana maonero. Nenzira iyi, nzira mbiri idzi dzinogona kunge dzichienderana. Semuenzaniso, chirevo chekuda kuziva ("Ndiri kuda kuziva kuti vanhu vari kuwedzera sei kuratidza kuti vakapfurikidza mwero.") Inogona kuteverwa neshoko rakashama ("For your information, I am a transmale.")
Kukunda nzira yakavhurika
Asi, hapana nyore kugadzirisa, nekuti kunogara kune misungo. Nzira dzakavhurika, kana dzakawandisa, dzinogona kusanganisira kubvunza mibvunzo yakawandisa pasina kuburitsa pachena kwakaringana. Munhu akabvunzwa mibvunzo yakawandisa yemhando ipi neipi anogona kunzwa sekuti "varipo ipapo" kana anogona kunzwa kutongwa kana vakawana mhinduro isiriyo. Zvinogona kuita sekuti "mubvunzurudzo" anogona kunge aine mhinduro uye "anobvunzurudzwa" ari munzvimbo yekufungidzira kuti chii. Panzvimbo pekukumbira kuda kwevanhu kutaura nezvazvo (kuzvitutumadza), kupfuudza nzira yekubvunzurudza kunogona kutungamira mukunzwa kwekushupika. Uye zvakare, mubvunzurudzo anogona kuonekwa sekuhwandisa ruzivo rwevanhu kuseri kwechido chekuziva zvakadzama uye zvakanyanya padhuze mubvunzurudzo asati anzwa akagadzirira. Kunyangwe hazvo "chii" uye "sei" zvakagadzirirwa kuvhura chero mhinduro inogona kuitika, kana munhu achipindura zvakanyanya nemibvunzo yakawanda, mumwe wekutaurirana naye anogona kutanga kunzwa sekunge akaratidzirwa chiitiko che "data mining". Kutsvaga kwemunhu ruzivo kunogona kunzwa kumanikidzwa kana nguva isati yakwana pamberi pekuzokwaniswa kuziviswa kwehumwe ruzivo rwemunhu munzira mbiri dzinoisa mamiriro ekukoka nekupa kuda kwekuwedzera ruzivo kugovana.
Kukunda nzira yakavharwa
Nzira dzakavharwa, kana dzakawandisa, dzinogona zvakare kusanganisira kubvunza mibvunzo yakawandisa nemhedzisiro imwechete sekutambudza kunyanyisa kwekuda kuziva kwakanyanya. Musiyano wakakosha wekudhirowa apa ndewekuti chinangwa chekutanga kwenzira dzakavharwa ndechekutungamira kufambiswa kweruzivo, nepo chinangwa chekutanga cheyakavhurika nzira kukoka kugovana ruzivo nenzira inokosheswa. Kunyangwe ichikoka kugovana ruzivo rwevanhu pachako kunogona kuratidza kunzwa kwekukosha, zvinogona kusiya mumwe wako achinzwa kubatwa sekunge uyo ari kutsvaga asingade kudzorera nemaonero avo. Kunyangwe yakavharwa kana yakavhurika mibvunzo inoshandiswa, uyo anonyanya kuda kuziva, akavharwa mubvunzi anogona kuita seasina pfungwa, kashoma kupa zvinhu zvakasvibirira zvakakwana kuti zvifanane nezvinodiwa zvinotsigira hurukuro inonakidza. Kukudzirirana kwekuvimbana kunogona kupirwa uye mumwe akadururwa anokwanisa kusiya achinzwa kushupika, kuraswa, uye kusagutsikana.
Kupesana, kana nzira dzakapfigwa dzakawandisa, kunyanya mukushandira chinangwa chekupa yakawandisa maonero ako, njodzi ipfungwa yekuti mukurukuri ari kuratidza kubva mune sipo-bhokisi. Zvinoita sekunge kukoshesa kwakaringana kwekuyedza nguva nenguva iyo nhanho irikuenderera yekufarira mumuteereri haina hanya. Uye zvakare, mutauri anogona kuoneka kushomeka kushoma pakuratidzira muviri kuratidza kushayikwa kwekuda kuziva kubva kune mumwe wako. Zvimiro zvekuneta, kufinhwa, kana chishuwo chekusiya kutaurirana zvinogona kuita sekuregeredzwa nemaune kana kuregererwa zvakanyanya, kungo pfuura nepfungwa inongoratidzira zvido zvemutauri uye hapana chimwezve. Kuyedza kushoma kwekushandira pamwe kunoratidzwa nevatauri vakadai uye vateereri vanogona kusiiwa vachinzwa kusaremekedzwa zvachose, kutsamwiswa, kana kutsamwiswa nekushaikwa kwekufunga kwavakangoona.
Hazvina kujeka kuti ndechipi chakaipisisa, iyo yakavhurika-pfungwa yekuda kuziva-monger uyo asina kana pfungwa kana akavharika-ane pfungwa-akavhara uyo anofarira kunzwa ega-kutaura zvakanyanya zvekuti munhu wese muvateereri anogona kusiya uye s / iye anga achiri kutaura. Mumwe anogona zvakare asina kana mupiro wekuita zvachose; mumwe wacho anogona kubatsirwa nekutaura zvakanyanya kwavari pachavo kupfuura chero ani zvake. Hapana kunyanyisa kunoratidzika kunge kunonakidza mukutsvaga hukama hunobatsira.
Kukosha kwekuenzanisa
Pane kumwe kunoteedzana nemutsetse, chiyero chinofanira kutsvaga muzvinangwa zveaya maviri akanyanyisa. Dzimwe nguva, uye kazhinji mumakasitoma andinoona mukurapa kwevaviri, vese vadikani vari padhuze nekunyanyisa kwemudzidzisi, vakamirira chete kuti vawane maonero avo kuyambuka kune mumwe, vasingatombo nyatso tarisa kana chero chikamu chemafungiro avo chave kufarira kana kutonzwisiswa nemuteereri. Kufungidzira kuri pamwe chete ndekwekuti poindi yehurukuro haisi yekuteerera kuti unzwisise asi kuratidza maonero ako munzvimbo yemhepo kuitira kuti mumwe wako angave ari kuteerera uye ane hanya zvakakwana kuti anzwisise. Kune vatauri, humbowo hwekuchengetwa nemumwe wako ndeapo mudiwa paanoteerera uye achiedza kunzwisisa. Kuruboshwe kumidziyo yavo, ini kashoma kupupurira yakajeka cheki yekudyara, kana yekunzwisisa. Kutarisa zvakanyanya kazhinji pakuratidza pfungwa dzekuona kunoguma nemikana yakapotsa yekutarisa kuti unzwisise uye, pamwe zvakanyanya kukosha, kumutsa kudyara muhukama kwakakosha kupfuura chero pfungwa yekufunga inopihwa mumhepo. Izvi zvinomutsa mukana wekudzidzisa vakaroorana kuti vatarise zvakaringana uye nemotokari pazvinhu zveichi chinangwa chavo.
Kuratidza hanya uye rudo
Zvinonyanya kukosha mukutanga uye kugadzirisa kwehukama hwepedyo kunoenderera uye kuratidzwa kwese kwekutarisira hukama hwacho pachahwo. Idzi kuratidzwa kwekuchengeta kunouya mune ese mafomu ekutaura uye asiri emazwi. Kubata kweruoko, ruoko rwakatenderedzwa pabendekete, chirevo chekuti "ndinokuda," "Ndine hanya nezvaunofunga, kunyangwe ndingave ndisingabvumirane nguva dzose," kana "Tinogona kupfuura izvi, kunyangwe zvanga zviri yakaoma chaizvo, inoodza mwoyo mugwagwa ”.Idzi ndidzo idzo dzinobvuma kusangana kwehukama hunowanikwa kune vavakaroorana kuti vakunde misiyano yavo uye vatarise purojekiti yavakafanana, chikonzero chavakaungana pakutanga, uye chikonzero ivo vakaramba vachidanana muhukama. Idzi cues dzinokoshesa hukama - zvese zviri kunetsekana uye nemasimba. Zvisinei nezvimwe zvinotaurwa, ichi ndicho chidimbu chakakosha kusimbisa pamukana wese. Kuti isu tine chimwe chinhu chekudzidza kubva kune mumwe nemumwe. Zvekuti tinodenha chimwe chinhu chakakosha mune mumwe nemumwe, zvimwe zvacho zvingasave zvinonakidza asi mukutambura-kuburikidza kwakakodzera kutarisirwa. Uye kuburikidza nemiedzo nemhemberero dzatinopupura patinenge tichienderera nehupenyu hwedu hwega, hukama hwedu hunozadzikisa chishuwo chemumwe nemumwe chekuchengetwa, kukosheswa. Urwu ndirwo rudo.