Zvemukati
- Mubatanidzwa usingafungiki
- Izvi zvirevo zvinotevera zvinoratidzira kufunga kweangu matsva erudo rwekutsvaga:
- Kuzvida-rudo ndiwo mushonga wehukama
- Kuzvida-rudo kushomeka kunoenderana
- SLDD iro Dambudziko / SLD iye Munhu
- Mushonga wekodependency ndiko kuzvida-wega kuwanda
Handina kuziva kuti kuda kwangu kutumidza zita rekuti "codependency" kwaizondiendesa kuNew York City uko, musi wa2 Chikumi, 2015, ini ndakatora chikamu munhaurirano yedare nenhengo dzinoverengeka dzinoremekedzwa dzenzvimbo yehutano hwepfungwa.
Harville Hendrix, hukama hwepasi rose uye nyanzvi yezvepfungwa (uye anotsigira mabhuku angu emitauro yeChirungu) igamba rangu uye ndinotenda nemukana wekudzidza kubva kwaari panguva yechiitiko ichocho.
Pakati penhengo nhanhatu dzemapaneru, ndakagadzira kubatana nekukasira naTracy B. Richards, chiremba wepfungwa wekuCanada, muimbi, uye anoroora. Nepo chikamu changu chehurukuro chaive necodependency, narcissism, uye Human Magnet Syndrome pfungwa, Tracy yakanangana nesimba rekuporesa rekuzvitarisira, kuzvitambira, uye, zvakanyanya kukosha, kuzvida.
Mubatanidzwa usingafungiki
Isu takabatana kamwe apo tichigovana inodziya, synchronistic kunzwa kwekunyaradzwa uye kujairana. Zvaitaridzawo sezviri pachena "vana vedu" - yangu Human Magnet Syndrome uye yake "Kuzvida-yega Mhinduro" - vakawira murudo pakutanga kuona.
Pane imwe nguva ndadzokera kubasa, handina kuzokwanisa kurega kufunga uye kutaura nezve pfungwa dzaTracy nezvekuzvida.
Nekufamba kwenguva, ake akapusa, asi anoyevedza, mazano akatora zvivakwa zvakawandisa mumusoro mangu. Izvo hazvina kushamisika apo pfungwa dzake dzakatanga kukwira mukuyedza kwangu pachezvangu maererano nemhuri yangu-yematambudziko nematambudziko uye yangu codependency psychotherapy / kurapwa basa.
Pasina nguva, dzidziso dzake dzakapinda munzira yangu yekurairidza zvinyorwa nemavhidhiyo, pamwe nemisangano yangu yakawanda.
Izvi zvirevo zvinotevera zvinoratidzira kufunga kweangu matsva erudo rwekutsvaga:
- Codependency haigoneke neIyo-Yekuda Kuwanda (SLA).
- Vanovimba nekodhi vane kusakwana kwakakosha mukuzvida-kwavo.
- Hwechidiki hwekubatanidza kushungurudzika ndicho chikonzero chekusazvida -Rudo Kushomeka (SLD).
- Kuzvida-Kwaunoita Kushomeka kwakadzika mune kusingaperi kusurukirwa, kunyadziswa, uye kusagadziriswa kwehutano hwehudiki.
- Iko kutya kwekutsikirirwa kana kudzvinyirirwa kwepamoyo kunyadziswa uye kusurukirwa kusurukirwa kunogonesa uyo anozvimirira kuti agare muhukama hunokuvadza.
- Kubviswa kweYako-Yekuda Kukanganisa uye kusimudzira kweYoga -Rudo
- Kuwanda ndicho chinangwa chekutanga chekurapa kwecodependency.
Kuramba ndichokwadi mukutendiswa kwangu kwekurega basa "codependency," ini ndaifanira kutanga ndauya neyakakodzera kutsiva.
Kuzvida-rudo ndiwo mushonga wehukama
Ini handimise kutsvaga kwangu kudzamara ndawana izwi rinotsanangudza mamiriro / chiitiko chaicho, asi zvisingaite kuti munhu anzwe zvakanyanya nezvake.
Rombo rangu rakachinja pakati paAugust 2015, ndichinyora chinyorwa nezve codependency. Mariri, ini ndakanyora chirevo, "Kuzvida-iwe pachako ndiMushonga weKuteerera." Kuziva kureruka kwayo uye simba, ndakagadzira meme, iyo yandakazotumira pane akati wandei masocial network.
Ndingadai ndisina kufanofungidzira kuita kwakanaka kwazvo kune yangu meme uye zvarinoreva, sezvo yakamutsa hurukuro dzakadzama uye dzekufungisisa nezvekuti sei uye nei kushomeka kwerudo rwekuzvida kwaive kwakabatana neconcependency.
Apa ndipo pandakaziva kuti ndaive kune chimwe chinhu chakakura!
Kunge zvimwe zvakawanikwa zvine chekuita nekodhibhodhi, yaizofamba mupfungwa dzangu isati yaunza chidzidzo chayo chakakosha kwazvo - epiphany yekutevera.
Yangu eureka yekuzvida-rudo nguva yakauya kwandiri inenge mwedzi miviri gare gare.
Kuzvida-rudo kushomeka kunoenderana
Ndichiri kugadzira zvinyorwa zvemusangano wangu mutsva weCodependency Cure, ndakagadzira slide ine musoro unoti "Kuzvida-Kwaunoita Kuderera ndiko Kuenderana!"
Kamwe ikadhindwa, ndakatorwa nemafashama emufaro uye kutarisira. Apa ndipo pandakanzwa ini ndichiti, Kuzvida-Kuda Kukanganisa Dambudziko ndiko Kuzvimirira! Ini handisi kuwedzeredza kana ndichiti ndakapotsa ndadonha pachigaro changu nemufaro.
Pakarepo ndichiziva kukosha kwemutsara wakapusa uyu, ini ndakabva ndatanga kuisanganisa muzvinyorwa, mablog, mavhidhiyo eYouTube, kudzidziswa, uye nevatengi vangu vezvepfungwa. Ini ndakanyatso shamiswa nekuwanda kwevanovimba nekodhi, vachipora kana kwete, vakasununguka kuzivikanwa nayo.
Ini ndaigara ndichiudzwa mabatsiriro ainoita vanhu kuti vanzwisise zviri nani dambudziko ravo, pasina kuita kuti vanzwe vakaremara kana "vakaipa."
Panenge panguva iyoyo, ndakaita sarudzo yekuziva kutsiva "codependency" neKuda-Rudo Kuperevedza Dambudziko.
Kunyangwe paine mamwe mazwi akawanda uye achindisunga nerurimi-ndakasungwa kakawanda, ndaive nechinangwa chekuita yangu "codependency" marongero ekurega basa. Nekukurumidza kumberi kune rimwe gore gare gare: makumi ezviuru zvevanhu, kana zvisina kudaro, vakagamuchira Yega -Rudo Kukanganisa Dambudziko sezita idzva remamiriro avo.
Chibvumirano chave chekuti Kuzvida -Kuda Kukanganisa Dambudziko harisi zita rakakodzera chete remamiriro acho, asi rakakurudzirawo vanhu kuti vade kuzvigadzirisa.
SLDD iro Dambudziko / SLD iye Munhu
Mune imwe vhiki, ndakafunga kutanga mushandirapamwe wepasi rose wekurega "kuzvimirira," panguva imwe chete ndichivaka ruzivo rwakakwana uye kugamuchirwa kwekutsiva. Ini ndaita chirongwa changu kuburikidza neYouTube mavhidhiyo, zvinyorwa, mablog, nhepfenyuro neTV kubvunzurudzwa, hunyanzvi hwekudzidzisa uye masemina edzidzo.
Dai paine musangano wepamutemo wekuteerera mutemo, ndingadai ndakavakomba nezvikumbiro zvekundibvumidza kuti ndizvitsiure nezwi rakakodzera, rekuti Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD), nemunhu wacho ari Self-Love Deficient (SLD). Ini ndinodada kutaura kuti SLDD uye SLD zvishoma nezvishoma inoita kunge irikubata.
Mushonga wekodependency ndiko kuzvida-wega kuwanda
Kunyangwe ini ndisingatenderi kushandiswa kwemazwi asina kunaka anowanzo kuwanikwa mukuongororwa kwehutano hwepfungwa, ndinotenda zvakasimba "Kukanganisa" muKuda-Kuda Dhefisiti Dambudziko kwakakosha, sezvo ichitsanangura dambudziko rekurapwa kunodiwa.
Kusiyana nezvimwe zvinetswa, kana SLDD yabatwa zvinobudirira, inorapwa- isingade kurapwa kunotevera kana kunetseka nezvekudzokazve kana kudzokazve.
Nekugadziriswa kwechero dambudziko, ndinotenda kuongororwa kwakapihwa kumunhu kunofanirwa kubviswa kana kutsiviwa nechimwe chinoratidza hutano hwakanaka kana hunovandudzwa hutano hwepfungwa.
Pfungwa iyi yakafemerwa nebasa rangu neMajor Depression diagnostic, iyo isingaratidze zviratidzo kana zviratidzo kana zvanyatsorapwa. Pfungwa imwechete inoshanda kune SLDD: nei uchibatirira pane iyo kuongororwa? Mutsetse wepfungwa uyu wakandikurudzira kuti ndigadzire izwi rinomiririra kugadzirisa kusingaperi kweSLDD-iyo Codependency Mushonga.
Nhanho inotevera yaive yekugadzira zita rekurapa kweSLDD.MunaFebruary 2017, ini ndakatanga kutaura nezvekurapa kwakadai seKuzvida -Rudo Kudzoreredza (SLR), sezvo kwaive kuwedzera kwekuwedzera kweshoko rangu idzva rekuda-rudo.