Zvemukati
- 1. Ongorora kunzwisisika kweumwe wako LGBTQI
- 2. Udza shamwari yepedyo kana nhengo yemhuri
- 3. Sarudza nzvimbo yeruzhinjikuburitsa pachena
- 4. Gadzirira mhedzisiro
- 5. Zvide pachako zvisingaite
Ikoko takanga tiri, mukomana wangu neni, tichiona nhau paCNN pakabuda chikamu chidiki chenyaya, yaive nyaya yemunhu weTransgender anozivikanwa semukadzi, achigovana nyaya yake yekupinda uye kukwikwidza semutyairi webhasiketi mune yese -womukadzi bhasikoro makwikwi.
Mukomana wangu akaswedera padhuze akandibvunza: iwe unotenda here kuti munhu weTransgender anofanirwa kuzivisa zvaari kumunhu waari kufambidzana naye?
Mubvunzo wakandimisikidza pamhepo izere rant nezve izvo zviri mukati izvo zvakakosha uye kwete zvekunze; rudo irwo rudo; uye kuti kana munhu iyeye akapinda muhukama nemunhu weTransgender asingazive kwavari, saka imhaka yekuti vakawana munhu weTransgender anodikanwa uye ndizvo zvega zvavaida kuti vaende nazvo mberi, ndatenda zvikuru.
Se shamwari, mushandirwi, uye chipangamazano kuvanhu vazhinji vanobva munharaunda ye LGBTQI, ndaona nekunzwa nyaya dzakawanda kwazvo dzekusaruramisira, chisimba, nekusarura kune vanhu ava, ndinowanzozviwana ndisisina simba pane zvandinoona zvichiita chirevo chekutongwa kana kuzvidza kumunhu chinoratidza seTransgender.
Anenge vhiki mushure mekuita kwangu, wandinoshanda naye uye shamwari yepedyo Malcom * akauya muhofisi yangu kuzogovana neni hurukuro yaakamboita parunhare nemunhu weTransgender uyo akazviratidza semukadzi uye aitsvaga mabasa enharaunda. Malcom, murume weTransgender, akagovana neni kuti munhu aive parunhare akamuudza kuti anga aine hukama hwakazvipira kweanopfuura makore makumi maviri uye kuti makore mana chete apfuura, akaudza mumwe wake kuti aive Transgender. munhu. Malcom akaonekwa akashamisika paakagovana neni ruzivo urwu.
Ndakabvunza Malcom iwoyu mubvunzo wakabvunzwa nemukomana wangu pasvondo rapfuura: Malcom, unotenda here kuti munhu weTransgender anofanirwa kuzivisa zvaari kumunhu waari kufambidzana naye?
"Ndizvozvo," Malcom akapindura,
“Hukama hunofanirwa kunge hwakavakirwa pakutendeseka, hatifanire kubira chero munhu, kunyanya avo vatinodanana navo, mukana wekuva muhukama nesu tichinyatsoziva kuti vagokwanisa kuita sarudzo yekuve nesu nekutida nemoyo wese . ”
Ini ndakaninipiswa nemhinduro yaMalcom, seRelshipship Therapist, Kochi, uye Murevereri ini ndinoziva zvachose kuti:
Kusimudzira kuvimba, ndiyo nzira yatinovaka nayo hwaro hwehukama hwakasimba uye hunogara.
Malcom neni takafunga matanho mashanu aunofanirwa kutora kana uri munhu weTransgender uyo anoda kuzivisa hunhu hwako kumunhu akakosha muhupenyu hwako:
1. Ongorora kunzwisisika kweumwe wako LGBTQI
Mumwe wako ane shamwari dzinozivisa seLGBTQI here? Chii chave chake / chake / chavanosangana nacho nevanhu ava? Vanotaura sei ivo pachavo nezve vanhu vanoona seLGBTQI? Kutsvaga kuziva uye kuwana kujekeswa pane zvinotendwa nemumwe wako, fungidziro, uye nhoroondo neve LGBTQI vanhu vanokubatsira kuyera maitiro aunotaurirana nehurukuro yekuburitswa.
2. Udza shamwari yepedyo kana nhengo yemhuri
Vaudze riini uye kupi kwauchazoburitsa uye kumbira munhu iyeye kuti avepo pazuva iro kuti akupe rutsigiro, tarisa kuchengetedzeka kwako, uye nekukupa iwe nzvimbo yekudzikisira kubva pachiitiko kana zvichidikanwa. Zvakakosha kuti vamwe vazive zvauri kugadzirira kuita uye kuti iwe ubvunze rutsigiro rwaunoda kuti ubate iwe nenzira iyi.
3. Sarudza nzvimbo yeruzhinjikuburitsa pachena
Mu2016, ingangoita makumi maviri nenhatu kufa kwevanhu ve transgender vanhu vakataurwa muUnited States nekuda kwemhirizhonga inouraya, yakanyanya kunyorwa. Ita shuwa kuchengetedzeka kwako kutanga uye nguva dzose, ita hurukuro newawakaroorana naye pakabatikana kahawa, muresitorendi, kana dzimwe nzvimbo dzeruzhinji kuitira kudzikisira mukana wehasha dzinouraya kwauri. Ndokumbira utarise kuti ini handikwanise kuwedzera izwi "kuderedza ” muchirevo ichi, hapana zvivimbiso, asi zvirinani zvinoita kuti zviome.
4. Gadzirira mhedzisiro
Panogona kunge paine mukana wekuti kuburitswa kwako kunogona kusakupa iwe nemhedzisiro iwe yawaitarisira, edza nepaunogona napo kuti upinde muhurukuro uine zvishoma kuti usabatane nemhedzisiro. Mushure mekuzivisa, bvumira imwe nzvimbo yekufema yega iwe neako mudiwa kuti mugadzirise ruzivo rwakaziviswa uye nemanzwiro anobva mairi.
5. Zvide pachako zvisingaite
Wese iwe nemunhu waunofumura kwaari muchapfuura nepase rollercoaster yemanzwiro, zvibate nerudo rwakafanana, tsitsi, uye hunyoro hwaunopa kune wako anodikanwa anodikanwa.
Rangarira kuti kukuda iwe nevamwe vanhu, ndicho chiito chikuru chekushinga chiripo, uye chipo chako chekurarama nemoyo wese chinotanga nekugara wakamira uye uchitaura chokwadi chako.
* Zita rakachinjwa kuremekedza kusazivikanwa