Zvemukati
- Chii chinoitika kana kusanganiswa kusingaendi zvakanyanya
- 1. Vana vako vokubereka vanouya pakutanga
- 2. Ita hurukuro yakadzika nemumwe wako
- 3. Mutoo wenguva dzose wokurera
- 4. Mubereki wepanyama anofanira kuva neshoko rekupedzisira mukusarudza kwevabereki
- 5. Kurapa kwemhuri kwemhuri yakazara yakasanganiswa
"Sanganisa, sanganisa, sanganisa". Izvi ndozvakataurwa negal kwandiri uyo anga achigadzira makeover yangu. She had dotted foundation all over my face akabva atora chipanji ndokuchizora kumeso kwangu kuti usanyatsochiona. Ipapo akabva atsvukisa maziso pamatama angu ndokuti, “sanganisa, sanganisa, sanganisa”, achiona yaive nzira yakakosha yekuti make up iratidzike uye yakasununguka pachiso changu. Pfungwa yacho ndeyekuti kusanganisa kwakasanganisa ese aya mavara ekugadzira zvekuti kumeso kwangu kwakaratidzika kunge kwakabatana uye kwakasikwa. Hapana rimwe remavara rakamira senge raive risiri pachiso changu. Chinhu chimwe chete ichi chinoenda kumhuri dzino sanganisa. Chinangwa ndechekuti hapana nhengo yemhuri inonzwa kunze kwenzvimbo uye zvine mutsindo uye zvakasununguka kune iyo nyowani yemhuri chimiro.
Zvinoenderana neduramazwi.com, izwi rekuti sanganisa rinoreva kusanganisa zvakanaka uye zvisinga paradzike pamwe chete; kusanganisa kana kusangana zvakanaka uye zvisinga paradzanisike. Per Merriam Webster, iyo tsananguro yemusanganiswa zvinoreva kusanganisa kuita chinhu chakabatanidzwa; kuburitsa chinoenderana. Chinangwa chechinyorwa chino ndechekubatsira mhuri "kusanganisa, kusanganisa, kusanganisa" uye kuve nedzimwe nzira dzekufambisa maitiro iwayo.
Chii chinoitika kana kusanganiswa kusingaendi zvakanyanya
Munguva pfupi yapfuura, ndanga ndiine fungu remhuri dzakasanganiswa dzichiuya kuzobatsirwa kuita kwangu. Vanga vari vabereki vemhuri dzakasanganiswa vachitsvaga kurairwa uye nhungamiro yekugadzirisa kukuvara kwakaitwa kubvira kusanganisa hakuna kuenda zvakanyatsonaka. Chandiri kucherechedza sedambudziko rakajairika mukusanganisa maitiro kuranga kwedanho vana uye kuti vakaroora vanonzwa sekunge vana vavo vari kurapwa zvakasiyana uye zvisina tsarukano mumamiriro matsva emhuri. Ichokwadi kuti vabereki vanozoita zvakasiyana kuvana vavo chaivo maringe nemaitiro avanoita kuvana vava vabereki. Relationship chipangamazano uye wezvekurapa pabonde Peter Saddington anobvuma kuti vabereki vanoita zvakasiyana zvipo kune vana avo vari vavo.
Heano mamwe akakosha manhamba ekufunga nezvazvo:
Sekureva kwaMSN.Com (2014) pamwe neveMutemo Law Attorneys, Wilkinson naFinkbeiner, 41% yevakabvunzwa vanotaura kushomeka kwekugadzirira imba yavo uye havana kuronga zvakanaka zvakakwana izvo zvavaipinda, zvakazopedzisira zvapa kurambana kwavo. Nyaya dzevabereki uye nharo dzakarongwa muzvikonzero zvepamusoro zvishanu zvekurambana paongororo yakaitwa neCertified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) muna2013. Makumi mashanu muzana yemichato yese inoguma mukurambana, 41% yemichato yekutanga uye 60% yemichato yechipiri (Wilkinson uye Finkbeiner). Zvinotyisa, kana imi vaviri nemumwe wako makambove nemichato yapfuura, mune 90% mukana wekurambana kupfuura dai wanga uriwewe wekutanga muchato (Wilkinson naFinkbeiner). Hafu yevana vese muUnited States ichaona kupera kwemuchato wemubereki. Yehafu iyi, padhuze ne50% ichaonawo kuparara kwemuchato wechipiri wemubereki (Wilkinson naFinkbeiner). Chinyorwa chakanyorwa naElizabeth Arthur muLovepanky.com chinotaura kuti kushomeka kwekutaurirana uye zvisingawanzo zvinotarisirwa zvinopa kurambana 45%.
Izvo zvese izvi zviverengero zvinotikweretesa kuti titende ndezvekuti gadziriro, kutaurirana pamwe nemazano ari pazasi, zvinoda kugadziriswa kuchinjisa mwero wekubudirira kwemhuri dzakasanganiswa munzira kwayo. Vanenge makumi manomwe neshanu muzana evanhu miriyoni nemazana maviri nezviuru vanorambana gore rega rega vanozoroora zvakare. Vazhinji vane vana uye maitiro ekubatanidza anogona kuve akaomera vazhinji. Shingairira, zvinogona kutora makore maviri kusvika mashanu kusvika mashanu kuti ugare mukati uye kune imwe mhuri nyowani yekumisikidza maitiro ayo ekushanda mushe. Kana iwe uri mune iyo nguva furemu uye uchiverenga ichi chinyorwa, saka tinovimba kuti pachave nemamwe mazano akakosha ayo anogona kubatsira kutsetsenura mamwe eakaomarara mativi. Kana iwe uri pamusoro peiyo nguva yakatarwa uye uchinzwa kuda kukanda tauro, ndapota edza mazano aya kutanga kuti uone kana muchato nemhuri zvichizonunurwa. Rubatsiro rwehunyanzvi runogara iri sarudzo yakanaka zvakare.
1. Vana vako vokubereka vanouya pakutanga
Mune chaiwo roorano yekutanga nevana, murume kana mukadzi anofanira kuuya pekutanga. Kutsigirana uye kubatana pamberi nevana zvakakosha zvikuru. Nekudaro, mune zviitiko zvekurambana uye mhuri dzakabatana, vana vekubereka vanofanirwa kuuya pekutanga (mukati mechikonzero, hongu) uye murume / mukadzi mutsva wechipiri. Ndiri kufungidzira kupindurwa kwechirevo ichocho kune mashoma emhepo kubva kune vamwe vevaverengi. Regai nditsanangure. Vana vekurambana havana kukumbira kurambana. Ivo havana kukumbira amai kana baba vatsva uye zvirokwazvo havazi ivo vaisarudzira murume / mukadzi wako mutsva. Ivo havana kukumbira mhuri nyowani kana chero yehama itsva. Zvicharamba zvichikosha kuve kubatana pamberi newawakaroorana naye mutsva: vana vandichatsanangura, asi vana vekubereka vanofanirwa kuziva kuti ndivo vanokosheswa uye vanokosheswa mukubatanidza mhuri mbiri nyowani pamwechete.
Kuva kubatana kwakabatana semurume nemudzimai kunokosha nguva dzose. Nekudaro, mukuita musanganiswa, kazhinji kunoitwa zvakanaka musati muchato mutsva waitika, zvinoreva kuti panofanirwa kunge paine KUKURUKURIRANA uye KUKANGANISIRA.
Heano mimwe mibvunzo inokosha yekubvunza:
- Tichaenda sei kumubereki-mubereki?
- Ndezvipi zvatinokoshesa sevabereki?
- Chii chatiri kuda kuve tichidzidzisa vana vedu?
- Ndezvipi zvinotarisirwa nemwana wega wega zvichienderana nezera rake?
- Mubereki chaiye anoda kuti ndiite sei / kuraira nhanho vana?
- Ndeipi mitemo yepamba?
- Ndeipi miganho yakakodzera kune mumwe nemumwe wedu mumhuri?
Sezvineiwo, zvakakosha kuti ukurukure iyi mibvunzo zuva guru risati rasvika kuti uone kana iwe uri papeji imwechete uye ugovana zvakafanana zvirevo zvekurera vana. Dzimwe nguva kana vaviri vari murudo uye vachifambira mberi mukuzvipira kwavo, iyi mibvunzo inofuratirwa nekuda kwekungofara uye kuva nepfungwa dzakanaka dzekuti zvese zvichaita zvinoshamisa. Maitiro ekubatanidza anogona kutorwa seasina basa.
2. Ita hurukuro yakadzika nemumwe wako
Gadzira runyorwa rweyako tsika yekuva mubereki uye maonero pane chirango. Wobva wagovana runyorwa nemumwe wako sezvo ndine chokwadi chekuti zvichaunza hurukuro yakakosha. Kuti mubudirire kuti ubudirire, zvakanaka kuti muve nehurukuro idzi musati maroorana asi nokutendeseka, kana kusanganisa kusiri kufamba zvakanaka, itai hurukuro ikozvino.
Chikamu chekutaurirana chinouya apo panogona kuve nekumwe kupesana kwemaonero nemibvunzo iri pamusoro. Sarudza kuti ndeapi makomo auchazofira paari uye ndeapi matanho akakosha kumhuri inoshanda uye yevana kuti vanzwe kudiwa uye kuchengetedzeka.
3. Mutoo wenguva dzose wokurera
Isu tinowanzove nemaitiro edu ekurera vabereki ayo asingatombo fambise mushe kuvana vekurera. Zvichava kwauri (nerubatsiro kana zvichidikanwa) kuona zvaunogona kudzora, izvo zvausingakwanise uye izvo zvinofanirwa kusiiwa zvichienda. Izvo zvakakosha kuti ugadzire kusagadzikana kuitira kuti vana vanzwe vanochengetedzeka muhurongwa hutsva. Kushaya kuenderana kunogona kutungamira mukunzwa kwekusachengeteka uye kuvhiringidzika.
4. Mubereki wepanyama anofanira kuva neshoko rekupedzisira mukusarudza kwevabereki
Pakupedzisira, ini ndinokurudzira mubereki wekubereka ave neshoko rekupedzisira pamabatirwo emwana wake nekurangwa kuitira kuti abvise shungu uye chigumbu kubva padanho mubereki achienda kumwana uye kubva kumwana kuenda kumubereki wevabereki. Panogona kunge paine nguva dzaunofanirwa kubvumirana kuti usabvumirane uyezve mubereki wekubereka anova neshoko rekupedzisira kana zvasvika pamwana wavo.
5. Kurapa kwemhuri kwemhuri yakazara yakasanganiswa
Kana kutaurirana nekutaurirana zvasimbiswa zviri nyore kwazvo kuti titsigirane uye nekutsigirana mukurera nekuranga maitiro. Izvo zvakare zvinobatsira kuve nekurapwa kwemhuri nemapato ese akasanganiswa aripo. Inopa munhu wese mukana wekutora chikamu, kugovana pfungwa uye manzwiro, zvinonetsa, nezvimwe uye zvinogadzira nharaunda yekutaura nezve shanduko maitiro.
Ini ndaikurudzirawo zvinotevera:
- Ramba uine imwe panguva imwe chete nevana vako vekubereka
- Gara uchitsvaga chimwe chinhu chakanakira nhanho yevana uye utaure icho kwavari newawakaroorana naye.
- Usambofa wakataura chero chakaipa pamusoro pewakaroora kana kuroorwa naye pamberi pevana. Iyo ingave iri yekukurumidza nzira yekuve muvengi wemwana.
- Tsigirana mune izvi. Zvinogona kuitwa!
- Usamhanye maitiro ekubatanidza. Haigoni kumanikidzwa.
Tora mweya wekufema uye edza mamwe emazano ari pamusoro. Tsvaga rubatsiro rwehunyanzvi kana zvichidikanwa uye uzive kuti hausi wega. Ini ndinotenda kuti kana kurambana kukaitika uye mhuri dzinofanira kuparara, pane mukana wekubatanidza mhuri nyowani uye panogona kuve neruregerero uye nemazhinji emaropafadzo matsva anoitika. Iva wakavhurika kune iyo nzira uye sanganisa, sanganisa, sanganisa.