Zvemukati
- Vaviri vacho vanoshanda zvakanyanya
- Imwe-on-imwe nguva inobatwa
- Kushamwaridzana uye kuvimba kunodzikira
Mukuona kwangu, hupfumi hwepfuma, hupfumi, uye makaro erudzi chero rupi zvarwo hazvifanirwe kuve chinhu chekuti unoda ani. Nekudaro, nemari hombe kunouya basa rakakura. Kana iwe wakambove mune hukama hwakakomba iwe unoziva kuti kune mhedzisiro yesarudzo dzisina kuchenjera dzinobata vese vari vaviri vanobatanidzwa, kunyanya kana vaviri vataurwa vakaroora. Pakarepo, kushandisa kwakaipa kwemunhu mumwe kunokanganisa mumwe uye kudzikama kunova chinhu chekare.
Mari ndicho chimwe chezvikonzero zvepamusoro nei vanhu vachirambana. Kupfuura makaro, godo, nezvimwe zvakadaro zvakakosha, asi kana kusazvibata kwemumwe kana mumwe kuchikuvadza mumwe kana mhuri, hazvina kuoma kuona kuti sei izvo zvinowanzova dambudziko muparadhiso. Hapana mubvunzo kuti mashandisiro asina kunaka mashandisiro, chikwereti, uye kusagadzikana kwemari kunogona kuputsa kuvimba nekunyaradza muhukama.
Ini ndoda kuyera mutero uyo chikwereti chinotora pahukama hwakawanda uye nzira yekudzivirira kusagadzikana kusingakoshi nekuda kwehunyanzvi hwekushandisa mari. Pamwe, nekugadzirira zvisati zvaitika, tinogona kudzivirira mhirizhonga kubva pakutambudza izvo zvatinazvo nevanhu vatinoda zvakanyanya.
Vaviri vacho vanoshanda zvakanyanya
Ndine shamwari ine mhuri ine chikwereti chakakura. Iye anozvishandira pabhonzo zuva rega rega nekuda kwekusashandisa zvisina musoro sarudzo dzinoitwa naiye nemukadzi wake uye haatombowana nguva yekurara. Anoshanda muswere wese, anouya kumba, obva arara nekuti haakwanise kwete.
Ehezve, izvi hazvina hutano. Akabvuma kwandiri kuti akarasikirwa nechikamu chakakosha chehupenyu hwevana vake nekuti aifanira kushanda zvakanyanya. Zvizhinji zvezvinetso zvemhuri yake zvave zvinosuwisa nekuda kwekushandisa zvisina kuchenjera maitiro akaitwa nemukadzi wake uye naye, uye kuwedzera kwechikwereti muzvikwereti zvavo kungoita kuti zvinhu zviwedzere.
Chikwereti chinokonzera kuti vakaroorana vawedzere kushanda. Paunenge uchirarama mubhadharo kubhadhara, zvinogona kuita sekunge pasina imwe sarudzo. Kana uriwe iwe, ndinokurudzira kupa mari diki uye kuisa icho kuchikwereti chako. Panzvimbo pehunhu hwehusiku hwehusiku, mumwe wako uye iwe unofanirwa kuenda kunokwira uye kupikiniki. Iwe unogona kukwanisa kudzikisa imwe yemari yako yekurarama. Ndinoziva vanhu vazhinji, ini pachangu ndakabatanidzwa, vanogunun'una nezvemari asi vasingatombofunga kuti vanogona kunge vachibhadhara zvakanyanya rendi. Kana iwe usina imba, funga kutsvaga nzvimbo inogona kuzadzikisa zvaunoda iwe ichikubvumidza iwe kushomeka kunetseka kwemari. Iva nehunyanzvi nemabatiro aungaita mari, uye pamwe mune ramangwana hazvizove chipingamupinyi chakakura kwauri.
Imwe-on-imwe nguva inobatwa
Ndakataura kuti shamwari yangu yakaenda kwenguva yakareba asingaone mhuri yake nekuda kwechikwereti chavaive nacho sezvo aive achishanda nesimba kuti varambe vachifamba. Uye nevana vadiki vanoverengeka zvainge zvakaoma kuti mudzimai wake ashande kwenguva yakareba zvakakwana kuti abatsire nemari.
Rega ndibude pachena, handisi kuti kunyanyo shanda kana chikwereti kuchakonzera kurambana. Asi vakaroorana vanoda nguva yavo voga. Kushamwaridzana kwepamoyo uye kwemuviri kwakakosha kuchengetedza hukama hwakanaka.
Kunyangwe muhupenyu hwangu, ndakaona kushaikwa kwega nguva kuchikanganisa hukama hwehama dzemhuri. Kana musiri kupedza nguva muri pamwe chete, munokanganwa matauriro amungaita. Dzimwe nhengo dzemhuri yangu hadzipokani kana kukurukura nyaya zvakanaka nevavanodanana navo uye ndinotenda zvechokwadi kuti kushanda kwavo kwakadzivirira kufambira mberi kubva pakuitwa.
Kana iwe ukazviwana iwe usina nguva yekushandisa newawakaroorana naye, kana iwe wakaneta zvakanyanya kuti utaure nezvekukakavadzana pakati pako, icho chinhu chaunoda kuchinja uye kuzviona nekukasira. Ndinoziva hazvisi izvo zvakapusa, asi kugara wakanonoka husiku humwe pavhiki (imi mose muchirerutsa marongero enyu) ungave mutsauko pakati pewanano yepedyo neinosiririsa.
Kushamwaridzana uye kuvimba kunodzikira
Kuvimba ndiko kwakavakirwa pahukama hwese hwakanaka. Maitiro akaipa emashandisirwo anowanzo batanidza vavakaroorana vasingatarisane. Izvo zvoga zvinogona kubvarura kuvimba, asi iwe zvakare unofanirwa kuyeuka kuti mari yakaipa mukudyidzana kazhinji inosanganisira kusatendeseka.Iko hapana mubvunzo unobvunzwa: kusava nekuchenjera nemari yako kunogona kukuvadza kuvimba kwaunoita iwe nemumwe wako, uye zvinowanzoitika.
Munguva pfupi yapfuura musikana wangu akandiudza kuti anonzwa kuti ini handimufunge zvakanyanya uye kuti ndave ndinofinha mukuita kudaro. Haana kukanganisa - ndinoshandisa yakawanda yenguva yangu zvine udyire uye ndine tsika yekuita kubatikana uye nguva yedu pamwe chete inova isina kujairika uye yakajairika. Fungidzira kuti zvakanyanya kuipa sei dai taive takaroora uye tichigovana zvedu mitoro yemari. Kunzwa kunge mumwe munhu haakufunge zvakanyanya uye anokuisa panjodzi yekurasikirwa nekusimba kwako? Zvakare nekudzora yako wega rusununguko uye mafaro? Iyo haisi iyo hukama hwehukama hwakavakirwa pane kuvimba - ihwohwo hukama iko kuvimba kuri kuputswa.
Ini ndinoona zvichidikanwa kuti ndigare ndichishanda pakuvimbika uye pachena muhukama kuti kuvimba kwese kurambe kwakasimba. Une wawakaroorana naye, iwe wakatozvipira hupenyu hwako hwese pamwechete. Asi kana usiri kutendeseka kana kufunga nezvemari yako navo, kusatendeseka ikoko kune mhedzisiro yehupenyu-iyo inokukwira iwe nekukurumidza.
Chero bedzi vanhu vaviri vari muhukama hwakazvipira vachikwanisa kuzviitira ivo pachavo zviito zvavo nekukanganisa, pane tariro. Usambofunga kuti nekuda kwekuti zvinhu izvi zviri kuitika kuti zvinofanirwa kuramba zvichiitika kwauri. Taura kune mumwe nemumwe, kuva akatendeseka kune mumwe nemumwe, kurwa neumwe neumwe, uye kusvika padanho apo paunogona zvakare kuvimba nemumwe! Kuwirirana uye kuzvipira zvinoreva zvese.
Robert Lanterman
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