Zvemukati
- Matanho ekutaurirana- Anobatsira zvakadii?
- Sei kwedu kwekutanga kwekuziva uropi kunokanganisa nzira yedu yekutaurirana
- Yedu yechipiri yekuziva pfungwa inoisa zvinhu mumaonero
- Ndoziva sei kuti "Mwana Wangu Anogamuchira"?
Vanhu vanowanzo taura "kutaurirana" seimwe yenyaya hombe muhukama hwavo. Uye zvakadaro, sevazhinji vedu vakaroora vanhu zvavakaona, ndiyo amburera yakatambanuka inotsanangura kuwanda kwenyaya. Kana murume wangu achitsvinya uye ini ndichinyanyisa kutaura, inogona kunge iri "nyaya yekutaurirana." Kana ndichinyanya kutaura uye ari iye akasimba, akanyarara mhando, zvakare, inogona kunge iri "nyaya yekutaurirana."
Kutaurirana kune hutano kunoda kushanda nesimba. Kwakawanda kuyedza kune vazhinji vedu. Uye vanhu vazhinji havadi "kutoshanda zvakaoma kudaro" muwanano yedu. Isu tinotenda kuti "hukama chaihwo haufanire kushanda" kana "zvakasikwa kupfuura izvi."
Hapana chaigona kuva kure nechokwadi.
Ichokwadi ndechekuti chero hukama hwakadzika, hwepedyo, hunotambura huri kuzotora basa rakawanda.
Vamwe vakaroorana havadi iyo mhando yehukama. Ndaka. Kana iwe uchiverenga izvi, ini ndichatora ndichisvetuka ndotaura kuti newewo.
Matanho ekutaurirana- Anobatsira zvakadii?
Kune matani ehunyanzvi hwekutaurirana uye matekiniki ayo vanhu vanogona kudzidza nekugona. Dambudziko nderekuti mukupisa kwechinguva, pasina kuedza, iwo hunyanzvi haubatsiri nekuti isu hatisi mune chaiyo pfungwa yekuishandisa.
Sei kwedu kwekutanga kwekuziva uropi kunokanganisa nzira yedu yekutaurirana
Tinowanzo rarama hupenyu hwedu kubva kweduKutanga Kuziva Brain. ” Uku ndiko kupindura kwemabvi-kwatinako kumamiriro ezvinhu. Iko kushushikana kwatinonzwa dzimwe nguva patinoiswa neanodanana naye, shamwari yeplato kana kunyange watinoshanda naye.
Ichi chikamu chehuropi hwedu chinonziwo yedu "Mwana Anogamuchira. ” Iyo yakaumbwa muhucheche hwedu nezvatakachinjira. Dambudziko rinoitika mukukura ndipo apo hunyanzvi hwakafanana hwatakagadzira muhudiki kubata uye "kugadzirisa" hunowanzo kutikanganisa mushure mehupenyu. Varapi vanodana izvi "maladaptive kugona kurwisa.”
Ivo vakashumira chinangwa panguva imwechete. Ivo vakatibatsira. Ivo “vakatichengeta tiri vapenyu.” Asi, zvakare, ivo havana hutano uye vanotikuvadza isu nehukama hwedu mukukura. Zvirongwa zveMwana weAdaptive ndeyechokwadi, "kukunda." Izvo zvese ndezvega. Mwana weAdaptive haana hanya kana kutarisa kune hukama hwakavandudzwa.
Yedu yechipiri yekuziva pfungwa inoisa zvinhu mumaonero
Patinokwanisa kumbomira, kufema, uye kupinda mu "yeduChechipiri Kuziva Brain, ”Shanduko inoitika. Apa ndipo patinogona kuona zvinhu zvakajeka, dzimwe nguva kunyangwe kubva kune imwe maonero.
Kupesana neMwana Wekuchinjika, chikamu ichi chehuropi chinonzi iyo Inoshanda Munhu Mukuru. Hunyanzvi hwese hutano hunogara pano. Kana iwe usingakwanise kupinda mune rako Rinoshanda Adult uropi, hapana shanduko, hapana kugadzirisa kunogoneka.
Iyo ajenda yeiyo Inoshanda Vakuru ndeyekuve vepedyo nemumwe wedu, kudzoka "pane iro peji rimwe." Zviri nyore kuve mune yedu Inoshanda Yevakuru kana mumwe wedu ari mune yavo Inoshanda Yevakuru zvakare; dambudziko nderekuramba tiri muVanoshanda Vakwegura kana mumwe wedu ari muMwana wavo Anogoneka.
Ndoziva sei kuti "Mwana Wangu Anogamuchira"?
Zvimwe kunze kwekutanga kuziva panguva iyo isu patinenge tisisina hutano, pane mamwe maitiro isu atinogona kutsvaga. Kupindura kwemuviri kurwa / Kubhururuka / Kumisa. Hupenyu hwehukama kupindura ndeyeKurwa / Kubhururuka / Gadzirisa.
Kutanga, iwe unotarisa kuti ndeipi yeiyi inosvetukira kwauri; chimwe chazvo chakakuita kuti ufunge "o, ini ndinozviita." Wadaro, chera zvakadzama uye zvibvunze pachako "chii chingave chakaitika muhudiki hwangu chingadai chakakonzera mhinduro iyoyo?" Uku ndiko kutanga kwekunzwisisa wako Adaptive Mwana. Ndiwo mavambo ekudzidza kuzviburitsa iwe kubva mundangariro uye kupinda muVanoshanda veVakuru - kana mhinduro yangu iri Ndege, ndinogona kumbomira, kufema, uye kwete kutiza kana kubvisa mweya mukati meganda rangu remukati.
Saizvozvo, kana mhinduro yangu iri Fix, ndinogona kumbomira, kufema, uye ndisingayedze kufadza chero munhu uye munhu wese akandikomberedza kuti adzikise kusagadzikana kuri mumba.
Uye, hongu, kana mhinduro yangu iri Kurwisa, ndinogona kumbomira, kufema, uye kuyedza nhaurirano ine hutano ndisina kukuvadza uye nehasha.
Iyo yakanakisa (uye yakapusa, nenzira!) Mutemo wechigumwe imbomira, kufema, uye "ita chimwe chakasiyana."
Maitiro ako ekare ndiwo akakupinza mune aya maitiro asina kunaka muhukama. Chinhu chete chinoshandura mapatani "chimwe chakasiyana."