Zvemukati
- 1. Kunowedzera hukama hwekutaurirana
- 2. Kuronga ramangwana
- 3. Kushandisa huchenjeri hwemupi wezano
- 4. Tsvaga zvinhu zvitsva nezvako
- 5. Kupindira kubatsira hukama
Chii chinonzi kuraira usati waroora kana kuroorwa? Chii chekutarisira mune pre-yemhuri kuraira?
Kuraira usati waroora kana kuroorwa rudzi rwekurapa rwunobatsira vakaroorana kugadzirira roorano nematambudziko, mabhenefiti, nemitemo inouya nayo.
Kurairana usati waroora kunobatsira ku ita shuwa kuti iwe nemumwe wako mune hukama hwakasimba, hune hutano, husina chepfu izvo zvinokupa mukana uri nani wemuchato wakatsiga uye unogutsa.
Izvo zvinogona zvakare kukubatsira iwe kuona zvaunokanganisa zvaunogona kuzova dambudziko mushure mekuroora uye zvakare kuyedza kupa mhinduro.
Saka, unofanira kutanga riini kuraira usati waroora?
Vazhinji vakaroorana vanofunga kuti vanofanira kutanga kurairana vasati varoora mavhiki maviri kana matatu kumuchato wavo. Asi, iyi mhando yemafungiro haifanire kukurudzirwa. Kuraira-pre-yemuchato kunofanirwa kutanga nekukurumidza sezvazvinogona.
Iwe unofanirwa kutanga kuenda kumisangano yekurapa nekukurumidza iwe paunenge uine chokwadi chekumira kwako muhukama.
Iwe unofanirwa zvakare kucherechedza kuti kurairana kwekuroora usati waroora hakusi kwevakaroora chete avo vari kuronga kuroora mumwedzi kana miviri; iri zvakare kune vakaroorana vari mune hukama hutsva.
Inopa varidzi vehukama muukama hutsva mukana wekutaridza kushomeka kwavo kwega kungave kunetsa muhukama.
Zvakare zvinoona kuti vaviri vane hukama hwakasimba, hune hutano, husina chepfu hunovapa mukana uri nani wekuroora kwakatsiga uye kunogutsa.
Yakurudzirwa - Pre Kuroora Kosi
Nekudaro, pre-kuroora kurairwa kunofanira kutanga nekukurumidza sezvazvinogona.
Kutanga vaviri vakarairana vasati varoora nachiremba akasimbiswa kana wekuroora chipangamazano anokupa iwe mukana kune avo vanotanga mavhiki mashoma kumuchato wavo.
Mimwe yemabhenefiti ekutanga kuraira usati waroora kana kuroorwa pakutanga muhukama pamusoro pekutanga kunonoka ndeiyi:
Uyezve tarisa: Yakakosha mibvunzo pre-yemhuri yekupa mazano
1. Kunowedzera hukama hwekutaurirana
Sezvo zvichizivikanwa kuti hapana hukama pasina kutaurirana, uye chimwe chezvinhu zvakakosha zve chero roorano kutaurirana kunoshanda neumwe wako.
Matangiro ekutanga ekuraira usati waroora kana kuroorwa anobatsira iwe kudzidza kuve muteereri akanaka uyezve nzira yekutaura nemumwe wako; nokudaro, iwe unoziva izvo izvo mumwe munhu anoda uye zvaanoda.
Chidzidzo chakaitwa kuongorora mhedzisiro yehunyanzvi hwekutaurirana pane kugutsikana kwemuchato kwevakaroora vanopinda kurairwa vasati varoora zvakagumisa kuti kutaurirana uye Kugutsikana kwemuchato kwevakaroora vaipinda kuraira vasati varoora kwaive kwakakwirira zvakanyanya kupfuura vakaroorana vasina kuenda kunopihwa mazano vasati varoora.
Kana iwe ukagara nemumwe munhu zuva nezuva uye nezuva kunze, zviri nyore kwazvo kutora mumwe nemumwe seasina basa, asi nekuchengeta yakavhurika tambo yekutaurirana uye kutaura iwe pachako kune mumwe kunovaka hukama hunogona kumira muyedzo wenguva.
Ukakurumidza kutanga kuraira usati waroora, nekukurumidza iwe unogona kuwedzera hukama hwako.
2. Kuronga ramangwana
Iyo ramangwana raigara risingazivikanwe, asi pane matanho aungatore kutungamira hukama hwako kune rinogutsa mangwana.
Nekudaro, kana zvasvika pakuronga ramangwana, vazhinji vakaroorana vanokundikana kuwana nzira yakanyanya kunaka yekuzviita. Apa ndipo apo vanopa mazano vasati varoora vanogona kukutungamira kunzira chaiyo.
Vanopa mazano vasati varoora vanoita zvinopfuura kungobatsira vakaroorana kutaura kuburikidza nezvavanosangana nazvo. Vanobatsirawo vakaroorana kuronga ramangwana ravo.
Mupi wezano anogona kubatsira vakaroorana kumisikidza zvinangwa zvemari, zvemuviri, kana zvekuronga mhuri, uye anogona kuvapa nzira yakatendeka yekuzadzisa zvinangwa izvi.
Nekudaro kutanga mhinduro-yakanangana nekupa zano pamberi pemuchato kutanga muhukama kunoenda kure kure nzira mukuronga ramangwana rehukama ihwohwo.
3. Kushandisa huchenjeri hwemupi wezano
Kugovera nyaya nemumwe munhu anga achishanda nevarume vakaroora kwechinguva imwe bhenefiti hombe yekutsvaga pre-yemuchato kuraira nekukurumidza.
Kana iwe uchitaura nemupi wezano reroorano, iwe unowana izwi rine ruzivo rehuchenjeri pamusoro penyaya yekuroora. Mupi wezano wezvekuroora anozogovana ruzivo rwavo uye nezviitiko zvekuchengeta imba yakanaka.
Sezvo zviri kuzivikanwa kuti iyo yakawanda nguva yaunoshandisa pane chimwe chinhu, iwe unowedzera ruzivo iwe pairi. Iyo yakawandisa nguva iwe yekuenda kune premarital kurapwa zvikamu, iwe unowedzera ruzivo uye huchenjeri iwe zvaunowana kubva kuna chipangamazano.
Izvi zvinogona kuitwa nekutanga kuraira usati waroora kana kuroorwa nekukurumidza sezvazvinogona kana iwe uri muhukama.
4. Tsvaga zvinhu zvitsva nezvako
Sezvazviri kutaurwa - haugone kuziva zvese nezve mumwe wako. Vanhu vazhinji vanofunga kuti vanoziva zvese nezve mumwe wavo; Zvichakadaro, kune zvakawanda izvo mumwe wavo asinganzwe akasununguka uye akasununguka kuvaudza.
Pakutanga zvirongwa zvekurapa musati maroora zvinokupa iwe mukana uye rusununguko rwekukurukura zvinhu zvisingauyi mukutaurirana kwakajairika pakati pako nemumwe wako.
Kunge zvakavanzika zvake zverima, zvinokuvadza zvakaitika zvekare, bonde, uye zvinotarisirwa.
Kuroora mazano uye varapi vanobvunza mibvunzo yakawanda pavanenge vachishanda nevaroorani vari kufunga kuzvipira kwenguva refu, sekuroora.
Munguva iyi maitiro, vadyidzani vanokwanisa kuona hutsva hunhu hwevamwe vavo. Izvi zvakare zvinovabatsira kuti vaone kuti vakakodzera sei kune mumwe nemumwe.
5. Kupindira kubatsira hukama
Izvo zvakakosha kusave ne'kuroora 'sechinangwa chekutanga chekuenda kunopihwa pre-roorano. Chinangwa chikuru chinofanirwa kunge chiri chekuvaka imba ine rudo, inogara, ine hutano, yakasimba.
Ndokusaka kuraira kwepamberi pekuroora kunofanirwa kuve kwekumanikidza.
Kurairwa usati waroora kana kuroorwa kunogona kutarisirwa sekutanga kupindira kuti ikubatsire kunatsiridza hukama hwako, iva nezvinangwa zvinokwanisika, uye zvaunotarisira. Iyo zvakare inokudzidzisa iwe maitiro ekugadzirisa kupokana uye nharo zvinobudirira uye zvine chokwadi.
Inokupa iwe mukana wekukurukura uye kuratidza zvaunokoshesa uye zvaunotenda nezvezvinhu zvakakosha muhukama.
Zvakadai semari, mhuri, kurera vana, vana, zvaunotenda, uye kukoshesa nezvekuroora uye zvinotora kuti imba iite hutano, isimbe, uye igare.
Panogona kuve nehunyanzvi hwakawanda hwekupa mazano usati waroora kana kuroorwa, asi pakupedzisira, inzira yakazara yekuyedza kugona kwako kugadzira hukama hunofadza uye hunogutsa nemumwe wako.
Haufanire kuve wakakwana kune mumwe nemumwe, asi kana iwe ukaita kuraira usati waroora, zvinogona kukubatsira iwe kuwana kugona kudzidza, kukura, uye kuve vanokwanisa kune mumwe nemumwe.
Nekudaro, zvisinei kuti ndezvipi zvaunofarira, kungave kweChristian pre-marital counselling, online premarital counselling, etc.