Zvemukati
- Zvitendero zvakanyanya pamusoro pevakadzi
- 1. Mabasa akasiyana akapihwa sekureva kwedzidziso yekushanduka-shanduka
- 2. Zvemagariro netsika zvinokanganisa zvikuru vakadzi
- 3. Mhinduro dzakasiyana pabonde uye bonde dzakasiyana pabonde drive
- 4. Masangano anobata vanhukadzi sei
- 5. Misiyano yakanyanya mutsika uye huwandu hwevanhu
- 6. Kumuka kwechishamiso #metoo kufamba
- 7. Musiyano mumaonero
Vakadzi vanotarisirwa kuzvibata zvakasiyana kubva kuvarume kubva kare. Pfungwa yevarume nevakadzi vemapuraneti maviri akasiyana akabatwa kubvira bhuku, 'Varume vanobva kuMars, Vakadzi vanobva kuVenus', yakatanga kuburitswa kare kumashure mugore ra1992.
Iri bhuku rakanyorwa nemunyori weAmerica uye chipangamazano wehukama, John Grey. Izvo zvakagadzirwa zvakasiyana uye zvinotarisirwa kuzvibata zvakasiyana.
Zvitendero zvakanyanya pamusoro pevakadzi
Zvitendero zvakaita sevakadzi zvinofanirwa kunge zviri demure mune zvese zvehupenyu hwavo zvinotonga zvakakura munharaunda medu kunyangwe nanhasi. Kunyangwe paine vanhu vari kutyora zvisungo uye vachiongorora hutano hwavo kupfuura madzitateguru avo, nzanga inoita zvese musimba ravo kudzora manzwi avo.
Vanhu vazhinji, kusanganisira vakadzi vashoma, vari kupokana nemafungiro ekuti bonde rakanaka rinofanira kushandisa vakadzi vavo simba repabonde kakawanda.
Sangano rinotonga nevanhurume rinotya kusimudzirwa kwekusimudzira kwevakadzi uye kurwira nyika umo vakadzi vanonyaradzwa uye vanomanikidzwa kutambira mabasa avanopihwa nenzanga pachayo.
Zvikonzero nei vakadzi vakatsauka kubva pakushandisa simba ravo repabonde kana kusarudza kunyarara pamusoro pezvavanoda pabonde.
1. Mabasa akasiyana akapihwa sekureva kwedzidziso yekushanduka-shanduka
Zvinoenderana nedzidziso yekushanduka-shanduka yakanyorwa na Okami uye Shackelford, vakadzi vanoisa mari yakawanda mukubereka kupfuura varume. Zviripachena, maitiro aya akanganisa sarudzo yavo yemurume uye kuda kwavo kuita hukama hwepfupi.
Kubva panguva dzekare, kwave kwakafanorondedzerwa zvemagariro mabasa emunhu wese.
Vakadzi vaitarisirwa kugara pamba uye kuchengeta mhuri. Pakutanga, ivo havana kana kutarisana nedzidzo yemazuva ano. Vakanga vakasungwa waya zvakasiyana nenhengo dzechirume.
Neraki, iyo pikicha yachinja nhasi.
Vakadzi vakabudirira kubvisa zvese zvinodzivirira. Vakatora kutonga kuzere pamusoro pemuviri wavo nepfungwa. Zvakadaro, ivo vanowana kugutsikana kushoma mukuenderera mberi vachitenderera pabonde kusvikira vaita vana.
2. Zvemagariro netsika zvinokanganisa zvikuru vakadzi
Chido chebonde muvakadzi chakanyanya kutarisana nemamiriro uye mamiriro - Edward O. Laumann
Edward O. Laumann, Ph.
Sekureva kwaPurofesa, ruzhinji rwevarume vakuru pasi pemakumi matanhatu vanofunga nezve bonde kamwe chete pazuva. Kune rimwe divi, chikamu chimwe chete kubva muzana chevakadzi vanowira pasi pezera rimwe chetero vanobvumirana kuti vanofunga nezve bonde izvo kazhinji. Kufungidzira nezve bonde kunodzikira nezera asi varume vachiri kufungidzira zvakapetwa kaviri kazhinji.
3. Mhinduro dzakasiyana pabonde uye bonde dzakasiyana pabonde drive
Chimwe chidzidzo chakaburitswa muJournals of Gerontology inoratidza maitiro evarume nevakadzi vezera rakasiyana vanoita pabonde zvakasiyana. Chidzidzo ichi chakanyora data kubva kumamwe maongororo maviri, iyo National Health uye Yemagariro Hupenyu Ongororo uye yeNational Social Hupenyu, Hutano, uye Kukwegura Chirongwa.
Mune zera bracket yemakore 44-59, 88 muzana yevarume vakawanikwa vachiita zvepabonde zvakanyanya kusiyana nevakadzi vanowira pasi pebracket rimwe chete. Vakadzi, vaive padhuze nepamusoro pevarume, vasina kana chinzvimbo chakakurumbira chakajeka. Zvinofungidzirwa kuti vangangoita zvikamu makumi manomwe nezviviri kubva muzana zvevakadzi vanoita zvepabonde vari vezera rimwe chete.
Kumwe kuferefeta kwakasimbisa kuti varume vakaratidzira chishuwo chekuita bonde kanomwe pamwedzi nevakadzi vachiratidza zvishoma zvishoma ku6.5.
Zvidzidzo izvi zvakaendawo zvakare kuona kuti varume vanoramba vachiratidza chishuwo chepamusoro pabonde kunyangwe pavanodarika chikumbaridzo chezera repakati.
Aya manhamba ari pamusoro anoratidza kuti vanhurume vanoitirwa bonde zvakanyanya kupfuura vakadzi. Nekudaro, kutaura nezve bonde neshamwari inyaya isinganyanyovabata kwavari zvinopesana nevavanhurume.
4. Masangano anobata vanhukadzi sei
Sosaiti yakabata vakadzi zvakasiyana kubva mazera. Kune nyika dzakaita seAmerica uko vakadzi vanonakidzwa nerusununguko rwakakwana rwekuongorora hunhu hwavo. Pano, nharaunda dzemunharaunda dzine zvinhu zvirinani zvekuita pane kupinza mhuno mumakamuri ekurara evamwe vanhu.
Asi, kune dzimwe nyika shoma apo vakadzi vasingatenderwe kunyatso kufumura zvishoma ganda ravo pachena. Tsika nechitendero zvikamu zviviri zvinonyatso kuratidza kuti munhu anofanira kuzvibata sei pamberi pevanhu.
5. Misiyano yakanyanya mutsika uye huwandu hwevanhu
Iyo yeAmerican yerudo komedhi firimu, 'Bonde neGuta 2', yakanga yaratidzira zvakajeka kusiyana kwetsika pakati pevadzimai vevamiririri vemufirimu nevakadzi vemu Abu Dhabi.
Kupfuurirazve, iyoyo firimu yakaratidza mashandisiro anoita nyika yakaita Abu Dhabi iyo yaifambira mberi munzira dzakawanda kwazvo yakaramba yakachengetedza uko bonde raive nehanya. Iyi haisi nyaya chete yezve nyika dzeArabia. Kunyangwe vakadzi vanobva kuSouth-East Asia nyika senge India vanobata zvakafanana nyaya dzepabonde mazuva ese.
6. Kumuka kwechishamiso #metoo kufamba
Semuenzaniso, slut-shaming chave chishandiso chakakosha kudzikisira bonde risina kusimba pano. Iyo nzanga inogara inokombamira kupa mhosva mukadzi kunyangwe iye ari nyajambwa wekushungurudzwa pabonde nevanhu. Zvisinei nekuenderera mberi kwe '#meToo' kufamba kutenderera pasirese, vashoma vakaurayiwa havadi kukwidza manzwi avo vachipesana nevatadzi vavo.
Izvi zvinodaro nekuti vanobatwa chibharo vanoshungurudzwa zvakare nemibvunzo inokatyamadza yakapihwa kwavari nemagweta mudare rakashama.
Kunyangwe vakadzi vemarudzi anofambira mberi senge America vanoitirwa pasi pekunyadzisa. Chidzidzo chakaitwa neAmerican Association yeUniversity Women, chinoburitsa pachena kuti hunyengeri ndeimwe yenzira dzekutanga dzekushungurudza vanhukadzi dzinotarisana nadzo nevadzidzi.
Mumwe muenzaniso wekunyara-bata wakarova vezvenhau apo Huffington Post yakaburitsa iwo maemail ayo akange achinjana pakati paMiss America Organisation CEO Sam Haskell nenhengo dzakasiyana dzemabhodhi. Vakahwina mumakwikwi aya vakanyara-nyara uye vakafuta-kunyara mumaemail.
7. Musiyano mumaonero
Izvo hazvisi zvechokwadi zvachose kuti vakadzi vese vanosarudza kuvanza zvishuwo zvavo uye vadzivise kubva pakuongorora kwavo zvepabonde sevarume.
Vamwe vakadzi vakanaka kutaura nezvenyaya iyi. Muchokwadi, iyo inoshanduka nguva yaita kuti vakadzi vatye uye vashinge.
Vazhinji vevakadzi vacho vari kubuda zvishoma nezvishoma kubva mukufungidzira uye kuwana kugutsikana kupfuura kwavo hukama hwakadzikama.
Nekudaro, kune vakadzi vanoona bonde sechinhu chakavanzika. Vanosarudza kuchengeta hupenyu hwavo hwepabonde kuseri kwemikova yakavharwa. Ivo vakavimbika kupfuura varume vazhinji kana zvasvika kuhukama uye vanonakidzwa pabonde nemumwe murume.
Kwavari, bonde rakanyanya nezve chishandiso chekutaura chaiko kune mumwe wake pane kugutsa muviri wake nzara. Kusiyana nevarume, vakadzi vanonakidzwa nekufungidzira, kurangarira, uye kufungidzira bonde rinopisa. Paanenge achifunga nezvekuve pamwe chete nemumwe wake, chishuwo chake chepabonde chiri pakakwirira kwazvo.
Kune vakadzi, bonde rakanyanya nezvekunakidzwa nekunzwa kwekubatana pane kudzora moto wemukati wepabonde.
Chekupedzisira, bvisa izvo zvinodzivirira uye taura yako zvishuwo zvebonde zvakasununguka
Pasina kupokana, isosaiti, tsika yekare-kare, uye vanonzi mapurisa ane hunhu ndivo vane basa rekudzora vakadzi veese mazera.
Zviri zvachose kuvakadzi kuti vataure kana kwete nezveruzhinji nezve hupenyu hwavo hwepabonde.
Asi, kuramba usina hanya nezvinokumbira kuseri kwemasuo akavharwa hazvina kunaka. Zvepabonde zvakakosha kana iwe uchida kuita kuti hukama hwako hubudirire. Asi, iwe unofanirwa kuve wakasununguka kune mumwe wako uye ujekese zvakajeka zvaunoda uye zvishuwo.
Zvakakosha kuti madzimai vawane nguva yekudanana uye kusangana pabonde pavanenge vakasununguka kutaura nezvavanoda pabonde, nevadikani vavo kuti vawane hukama hunofadza uye hunofadza.