Zvemukati
- 1. Kuda kuita zvinhu nenzira yakakwana
- 2. Kushaikwa kwemiganhu
- 3. Kuzvikudza kwepamusoro uye kwakaderera
- 4. Chakavanzika chakavanzika
- 5. Kutya kuva wega / kusiiwa
Kufanana pakati pako neako anonyengera, varoorani venhema vanokuchengetedza iwe magineti kukwezva kune mumwe nemumwe. Uku kufanana kunoita chikamu chakakosha mukukuchengeta iwe wakasvinudzwa. Verenga pamusoro kuti uone uye utore matanho ekugadzirisa kana iwe uri kuita mubatirane muchengeti nemumwe anonyengera murume. Nzwisisa kana iwe uri kuenderera kuve mune hwakadai huturu hwehukama kunze kwekunzwa kutya, mutoro, kushaya kuzviremekedza kana kunyara.
Narcissist / Caretaker zvakafanana
1. Kuda kuita zvinhu nenzira yakakwana
Kuita kwakakwana kunoshanda zvakasiyana muvanyengeri uye vanochengeta. VaNarcissist vanotenda kuti vakakwana uye munhu wese akavapoteredza anofanirwa kuve akakwana, iwe semutarisiri uchitenda kuti unofanirwa kuve wakakwana uye ibasa rako kuita kuti wawakaroorana naye afare kwazvo. Chero bedzi iwe uchidavira kuti ibasa rako kutarisira manzwiro emumwe wako anonyengera, zvaunoda uye zvaunotarisira, iwe ucharamba uchishandiswa narcissist.
2. Kushaikwa kwemiganhu
Iwe unogona kunge uine zvakajairwa miganhu mune humwe hukama hwako. Nekudaro, zviri pachena kuti iwe unowira mumusungo wekubatana nemumwe wako anonyengera. Kana iwe uchinzwa rudo rwakadzama uye uine hanya neumwe munhu, yako miganho inowanzo nyangarika. Iwe haufunge kuti hazvishamise kunzwa zvakadaro kunyudzwa mune wako waunoda. Unogona kutenda zvisiri izvo kuti "kwete" kana "kuzvida", kana kumuodza moyo nenzira ipi zvayo. Kunyangwe iwe paunenge uchida kuseta miganho kana kusabvumirana unogona kunzwa uine mhosva nekuita kudaro.
3. Kuzvikudza kwepamusoro uye kwakaderera
Iwe newawakaroorana naye pamwe mese munoratidza kuzvitarisira pasi sekukwirira zvakanyanya. VaNarcissist vanodzvinyirira kwavo kwakadzika kwemukati kuzviremekedza zvakadzama zvekuti havatozive kuti kuriko. Pakushushikana, vanonyengedza vanokurirwa nehunhu hwavo husina kunaka, hune hasha, uye hunovenga zvemukati, uye vanoshandisa hasha nekushandisa kudzikisira kurasikirwa kwavo kwekuzvivimba, kudada, kana kuzviremekedza.
Vatariri vanoshanda nesimba kuti vave vachipa uye vane rudo uye kazhinji vane kuzvitarisira kwakanaka. Nekudaro, iwe paunopinda muhukama neye narcissist, yako chaiyo pfungwa yekuzvimirira inokurumidza kupera paunenge uchiedza zvisingaiti basa rekuyedza kufadza murume anonyara. Semutarisiri, iwe unonzwa kuti unofanirwa kugara uye "kuratidza" kune anonyudza kuti une chinangwa chakanaka, une moyo wakanaka, uye uchiedza nepese paunogona napo.
4. Chakavanzika chakavanzika
VaNarcissist nevatarisiri vanowanzove nekunyara kwakawanda kwakavanzika. Kuedza kuve wakakwana kana iwe usiri kunzwa zvakanaka zvakakwana kunogadzira kunetseka kukuru kune vese. VaNarcissist vanoratidzira kunyadziswa kwavo nekunze kune vamwe vane mhosva, kutuka, kuisa-pasi, uye kutonga kwakaderera. Vatariri vanowanzotanga kuzvitonga zvisina kunaka kana mumwe wavo asingafare kana kusagutsikana. Kana iwe wakarererwa nemubereki anonyengedza kana anonyengera iwe unowanzo kunzwa kunyadziswa zvakanyanya. Uye kana iwe uchinge uchinge uine narcissist, unonyanya kunyara iwe unozowanzo kuvaka.
Alicia akarererwa naamai vekudaidzira avo vaigara vachimutsoropodza nekumuisa pasi. Akanga asinganzwe zvakanaka zvakakwana, zvisinei nekuti akaita mabasa mangani kana kuti aizviita nemazvo sei. Nekudaro, murume wake paanosheedzera uye akatsamwa kuti hapana mari yekuita zvaanoda, anotora mhosva nyore. Iye anoedza kumuita kuti ateerere uye adzikame, asi iye anodonha apo Matt anomupa mhosva nekumushora.
5. Kutya kuva wega / kusiiwa
Vese narcissist nevatarisi vane kutya kupedza hukama hune hukasha. Kuva wega, zvinoreva kuti hauna kukwana zvakakwana kana kukwana zvakakwana. Kusiya kana kubvumira mumwe munhu kuti aende kunoratidza kutadza kwakadzika, kunonyadzisa kune vese narcissist nevatarisi.
David anogona kushushikana uye kushatirwa nezvekuti Serena anoita seanomushandisa sei, asi haasi kufunga kupedza hukama. Panzvimbo pezvo, anoita zvehasha anoita kutaura kwekunyepedzera nezvekuchengetwa kwake kweimba, achinyunyuta nezvekumupa imwe mari, uye achiramba achimupa mabikirwo — izvo zvese zvaanozviteerera. Asi akatsunga kumunyengetedza kuti aite mugove wake wakanaka. Iye anofuratira zvinhu izvi nekuti akafunga kare kare kuti aisazombomusiya. Asi anoita chokwadi chekuita zvakakwana kumudzivirira kuti arege kuyambuka nekuti hapana nzira yaanoda kudzokera kumhuri yake achinyadziswa.
Yekupedzisira tora
VaNarcissist nevatarisiri vane Push / dhonza, rudo / ruvengo, mukuru / akaderera, kuhwina / kurasikirwa nemhando yemagineti syciosis. Hunhu hwako hwakapesana hunosimbisana, uye kufanana kwako kunoita kuti urambe wakanamatira pamwe chete. Iwe wakabatanidzwa mukubatana, kunyangwe uchiwanzo kuvengana, hukama hwakatarisana zvachose neanonyanyisa. Unogona kunyunyuta nezvazvo, asi unozopa nekuti unonzwa uchisungirwa, uine mutoro, uye kazhinji uchitya kwazvo kuti usaende.