Zvemukati
- Maitiro ekubvunza mibvunzo kwayo
- Heano mashoma ehukama hurukuro
- Yakadzika yehukama mibvunzo yekuunza iwe padhuze
- Mibvunzo chaiyo inoderedza kusagadzikana
- Couple therapy inogona kubatsira
- Bvunzana mibvunzo yepedyo
- Kurukura nechinangwa
Vakuru vanokonzeresa kuputsika kwekutaurirana muhukama mibvunzo yekufa-yekupedzisira yehukama.
Mibvunzo yakaita seyakagomara nekusingaperi, "Ranga riri zuva rako?" dzinenge dzisingatombo tungamira kune chero kutaurirana kwakakodzera kuve nako. Varoorani vashoma vanogona kutaura kuti vakawana njere nyowani kubva pakubvunza vavakaroorana navo nezvezuva ravo.
Kubvunza yega yega kamwechete mune imwe nguva kwakanaka uye kunoratidza kuti une hanya asi kushandiswa kwevakafa-magumo ehukama mibvunzo inofanirwa kuchengetwa padiki.
Kana paine matambudziko muhukama, kunyanya iwo ane chekuita nekutaurirana, chinja tarisiro yako kuti ubvunze yakakodzera hukama mibvunzo pane kungodzungaira zvisina chinangwa murima.
Maitiro ekubvunza mibvunzo kwayo
Kubvunza mibvunzo chaiyo hunyanzvi hunobatsira hunogona kuchengetedza hukama hwako.
Izvi hazvingoshandi chete kuhukama hwako nemumwe wako asi vana vako nedzimwe nhengo dzemhuri futi.
Kunyanya kufunga kunogona kukubatsira kunyatso ziva avo vepedyo nekutepa mukati memoyo nepfungwa.
Kuti uedze, dzivisa mibvunzo yakawandisa isingape mhinduro ine chinangwa uye tarisa pane yakatarwa mibvunzo inoda mhinduro inopfuura, "yakanaka".
Izvo zvakakosha kuti usarudze yakanaka yehukama mibvunzo kana yakakomba hukama mibvunzo kubvunza yako yakakosha imwe kutyora rute. Ita shuwa kuti hautombopererwa nezvinhu zvekubvunza mukomana kana musikana wako.
Mibvunzo nezvehukama inokubatsira kuyera paumire sevanhu vaviri uye kunyatsoongorora hukama kuti uone zvekutarisa.
Heano mashoma ehukama hurukuro
- "Chii chakaitika mumusangano uyu nhasi?",
- "Chii chawakaita pamusoro (zadza chisina chinhu)?"
- "Wakaenda kupi neshamwari dzako nezuro?"
- "Ndiani akahwina mutambo nezuro manheru?" (kureva mutambo wemitambo)
- "Ndingakubatsirei nei nhasi?"
Yakadzika yehukama mibvunzo yekuunza iwe padhuze
Heano mashoma ehukama hwehukama mibvunzo kuti ubatanidzane neako akakosha mamwe nenzira ine chinangwa.
- Chii chinokodzera kubiridzira muhukama iwe?
- Pazuva rakaipa, ungade kuti ndikutsigire sei?
- Iripo here tsika yandinoda kuchinja nekuti zvinokugumbura zvakanyanya?
- Chii chinonzi yakanakisa hukama zano iwe yaungade kutevedzera kuwedzera kushamwaridzana kwedu kwemanzwiro?
- Uri uchiri kuonana nechero wewaimbova shamwari dzako?
- Chii chinonzi wekupedzisira dhiri-mudariki iwe muhukama hwedu?
- Iwe unokoka sei isu kuti tibate mari yedu? Chii chaungasarudza pakati zvemari zvakasarudzika kana kubatana kwemari?
Iyi mibvunzo yakakomba yekubvunza mukomana kana musikana wako inopa mazano akakosha ekukubatsira iwe kugadzirisa hukama hwako.
Zvese zviri pamusoro zvinoda zvinopfuura izwi-rimwe mhinduro uye zvese zvinoratidza kufarira muhupenyu hwemudiwa. Imwe nzira inoshanda pamibvunzo yekubvunza muhukama kuita kuyedza kufunga usati wabvunza. Paunenge uchinge uine mubvunzo mupfungwa, ita nekukurumidza kugadzirisa mumusoro wako kuti iite ihwo hune chinangwa.
Paunenge uchisarudza mibvunzo yekubvunza mukomana kana musikana, zvakakosha kuti utarise pane zvakadzama uye nemanzwiro kuti unyatso kutanga hurukuro.
Vashoma kwazvo vanoona izvi asi kutaurirana kwese kwaunoita nemumwe wako, nhengo yemhuri kana shamwari kunowedzera kudzika kuhukama. Wona hurukuro dzese dzine musoro senge inchi yekufambira mberi uye ramba uchivavarira zvimwe.
Hurukuro inzira vanhu inoratidza rudo, rutsigiro, kunzwisisa, uye hanya. Zvakare, teerera kutevedzera mibvunzo. Ivo vanogona kutambanudza hurukuro yakanaka.
Mibvunzo chaiyo inoderedza kusagadzikana
Iyo hurukuro zvakare magadziriso anogadziriswa.
Kubvunza mibvunzo yehukama chaiyo kunobatsira kana kunetsana kuripo. Kupfuura nemumatambudziko ndeye nzira yekuchengetedza hukama hwako uye zvirinani zvakadaro, zviite dombo rakasimba. Mushure mekusawirirana, bvunza mibvunzo inokurudzira kugadzirisa.
Mibvunzo yehukama yekubvunza seiyi, "Panguva ipi yekusawirirana makanzwa kusaremekedzwa?" kana "Ndingadai ndakaitei zvakasiyana?" idanho munzira kwayo.
Couple therapy inogona kubatsira
Kune avo vari kunetseka kuchinja maitiro avo ekukumbira kana kungozviona ivo vachitaurirana nenzira iyi, funga nezvekurapa kwevakaroora.
Couple therapy inobatsira vakaroorana mukuchinja kwavo tsika nekudzidzisa mapato maviri mabvunziro ekubvunza mibvunzo ine basa. Izvi zvinoitwa kuburikidza nemitezo mizhinji yezvirovedzo mukati nekubuda muzvikamu zvinogadzirisa mibvunzo yehukama kubvunza mukomana kana musikana wako.
Bvunzana mibvunzo yepedyo
Imwe inoshanda yekurovedza muviri kubvunzana mibvunzo yepedyo.
Panzvimbo pekuti, "Wakadii iwe?" kana "waswera sei?" iwe nemumwe wako muchadenha miganho yemanzwiro nenzira ine hutano. Izvi zvinoitwa nemibvunzo yepedyo senge, "Paive nenguva here pavhiki iyo yawakanzwa usinganzwike?" kana "Chii chandingaite kuti unzwe kutsigirwa zvakanyanya?"
Chinangwa ndechekudzidzisa vanhu kuti varege kuita mibvunzo yehukama hwavo. Ehezve, izvi zvichashamisa pakutanga uye vamwe vanogona kuva nemhinduro yekutanga yekuti, "Ugh. Kunzwa ”asi mushure mekusangana nezvakanaka zvekubvunza mibvunzo yepamoyo, imi neumwe wako muchave munogamuchira.
Kana dambudziko rekutaurirana nenzira iyi rikaramba riripo, kurapwa kunogona kuona mabhureki epfungwa achikutadzisa kutora danho rakakosha rekuvandudza kutaurirana uye kukudzidzisa maitiro ekuakunda.
Iri rinogona kunge riri dambudziko rinotangira kubva paudiki, chimwe chinhu muhukama chinofanira kugadziriswa kana iwe unogona kungova neyakaoma nguva yekuchinja maitiro. Chero zvazvingava, kurapwa kunogona kukushandira kuburikidza nako.
Kurukura nechinangwa
Mushure mekudzidza mabvunziro ehukama hwemibvunzo chaiyo, shandisa hunyanzvi kuti utaure uine chinangwa. Hazvishamise asi vakaroorana uye mhuri vanowira mutsika yekuita hurukuro dzakajairika.
Mibvunzo yakadai mukutaurirana yakaenzana nehurukuro diki yaungave uine mutorwa.
Kana uchitaura nevadiwa ita saizvozvo nechinangwa chekuswedera padyo nekusimbisa kubatana.
Nemibvunzo yehukama chaiyo yekubvunza, hauzomborasikirwa nemikana yekubatanidza kumberi.
Hupenyu hwese nezve kukudziridza hukama hwusingaperi uye kunakirwa neyaunotenderedza newe. Kubvunza iyi yekuvaka hukama mibvunzo inobvumidza hukama hwako kuti hubudirire!