Zvemukati
Vanoti kune michato yakanaka, asi hapana michato inonakidza. Mumakore apfuura vazhinji vakaroora vanozviwana vachinyura mukusaitira hanya uye kusava nehanya. Vanonzwa kuoma mitezo nekushaya tariro, hukama husina mufaro, kusava neshungu uye hupenyu husingafadzi. Hazvina kujairika kuti vanhu vakaroora vanzwe kuti vari kurasikirwa netariro yekuzombova nehupenyu hwerudo uye vachibhadhara mutengo unodikanwa mukugadzikana kwavo mune zvemari uye kwepamoyo uye nekugara zvakanaka kwevana vavo.
Kuda nezuva rekupera
Muzivi wechiFrench Michel Montaigne akataura kuti vanhu vane rudo vanorasikirwa nepfungwa, asi kuroora kunoita kuti vaone kurasikirwa. Zvinosuruvarisa asi ichokwadi - muchato unotakura wakakura kwazvo wechokwadi zvekuti unogona kutyisidzira hupenyu kunyengera kwerudo.
Vazhinji vakaroora vanoti yavo manzwiro e "rudo akafa". Dzimwe nguva manzwiro anochinja zvakanyanya uye nekukasira uye rudo rwemumwe munhu runogona kudonha zvisingatarisirwi rukafa, asi muzviitiko zvakawanda, rudo rwepabonde rwunoshanduka kuita chimwe chinhu - zvinosuruvarisa zvakanyanya kusanyanya kunakidza, asi zviri pachena kuti hazvina basa.
Vaviri chete vanonyengera vese vanotarisira kuti kwavo kwakasimba kudanana, ruchiva, uye kunyepedzera kuti varambe vasina kuchinjika nenguva nematambudziko. Mushure mekudhakwa euphoria nguva dzose kunouya hangover, yega honeymoon inoteverwa nemakore uye makore ezvezuva nezuva maitiro, akabatanidzwa emabhengi maakaundi, mabasa epamba, kupopota vana uye yakasviba manapukeni.
Iwo anopenga musoro-pamusoro-zvitsitsinho kurwadziwa kazhinji kunotora kubva kumwedzi yakati wandei kusvika kumakore maviri. Kune vakawanda vakaroorana vanga vachidanana kwekanguva uye vachigara pamwe chete, rudo rwakasimba rwekuda rudo ndiDOA.A. pazuva remuchato wavo.
Hechino chinetso chechokwadi chemuchato - kutsiva kuyemura kweanofungidzirwa muchinda / mwanasikana wamambo anodakadza nerudo rwechokwadi kune chaicho chisina kukwana nyama uye neropa mukadzi.
Maitiro kuCPRR rudo
Vamwe vakaroorana vanoona rudo rwavo sechisikwa chakazvimiririra chinogona kuuya kuhupenyu kana kufa nenzara chero nguva, zvisinei nezviito zvevadikani. Izvo zvinenge zvisiri chokwadi nguva dzose. Hapana munhu ane mvumo yekureva kuti rudo rwakachengetwa ruchagara nariini, asi rwakaregeredzwa rwakatongerwa kubva pakutanga chaipo.
Kazhinji kazhinji vanhu vanonzwa chirevo uye chirevo chinosemesa: "Michato ibasa rakaoma". Sezvinotsamwisa sekubvuma, pane chimwe chinhu kwazviri. "Zvakaoma", zvakadaro, kuwedzeredza. Zvingave zvakanaka kutaura kuti hukama hunotora rimwe basa uye imwe nhambo yenguva inofanirwa kuiswa mairi.
Heano mamwe mazano akareruka anogona kubatsira kutarisira chimwe chakakosha chimwe uye hukama:
- Haisi pfungwa yakanaka kutora mumwe wako seasina basa. Kana vanhu vadiki vachienda kunofambidzana vanoita kuyedza kukuru kuti vataridze kugona kwavo. Zvinouya sei mushure mekuroora ivo vazhinji vevarume nemadzimai vanopfekedza basa uye voregeredza zvachose chitarisiko chavo kumba? Izvo zvakakosha zvakanyanya kutaridzika zvine hunhu pamberi pemurume / mukadzi uye edza kudzivirira muyedzo wekupinda mune yekare sweat bhurukwa nekuti rakasununguka.
- Kuva nemhando yenguva yega wega kwakakosha kune chero vakaroorana. Kamwe muvhiki mbiri kana nhatu bvisa vana uye uve nehusiku hwehusiku. Chichava chiyeuchidzo chakanakisa chedanho rekutanga muhukama - rudo-rwekufadza rudo nyowani. Dzivisa kutaura nezvevana, mabasa epamba uye nenyaya dzemari, iva nehusiku hwehusiku chaihwo.
- Ita zvinotarisirwa zvive zvechokwadi. Izvo hazvigoneke kuve nemabhururu mudumbu remunhu nekusingaperi. Ita rugare nazvo. Zvepamberi zvekuroora zvinopa vanhu mufaro, asi mutengo unowanzo kuve unodikanwa. Iko kunakidzwa ndekwenguva pfupi, nepo kukuvara kwenhema, kukuvadza kunoparadza kune mukwanyina nevana kunogona kuve kwechigarire. Tisingatauri mapuruguru anopedzisira anyangarika zvakadaro.
- Zviratidzo zvishoma zvekutarisa zvakakosha. Kugadzira chikafu chavo chavanofarira kamwe neapo, vachitenga zuva rekuzvarwa nechirangaridzo, vachingobvunza kuti: "Ranga rakadii zuva rako?" uye ipapo kuteerera zvinhu zviri nyore kwazvo kuita, asi zvinoita mutsauko mukuru.
Kurova bhiza rakafa
Dzimwe nguva rudo nechidakadaka zvinogona kuzvipuka zvachose kuna Mwari vanoziva chikonzero. Kana zvirizvo, zvakakosha kuzvibvuma uye kugadzirira kuenda kumberi. Mamirioni avanhu anozviita zuva rega rega; hapana chikonzero chekuvhunduka. Vazhinji vaimbova varume nemadzimai vanogara shamwari dzepamwoyo kunyangwe varambana. Heano zviratidzo zvekuroora zvinogona kufa:
- Pane kusava nehanya zvachose pakati pevakaroorana uye kutaurirana kwakafanana neyavaviri vanogara navo.
- Pfungwa chaiyo yekuita bonde inosemesa.
- Kufungidzira wekuroora nemumwe munhu kunounza kunzwa kwekusununguka, kwete godo.
- Kugara uchirwa pamusoro pechinhu chose chidiki, iko kuramba uchinzwa kwekusagutsikana.
Kana paine fungidziro yakasimba yekuti vakomana vemweya vakashanduka kuita vasungwa, inogara iri pfungwa yakanaka kutaura neunyanzvi. Shamwari uye mhuri vanogona kuve vanobatanidzwa zvakanyanya pamoyo uye neine vavariro dzavo dzese dzakanaka dzinogona kuunza kukuvara kwakakomba. Mupi wezano reroorano, kune rumwe rutivi, anogona kusabatsira, asi haazokuvadze. Kune vaviri vakashungurudzika, zvinowanzoomera kuti uve nechinangwa uye kunyatsonzwisisa zviri kuitika. Chero zvazviri, zvakajairika kuziva kuti kune mativi matatu kune yega nyaya "yake, yake, uye chokwadi".
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