Zvemukati
Empaths, kana avo vanowanzo kuve vanonzwisisa, vanofunga, vanofunga uye vanodziya mweya, kazhinji ndivo vanotsvakwa uye kutokudziridzwa nemunhu anoshushikana mupfungwa / mupfungwa.
Nekudaro, iye "mubati" weanomubata anowedzera kupfuura tsitsi uye anenge chero munhu anogona kuteyerwa musimba rinoparadza. Kuti unzwisise kutenderera kwekushungurudzwa pamoyo uye simba rekuve "akasarudzwa" kune anoshusha, zvakakosha kuti unzwisise pfungwa ye kupokana-kutsamira.
Kuzvimiririra tsika yekuwana kukosha kwako kubva mukufadza vamwe kana kuyedza kuve munhu akakwana. Mukoma wayo asingazivikanwe. Kudzivirira-kutsamira chinhu chikuru chinokonzera mukuenderera mberi kwedambudziko rekutenderera kwekushungurudzwa.
Chii chinoitika mukutsamira kutsamira?
Mukupokana-kutsamira, iye ari kudzorwa akafanana nepaniki pane mubati wechesi bhodhi.
Anoshungurudza haaone vamwe sevanhu, asi zvinhu sezvinhu - semidziyo ine "narcissistic supply", ine basa muhupenyu hweanomushungurudza kubviswa pamusoro chessboard zvakanyanya kunge chidimbu chembichana. Narcissistic kupihwa izita rinopihwa kutarisiro yenguva dzose yeanoshuva anoshusha.
Muchidimbu, chinangwa chemunhu anozvimiririra kupokana kubata vamwe kurumbidza, kuyemura, kubvumidzwa, kuombera maoko, uye kusakamurwa uye kutariswa kwakasarudzika.
Kana iwe wakabatwa mune ino simba uye uri sosi yekupi kweumwe wako narcissistic kupihwa, kukosha kwako kunoyerwa chete pakukwanisa kwako kunyatso shandiswa uye kushandiswa kune wako waanowana kana mafaro.
Ramba uchifunga kuti pawn yakafanana nechatel: dzinogona kuraswa kana "chibvumirano chiri nani chikauya," asi chinorwirwa kana mushushi akaona kuti vari kurasikirwa nekutonga kwenzvimbo yakakosheswa yekupa narcissistic. Ipapo, inova yakaipa, isingagumi kutenderera kwekushungurudzwa kune wawakashungurudzwa.
Chaizvoizvo, iwe une yakaderera kukosha kana iwe uchigona kutsiviwa nyore, asi yepamusoro kukosha kana zvisiri.
Kana iwe uchikosheswa, kana kuti pamwe sosi chete yesviro yemumwe wako anoshungurudza narcissistic yekupa ipapo maitiro avo anoenderana neanopokana anogona kuve anotonga zvakanyanya kana kutyisidzira. Uye kuita vana nemumwe wako waunoshungurudza kunogona kuburitsa hunhu hwakaomarara uye hune njodzi kana paine kuyedza kusiya hukama, zvichitungamira mukuenderera kunosuruvarisa kwekushungurudzwa kwepfungwa.
Kubva kure nehutsinye hunhu
Kukurudzira kuzvidzivirira kwakanakisa kana nzira yekupaza kutenderera inzira yakaoma uye hapana mhinduro iri nyore, kunyanya kana mumwe wako aine hukasha kana hunhu hunoparadza (senge hasha hasha, kuparadza midziyo) kana kuita zvechisimba.
Nhaurirano uchishandisa "ini" uye "isu" zvirevo, kana kumiririra kodzero dzako, zvinogona kupa shanduko-pfupi-pfupi / kugadzirisa hunhu hweanoshusha; zvisinei, nhoroondo yakaratidza kuti muzviitiko zvakawanda maitiro ekare anodzoka nenguva uye kazhinji anogona kusimbiswa kana uyo anoshungurudza akatyisidzirwa netarisiro yekuti iwe uende.
Ultimatums zvakare inogona kukonzeresa "zvine mwero" maitiro; zvisinei, izvi zvakare ndezvenguva pfupi uye kazhinji kudzoka kune yekare hunhu kunogona kuve hukama hunoparadza zvakanyanya. Kutyisidzira kwekusiya kusati kwambozadziswa kunogona kusimbisa kudiwa kwemubati zvisina kufanira kwekutonga, zvichidudzira mukuwedzera kwehuwandu, simba, uye nguva yekudzora kweanoshungurudza.
Kunyange zvakadaro, kune nzira dzinoshanda dzekudambura kutenderera kwekushungurudzwa mupfungwa kana kusiya hukama hunoshungurudza. Aya mazano anotevera akavakirwa papfungwa yekuti mazano kuvakaroorana kana kurapwa kweumwe neumwe zvinogona kukonzera shanduko shoma kana kuvandudzwa mune zvine simba, uye izvo kutyisidzira kuenda, kuyedza kufadza, kudzivirira kusangana kana kuita nharo nemushungurudzi zvinogona kutungamira kuenderera mberi nekudzora kuyedza uye pamwe kunogona kudzamisa kuparara kwehukama.
Mhinduro yakatarisa mubvunzo inowanzo gadzira yakajeka mhedzisiro kubva kune iye anoshungurudzwa mudiwa kuitira kutyora kutenderera kwekushungurudzwa kwepfungwa. Mhinduro yakatarisa mubvunzo ndeiyi: “Kuziva zvatinoziva nhasi kana pasina chinoshanduka, hukama uhwu huchavepi mugore? Unenge uri kupi mugore? ” Mhinduro kumubvunzo uyu kazhinji inotungamira kune mbiri sarudzo.
Chekutanga kugara uye kuramba uchideredzwa, kurangwa uye kudzorwa kunyangwe mushure mekuedza kwakawanda kugadzirisa hukama; yechipiri ndeyekusiya hukama, uhwo hunopedzisira hwapedza kutenderera kwekushungurudzwa. Zvinosuruvarisa, hapana nzvimbo yepakati. Iwe wakasara uchibvuma kurarama kutenderera kwekushungurudzwa kana kusarudza kutora matanho anodiwa pakuputsa kutenderera kwekushungurudzwa mupfungwa.