Zvemukati
- 1. Anoreva zvirevo
- 2. Kuvapo
- 3. Rambai muchizivana
- 4. Pedzai nguva muri pamwe chete muchipinda nekubuda mumba yekurara
- 5. Zvichengete
- 6. Goveranai zvamunofarira pamwe chete
Pakutanga muhukama hwako, mazinga erudo rweEros akasimba. MaGreek ekare akarondedzera Eros sekutorwa moyo uye kukwezva kwomuviri kwakagovaniswa pakati pevanhu vaviri. Tinowana izwi rekuti 'erotic kubva mushoko eros.
Iyi kemisitiri yekutanga inogona kugara chero kubva pamwedzi mumwe kusvika mukusingaperi, zvinoenderana nekuti vaviri vacho vanoshanda sei kuchengetedza moto uri mupenyu. Zvisinei, kana yaenda, inogona kuita kuti zvinhu zvisafadze.
Pakati peino nguva, vaviri vangasarudza kupatsanurana vachifarira kutsvaga mumwe munhu mutsva kuti afarire. Asi, izvi zvinofanirwa kunge zviri magumo azvo? Kwete!
Vakaroorana vanogona kuita kuti rudo rwavo rurarame kwehupenyu hwese kana ivo vachida kuisa munguva, simba, uye kuzvipira pakuve newavo mudiwa.
Rudo rwechokwadi runombofa here? Kwete kana imi vaviri vakaroorana muchida kuisa mukuedza.
1. Anoreva zvirevo
Iwe uri "Isu" vaviri here kana "Ini" vaviri?
Nzira iyo vakaroorana vanoona nayo hukama hwavo ine zvakawanda zvekuita nekuti rudo rwavo ruchagara here. Chidzidzo chakaburitswa naPsychol Kuchembera chakawana kuti zvisazitasingwi zvemunhu anogona chaizvo kuva nemhedzisiro huru mukukonana kwevakaroorana.
Vaya vakashandisa mazwi ekuti "Isu" akadai sekuti "Tiri kuronga zororo" kana "Tinoda imba yedu zvakanyanya!" kupesana ne "Ndiri kuenda kuzororo nemurume / mukadzi wangu" kana "Ini ndoda imba yangu" kwakave nekuwedzera kwekufambidzana kwakanaka.
Chidzidzo ichi chakataura kuti avo vane mazwi e "isu" vaive nehunhu hwakanaka uye husina kutsarukana hwepfungwa uye kudzikisira kwemoyo, nepo avo vaitaura vega vega vairatidza hunhu husina kunaka uye vaine kugutsikana kwakaderera muwanano.
Rudo rwechokwadi rwuripo kana vavakidzani vachifunga mumwe nemumwe sechikwata uye, panguva imwechete, vasingarasikirwe nepfungwa yavo yekuzvimirira mukuita kwechiratidzo.
2. Kuvapo
Kuongororwa kwevanhu vakuru makumi maviri nevaviri vakaroora kwakaratidza kuti vavakaroorana vanoshandisa nguva yakawandisa pamafoni avo vanopedzisira varega kuteerera vavakaroorana navo. Izvi zvave kunzi "kupopota." Kutsvagisa kunoratidza kuti kupaza kwakabatana zvakanyanya nekuwedzera kwekushushikana uye kuderera kwekugutsikana kwemuchato.
Nguva inotevera paunenge uchiedza kutaurirana sevanhu vaviri, gadzirisai nyaya, kana kungotaura nezvezuva renyu muri pamwe chete, ratidzai wawakaroorana naye vane kutarisisa kwako nekuisa foni yako kure.
Kupopota kungaite kunge kusinganetsi, asi kune mukana wekuita kuti rudo rwechokwadi rufa, zvisinei kuti waive padyo sei nemumwe wako kamwe.
3. Rambai muchizivana
Statistics inoratidza kuti vaviri vangangodaro vachirambana mushure memakore masere ewanano. Nei zvakadaro?
Sezvambotaurwa pakutanga, mukati mematanho ekutanga ehukama hutsva, rudo runoratidzira iyo neurotransmitter inonzi dopamine, iyo inomutsa nzvimbo yemafaro yeuropi. Izvi, pamwe neserotonin, zvinokukwevera iwe mukati mehusiku hwekunyepedzera.
Asi sekufamba kwenguva, mhedzisiro yedopamine inotanga kupera. Izvi zvinogona kukonzera kufinhwa muhukama.
Imwe nzira yaungaite kuti moto urambe uri mupenyu muhukama hwako kuenderera mberi nekuziva wako wawakaroorana naye.
Schwartz makotesheni,
"Chinoita kuti rudo rwurarame kugona kuziva kuti haunyatso kuziva mumwe wako zvakakwana uye uchiri kuda kuziva uye uchiri kuongorora."
Bvunza mumwe wako mibvunzo. Iwe unogona kunge wakambonzwa mhinduro idzi zvisati zvaitika, asi bvunza nechido chechokwadi uye uzive mumwe wako zvakare. Unogona kungoshamiswa nezvaunodzidza.
4. Pedzai nguva muri pamwe chete muchipinda nekubuda mumba yekurara
Kupedza nguva yemhando newawakaroorana naye kwakakosha zvakanyanya kuitira kuti moto urambe uripo.
Vazhinji vakaroorana vanobatsirwa nekugara vachifambidzana husiku husiku. Uhwu ndihwo husiku humwe pavhiki (kana padiki padiki, kamwe chete pamwedzi) uko vakaroorana vanoisa basa parutivi vobva kure nevana kuti vapedze nguva inodikanwa yemhando pamwe chete sevanodanana, kwete kungogara navo chete kana "amai nababa. ” Kana paine vana muwanano, zvese zvinotenderera pavana. Zvinonyatsoita kuti ushamisike, rudo rwechokwadi runofa here kana vana vauya mumufananidzo? Zvinogona kana iwe usingafunge zvakakwana.
Tsvagiridzo yakaitwa pane zvakanakira husiku hwehusiku yakawana kuti vakaroorana vaive nehusiku hwehusiku husiku vaisanyanya kurambana. Vakawanawo nhanho dzakakwirira dzerudo rune shungu, mufaro, kugutsikana pabonde uye vakawedzera hunyanzvi hwekutaurirana.
Chidzidzo ichi chakaratidza kuti vakaroorana vakabatsirwa zvakanyanya kana misi yavo yakanga yakanyanya kudarika zvakajairwa "kudya kwemanheru nefirimu."
Kuedza zvinhu zvitsva pamwe chete ndiyo yaive nzira hombe yevakaroora kugara vakafara uye vakabatana.
Izvi hazvisi izvo chete zvine gumi nemazana ehutano mabhenefiti senge akasimudzirwa hutano hwemwoyo, kushushikana kwakadzika, uye kukwirira kwemanzwiro, asi zvidzidzo zvinoratidza kuti vakaroorana vanotaura nezve bonde vane huwandu hwepamusoro hwekugutsikana pabonde uye hunhu hwemuchato huri nani.
5. Zvichengete
Kana mumwe wako achikuona, iwe unoda kuti vanzwe kuda moto kune iwe. Unoda kuti vanzwe kukwezva kwauri zvose mukati nekunze. Naizvozvo, zvinofanirwa kuenda pasina kutaura kuti kana iwe uchida kuchengeta kufarira kweumwe wako pamusoro pemakore, unofanirwa kutarisa kuzvitarisira. Ita zvinhu zvakadai se:
- Pfeka kana uchienda pamwe chete
- Fambirana nekushambidzika kwemunhu
- Shandisa zvinonhuhwirira
- Nyatsoteerera pamuromo utsanana
- Rovedza muviri nguva dzose
Izvi ndizvo zvekutanga zvekutarisika nechitarisiko chako, asi kuzvitarisira zvinoreva kutarisa kune hutano hwako hwepfungwa uye hwepamoyo, futi.
Vakaroorana vanobatsirwa chaizvo pavanoshandisa nguva yakanaka pamwe chete, asi nguva yega inokosha zvakafanana.
Rudo runobudirira zvirinani kana vanhu vakanzwisisa kukosha kwekuve nenzvimbo yavo uye, panguva imwechete, vachizvipa kune mumwe wavo.
Kutora nguva usiparadzane pano neapo kunobatsira kusimbisa pfungwa yako pachako. Shandisa nguva ino kuita zvinhu zvinokufadza. Tarisa pane zvaunofarira, hushamwari, uye uteedzere zvido zvako. Hunhu uhwu ndihwo hwakaita kuti mumwe wako adanane newe pawakatanga kusangana.
6. Goveranai zvamunofarira pamwe chete
Sekureva kweInstitute for Family Study, zvikonzero zvakajairika zvekurambana kusavimbika, kunwa kana kushandisa zvinodhaka, kukura nekusawirirana.
Imwe nzira yekuti vakaroorana vadzivise kuparadzana ndeyekushandisa nguva pamwe chete nguva dzose. Kwete chete pahusiku hwehusiku, asi nekugovana nekugadzira zvido zvitsva pamwe chete.
Ko rudo rwechokwadi rungafe here imi muchida zvinhu zvakafanana uye muchida kupedza nguva muri pamwe chete?
Zvakanaka, kashoma!
SAGE Journals zvakarongerwa vakaroorana kuti vaite zviitiko pamwe chete kwemaawa 1.5 pavhiki kwevhiki gumi. Izvo zviito zvakatsanangurwa sekunge zvinonakidza kana zvinonakidza. Mhedzisiro yevakaroora vanoshanda pamwechete uye kuita zviitiko 'zvinonakidza' zvakaratidza kugutsikana kwakanyanya muwanano pane avo vakapiwa zviitiko 'zvinofadza'.
Mhedzisiro yacho yakajeka: zviitiko zvakagoverwa zvinokurudzira kugutsikana muwanano.
Vaya vanoda kuchengetedza moto uri mupenyu muwanano yavo vanokurudzirwa kuti vaongorore hukama hwepedyo nguva dzose. Kuwedzera kwevhiki nevhiki kweoxytocin kuchabatsira iwe newawakaroorana naye kugara muchibatana nekutaurirana. Rwechokwadi rudo rwunofa kana vakaroorana vasingaise mari nekushingirira mune yavo yehukama tsika.
Kugara uchida kuziva nezve mumwe wako, kupedza nguva muri pamwe chete, uye kuyedza zvido zvitsva sevaroorani ndedzimwe nzira nhatu huru dzekuchengetedza rudo rwenyu kuti rurarame.