Zvemukati
- 1. Ziva kuti muchato unofadza unotanga musati muchato chaiwo
- 2. Sarudza zvakanaka, uye shanda nesimba
- 3. Rambai mune hutano kune mumwe nemumwe
- 4. Sarudza kuti ndiani anoita zvekuchengetedza imba
- 5. Edza kudzivirira "mubhedha wengochani kufa"
Vakadzi-bonde vakaroorana vakapedzisira vawana kodzero yekuroora uye vazhinji vevaAmerica vanotsigira pfungwa yekuroora kwevabonde kana bonde revanhukadzi.
Vachidisa kuita kuti hukama hwavo huratidzwe uye huwonekwe sezvakangoita sevakaroora kana vakadzi, vazhinji vevakaroora vakarovera kuguta reguta kana nzvimbo yavo yekunamatira kuti vazvipire pamberi peshamwari nemhuri.
Asi zvakadiniko nezve "vanofara nekusingaperi"?
Varoorani vanoita sei kuti vave nechokwadi chekuti vanoramba vachidanana, kukudzwa, kuremekedzana uye - zvichikosha zvakadaro - kunakidzwa nemuchato wavo, nguva refu mushure mekunge mupunga wakandwa uye nguva yehusiku yapera?
Heano mamwe mazano anobatsira ekuroora vakadzi. Shandisa aya matipi ehukama hwehukadzi kuti unzwisise kuti muchato wevabonde unoshanda sei uye chengetedza marara mumuchato wako wevabonde.
1. Ziva kuti muchato unofadza unotanga musati muchato chaiwo
Kuroora kwevevabonde kunogara here?
Hongu, michato yevabonde inogara kwenguva refu uye roorano inofadza yevasikana haisi ngano.
Kuroora kwevakadzi vevabonde kunogona kugara kweupenyu hwese kana iwe ukashanda pahukama hwako nemoyo wako wese. Usati wati "ndinoita" iwe unoda kuve nechokwadi kuti mukadzi uyu ndiye.
Kutsvagisa nezvevaroorani vakaroorana kwakaratidza kuti ngochani dzinokasira kuita uye nekukurumidza kupfuura vakaroora, izvo murume anogona kazhinji kuisa mabhureki pakuzvipira nekukurumidza munguva yekurarama-muhurongwa.
Ichokwadi kuti michato yevabonde kune makumi mashanu muzana mikana yekuguma nekurambana kupfuura yemitezo yevakaroora. Saka, zvakajairika kuti iwe unetseke nezvekuti ungaita sei kuti ngochani yemuchato ishande.
Kuti uwane muchato unobudirira wevabonde, ita kufunga kwakadzama usati wasunga banga, kuti usazoda kusunungura iro banga rimwe chete pasi pemutsara nekuti wakasvetukira mukati nekukurumidza.
Zvinogara zvichibatsira kuita mamwe mazano usati waroora kuti uone kuyanana kwako nemusikana wako, hunhu, uye mukana wewanano inobudirira.
2. Sarudza zvakanaka, uye shanda nesimba
Iyi ndiyo imwe yezano rekutanga revabonde pahukama, hwaunofanira kuyeuka usati wanyura mune chero kuzvipira.
Kuti unakirwe newanano yako, sarudza mumwe wako zvakanaka. Paunenge iwe uchinge waziva kuti mukadzi uyu ndiye mukadzi waunoshuvira zvechokwadi kushandisa hupenyu hwako hwese, shanda nesimba kuti uchengete zvakadaro.
Teerera kune mumwe wako, asiwo iwe pachako. Carate chako pachako kuzivikanwa, zvaunofarira, uye zvido, kana iwe uri kutarisira kune kwenguva refu lesbian hukama.
Iwe haudi kuve unofinhwa kana kushaya chekutaura nezvako kana iwe wakagara wakatarisana kubva kune mumwe patafura yemanheru.
Shanda nesimba kuchengetedza hwaro hwemhuri yako yako yaunofarira yekuvanda.
Izvo iwe zvaunoda kunzvenga kutora mumwe nemumwe seasina basa. Iyo inzira yechokwadi yekubvisa kunakidzwa kunze kwehukama.
3. Rambai mune hutano kune mumwe nemumwe
Vanhu vakagwinya vanokwanisa kunakirwa nemuchato wavo izvozvi uye mune ramangwana. Pamuviri panyama, izvi zvinoreva kudya zvine hutano kusimudzira immune yako uye kudzivirira kurwara.
Kuwana kurovedza muviri kwezuva nezuva kuti uwedzere mahormone ako "akanaka" akakosha zvakare .. Padanho remweya, kudzidzira kufunga, kungave kuburikidza nechitendero chepamutemo, kana imwe mhando yekufungisisa kunobatsira kuti urambe wakadzikama.
Kuchengeta muviri wakanaka nepfungwa zvinobatsira mukugadzikana kwepfungwa, izvo zvinobva zvapa mukana wepamusoro wekufara mumhuri yako.
4. Sarudza kuti ndiani anoita zvekuchengetedza imba
Mumichato yevanhurume nevanhukadzi, mabasa echikadzi haana kutsanangurwa kana achienzaniswa newanano yepabonde.
Zvidzidzo zvinoratidza kuti vaviri-bonde vakaroorana vane yakasununguka maitiro kune echikadzi mabasa kana zvichienzaniswa nevakadzi vanoita zvepabonde.
Saka ingori nyaya yekuti mese mutaurirane kuti sei muchida kukamura mabasa epamba manejimendi nenzira yakanakisa.
Mumwe wenyu ari nani pane DIY-mabasa, senge kuvharidzira yakatsigirwa-kumusoro singi kana yakaturika mifananidzo? Mumwe wenyu ari nani mukicheni, achifarira kuronga kwemenyu uye kugadzira chikafu chinonaka?
Kuchengetedza imba yako kuti irege kuora, iwe uchazoda kuedza kuve nechokwadi chekuti mabasa epamba akagoverwa zvakaenzana uye kuti imi mose muri kupa mukufambisa kwakanaka kwehupenyu hwenyu hwepamba.
Pfundepfunde dzinogona kukura kana mumwe chete wenyu ari kuita zvese zvekutenga, kubika, kuchenesa KANA kugadziridza dzimba. Kana iwe uine bhajeti yacho, funga kubhadhara kunze kwemasevhisi (munhu wekuchenesa, munhu anoona ruoko) kana mumwe wenyu asingadi kutora mamwe mabasa.
Kuburitsa kunze kwemamwe emamwe-mabasa asingafadzi ekuroora kunogona kukuserera kusuwa kwakawanda.
5. Edza kudzivirira "mubhedha wengochani kufa"
Sekureva kwechiAmerican sexologist Pepper Schwartz achidzidzisa paUniversity yeWashington, mumurume nemurume, bonde rinowanzotora chigaro chekumashure munguva pfupi iri muhukama - nekukurumidza kupfuura vanoita bonde nevarume vanoita zvevakomana. Ichi chiitiko chinozivikanwa sevabonde vevabonde pamubhedha.
Asi kutsigira kwenguva refu kudanana pasina kusangana panyama kunogona kunetsa. Mumuchato wevabonde, bonde rakakosha sezvariri mumuchato wevane ngochani kana wekuroorana pabonde.
Nekudaro, ngochani dzevakaroora dzinofanirwa kuita nhamburiko nguva dzese kuchengetedza hupenyu hwavo hwepabonde kunakidze. Zano revakaroora rewanano rinonyanya kukosha nekuti kufa kwemurume nemukadzi pamubhedha ndechimwe chezvikonzero zvakajairika nei vachiparadzanisa nekukurumidza kupfuura ngochani uye ngochani.
Nekudaro, iro rakakosha lesbian pabonde kuraira kuyedza tsika yekuita bonde uye kuyedza zvinhu zvitsva kubatsira kuchengetedza bonde repabonde kwenguva yakareba.
- Rangarira simba rekubata
Mumazuva ekutanga ekudanana kwako, pamwe maibata kakawanda. Asi ikozvino zvauri mune yakasimbiswa muchato, iwe unogona kukanganwa kukosha kweganda kune ganda kusangana.
Bata ruoko rwemumwe wako kana uri kunze uye pamusoro; kukwiza mapfudzi avo iwe uchiona terevhizheni. Kusangana panyama kune kugona kuburitsa inonzwa-yakanaka mahormoni inozivikanwa seoxytocin iyo inobatsira iwe kuti unzwe uine hukama kune mumwe nemumwe.
Ita chokwadi chekubata, kunyangwe nenzira isiri yehupombwe, kamwe chete pazuva. Ichi chiyeuchidzo chakanaka chekuti munonamata zvakadii. Iyi imwe kiyi yehukama hwehukama zano kurangarira!
- Tarisa-mukati pamwe nemumwe kazhinji
Sarudza nguva yekuita "hutano hwewanano uye kugara zvakanaka" kuongorora. Iyi hurukuro inogona kuve vhiki nevhiki kana pamwedzi.
Tanga nemubvunzo wakadai sekuti "Chii chandingaite kuti hupenyu hwako huve nyore / hunakidze?" Izvi zvinovhura hurukuro nenzira yakanaka, zvichiratidza kuti unoda kunzwa kuti ungatsigire sei mumwe wako.
Chinangwa cheaya ma-check-ins ndechekudzivirira kukakavara kudiki kubva mukukura uye pamwe kuve kusingadzoreke.
Iyo zvakare nzira yakanakisa yekutora tembiricha yemuchato wako uye uve nechokwadi chekuti mose muri kuramba muchikohwa mabhenefiti emubatanidzwa wenyu.
- Usaregeredza kudiwa kwekuva wega nguva nenguva
Tsumo yekuti "kusavapo inoita kuti moyo ukure uchinakidzwa" ichokwadi kune hukama hwese, hetero uye ngochani. Kuroora hazvireve kuve kwakabatana pamwechete nguva dzese.
Vakai nenguva kubva kune mumwe nemumwe muchirongwa chenyu. Inogona kunge iri kupera kwevhiki chete ku spa, kana manheru nevabereki vako, uri wega.
Vese venguva refu vakaroora vanokuudza iwe kuti zvakakosha kushandisa nguva musiyane, kana chete kune inotapira kusangana zvakare kunoitika kana uchinge wadzokera kumba.
Izvi ndizvo zvidimbu zvakakosha zvezano revabonde kune hukama. Chinhu chakanyanya kukosha kurangarira mumuchato wevabonde kune avo vasingatore mumwe wako seasina basa uye rambai muchidanana nemoyo wese.