Zvemukati
- Zvinorevei kuti "kunzwa kubatwa" uye nei zvichikosha muhukama?
- Nzvimbo yakasurukirwa kwazvo pasirese ndeyekuroora uri wega
- Kusurukirwa muwanano zvakare chirevo chekusatendeka
- 1. Tanga nekuzvionazve
- 3. Shandira kutsvaga nzira dziri nani dzekutanga nhaurirano ine musoro
Pakati pekuparadzana kwake nemukadzi wake Katie, Ben, sekutambiswa naBruce Willis mufirimu ra1999 Nyaya Yedu, inoyeuka chiitiko che "kunzwa kubatwa" naye mukudanana kwavo kwekutanga.
Kuputsa "rusvingo rwechina, anoti kune vateereri kuti kana zvasvika kune hukama, hapana kumwe kunzwa kuri nani pasi pane" kunzwa kubatwa. "
Zvinorevei kuti "kunzwa kubatwa" uye nei zvichikosha muhukama?
Kunzwa kwawanikwa chinhu chepakati chekubudirira kusunga.
Kana iwe uchinzwa "kutorwa" neyako akakosha mamwe, iwe unonzwa kuzivikanwa, kukosheswa, kukosha uye kurarama.
Kana vaviri vakaroorana vachidanana, vanoshandisa simba rakawanda vachiisa tsoka yavo kumberi kuti vataure zvavanofarira, nhoroondo uye pachavo kune mumwe wavo mutsva. Izvi zvinogadzira chisungo chine simba kana chadzoserwa. "Kunzwa wawana" kunotungamira kune yakasimba pfungwa yekubatana.
Nehurombo, nekufamba kwenguva vakazvipira vakaroorana vanowanzo kurasikirwa neiyi pfungwa yehukama hwepedyo. Panzvimbo pekuti "vanzwe kutorwa", ivo zvino vanonzwa "kukanganikwa." Ini ndinowanzo kunzwa zvichemo mukurapa kwevaviri senge: "Mumwe wangu akabatikana nebasa kana vana kuti vatore nguva neni." "Mumwe wangu anoita seakabatikana uye asipo." "Mumwe wangu anokosha anoshandisa nguva yavo yese paFacebook kana paE-mail uye anondisiya."
Pese apa, mumwe wacho anonzwa seakakosha, "zvishoma pane" uye "kukanganikwa."
Sezvo pasina kumwe kunzwa kuri nani pasi pano pane "kunzwa kutorwa", hapana kumwe kunzwa kwakanyanya munyika kupfuura "kunzwa kukanganikwa."
Nzvimbo yakasurukirwa kwazvo pasirese ndeyekuroora uri wega
Sekutaura kwaiitwa naamai vangu, inzvimbo yakasurukirwa kwazvo pasirese kuve mumuchato wakasurukirwa. Zvemagariro sainzi inotsigira iyi njere kumusoro. Kusurukirwa kune zvakawanda zvakashata mumuviri uye nemhedzisiro mhedzisiro. Ichokwadi kutaura, kutaura zvazviri, kuti "kusurukirwa kunouraya."
Kusurukirwa muwanano zvakare chirevo chekusatendeka
Chishuwo chekubatana chakasimba zvekuti vanhu vachatsvaga kubatana kubva kuchinhu chitsva cherudo kana vasiri kunzwa kusunganidzwa pamba.
Saka, chii chingaitwe nevaviri kuti vanzwe kuwedzera "kutorwa" uye kushoma "kukanganikwa" mumichato yavo? Heano mamwe mazano.
1. Tanga nekuzvionazve
Chengeta manzwiro magazini.
Nyora zviroto zvako. Tevera zvishuwo zvako. Wedzera network yako. Usati wanyatsonzwa kusurukirwa muhukama hwako, ungangoda kutanga newe kuti uwedzere rako rekuzvibatanidza.
2. Sarudza nguva yakanaka yekutaura nemumwe wako uye taura manzwiro ako ekusurukirwa uye kusurukirwa.
Kushandisa zvirevo zvinonzi "Ini" pane kuti "Iwe" zvinobatsira zvikuru pakuita hurukuro inobudirira. Gara nemanzwiro pane kupomera. "Paunenge uri parunhare rwako husiku, ndinonzwa sekuti handikoshi uye ndakasurukirwa" zvinogona kushanda zvirinani pane "Unogara uri pafoni yako uye zvinoita kuti ndinzwe sekunge haundidi."
Kumbira zvaunoda pane kunyunyuta nezve izvo zvausingade. "Ndinoda kuti timbotora nguva yakanaka tichitaura" zvinogona kushanda zvirinani pane "Ndiri kuda kuti urege kundisiya."
3. Shandira kutsvaga nzira dziri nani dzekutanga nhaurirano ine musoro
Kutaurirana kwakanaka kunowanzo sanganisira kushandisa mibvunzo kwayo kuti uite hurukuro. Maitiro aya akafanana nekutsvaga iyo chaiyo kiyi yekuvhura kukiya.
Mibvunzo yakaipisisa yekufambisa nhaurirano ine hunyoro ndeiyi yakaita sekuti "waswera sei kubasa" kana "Waswera zvakanaka here kuchikoro."
Iyi mibvunzo ingori yakafara uye inowanzo kumutsa mhinduro yakapusa ("yakanaka") pane chero chimwe chinhu chine revo. Pane kudaro, ndinokurudzira kuti uedze nemibvunzo yakadai seiyi: "Ndeapi manzwiro emanzwiro awanzwa nhasi?", "Chii chiri kunetsa kwako kukuru?", "Pane mumwe munhu akubatsira nhasi?" kana "Chii chiri chako chikuru kudemba?".
Nepo "kunzwa kunzwirwa" ringave danho rakakosha mukukwikwidzana, zviri nyore kurasikirwa nemanzwiro aya nekufamba kwenguva zvichipiwa kumanikidza kwakawanda kunosangana nevakaroora munyika yanhasi yakabatikana. Ndinovimba, iwo mazano andakupa anozokutendera iwe nemumwe wako kuti munzwe kushoma "kukanganikwa" uyezve "kuwana" mukudyidzana kwako kunyangwe paine kumanikidza kwakawanda kwehupenyu hwazvino.