Zvemukati
- Chitendero uye kuziva kwehungwaru kunogona kutyaira pakati pevaroorani vane rudo
- Kutsvaga risi nyowani yehupenyu
- Kubatsirwa nenyonganyonga yapfuura
Makumi mana nemashanu apfuura, muna Chivabvu apfuura, ndakati: "Ndinoita". Mukutanga kwemakumi matanhatu, semwana wekurambana, ndakapika pandakaroora kuti chichava chisingaperi. Muna 1973 ini nemurume wangu takabva kuPhiladelphia kuenda kuConnecticut tatenga bhizinesi diki. Ini ndakanyoresa kuConnecticut College chikamu-nguva yekupedzisa degree rangu reBachelor.
Murume wangu aive aine chinzvimbo uye pasina nguva, takakwanisa kubuda muchikwereti, kuva nemba uye kuva vakasimba vepakati.
Tese tiri vaviri takakura tiri varombo, tichishanda zvisingaite mushure mekupedza chikoro, tichimhanyidzana kubatsira mhuri dzedu nezvakakosha. Nehupfumi kwakauya rusununguko rwakawanda rwekusarudza zvakanyanya, ndiani wandaida kuve, iye zvino sezvo hupenyu hwedu hwaive husisina kushushikana nemari.
Yangu yekutarisisa yekutanga yakange yasimuka kubva pakuda vana uye mhuri kuenda kunodzidza Psychology, kudzidza izvo zvinoita kuti vanhu vateme.
Murume wangu akatanga kuswedera padhuze nekutenda kwake, achitenda kunyaradzwa kwedu nezvinhu, zvino akada kudzamisa hupenyu hwake hwemweya. Izvo hazvina kutora nguva refu vasati varoora kurapwa yaive nzira yekuti isu titarisane neforogo iyi mumugwagwa tisina mhosva uye kupomerwa.
Semuzukuru wevakapona paHolocaust, chiKristu yakanga isiri nzira yandaigona kutora.
Kuzvipira kwemurume wangu kudzidziso dzaJesu chaive chokwadi chaidenha kutenda kwangu 'kusvika pakufa nekuda kwedu. Yaiva kurambana murunyararo.
Chitendero uye kuziva kwehungwaru kunogona kutyaira pakati pevaroorani vane rudo
Ndiani angadai akafunga kuti chitendero uye kuziva kwehungwaru kwaigona kutyaira wedge pakati pevanhu vaviri vaidanana kwazvo? Ndeapi magazini evakadzi asinga kukuudze zvemukati zvekupfeka uye maitiro ari nani pamubhedha anogona kugadzirisa chero roorano?
Ndakaenda kunopedzisa chikoro chekupedza nemari iya kubva kunharaunda yekurambana ndikadzokera kuPhiladelphia kunoteedzera MSW, iyo yandakapedza mukutanga kwema80's. Ndakafambidzana pano neapo apo nzira yangu yebasa yakazotanga kutariswa. Yakanga iri nhete kutora uye internet kufambidzana yakanga isiri chaiyo chinhu zvakadaro. Kunyangwe mangani mapofu madheti andakaedza kana kuziviswa neshamwari ini ndaisakwanisa kuzvifungidzira ndodzokera munzira yekugara nemumwe munhu, pandakango gadzirisa hupenyu ndega. Ndakagara nekusuwa kwakawanda uye ndakaputa hari yakawandisa.
Pakati pe90's ndakatamira kuSan Francisco mushure mekukudziridza kufarira kubatsira zvidhakwa nevanodhakwa zvinodhaka kuti vapore sechiremba.
Ini pachangu ndakanga ndazvidzora muna 1986 ndikanzwa rutendo nerutsigiro nenharaunda iyo yainge yandibvumidza kuti ndizive zvakadzama ndisinganetsekwe ne "matinji" nedzvinyiriro yezvakakosha mutsika. Ini ndanga ndagara ndichifora kuenda kune wangu wekuridza ngoma uye San Francisco yakandipa mukana wekutsvaga mararamiro ehupenyu, ini handina kumbofungidzira.
Kutsvaga risi nyowani yehupenyu
Ndichiri kuitisa Addiction Seminar muzhizha ra1995 yeBay Area vashandi vezvemagariro, ndakapihwa co-presenter uyo akazove Mr Right.
Kushanda pamwe chete kwakandipa mukana wekugovana kwete chete huzivi hwangu hwekupora asi zvakare kudzidza nezve kurwira kwake kuti awane hupenyu huchenjeri nenyasha dzake.
Akanga ari mubereki mumwe chete, achirera mwanakomana wake achiri kuyaruka muBerkeley uye aive asiri kukurumidza kuchinja mararamiro ake. Ini ndakanga ndavandudza tsika yekufungisisa nenharaunda muSan Francisco uye ndanga ndisingade kutamira kuEast Bay.
Nekukurumidza kumberi makore makumi maviri nematatu, isu tave vakazvipira mweya vakaroorana. Mwanakomana wake akaroora akatamira kuNYC uye isu takagara muchimiro chekupera kwevhiki neChitatu manheru pamwe neChipiri neChishanu tiri tega.
Kubatsirwa nenyonganyonga yapfuura
Mukufunga kumashure, zvese zvinonzwika zvisina basa uye ndinofungidzira kusangana pakati pemakumi mana emakore nebasa rakakura pachedu pasi pemabhanhire edu zvinhu zvakareruka. Kana kuti pamwe isu takabatsirwa nekuwanda kwekusuwa kwemoyo, kusurukirwa uye kusurukirwa zvakasangana tisati tasangana. Zvese zvandinoziva kuti zvinoshanda kwatiri.
Ndiri kunzwa ndakachengeteka uye ndakazvipira kuhukama hwedu kunyangwe kushayikwa kwechimiro chekunze cherezenisi remuchato. Kuroora mukadzi mumwe chete kwave kusarudza kwedu tese uye rusununguko rwekuva pamwe chete kana kwete neimwe nzira zvinoita kuti kuda kurambe kuripo. Ini ndinotendeuka makumi manomwe anotevera gore uye ndinotora zuva rega rega sekuuya kwaro. Ini ndinofungidzira ini pakupedzisira ndinonzwa ndakakomborerwa, makore ese aya gare gare, kuti ini ndakanyatsoroora uye zvakanyanyisa kuroora.