Zvemukati
- Chii chinonzi narcissist?
- Chii chinonzi gaslighting?
- Mumvuri wekubatidza gasi
- Ko narcissist vanoziva ivo vari kupenya gasi?
- Ndinoita sei nekubatirana neumwe wangu gasi?
Iwe wakaroora narcissist here? Iwe unofunga mumwe wako ari narcissist? Iwe uri kunetseka nezvekuwana girazi?
Heano madudziro emazwi aya uye nzira dzaungatore kuti usabiridzira
Chii chinonzi narcissist?
Narcissist mamiriro epfungwa apo vanotambura vane manyepo, mweya wakakosheswa wekukosha kwavo uye kukosha kwavo. Pamwe chete neizvozvo, ivo vanoda zvakanyanyisa kutarisirwa uye kuyemurwa, zvakare kukudziridza kushomeka kwakanyanya kwekunzwira tsitsi kune vamwe.
Narcissism yakanyanya kuoma kuongorora uye kupatsanuka kubva kuzvivimba-kwakanyanya uye jongwe. Nekuda kweizvozvo, vazhinji vachapinda muhukama neve narcissist vasingazive mamiriro avo epfungwa kusvikira zviratidzo zvekushungurudzwa pamoyo zvikaonekwa, zvinogona kuve mwedzi gare gare.
Unogona kushamisika kuziva kuti vangangoita 7.7% yevarume uye 4.8% yevakadzi vanokudziridza NPD panguva yeupenyu hwavo, sekureva kwakaitwa neNational Institute of Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism. Uye hunhu uhwu hunofungidzirwa kuti hunoshandiswa zvakanyanya pasocial media, kunyanya kutumira kwemifananidzo uye selfies kunoguma nekuwedzera kunotevera kwe narcissism.
Kana iwe wakaroora narcissist, saka kupatsanura nzira dzako kubva kwavari kunenge kuri kunyengera. Asi usati washanyira gweta rekurambana, ita shuwa kuti wakaroora kune mumwe. Mushure mezvose, kune mashoma matipi ekurambana hunhu-hwekupokana hunhu.
Tarisa uone izvo zvinopenya zviratidzo iwe wakaroora kune narcissist uye utsvage nzira dzekusiya narcissist.
Kune akatiwandei maitiro akajairika eva narcissist uye girazi magetsi anoratidza kuti hapana musiyano mukuru pakati pezviviri. Muchokwadi, masocialopaths uye narcissists vanoshandisa hunyanzvi hwekubatidza gasi kudzora vamwe vavo nekuvashandisa.
Kana iwe wakaroora kune narcissist, saka iwe ungangove unova nyajambwa wekubatidza gasi nekukurumidza kana gare gare. Asi unoziva sei zviratidzo iwe uri nyajambwa wekubatidza gasi? Izvi zvisati zvaitika, zvakakosha kuti udzidze zvinhu zvishoma nezve girazi rinozvibatidza pachako.
Chii chinonzi gaslighting?
Kuvhenekesa gasi ndiyo yekutanga fomu yekushungurudzwa kwepfungwa kunoitwa narcissist.
Zvinosanganisira kubata mumwe munhu nekuvaita kuti vabvunze kusagadzikana kwavo uyezve, vawane simba pamusoro pavo. Kuvhenekera gasi kunogona kuitwa zvishoma nezvishoma uye kutora nzvimbo kwenguva yakareba saka munhu anenge achinge asingazive kubiridzira.
Kune akasiyana shades ekuvhenekesa gasi uye kana iwe wakaroora kune narcissist, iwe ungango sangana neayo kana maviri ehunhu hwayo.
Mumvuri wekubatidza gasi
Dr. Robin Stern, iye munyori webhuku, 'Iyo Gesi yekuvhenekesa Mhedzisiro', akati "Iyo Gesi reChiedza rinoguma kubva kuhukama pakati pevanhu vaviri: gasi, uyo anofanirwa kuve akarurama kuti achengetedze pfungwa yake pachezvake, uye pfungwa yake yekuva nesimba munyika; uye girobheti, uyo anobvumira muridzi wegesi kutsanangura {manzwiro ake] echokwadi nekuti anomufananidza uye anotsvaga kufarirwa naye. ”
Uyezve, National Center On Domestic Violence And The Domestic Violence Hotline yakati, "Vazhinji vakapona vakamhan'ara vavakaroorana navo vakashungurudza vakabatsira zvakanyanya kumatambudziko ehutano hwepfungwa kana kushandisa kwavo zvinhu vakatiwo vavakaroorana navo vakatyisidzira kushandisa matambudziko kana kushandiswa kwezvinhu kwavari. nezviremera zvinokosha, zvakadai sevashandi vepamutemo kana vekuchengetwa kwevana, kuvadzivisa kuwana kuchengetwa kana zvimwe zvinhu zvavaida kana zvavaida. ”
Kuvhenekerwa kwegasi kunokonzera kusahadzika uye kusanzwisisa dissonance.
Nekudaro, kana iwe wakaroora kune narcissist, iwe ungango pupurira anotevera maitiro maitiro mune mumwe wako.
- Vagadziri vemagetsi vanoziva hunyanzvi hwekuramba zviri pachena, kana vakabvunzwa pane zvavo zviito sekusatendeka
- Kunyadzisa kusinganzwisisike uye kusagadzikana kwepamoyo zvombo zvinoshandiswa nevanoshandisa gasi kuti vavhare vavakidzani pasi uye nekumanikidza vanopokana zvavanopomera
- Nzvenga kuzvidavirira kwezviito zvavo nekuzvidza vamwe vavo, uye
- Mumamiriro ezvinhu akaipisisa, Vagadziri vemagetsi vanokwanisa kutyaira vavakaroorana navo kuzviuraya
Kurapa kubva kumwenje wegesi hakusi nyore uye kune mamwe matanho ekuita basa rakadai rine hunyoro.
Ko narcissist vanoziva ivo vari kupenya gasi?
Kana iwe uri kucherechedza maitiro ekushungurudzwa kwemagetsi, asi nekuda kwekuti vanogona kunge vasingazive, hazvireve kuti iwe unofanirwa kutsungirira.
Kana iwe uri kuona zvisirizvo zviratidzo zvegirobheni kana iwe ukanetsana nemumwe wako, zvakafanira kuvhurika, vadzidzise nezvekupenya gasi uye uvataurire kuti zvinoita sei kuti unzwe. Kana ivo vakanzwisisa zvavari kuita, ivo vanobva vaine maturusi ekuchinja.
Nekudaro, kana iwe urikusangana nehurongwa hwekushungurudzwa pamoyo, zvakakodzera kuti uone mukoti wezvekuroora uye uzvionere wega kuti izvi zvinogona kugadziriswa here kana kusiya hukama, kunyanya kana zvichikuvadza hutano hwepfungwa.
Ndinoita sei nekubatirana neumwe wangu gasi?
Kana iwe uri kuvhenekerwa nemweya nemumwe wako, zvinowanzo batsira kuisa chinhambwe pakati pako nekunyengera kwepfungwa kwavari kukonzera.
Tora rwendo neshamwari kana kupedza nguva uine mhuri uye nekutora imwe nguva yekufungisisa, unogona kufunga kuti uri kuda here kushanda nemumwe wako kumisa kubatidza gasi uye kudzivirira kumwe kushungurudzwa kwepfungwa.
Kana zvirizvo, kurudzira mumwe wako kutsvaga kurapwa. VaNarcissist havakwanise kuchinja maitiro avo kana vakangobvunzwa chete, ivo vachazoda kurapwa kwakanyanya kuti vachinje.
Nhanho yekutanga yekumisa kushungurudzwa kwepfungwa kuziva chokwadi chekuti urikushandiswa. Asi kana uchinge waona zviratidzo, usaite chero chinhu, inguva yekuita kuponesa hukama hwako asi zvakanyanya kukosha, hutano hwepfungwa dzako.