Zvemukati
Tese tinogona kuzvinzwa kana tiri muhukama hwakanaka, asi isu kazhinji hatigone kuratidza kuti chii chaizvo chinoita kuti tinzwe saizvozvo.
Chii chiri kumashure kwesimba rakasimba rekubatana nemumwe wedu? Kuvimba? Kuremekedza? Kushamwaridzana? Pane zvimwe zvakawanda. Chikonzero nei tichinzwa nenzira iyoyo ndechekuti hukama hwakanaka hunotungamira kune hupenyu hune hutano hwakanyanya.
Asi kuvandudza hukama hwakanaka chinhu chinoda kuchengetedzwa. Kuchengeta iyo yakasimba uye yakagadzikana inoda yakaenzana huwandu hwebasa.
Hukama hune hutano hwakakosha kwete chete kune edu kugadzikana kwepfungwa uye kwepfungwa asi ndiwo musimboti wekupona kwedu. Kurudziro yedu yekubatana nevamwe chikamu chakakosha chezvinhu zvinoita kuti tive sezvatiri.
Tsvagurudzo dzakawanda pamusoro pemaitiro ehupenyu dzakawana hukama hwakasimba pakati pehutano hwedu nehukama hwatinochengeta, asi isu tave kuda kunyura zvakadzika nekupfuura mhedzisiro yekutsvaga.
Saka kana wanga uchinetseka kuti chii chakakosha kukosha kwehukama hwakanaka uye sei kuva nehukama hwakanaka?
Isu tave kuda kupa kujekeserwa pamusoro pekuti nei kuvaka hukama hwakanaka kunonzwa senge zvinoita uye maitiro ekuzvichengeta nenzira iyoyo.
Yako yega utopia
Sevanhu, tinogara tichitsvaga yedu "nzvimbo muzuva," nzvimbo yatinogona kudaidza yedu, nzvimbo ichatipa pfungwa yechokwadi yechinangwa.
Iyo nzvimbo isinganzwisisike, inowanzo kuverengerwa nezwi rekuti "utopia", yakatsanangurwawo kazhinji sekusavapo kana kufungidzira.
Zvakangodaro, utopias iripo, asi kwete senzvimbo dzenzvimbo. Asi, ivo vanoonekwa mukunaka kweumwe munhu munhu, mweya wemumwe.
Patinonzwa tichinyatsodiwa, tinobva tangova chikamu chechimwe chinhu chakakura. Kana paine mumwe munhu anokosha anogona kufara, kuyedza kugadzirisa nyika neimwe nzira kunova kwakanyanya kupfuura kukodzera.
Iyi pfungwa yechinangwa ndicho chinhu chakakosha chinotitadzisa kuenda muhupenyu, kuenda kumberi. Ese maquirks madiki emumwe wedu (s) anovandudza nyika yedu, uye izvi zvinova zvinhu zvinonyanya kudakadza.
Ehezve, iyo chaiyo ndege iri yakakosha zvakaenzana seiya yemanzwiro. Dzakawanda taboos dzakaita miviri yedu kuita nhare dzakakiyiwa, zvichichinja hupenyu hwedu hwepabonde kuva nzira dzakachengetedzwa.
Asi nhasi takapfuura izvo, tave kugadzikana nemaitiro matsva uye nerubatsiro rwemuviri runogona kukurudzira matunhu edu ese erogenous.
Shure kwekuyedzwa kwepabonde kunosanganisira anal orgasms kana S & M kunovimba kwakazara kune vamwe vedu - kuvimba kunogona kushandura miviri yedu kuita tembere senzvimbo dzekunamata kwechokwadi.
Kana isu takagadzirira kuzviongorora nerudo uye nerudo, yega yega inogona kuve yedu pachedu utopia - nzvimbo yatiri vechokwadi uye tiine chinangwa chakasiyana chekuzadzisa.
Saka chii chinoita hukama hwakanaka ndiko kana iwe uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge wawana utopia.
Kuputsa rusvingo rwemukati
Dambarefu raPink Floyd rine mukurumbira "Iyo Rusvingo," kunyanya rwiyo "Amai," rinotiratidza zvine mutsindo kuti tese tiri kuvaka madziro emukati kubva paudiki hwedu.
Chekutanga, tinowanzo dzivirirwa zvakanyanya nevabereki vedu; zvino isu tinoramba tichisimudzira madziro aya kwakakwirira tichiri pachedu, tisingazive kuti tiri kupwanya kuzviremekedza kwedu uye kuzviremekedza panguva imwe chete.
Kuremekedza kunova chimiro chehutongi, uye isu tinotanga kukuvadza mukati, takazviparadzanisa kubva pachedu pachedu pachedu.
Zvakanakira hukama hwakanaka ndewekuti unokwanisa kumutsiridza ruremekedzo muchimiro charo chechokwadi - sekuziva mumwe munhu, uye kukosheswa kwezvose zvinoita kuti munhu asarudzike.
Kuremekedzana muhukama kunotungamira kunzwisisana, kubvisa kudiwa kwekusimudza madziro mukati kuti tivanze nzvimbo dzisina kusimba, kutya, kana zvinhu zvatinonyara nazvo.
Kushungurudzika ndechimwe chezvivakwa zvikuru zvemadziro emukati, uye rutsigiro rwepamoyo uye rwemagariro rwunopihwa nevamwe vako zvakafanana nekutora sledgehammer kwariri.
Izvo zvave zvichiratidzwa kuti hukama hune hutano hwakasungirirwa pakuderedzwa kweiyo kushungurudzika kemikari cortisol, kunyanya mune yekugara pamwe chete.
Ehezve, kukurudzira kutendeseka uye kutaurirana kwakasununguka kwakakosha pakuita uku. Masvingo edu emukati achaputsika chete kana isu tichikwanisa kutaura nezve izvo zvatinonzwa uye kufunga nevatinoshanda navo nenzira yakajeka.
Kuremekedzana uye kunzwisisa zvinobva pakuvimbika pasina kutya kushoropodzwa. Zvakavanzika nenhema hazvina nzvimbo muhukama hwakanaka.
Kuziva zvausiri iwe
Kutyora rusvingo rwemukati hazvireve kuti isu hatidi kuve nemiganhu - ivo chikamu chakakosha zvakaenzana chehutano hwedu uye hupenyu.
Kuti tibatanidzwe zvakare nevedu pachedu pachedu, tinofanirwa kuziva zvatisiri.
Chikamu chakakura chekudyidzana munharaunda nhasi hachibvumidze isu kuzivisa vamwe izvo zvinoita kuti tigadzikane uye chii chisingagone, uye isu tinoshandisa nguva yakawanda kuita sekuti isu hatisi chinhu.
Zvichienderana nezvinotarisirwa nevamwe, tinopfeka masiki pamberi pevanhu vazhinji - vatinoshandira, vabereki, kunyangwe shamwari dzedu.
Asi nekuchengetedza hukama hwakanaka, tinokwanisa gadza miganhu yedu uye uichengete.
Vanogona kuita kunge seti yemiganhu kana mitemo muhukama, asi chokwadi ndechekuti mudiwa ane rudo anogara achida kuziva mabatiro atinoda kuitwa.
Ndicho chikonzero nei zvakakosha kuti mumwe wako azive kana iwe uchida imwe nzvimbo uye zvinopesana, pamwe nekuremekedzana zvaunoda, zvaunoda, mazano, uye maonero, kugona "kubvumirana kusabvumirana."
Hatisi kunyatsoziva miganhu yedu kudzamara taisimbisa zvakajeka. Kana tangoita saizvozvo muhukama, isu hapana chimwe chinhu chatinoda kunze kwezvimwe zvehupenyu hwedu, tichiziva zvatiri uye vatisingade kuva.
Imwe hafu
Pane chikonzero chakanaka nei shamwari dzekufungidzira dzichiitika kazhinji muhudiki. Hukama hweropa chinhu chimwe chete, asi isu tiri kuda mumwe munhu anokwanisa kutinzwisisa padanho rakadzika, sehafu yepiri yemumwe unorova moyo.
Ichi ndicho chikonzero vamwe vedu vachinzi "imwe hafu" - zvidzidzo zvakatoratidza kuti mudiwa ane rudo anogona kutibatsira kupora mushure mekuvhiyiwa moyo.
Sezvazvakaita mune inofungidzirwa shamwari, haisi mashiripiti. Izvo ndezvekuva nemumwe munhu padivi pedu anokwanisa kubvisa pfungwa dzedu kubva pakurwadziwa, anokwanisa kupa fomu rechokwadi rekusimbisa mweya.
Vadyidzani muhukama hwakanaka vanonzwa kunge zvikamu zvakarasika zvavo, pakupedzisira vabatanidzwazve. Ichi ndicho chikonzero muhukama hwakadai, tinokurudzirwa kuita shanduko maringe nehupenyu hwakanaka - kurovedza muviri, kurega kuputa, kudya zvine hutano, nezvimwe.
Kana tsoka dzakanangana nemaitiro ane hutano dzinoitwa neavo vatinonamata navo, isu tiri mukana wekuvatevera takatarisana nekusanganazve kwatange takamirira hupenyu hwedu hwese. Saka hukama hwakanaka hachisi chekungoziva zvatiri, asiwo zvatingaite.
Sezvauri kuona, hukama hwakanaka hwakafanana nenzvimbo yedu pachedu. Nzvimbo isina mukati memadziro ekutya uye kunetseka, asi iine miganhu yakagadzwa.
Nzvimbo ine yakajeka pfungwa yechinangwa apo patinogona kuve yakanakisa vhezheni yedu pachedu. Izvi ndozvazviri nezvehutano hwechokwadi nekugara zvakanaka.
Uye zvese zvinotora kuchengetedza nzvimbo tsvene yakadaro kutora njodzi nekugovana zviri kuitika mumisoro yedu nemoyo yedu nevamwe vedu vakakosha.