Zvemukati
- 1. Kurapa kwekuwana njere
- 2. Kutaurirana kwekupa mazano
- 3. Kubatanidza kurapa
- 4. Psychodynamic Couples Counselling
- 5. Gottman nzira yevakaroora kurapwa
- 6. Positive psychology couples kurapa
Kuroorana hukama hwakaoma kunzwisisa. Vaviri vaviri vanosangana nemigwagwa yakawanda munzira yewanano yavo. Vamwe vanozvikunda vega uye vamwe vanoda rubatsiro rwekunze zvishoma. Ivo vanonetseka nehukama hwavo asi vasingakwanise kuwana mhinduro kumatambudziko avo vanogona kutsvaga rubatsiro kubva kune vanopa mazano vekuroora. Varairidzi vewanano vane hunyanzvi hwekuona matambudziko muhukama; vanogona kubatsira vaviri kutsvaga, kutsvaga uye kubvisa zvipingaidzo zvinokonzeresa hukama muhukama hwavo. Izvi, zvisinei, kuwedzererwa kweizvo chaizvo kurairwa kwekuroora zvinonyatso sanganisira. Dai zvaive zvakareruka, vaviri vakatarisana nematambudziko muhukama hwavo vangadai vakananga kune vanachipangamazano, avo vangadai vakaona nekurapa matambudziko avo, uye dai pasina hukama hwakaputsika kana kurambana!
Kana iwe wakatsunga kugadzirisa hukama hwako uye uchida kutsvaga rubatsiro kubva kune wekuroora chipangamazano, chinhu chekutanga chaunofanirwa kuita kutsvaga nzira yekuraira iyo inokodzera iwe. Nhanho yechipiri ndeyekuwana akanaka chipangamazano uyo anoshandisa yako sarudzo yemaitiro ekupa mazano. Unyanzvi hwakaipa hwekupa mazano kana chipangamazano asina kugona anogona kuita kuti matambudziko emhuri yako awedzere. Pane zviitiko zvekuti vakaroorana, pasi pekutungamira kwekupa mazano zvisiri izvo vakapedzisira vagadzira nhandare muhofisi yemurapi, vakaburitsa zvakashata zvinotyisa vachipesana uye ndokufambisa hukama hwavo kusvika kumagumo.
Dambudziko rega rega remuchato rakasiyana, munhu wese muwanano akasiyana uye nekudaro nzira dzese dzekupa mazano pakuroora hadzishandi kune vese vakaroorana. Heino runyorwa rwevakaroora kurapwa nzira dzinoshandiswa kurapa hukama hukama.
1. Kurapa kwekuwana njere
Vakaroorana, vane nharo kazhinji, vanomanikidza hukama hwavo kusvika pakukona kuona matambudziko avo zvakajeka. Ivo nekusingaperi vanoramba vakatsamwira mumwe nemumwe uye kutsamwa kwavo kunoramba kuchikura. Mushure mechinguva chenguva kukakavara kwavo kunoshaya pundutso uye zvese zvavanoita neizvozvo, kupomera nekunongedzera minwe kune mumwe nemumwe.
Vakaroorana vakadaro vanofanirwa kutsvaga chipangamazano wekuroora uyo anoshandisa njere kuwana kurapwa. Nenzira iyi, chipangamazano anoongorora kudyidzana kwevaviri ava, mararamiro avo nehukama hwavo zvakaringana. Chipangamazano anounganidza dhata pamusoro pezvinoitika pakati pevaviri uye anoedza kuziva chakakonzera, chikonzero chikuru chekukonana kwavo. Ipapo, inogadzira chirongwa chekuti ungavapa sei mazano, maitiro ekugadzirisa dambudziko ravo uye nzira yekuvandudza nzira yavo yekudyidzana.
2. Kutaurirana kwekupa mazano
Dambudziko rekutaurirana ndechimwe chezvikonzero zvikuru zvinoita kuti vakaroorana vaparadzane. Kune vakaroorana vasingataure zvavanonzwa zvechokwadi nekuda kwekutya kusekwa kana kuita kuti mumwe wavo atsamwe kana kusafara. Kunyangwe izvi zvisingakonzere mhirizhonga kana makakatanwa, zvinoita kuti pave nepakati pakati pevaviri ava.
Kutaurirana-kwakanangana-vanachipangamazano kwakanyanya kukodzera kune vakadaro vakaroora. Ivo vanodzidzisa vaviri kuti nei kutaura manzwiro avo kune vavakaroorana navo kwakakosha pahukama hwavo uye nematauriro avanofanira kuita, kuti varege kukuvadza, kutsamwisa kana kutsamwisa mumwe wavo. Ivo vanobatsira kudzoreredza system yevaviri yekudyidzana uye kuzadza kusagadzikana kwemanzwiro ehukama hwavo.
3. Kubatanidza kurapa
Vakaroorana avo vakaroora kwenguva yakareba kazhinji vanowana kurasikirwa kwekudanana uye kuda muhukama hwavo. Daro remweya pakati pevaviri vacho dzimwe nguva rinokura kusvika padanho rekuti vanozeza kugovana zvavanonzwa ivo pachavo. Vanotya kuti manzwiro avo epedyo haasimbiswe kana kurambwa nevavanodanana navo, vanonzwa kupusa mukubvuma iwo manzwiro uye nekudaro ivo havadaro.
Mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro kubatanidza kurapa kunogona kubatsira mukuswededza vavakidzani padhuze nepadhuze. Iyi kurapa inokurudzira vadyidzani kuti vataure kune mumwe nemumwe nezve zvakanyanya zvakavanzika manzwiro, kunyangwe zvinhu zvidiki uye zvisina basa. Uku kuchinjana kwemanzwiro kunobatsira kumutsidzira kudanana muhukama uye kunosimbisa kutaurirana pakati pevaviri.
4. Psychodynamic Couples Counselling
Kana mumwe kana vaviri vacho vakaita zvisingaite muhukama, kusawirirana kunofanira kuitika. Chikonzero kuseri kwekusafunga kana kusagadzikana kwehunhu hunogona kuve husingafadzi ruzivo rwehucheche kana imwe diki pfungwa kusagadzikana. Vanhu vakadai vanokanganisa maonero nezvehukama hwavo uye nekudaro havagone kuita zvine hungwaru nguva dzese.
Chipangamazano we psychodynamic anogona kubatsira vanhu vakadaro nekuziva maitiro avo uye kutsanangura chikonzero chehunhu husina kujairika uye kuraira munhu akakanganiswa newavakaroorana naye nezve kugadzirisa izvo uye nekuva newanano iri nani.
5. Gottman nzira yevakaroora kurapwa
Kusanzwisisana kunogadzirawo misiyano pakati pevaviri uye zvakaoma kuti vaviri vazvigadzirise vega. Gottman nzira yevakaroora kurapwa inogona kuvabatsira kwazvo. Nenzira iyi, vakaroorana vakagadzirwa kuti varatidze yavo yeumwe neumwe mufaro, kusuwa, kushushikana, kushushikana uye tariro. Izvi zvinovabatsira kunzwisisana zvirinani uye kubvisa kusanzwisisana kwakakonzera kukakavara muhukama hwavo. Izvi zvinoita kuti vakaroorana vaonane mune imwe nyowani uye kunowedzera kuonga uye kuremekedza muhukama hwavo.
6. Positive psychology couples kurapa
Muhukama hwenguva refu mufaro uye mufaro dzimwe nguva zvinowoma uye varoorani vanokanganwa rombo rakanaka ravanaro rekuva nemumwe ane hanya uye akatsiga. Positive psychology therapy inobatsira vakaroorana kurangarira, kubvuma uye kugamuchira zvinhu zvakanaka zvinoitika muhukama hwavo mazuva ese. Mukurapa uku chipangamazano anoita kuti vaviri vacho vanyorwe zvinhu zvakavaita kuti vasekerere uye vanzwe kufara pazuva. Izvi zvinoita kuti vaviri vakaroorana vanzwe zvakanaka uye kunounza kumwe kufara muhukama hwavo.
Idzi ndidzo dzimwe dzehunyanzvi hwekupa mazano pakuroora kana kuroorwa dzinogona kubatsira vakaroorana kuziva matambudziko ari muhukama hwavo uye kunogona kuvabatsira kunatsiridza hukama hwavo.