Zvemukati
- 1. Funga nezvayo seyenyaya yekuti 'kusvika papi' iri kuratidza
- 2. Ivo nyanzvi pa "Impression Management"
- 3. Vakapihwa chipo che "Sixth Sense" kufembedza vanhu chaivo
- Zvikonzero nei zvakanyanyooma kuona narcissists uye sociopaths
- Musiyano uripo pakati pe narcissistic uye sociopathic hunhu hunhu
- Putira
Kana pakambove nenguva muhupenyu hwevanhu apo mazwi epfungwa akachinja kuita mazwi akajairika, nekusaziva kukandwa kwakatenderedza, saka zviri muzana rino ramakore. Nyanzvi kwese kwese, vatambi veTV nemamuvhi ndiyo fungidziro yakakosha inosimudzira uku kukura.
Pachinhu chidiki, tichiyera huwandu hwepfungwa dzeveruzhinji, tinotanga kufunga nezve 'Chigunwe Chidiki.' Pamugumo wakanyanyisa, tinowana hunhu kubva kuMutambo weZigaro- Ramsay Bolton. Tichivatarisa, isu tinogona kufunga kuti tinoziva izvo chaizvo zvinoreva aya maviri mazita "narcissist" uye "sociopath". Zvakaipisisa kufungidzira iko kunyepedzera kuti isu tinogona kuona nyore nyore mavara aya muhupenyu chaihwo.
Nyaya yanhasi ndeyekutsvaga kunzwisisa kwekuti ungasiyane sei pakati pevaviri vatambi- narcissist kana sociopath. Wobva wadzidza kuona mutsauko, kufanana, uye zviratidzo zvekutarisa mune chaiwo mamiriro ezvinhu.
Zviripachena, pane kunoonekwa kupindirana pakati pehunhu hunhu. Chinhu chakajairika nezve sociopath uye narcissist hunhu hunhu ndechekuti ivo vaviri vanowira muboka re "Cluster B" pakati peDSM-5 ine narcissistic, antisocial, histrionic uye borderline hunhu hunhu.
Sezvavanotaura, Hupenyu hweTV hausi chaihwo, uye zviri nyore kwazvo kuona masociopaths, narcissists kana kunyangwe avo vatinofunga vari "kure" zvakajairwa kupfuura zvazviri muhupenyu chaihwo.
Saka nekudaro, isu takanyora pasi kuti nei zvichinyanya kuoma dzimwe nguva kuona ma narcissist kana sociopaths muhupenyu hwezuva nezuva, uye zvaunogona kuita kudzivirira kukuvara kwakanyanya kubva pakutanga.
1. Funga nezvayo seyenyaya yekuti 'kusvika papi' iri kuratidza
Zvinogoneka kuti mumwe munhu aratidze zviratidzo zvechirwere asi asinga svike zviyero zvizere uye achinzi sociopath kana narcissist. Vamwe vanozvifunga kana vane vamwe “vasingafarire,” asi munhu mumwe chete haatambanudzi kusvika kumagumo ekuenderera kwehunhu hwaanoona. Zvinoreva kuti divi ravo rerima rinoitika kushoma kana kushomeka zvakanyanya izvo zvaizotarisirwa nehunhu hwakazara kana, vanotendera kushoropodzwa pahunhu hwavo kunopa mhinduro.
Narcissistic kana sociopathic vanhu vanoda kungwarira kwakanyanya uye nehanya kubata navo uye kugadzirira kumedza yavo "kwete, iwe ndiwe dambudziko dambudziko" uye kubatidza gasi pese paunongedzera chimwe chinhu mune nezve maitiro avo.
Ivo vangango ranga iwe neimwe nzira senge runyararo kana kuvharira hutsinye. Inogona kunge isinganyanyi kurebesa kana kusimba sezvingaite nehunhu hwakafanana uyo uri kumagumo ekupedzisira kwetambo.
Saka, saka tinoita sei mutsauko? Ndeipi nguva iyo mureza mutsvuku unoratidza? Huye, chimiro chakapfava chehunhu uhwu chingasapa mhedzisiro yekunyepedzera kana kugarisana nevamwe asi munhu asingatombo bvuma kuti ari kukanganisa, anotsividza uye haatomboda kubvumirana pane zviri pachena zviri pamiganhu ye "hunhu" hushoma. Zvikurukuru senge chaicho sociopath kana narcissist.
2. Ivo nyanzvi pa "Impression Management"
Kudzvinyirira manejimendi chinhu chakaoma kuongorora mumunhu, uye kana munhu achinyanya kuhuziva, zvakanyanya kuona maitiro avo ehunhu kana hunhu. Zvakatonyanya kuita sekuti iwe ungavhiringidza benzi seane njere kana rikanyarara.
Kunyangwe vanhu vane hunhu hunhu vanokwanisa kuzviratidza sevanofunga, vanoyevedza, uye vanokwanisa. Muchokwadi, vamwe vanokwanisa kukuzungunusa pasina kana chiratidzo kune kwavo divi uye iwe unotora mutoro wezvavanokanganisa uye uvabatsire kuita zvavanoda.
VaNarcissist vakanyanya kugona pazviri nekuti vane tarenda rinotyisa mukuita kuti unzwe wakakosha pese pavanenge vari pauri.
Zvakare, chokwadi chekuti narcissist anoteerera kutaridzika kwavo, vanogona dzimwe nguva kuve vanokwezva- chinova chikamu chemutambo wavo wekukwezva.
3. Vakapihwa chipo che "Sixth Sense" kufembedza vanhu chaivo
Chimwe chezvikonzero nei ma narcissist kana ma sociopaths ari kunetsa kuona mune chaiye zuva nezuva-nzanga nharaunda nharaunda nekuti vanhu ava vane chipo pakusarudza vanhu kuti vashandise. Vanhu vasina simba, vanovimba zvakanyanya uye vanowanzo gara vachitsvaga zvakanaka mune vamwe. Narcissist kana Sociopath?
Nekuti masociopaths uye narcissists vane hunyanzvi hwakanyanya uye vanokwanisa kuona vanhu "vakanaka" munharaunda, zvinova zvakaomarara vanhu vanoita kunge vakanaka kuvaona kusvikira vaita mhirizhonga huru uye isingarambike muhupenyu hwavo.
Zvakare, nekuti vazhinji vedu takanyorera kune yakajairwa kodhi yetsika yezvinonzi zvakashata uye zvakanaka, vamwe vanhu (kunyanya vanhu vane ruzivo) vanowanzo tarisa zvingangodaro "chikonzero chakanaka" nei mumwe munhu achiita "off". Ivo vanoita izvi vachibaira iyo inobatsira nzira yekuti vatarise izvo zvinogona kuve izvo hunhu matambudziko uye hunhu hunogona kuvanzwa nevanhu ava.
Mune ongororo yakaitwa mumazana emakore ekutanga, kuwanikwa kwekusaziva dissonance- ndiko kutya kwekutambudzika kwatingawana kana tikatanga kunzwa kwekusavimba, kutya kana kunetseka uye kutya pamusoro pezvatingawana nezve mudiwa. kuve iyo ingangove chikonzero chevazhinji isu kududzira zvekare chokwadi icho chinobvumirana nezvatinoda uye zvatinoda kutenda maererano nemunhu, uye kunyanya kune waunoda.
Zvikonzero nei zvakanyanyooma kuona narcissists uye sociopaths
Sociopaths uye narcissist vanhuwo zvavo sesu uye vanotaridzika chaizvo sesu tese. Muchokwadi, vamwe vanotarisa kunze kwechitarisiko chavo (narcissists) kupfuura vamwe vacho. Ivo vanogona kutove vanoshanda zvakanyanya, vanobudirira uye vakapfeka zvakanaka kupfuura isu. Hapana panyama chinovasiyanisa nesu.
Musiyano uripo pakati pe narcissistic uye sociopathic hunhu hunhu
Misiyano inozivikanwa inosanganisira:
- VaNarcissist vane mweya unoshamisa wekuzvikoshesa uye kukosha. Ivo vanogona kusimbisa zvakanyanya kubudirira kwavo kana kutarisira kuzivikanwa kupfuura vamwe
- Sociopaths inobudirira nekunyengera zvakanyanya. Ivo vanofadza kwazvo. Nekudaro, ivo vangangoda kukuziva iwe kutanga, votaura newe uye vanzwisise ako asina kusimba mapoinzi. Izvi hazvina kufanana nenarcissist.
- VaNarcissist vanogona kukuvara narcissistic kukuvadzwa kana hasha- kesi apo pavanonzwa kugumbuka zvakanyanya kana kutsamwa kana vasingakoshese nekuteerera kubva pasirese. Iko kurwisa kukuru pahunhu hwavo. Sociopaths kune rimwe divi inosangana nemanzwiro epfupi uye anozvitora zvakanyanya sevanhuwo zvavo.
- VaNarcissist vanoshandisa nehasha nekutyisidzira. Ivo vakanyanya kunyadzisa vanhu. Masociopaths anoshandisa kushandisa kumeso uye nekushandisa zvakashata zvemunhu.
Putira
Narcissist kana Sociopath? Kufanana, misiyano nezviratidzo, zvese zvakaongororwa, zvinogona kukutungamira kuchinhu chakaoma kutenda nekutenda asi chokwadi chenyaya ndechekuti vanhu ava varipo uye hauzovaparadzanisa nekutarisa kwavari.
Zvakare, mazwi maviri aya anogona kunge akashandiswa achichinjaniswa nevamwe vanhu vane simba asi, izvo hazvivape zvinoreva zvakafanana. Ivo vane misiyano yakajeka kunyangwe mumwe angave achiratidzira chero emamwe maratidziro ezvinetso izvi uye kunyanya izvo zvisina chekuita navo.