Zvemukati
- Surefire nzira dzekuchengetedza hukama hwako kana nguva dzaoma
- 1. Kunyatsoteerera
- Kubatirana nzvimbo kune mumwe nemumwe kuti ave nenguva yekuparara
- 3. Kupa / Kumbira rubatsiro
- 4. Musi wehusiku
- 5. Taura kuonga nekuonga kune mumwe nemumwe
- 6. Tsvaga hunyanzvi hwekugona kurarama, uye tsigirana hunyanzvi hwekurwisa
Musi waFebruary 14, 2018, kumwe kupfura kwakaipisisa kwechikoro kwakaitika maminetsi gumi nemashanu kubva pamba pangu, isingasviki maminetsi mashanu kubva pachikoro chemwanasikana wangu uye maminetsi gumi nemashanu kubva pane yangu yekuzvitakura muBoca Raton.
Kubva ipapo, yakawanda yangu yemahara nguva yanga yakatsaurirwa kupa pro-bono masevhisi ekushandira vechidiki, vadzidzisi nevabereki. Ndakave zvakare nhengo yebhodhi yesangano risingabatsiri kuti ndibatsire kutsigira nharaunda. Muna Kurume, ini nemurume wangu takavhara imba yedu nyowani uye tanga tiri munzira yekutama. Svondo ratakatora makiyi yaivewo vhiki yechipiri kufa kwevanhu nekuzviuraya kwakaitika muParkland.
Sei ndiri kukuudza zvese izvi?
Zvakanaka, kuva nevana vaviri vadiki (pasi pe4), kuve murapi munharaunda yaive yabatwa nenjodzi yakadai, uye kutamisazve imba yako panguva imwe chete zvinogona kunyatso kuomesa kuhukama chero hupi, uye yedu yanga isina kusiyana. Munguva dzakadai pane zvinhu zvekuita muhukama hwako kurarama nguva dzakaoma.
Surefire nzira dzekuchengetedza hukama hwako kana nguva dzaoma
Paive nenguva dzakaomarara, kunetsana uye kusawirirana pamaitiro ekushandisa nguva yedu nekubata nezvinhu zvakasiyana zvehupenyu hwedu. Izvi zvinondiunza kumusoro wenyaya ino blog - Varoorani vane hutano vanobata sei nguva dzakaomarara?
Mune mawonero angu, chinhu chekutanga chaunofanirwa kuziva ihwohwo hukama ibasa rezuva nezuva.
Kana iwe uchida kuve nehukama hwakasimba, hune hukama neako akakosha vamwe iwe unoshingairira kuushandira zuva nezuva.
Vamwe vanhu vanogona kutaura vega izvozvi - zuva nezuva? Ehe! Mazuva ese! Tsananguro ipfupi kune chirevo ichi ndeyekuti kana munhu wese ari muhukama akave nechokwadi chekuti ari kuvimbisa kuzadzisa zvido zvemumwe wake saka vari kufara nerudo rusina tsarukano nerutsigiro saka hapana chikonzero mapato ese angave asina mufaro kupfuura iwo wese, rudyi?
Ndakawana ichi chinyorwa chikuru pano, asi heano mamwe matipi andakawana achibatsira panguva yedu yakaoma.
Ndinoziva zviri nyore kutaura pane kuzviita, asi kana ukaramba uchienderana nedzimwe dzetsika idzi ndinotenda unogona kukunda chero chinhu uye zvinongokuita iwe vaviri vakasimba! Idzi inzira dzinoshanda dzekukunda chigamba chakaomarara muhukama hwako.
Ivo vaviri Dr. Gottman vakanyora yakawanda yekutsvagisa nezvenyaya iyi futi.
1. Kunyatsoteerera
Vamwe vedu zvechokwadi tinoteerera kurerutsa uye kupotsa pane zvakawanda zvinogona kubatsira hukama. Paunenge usiri kuteerera kune mumwe wako, zvinhu zvinogona kuita zvakanyanya kuomarara uye zvinoshungurudza uye zvinogona kukonzera kuti zvinhu zviwedzere kuwedzera.
Kubatirana nzvimbo kune mumwe nemumwe kuti ave nenguva yekuparara
Sezvineiwo, isu tinofanirwa kuyedza kuramba takadzikama uye nemoyo murefu kune mumwe wedu.
Nekudaro, kana uchinge uchinetseka, dzimwe nguva mumwe kana vese vari vaviri vangangoda kutsamwa uye kugadzikana. Izvi hazvina kukodzera, asi isu tese tiri vanhu uye tinogona kutyora kushushikana pane dzimwe nguva.
Ita nhamburiko yekunzwisisa uye kutsigira kana izvozvo zvikaitika. Edza kuva mvura, kana iwe uchinzwa mumwe wako ari moto. Regerera kana zvichidikanwa uye usachengete chigumbu uye bvuma kana wakanganisa.
3. Kupa / Kumbira rubatsiro
Kukumbira rubatsiro kubva kune vatinoshanda navo (uye kunyange mhuri yakatambanuka) panguva dzakaoma kunogona kuita kuti zvinhu zvive nyore. Kuita kuti mumwe wako azive kuti uri kuwana nguva yakaoma kunogona kuvatendera iwo mukana wekunzwisisa uye kushivirira. Kuziva iwe uri mudambudziko kunogona kubatsira kutaurirana maererano nazvo. Kutaurirana kwakakosha mune zvese.
4. Musi wehusiku
Kunyanya kana zvinhu zvakaoma. Iyo haifanire kunge iri yekunze inodhura, asi ingori imwe yemhando nguva pasina zvinokanganiswa kubva kuvana, shamwari, mhuri, nezvimwe.
Kuwana nguva yekubatana kune mumwe nemumwe uye kushandisa nguva yakanaka chinhu chakakosha. Kushamwaridzana chikamu chayo; bonde rinogona kunyanya kuita kuti zvinhu zvive nani. Nakidzwai pamwe chete uye muite zvinhu zvamusina kuzogona kuita kwenguva yakareba.
5. Taura kuonga nekuonga kune mumwe nemumwe
Kunyangwe zvakadaro, mumwe wako anogona kunge achiziva kuti unomuda, ita shuwa yekuvayeuchidza nezvazvo uchishandisa yavo yerudo mutauro (hauzive kuti chii? Quiz apa). Kuita kuti mumwe munhu anzwe kudiwa uye kukosheswa kunogona kubatsira zvakanyanya panguva yedambudziko.
6. Tsvaga hunyanzvi hwekugona kurarama, uye tsigirana hunyanzvi hwekurwisa
Kuve neyako yega nguva yekuita chimwe chinhu chaunoda uye wako waangangodaro asingade kuita kune hutano zvakare. Kushamwaridzana nevakomana / vasikana kamwechete mune imwe nguva kuri kuita kuti hukama husimbe nguva zhinji, zvinobatsira kuvaka kuvimba.
Kana zvichikuomera kuti uwane iwo hunyanzvi hwekugadzirisa wega iwe unogona kugara uchienda kune rubatsiro rwekunze uye kuona murapi uyo anoshanda mune vakaroorana anoshanda. Kana muine chero mubvunzo ini kana mumwe munhu kubva kuchikwata changu anogona kubatsira pano.