Zvemukati
- Zvinhu zvina zvakakosha zvakanyanya kubvisa muhukama hwako
- 1. Kuderera kunoshamisa kwesimba risina kunaka
- 2. Bvisa hunhu hwehasha
- 3. Kudana zita kunofanira kupera
- 4. Bvisa zvese zvinodhaka
- Zvine musoro here izvozvo?
Hukama hwako huri mudambudziko here? Hausi wega. Hukama hwakawanda huri mudambudziko rakakomba nhasi, uye vanhu vakawandisa havana zano rekutangira kuti vachengetedze rudo rwavaitarisira kuti rungagare kwehupenyu hwese. Kutora bvunzo, "Hukama hwangu huri mudambudziko" bvunzo inogona kuve chishandiso chinobatsira kuona chero mireza mitsvuku yedambudziko muhukama hwako hweparadhiso.
Kwemakore makumi maviri nemapfumbamwe apfuura, munyori wekutanga anotengesa zvakanyanya, chipangamazano uye Murairidzi Woupenyu David Essel anga achibatsira vanhu kuti vanzwisise mitemo ine simba inofanirwa kutevedzwa kuitira kuchengetedza hukama huri pamatombo.
Hukama mudambudziko? Usatarisa kumberi.
Zvinhu zvina zvakakosha zvakanyanya kubvisa muhukama hwako
Kana iwe ukazviwana iwe uchibvunza iwo mubvunzo, hukama hwangu huri mudambudziko, heino rubatsiro rwakakodzera kuti uzive zvekuita kana hukama hwako huri munjodzi. Pazasi paDavid anogovera zvinhu zvina zvakakosha kubvisa muhukama hwako, kana iwe uchida kuti ive nemukana wekurwa kuti ubudirire.
“Makore makumi matatu apfuura, gore rekutanga randakashanda zviri pamutemo sa chipangamazano uye neLife Coach, ndakarohwa nemamiriro ezvinhu andaisaziva zvekuita nawo.
Mumwe murume nemukadzi wake vanga vakaroora kwemakore makumi matatu, uye pavakauya muhofisi mangu vakaudza kuti vange vachirwira sekatsi nembwa kweane makumi maviri nemasere emakore iwayo.
Uye ivo vaviri vaitaridza sekuti vanga vachirwa kwemakore makumi maviri nemasere. Hukama mudambudziko? Hapana fungidziro.
Vakanga vapererwa. Kuneta. Inotsamwa. Havana kukwanisa kunzwa chinhu mumwe nemumwe chaaitaura muchikamu chedu, zvirinani muchikamu chedu chekutanga, nekuti ivo vaive vazere nehukasha nehumwe hunhu hunouya nehukama hwakawanda hunotyisa. Kuzadzwa nehasha ndechimwe chezviratidzo zvina zvekuti hukama hwenyu huri mudambudziko.
Zvandakaita navo, chinhu chimwe chete chandakaita kwemakore makumi matatu apfuura nevarume kuti vakunde kukundikana muhukama, kubva pasirese, ndechekuti ndakavabvisa zvakanyanya zvinhu zvina zvinotevera muhukama kuti chipa mukana, kuichinja kubva pahukama mudambudziko kuenda kuhukama hunofadza.
1. Kuderera kunoshamisa kwesimba risina kunaka
Ikoko kunofanirwa kuve nekuderera kunoshamisa musimba rakaipa rakagadzwa pakati pevanhu vaviri muhukama.
Uye imwe yenzira dzatinoita izvi, ndezvekuti isu tinovadzidzisa hunyanzvi hwekuregedza.
Zvinoreva izvi, kuti kana mumwe wavo, pavanoona hukama hwuchidzokera mune imwe nharo, mumwe mutambo wekupa mhosva, kuti mumwe wevakaroora kana asiri ivo vaviri vanofanira kutora mweya, uye kumbomira, vozodzokorora chimwe chinhu. zvakafanana nezvinotevera:
“Mudiwa, ndinokuda, uye ndinoda chaizvo kugara tese. Asi isu tiri kuenda pasi nenzira inozopedzisira mune imwe nharo inotyisa. Saka ndiri kuzobvisa. Ndiri kumbofamba famba, ndinodzoka muawa imwe chete, regai tione kana tichigona kutaura nezvazvo ipapo zvishoma nehasha uye ruvengo. "
Mune zvese zvazviri, zvakanakira vaviri vakaroorana kuti vakwanise kuita izvi, asi sezvandinoudza vanhu vandinoshanda navo nhasi, kazhinji pane munhu mumwe muhukama anoda kutora basa rekuve iye anoregedza kazhinji.
Kuregedza hazvireve kuti iwe unorega zvaunotenda masisitimu, asi zvinoreva kuti unomisa simba rakaipa, hasha, hasha, kuenderera kwemashoko zvinyorwa kana hondo dzemashoko uye unozviita nekuti urikuda kuyedza kamwe chete hukama hwakanakisa kutenderedza.
2. Bvisa hunhu hwehasha
Ichi chechipiri, uye chakakosha chikamu chekudzorera rudo.
Kusazvibata zvine hukasha, kunoitika kana iwe uri mune yekukakavara nemudiwa wako, uye ivo vanokutumira mameseji uye panzvimbo yekupindura iwo mavara, uye ngatimbofungidzira kuti iwo mavara akanaka, kuti iwe wafunga kuti uchavaita kuti vamirire maawa maviri kana mana kana matanhatu kana masere maawa usati wapindura.
Ndo kunonzi kungoita zvechisimba.
Uye usafunge kwekanguva kuti mumwe wako haazive zvauri kuita nekushayikwa kwako kwemhinduro kumeseji yavo. Ivo vanonyatso ziva kuti urikudhonza kumwe kungoita zvechisimba kufamba.
Bvisa hunhu hwese hwehukasha, tarisana nematambudziko musoro-mberi, kuti ugozvipa iwe mukana wekuponesa hukama.
3. Kudana zita kunofanira kupera
Chimwe chezviratidzo chekuti hukama hwenyu husiri kushanda ndipo pamuri mese, kana mumwe wenyu achitsvaga kutumidza zita. Kudana zita kunofanira kupera! Kwemakore anodarika makumi matatu, ndakaita kuti vakaroorana vauye kuzondiudza kuti vanga vachishevedza mumwe wavo mazita ese mubhuku amunogona kufungidzira kwemakore gumi, gumi nemashanu kana makumi maviri apfuura.
Izvi zvinofanirwa kumira kana paine mukana wekuponesa hukama.
Kusheedza mazita kunogadzira kuzvidzivirira, kudana mazita kunogadzira mweya unoshamisa wakashata, uye kana ukangotanga kushandisa-kushevedza senge nzira yekuisa mumwe wako pasi, havazombokuvimba zvakare. Vimba neni pane ino.
4. Bvisa zvese zvinodhaka
Ndinoziva izvi zvinoita sezviri pachena handiti?
Saka vazhinji vakaroorana vandakashanda navo mune idzi nyonganiso uye nemitambo-yakavakirwa hukama, vari kurasikirwa zano rerudo kune mumwe nemumwe, zvakare vanorwa nezvinodhakwa.
Inogona kunge iri doro, kana imwe mhando yechinodhaka, kushandisa zvakapfurikidza, kunyanya kudya, kunyanya kushanda, Chero chii chinodhakwa kana kutsamira patinofanira kuzvimisa izvozvi kuti tipe hukama mukana wekupora.
Iwe unozoona mune ino chinyorwa ini handina kutaura chinhu chimwe nezvekuyedza kuita zvakanaka zvinhu muhukama kuti uchengetedze.
Uye nei zvakadaro? Nekuti kana tikasabvisa zviri pamusoro, kana tikasaderedza simba risina kunaka, kana tikasaderedza uye kubvisa hunhu hwehasha pamwe nekudana mazita pamwe nezvinodhaka zvinogona kunge zviripo, hapana nzira mugehena chero mafambiro akanaka munyika yehukama uye rudo zvichave nechero yekusingaperi kukanganisa.
Zvine musoro here izvozvo?
Kana hukama hwako huri mudambudziko, svikira kune mupi wezano, Life Coach kana mushumiri kuti uwane rubatsiro.
Uye paunenge uchidaro, bvisa zvinhu zvina zvataurwa pamusoro zvinoitika muhukama hwese husina kushanda, uye unogona kunge uri munzira yako kuti udzidze kuwedzera kuzvininipisa, kutambura uye kuvhurika murudo maringe nekuvharwa murudo nemaitiro. izvo vazhinji vedu tinoshandisa.
Rudo harumbofi rwakakwanira kuchengetedza hukama. Zvinotora zvakawanda kupfuura rudo. Zvinotora pfungwa. Zvinotora njere.
Zvinotora kutevera rairo yakanyorwa muchinyorwa chiri pamusoro. Iyo zvakare ingave iri zano rakanaka kutsvaga kurudziro kubva kuhukama mune anonetsa makotesheni. Kana hukama hwehukama hukanganisa iwe simba rako repfungwa nemuviri, hukama hwekunetsa makotesheni anogona kuve mwenje wetariro unopa simba mukati mako kugadzirisa zvinhu.
Uye kana mushure mezvose, iwe uchiri kuona zvinoratidza kuti hukama hwako hwapera, zvakanak kugura hukama, siya hunhu hwehukama hwehukama woita kutanga kutsva.
Basa raDavid Essel rinotsigirwa zvikuru nevanhu vakaita saMushakabvu Wayne Dyer, uye mukurumbira Jenny Mccarthy anoti "David Essel ndiye mutungamiri mutsva wesangano rakanaka rekufunga.
“Ndiye munyori wemabhuku gumi, mana awo ave anotengesa zvakanyanya. Marriage.com yakasimbisa David semumwe wevakuru vehukama hwehukama uye nyanzvi munyika.