Zvemukati
- 1. Bvunza zvaunofunga
- 2. Dzidza kuziva manzwiro ako
- 3. Dzidzira kushandisa nguva uri wega
- 4. Tsamira mukusagadzikana
- 5. Dzidzira kuita sarudzo
- 6. Bvumira nzvimbo yekutarisana
- 7. Kumbira rubatsiro
- 8. Dzidza kuti "Kwete"
- 9. Zvicherechedze nemaziso emudiwa
- 10. Tsvaga izwi rako
Kunyange chiri chiratidzo chehukama hune hutano kubvumira mumwe wako kuti akutsigire panyama, nepfungwa, uye nemanzwiro, mafungu anokurumidza kushanduka kuve asina hutano kana tikabvaruka kubva pakukwanisa kwedu kuzvitsigira pachedu uye nekurwisa kukunda kuzvimirira.
Hukama hwakazvimiririra hunoreva kushaikwa kwehutano uye kuomerera.
Kuti chisungo cherudo chirarame uye chibudirire zvakakosha kuti ushandure hukama hwakazvimirira, rega kuputsa zvido zvako uye pfungwa yekuzvikoshesa, uye dzokera pane chakanakira neumwe wako.
Kune iwo iwo mapateni anosimudzira kubatana uye kubatana, kana uchiwedzeredzwa, zvinotitungamirawo mukusungwa pamoyo mukati mehukama hwedu.
Ndipo apo mumwe anotanga kutsvaga rubatsiro rwehukama muhukama, uye nekutyora kutenderera kwehukama hwakavimbika.
Sekureva kwenyanzvi dzenyaya yekuteedzana muhukama, kuporesa hukama kubva mukuenderana kunova chiitiko chinonetsa, sekunge chisina kusiiwa chisingarapwa, chinotonyanya kuwedzera nekufamba kwenguva.
Isu takasiiwa tichirwira nemibvunzo, "yekukunda kuzvimirira sei?", Tichitsvaga nzira dzakasiyana dzinopa rubatsiro rwekuenderana, kuti tikwanise kushandura hukama hwehukama uye tirege kuzviona isu pachedu.
Mukuita kwekusanganisa hupenyu huviri, pane zvinotaurwa uye zvisina kutaurwa zvibvumirano zvekuti izvi zvinotamba sei, uye usati wazviziva, zvinogona kutaridzika kunge hupenyu humwe chete hunotsigirwa nevanhu vaviri.
Uyezve, tarisa izvi:
Kana iwe wakazviwana iwe uri mune aya mapatani e codependency, heino nzira gumi dzekumisazve gwara rine hutano uye kugadzirisa hukama hwakazvimirira.
Matipi gumi ekukunda codependency muhukama
1. Bvunza zvaunofunga
Mukati mekodependency maitiro, zvinowanzoitika kuti isu takarasika nzira yedu mukuita sarudzo mukati mehukama. Zvibvunze kana izvo zvinangwa zvako zviri zvakanyanya kukubatsira iwe kana zvemumwe wako.
Patinozviwana kugara tichiisa zvido zvemumwe wedu mberi kwezvedu, tinova vanowanzo tenderera kuzvishaya hanya isu uye kuvaka chigumbu kune mumwe wedu.
Kunzwisisa chinangwa chiri kumashure kwemaitiro edu kunotipa mukana weku ita kubva panzvimbo yekupihwa simba, pane kuita kune anoonekwa manzwiro eumwe wedu.
2. Dzidza kuziva manzwiro ako
Imwe yemasimba akajairika mukati mekodhidhiency ndeyekunyanyisa-kuziva nemanzwiro eumwe wedu, uye kusazivisa nemanzwiro edu pachedu.. Kunzwa kunopa hupfumi hwemashoko uye kutungamira.
Nekudaro, kana isu tichigara tichipa tarisiro yakawanda kumanzwiro eumwe wedu, isu zvakanyanya sezvingabvira tiri kuita nenzira yekuvashumira nekuvatarisisa, zvisinei nemanzwiro edu pachedu.
Kunyanya patinogona kuziva manzwiro edu pachedu, kunyanya patinogona kutanga kuita kune zvatinoda uye kugadzirisa hukama hwakazvimirira.
3. Dzidzira kushandisa nguva uri wega
Maitiro ekuzvimiririra anotanga kusimuka patinotanga kushandisa vamwe vanhu senzira yekugadzirisa kusagadzikana kwedu uye nemanzwiro.
Kwete chete isu tinongoda yakanyarara nguva nenzvimbo yekuziva manzwiro edu, asi nguva yatinopedza tiri toga inodikanwa mukuvandudza kuvimba kuti tinogona kuzvitarisira isu pachedu nemanzwiro edu.
Kungofanana nechero hukama, kuvimba kunovakwa nekufamba kwenguva, uye hukama hwedu pachedu hauna kumbosiyana. Zvipe nguva yekuzviziva iwe kunze kwehukama hwako.
4. Tsamira mukusagadzikana
Sevanhu, isu takaomarara-tambo kuti tidzivise kurwadziwa uye kusagadzikana, izvo zvinotitungamira mukugadzira kwakapora maitiro.
Asi nepo vanhu vakagadzirwa kuti vadzivise kurwadziwa, ruzivo rwevanhu rwakagadzirirwa kuti rwusanganise.
Kana zvasvika pakuteerera kwekodhi, tinogona kuyedza kudzora ruzivo rwedu, tichidzivirira kusagadzikana uye kusagadzikana, nekunyanyisa kutarisa nekutarisira mumwe wedu.
Tsumo yekare inoti, "kana zvakanaka, ndinofara."
Kusvikira tadzidza kuti isu tine kugona uye kugona kugadzirisa izvo zvisina kugadzikana, isu ticharamba tichizviwana isu mune aya maitiro ekudzivisa.
5. Dzidzira kuita sarudzo
Kana isu tikarasa zvidimbu zvedu muhukama, isu zvakare tinorasikirwa nekwaniso yedu yekutaura zvatinoda nezvatinoda.
Zvipe wega mukana wekudzidzira kuita sarudzo.
- Taura zita resitorendi yaunoda kuenda kunodya.
- Iti "kwete" kukoka kwazvino.
Mukuzvipa iwe wega mukana wekuita sarudzo dzakadai, iwe unowana kuwedzera kuziva kwako, uye kuwedzera kuvimba mukukwanisa kwako kushandisa izwi rako.
6. Bvumira nzvimbo yekutarisana
Pakati pemapatani ekutsamira, pane dingindira rekutevedzera kudzivirira kunetsana. Tinogona kunyanyisa kutenderana nepfungwa dzeumwe wedu kuti tisapinda mukusawirirana kunogona kusagadzikana.
Kwete izvi chete zvinogona kuve zvisina hutano, zvinogona kuve zvisingaite zvisingaiti.
Muvanhu vaviri vanouya pamwechete muhukama, panofanirwa kuve nemusiyano mumaonero.
Kuzvipa mvumo yekusawirirana kunopa iwe mukana wekuti mumwe wako akuzive, uye zvinopa hukama hwako mukana wekudzidza kutaurirana.
Kukonana, kunyangwe kusingafadzi, chinhu chakakosha chekuchengetedza hukama hwakanaka.
7. Kumbira rubatsiro
Nepo maratidziro ekuteerera kwekodhi achiwanzoita senge kuvimba zvakanyanya nevamwe, hazviwanzo kunzwa kukumbira kwekusimbisa rutsigiro.
Kuzvimiririra kunoitika patinonyengedza vadyidzani kuita imwe nzira pasina kutaura nemaune zvido zvedu kana zvishuwo. Nekudaro, haisi kubva kunzvimbo yechinangwa chakaipa asi zvakanyanya kubva pakudikanwa kwekufambisa mhedzisiro inodiwa.
Kuti tityore iyi yekudyidzana yekutaurisa pateni iyo inowedzera kuenderana, isu tinofanira kutanga tadzidzira kukumbira rubatsiro.
Kutanga kudiki sezvaungangoda, pamwe kukumbira mudiwa wako kuti akupfuudzire nyama, kuti uve netsika yekuregedza pachena zvikumbiro zvekutsigirwa kuti zvinzwike.
8. Dzidza kuti "Kwete"
Kutya kurambwa ndeimwe yekutya kwakanyanya kuri pasi pemaitiro ekuteerera.
Mukutya kurambwa muhukama hwakazvimirira, tinogona kukudziridza rondedzero yekuti isu tinofanirwa kutamba chinhanho kuti tibate kukosha mukati mehukama. Izvi zvinoita kuti tirambe tiri munzira yekutaura, "hongu," kuitira kuti tigone kuita basa iri, zvisinei nezvatinoda isu pachedu.
Kana zvichinetsa kuti, "kwete," mukati mehukama, saka "hongu," ichagara ichikanganiswa.
Kusimbisa miganho ine hutano kunoda kuwedzera kwebasa redu mukati mehukama.
9. Zvicherechedze nemaziso emudiwa
Iwe waizonzwa sei dai shamwari yako yepedyo, mwana, kana mudiwa anga ari muhukama hwauinahwo?
Uyu mubvunzo unowanzo kupa hukuru hukuru mumaitiro mukati mehukama hwako ayo asisiri kukushandira iwe.
Kana iwe ukavenga kune mumwe munhu waune hanya naye kuti atore chinzvimbo chako mukati mehukama, chii chinokuchengetedza iwe kutamba iro basa
- Chii chaungatarisira kune wako waunoda?
- Ungaite sei kuti uzviwanire izvozvo wega?
Zvibvumire kutarisira zvakafanana kune iwe sezvaungaita avo vaunofarira.
10. Tsvaga izwi rako
Kazhinji hukama hunotora chikamu chechokwadi makumi mashanu / makumi mashanu, asi mapatani ekutsamira anokurudzirwa kana mumwe wako achiramba achibvuma zvishoma nzvimbo mukati mehukama.
Iyo yakawanda nzvimbo iwe yaunotendera iwe pachako kuti utore muhukama, paunowedzera iwewo kuzvipa iwe pachako mvumo yekushandisa izwi rako uye kutsigira pane zvako wega zvaunoda.
Ipa mumwe wako mukana wekukuziva zviri nani nekuita kuti izwi rako rinzwike. Kusiyana nehukama hwehukama, hukama hwakanaka hunogadzikana zvakakwana kuti upe nzvimbo yevari vaviri.