Zvemukati
- Bvarura ngano pamusoro pekuve murudo
- Huwandu hukuru hwevanhu vanoramba vakanamatira mune yakashata roorano kana nzira nzira
- Kuva usina kuroorwa hazvienzane nekusagona
- Iko kumanikidza kunoshamisa kudanana nemunhu muhupenyu
- Chiyeuchidzo chenguva dzose chekusaroora chinokanda vanhu muchizzy
- Kuzvikuvadza kuzviremekedza uye kuvimba
- 1. Kuva webasa
- 2. Kufara
- 3. Kuva murugare
- 4. Fara uye uve nerugare iwe usati waroora
- Asi kuva murudo hausi iwo mugumo wemagumo ese
- Shanda kunze kwebhokisi. Usateedzere ruzhinji zvakare
Isu tinoputirwa zuva rega rega, magazini, kushambadzira kweterevhizheni, kubvunzurudzwa muredhiyo, mablog eInternet. Chinangwa chaicho cheupenyu kutsvaga wako "mweya" uye ugare uchifara nekusingaperi.
Asi ichokwadi here ichi? Kana kuti ipropaganda, chigadzirwa chekuziva kwevanhu vazhinji chiri kutyaira vanhu munzira isiriyo muhupenyu?
Kwemakore makumi maviri nemasere apfuura, munyori wekutanga anotengesa zvakanyanya, chipangamazano uye murairidzi wehupenyu David Essel anga achibatsira kubvisa nhema pamusoro pehupenyu, rudo uye chinangwa chekuvapo kwedu.
Bvarura ngano pamusoro pekuve murudo
Pazasi, David anotaura nezveimwe yemanyepo makuru atakapihwa munzanga nhasi, uye nemabatirwo aungaita nyaya yekuva murudo.
“Kusvikira 1996, mune rangu basa semupi wezano, murairidzi wehupenyu, mutauri wepasi rese uye munyori, ndakafamba nyika ndichitaura nezvesimba rerudo ... rudo rweMweya ... Chikonzero chekuvapo kwedu chinofanirwa kunge chiri kuratidza rudo irworwo mumwe munhu.
Uye, iwe wakazvifungidzira, ini ndakanga ndafa zvisizvo.
Ini ndanga ndatenga mune yekuparadzira, iko kufenda kwekuziva, kunotisveta tese mune ino vortex, ichigadzira nyonganiso nemutambo waungatotenda.
Chii? Uku kumhura here?
Vanhu vazhinji pavanotanga kundinzwa ndichipa iyi mharidzo, vanofunga kuti ndinofanira kunge ndiri kupenga nekuti ndiri kuratidza huchokwadi hunopesana neizvo zvauchazoona, kunzwa nekuverenga munhau uye hurukuro dzinozivikanwa nhasi.
Nehurombo kune vazhinji, huzivi hwangu i100% chaiyo.
Uye ndinoziva sei izvozvo?
Huwandu hukuru hwevanhu vanoramba vakanamatira mune yakashata roorano kana nzira nzira
Tarisa hupenzi muhukama hwerudo nhasi. Yekutanga-nguva michato, 55% yavo ichaguma mukurambana.
Michato yechipiri? Huwandu hunoyamwa zvakanyanya. Zvinoenderana nezvimwe ongororo, makumi manomwe neshanu% evanhu vari muwanano yechipiri vacharambana.
Uye zvakadii nezve yakakura chikamu chevanhu vanoramba vakanamatira muhukama nemichato zvinotyisa? Sei vachigara?
Zvakanaka, chikonzero chikuru ndechekuti vanotya kuve vega. Ivo havadi kusimudza uye kutanga patsva zvakare. Zvirinani kuve nemumwe munhu pamubhedha wavo, kunyangwe kana vasingakwanise kumira mumwe nemumwe, saka kuve wega.
Uye uzivi uhu hwakabva kupi?
Kuva usina kuroorwa hazvienzane nekusagona
Iwe unazvo. Midhiya, nyaya dzerudo, mabhuku ekuzvibatsira uye nezvimwe ... Ndivanaani vari kutitungamira munzira yekuparadzwa kwedu nekutitaurira kuti dai tisina kuroora paive nechakakanganisika nesu.
Anenge makore maviri apfuura mumwe muchinda akandibata kuti ndipfuure nekosi yangu "codependency inouraya", mushure mekunge aona imwe yemavhidhiyo angu paYouTube achitaura nezve kuseka kwekumanikidza kuve murudo.
Aive chaiye mhando yemunhu, uye kune mamirioni avanhu vanoteera huzivi uhwu, avo vaisamboda kuve vega.
Akandiudza panguva yake yekutanga chikamu, kuti kunyangwe hazvo aiziva kuti chimwe chinhu chakange chakashata nemaitiro ake ehupenyu, aivenga kuve ega neChishanu manheru.
Mushure mekunge tashanda kwechinguva pamwe chete, akati kwandiri pane chimwe chikamu, "David, chinangwa chedu chekurarama hachisi chekuda mumwe munhu, uye chinangwa chakapesana chekuvapo kwedu kuve tisina kuroora uye tiri toga?"
Uye zvine musoro here? Chero nguva iyo yakakura chikamu chevanhu chakatenga mufilosofi, isu tinongotarisira kuti inofanira kunge iri chokwadi.
Asi isu tese takafa zvisirizvo kana tichitenda kuti chinangwa chekuvapo uku "kuve murudo."
Uye nei zvakadaro?
Iko kumanikidza kunoshamisa kudanana nemunhu muhupenyu
Iko kumanikidza kuri kuramba kuchichengeta vanhu vachisvetuka kubva pamubhedha mumwe kuenda kune unotevera, hukama humwe kuenda kunotevera, vachitya zvachose kuve vega muhupenyu.
Firosofi yakanaka chaizvo kana ukandibvunza, uye mhedzisiro yacho inoratidza kuti ndiri kutaura chokwadi.
Chiyeuchidzo chenguva dzose chekusaroora chinokanda vanhu muchizzy
Kana iwe usina kuroora izvozvi, ita shamwari dzako kazhinji dzichitaura kwauri kuti "ndiwe unobata zvakanyanya pasi rose, ungave sei usina kuroora?"
Rudzi irworwo rwekumanikidza, kunyanya nevakadzi, runovakanda muchizzy uye kana vakazvinzwa zvakakwana vachatora mukomana anotevera achifamba munzira uye kupinda muhukama navo, zvinozokundikana, sekungofanana nezvose zvavaimboita. hukama.
Kuzvikuvadza kuzviremekedza uye kuvimba
Kana iwe ukatakura kumanikidza, zvemukati, mupfungwa dzisinganzwisisike, Kunze mupfungwa dzinoziva, kuti chinangwa chekuvapo kwako kutsvaga mweya wako uye ugare navo, kana usiri mune hukama hwakanaka hune rudo, vanhu vazhinji vanonzwa ipapo chimwe chinhu chakakanganisika navo.
Vanowedzera kusagadzikana. Vachatanga kutsamira zvakanyanya pane chikafu sosi yekunyaradza kudzikamisa manzwiro avo, kana doro, kana chikakananda, kana terevhizheni ...Kana kubhejera. Suwa.
Zvino, usandibata zvisirizvo, ndinofunga kudanana, uye rudo, uye bonde uye zvese zvinoenderana ne "hukama hwakanaka hwehukama", hwakakosha zvakanyanya muhupenyu, asi handicho chinangwa chekuvapo kwedu.
Chii chiri chinangwa chekuvapo?
1. Kuva webasa
Kubatsira vamwe. Kuita mutsauko wakanaka pasi rino. Kusiya makuhwa nekutongwa kumashure.
2. Kufara
Zvino funga pamusoro pazvo, ndinotenda kuti chinangwa chechipiri chekuvapo kwako ndechekufara.
Kana iwe uchishushikana nezvekuva usina kuroora, kana kana iwe uri mune imwe hukama husina kutsarukana, iwe neni tese tinoziva hapana nzira yaunogona kufara. Uye kana usiri kufara? Vana vako vanotambura, uye chero ari gehena wauinaye izvozvi ari kutambura futi.
3. Kuva murugare
Ini ndinotaurira vese vatengi vangu vasina kuroorwa vari kuchema kune imwe mhando yehukama hwehukama, vane shungu dzekutsvaga mweya wavo, kuti kana iwe ukaunza rudzi irworwo rwekusuwa kunze kwenyika yekufambidzana iwe uchakwezva mumwe munhu akangofanana neane kupenga sezvamuri.
Vachave vapererwa. Vachave vakasurukirwa neChishanu manheru vachitsvaga chero munhu anozadza nzvimbo. Uye iwe uri kuzodzoka pane iyo roller coaster yehumwe hukama hwakaipa mushure meumwe.
Haisi rugare zvachose.
4. Fara uye uve nerugare iwe usati waroora
Ndinokurudzira paunenge uchiverenga chinyorwa ichi kutora ino yekupedzisira mumwoyo mako: kana iwe usingakwanise kuwana mufaro unoshamisa nekushandira vamwe, uchifara uye kuva nerunyararo iwe usati waroora, hauzombokwezva munhu ane hutano kuti ave mukati hukama ne. Hazvina kumboitika.
Vanotambura, vanhu vasina kuchengeteka vanokwezva vatungamiriri kana vamwe vanhu vanoshaya uye vasina kuchengetedzeka. Iyo nzira yenjodzi.
Saka kuraira kwangu kune vatengi vangu uye kwauri kuverenga ichi chinyorwa ndechekushandira dhongi rako kuti uwane rugare rwemukati uri wega kana usina kuroora.
Kana iwe uri muhukama hwepamoyo kana hwepanyama, kana iwe uri muhukama nemumwe munhu akapindwa muropa uye ivo vasingazvigone, bvisa gehena izvozvi.
Uye rangarira izvo zvandataura pamusoro, nezvechinangwa chaicho chehupenyu. Kuva webasa. Kufara. Kuzadzwa nerunyararo.
Kana iwe uchikwanisa kugona iye asina kuroora, iwe uri munzira yako yekutsvaga yechina chikonzero chekuvapo kwako: kuve murudo.
Asi kuva murudo hausi iwo mugumo wemagumo ese
Tarisa vanhu vakaita saAmai Teresa, Jesu Kristu, Buddha uye rondedzero inoenderera nekuenderera mberi. Vanhu vaive vasina kuroora, kwete muhukama hwerudo, asi vakaita misiyano inoshamisa muhupenyu hwavo uye nepanyika kuburikidza nekuzvipira kwavo kubasa, mufaro, uye runyararo rwemukati.
Unogona kuumba hunoshamisa rudo hukama nekushanda nemasangano kubatsira vana vokurera, vana vanoregeredzwa, mhuka dzinoshungurudzwa, mhuka dzinoregererwa, vakuru vanoregeredzwa, panyama uye nepfungwa vanopokana vanhu vasina hanya.
Rudo runouya mumhando dzakasiyana uye saizi.
Shanda kunze kwebhokisi. Usateedzere ruzhinji zvakare
Nguva inotevera paunoona bhuku rinotaura nezvechinangwa chekuvapo kwedu kuve mukudanana nemumwe munhu, kurasa iro gehena kunze kwemotokari yako.
Ndinoziva kuti kunonzi kurasa marara, asi pamwe ndizvo zvinodiwa kuti uputse ruzivo rwevanhu vazhinji, izvo zvinouya pamwe ne "kutevera mutungamiri", "chero iye ari mutungamiri," izvo zvave zvichitisimbisa pfungwa kuti titende kuti hatina kukwana zvedu.
Kuti pane chimwe chinhu chinoshaikwa kana isu tisina kuroora, kuti pane chimwe chinhu chinoshaikwa kana isu tisina hukama hwakadzama hwerudo.
Uye iwe unoziva chii chinonyanya kushayikwa kana iwe usingakwanise kufunga kuti ungafare sei uri wega? Chinangwa cheupenyu hwako. "