Zvemukati
- 1. Regedza zvakapfuura nekuzvidzora-tsitsi
- 2. Sarudza zvaunoda kunze kwehukama hutsva
- 3. Tarisa rudo uchishandisa zvishandiso zvemazuva ano
- 4. Iyo inokurumidza nzira kudanana
- 5. Maitiro ekuchengeta rudo kana uchinge wariwana
Pawaive mudiki nzira yechinyakare yekufambidzana yaive yakatwasuka: kudanana, kuroora, kuita vana. Kutsvaga rudo kunoshanda sei kana iwe wadzika nemugwagwa iwoyo, kana imwe vhezheni yacho, yatove? Iyo yekufambidzana munda wachinja, zvauri uye zvauri kutsvaga zvachinja; wachinja.
Iwe unotora newe mumazuva ekutanga uye hukama hutsva zvinhu zvese zvakagadzira hupenyu hwako: basa, vana, vazukuru, ndangariro dzevadiwa, kurwadziwa kwemoyo kubva kuhukama hwekare, imba, mararamiro, zvido zvekuzvivaraidza, nezvimwe. Nehupenyu hwese uhu hwawakararama uchiri newe uye nehupenyu hwese hwawakasiya kuti urarame pamberi pako, sei zuva rimwe, kudanana, uye kusunga pfumo panguva kana mushure mezera repakati?
1. Regedza zvakapfuura nekuzvidzora-tsitsi
Kunyangwe wawakambodanana naye akashaya kana iwe wakaparadzana, paunorasikirwa newaunoda, iwe unorasikirwa nezvinhu zvinoverengeka panguva imwe chete: iye munhu, hukama, mararamiro awakagovana, rubatsiro rwavakakupa, uye zvirongwa zvawakaita pamwechete. Kutsiva zvawakarasikirwa hazvisi nyore, asi zvakafanira; uchine hupenyu hwasara kuti urarame.
Kufambira mberi kubva pakurasikirwa hakuitike ipapo ipapo, uye hazvifanirwe kudaro. Izvo zvinoda kuzvibvumira iwe kunyatso kuchema uye kurega kuenda kune iyo tarisiro yekuti iwe unowana iyo chaiyo kopi yeako apfuura rudo. Mumwe wako anga akasiyana, uye hukama hwako hwaivewo. Hapana munhu mutsva anokwanisa kuzadza shangu dzemumwe wako wakare nenzira imwecheteyo. Zvibvumire kuti usuwa pamusoro peizvi, inzwa ese iwo manzwiro, ziva zvauri kusiya shure, uye kana uchinge uine, enda kune nhanho 2.
2. Sarudza zvaunoda kunze kwehukama hutsva
Iwe haugone kuwana rudo nyowani kana iwe usingazive zvauri kutsvaga. Nyora runyorwa rwezvinhu zvese zvaunotarisira kuwana mune mumwe wako. Funga nezve izvo iwe zvaunoda gumi rinotevera kana makumi emakore ehupenyu hwako kuti ataridzike. Ndeupi mudiwa wekufambidzana naye angave akakodzera shamwari parwendo irworwo?
Kana iwe uchida kufamba, iwe ungangoda kutsvaga mumwe munhu ari kune zvezviitiko. Kana iwe wakagara uchirota zvekuenda kune imwe imba padyo nedziva, iwe uchazoda kutsvaga mumwe munhu ari panze. Zvakare, funga nezve hunhu hwauri kutsvaga mumunhu - pfungwa yekuseka, mutsa uye tsitsi, nyota yeruzivo.
3. Tarisa rudo uchishandisa zvishandiso zvemazuva ano
Kudanana pamwe kwachinja zvakanyanya kubva panguva yekupedzisira iwe pawakazviita. Zvinogona kuita sekuvhunduka pakutanga. Asi kuve nehunyanzvi mukutsiva izvo zvawakarasikirwa zvinobatsira iwe kuvaka kusimba. Unogona kutora rubatsiro rwekufambidzana maapplication kuti uwane rudo nyowani.
Paunonyora yako mbiri uye nekuisa ako mapikicha mumaapps, iva akatendeseka uye ave echokwadi. Iyo poindi ndeyekusangana nemumwe munhu mumunhu uye edza kugadzira kubatana. Chii chiri chinangwa chekudzima makore kubva pazera rako kana masendimita kubva paurefu hwako kana iwe uchitsvaga mumwe munhu anokuda iwe iwe? Iva zvauri. Iwe unoshamisa uye unoshamisa uye unofanirwa nerudo, uye iwe unofanirwa kuve nemumwe munhu waunogona kuve wako chaiye wega naye.
4. Iyo inokurumidza nzira kudanana
Zviitiko zvinowanzo kuve zvirinani, uye nekukurumidza, nzira yekuswedera padhuze neumwe munhu kupfuura hurukuro dziri. Patinenge tichiita chimwe chinhu chinokonzeresa manzwiro emufaro kana kutya - sekuenda kukirabhu yemakomiki kana kukwira rollercoaster - uropi hwedu hunoburitsa oxytocin, inonzi "love hormone" nekuda kwezvainoita pakubatana. Panzvimbo pekuenda kunodya nemunhu waunofarira, ita chimwe chinhu chinonakidza kana chinotyisa (nenzira yakanaka) navo. Uchaswedera padhuze, nekukurumidza, nenzira iyoyo.
5. Maitiro ekuchengeta rudo kana uchinge wariwana
Kana vanhu vachiti hukama hwakanakisisa "hunotora basa," hazvireve kuti hukama ihwohwo inzwa sekushanda nesimba. Zvavanoreva ndezvekuti: hukama hwakanaka hauitike netsaona. Haisi tsaona apo vanhu vaviri vanogadzira yakachengeteka, isina mhosva nzvimbo mavanogona kugovana pachavo pachavo; sarudzo. Hutano kutaurirana hunyanzvi - kuvimbika uye kuvhurika uye kuda kuteerera nekunzwisisa - zvinotora tsika.
Kuti uchengetedze kupenya kwerudo kurarame, ita sarudzo mangwanani ega ega iwe unomuka kuti uite chimwe chinhu chinosimudzira manzwiro erudo pakati pako nemumwe wako, uye zvichidaro kuwedzera oxytocin. Kana mahormone anotyaira zvebonde achiderera paunenge uchikwegura, ndiwo mahormone erudo anozo chengetedza chishuwo ichienda. Shandisa ese mazwi nezviito kuratidza rudo, uye ronga uye ita zvinonakidza zviitiko pamwechete kuti zvinhu zviite zvine mutsindo.
Kuwana rudo nyowani kunoda kuzviziva kwako zvaunoda uye kuda kusvika kune vamwe kuti vatore chikamu mukuzvizadzisa. Uye zvinosanganisira kuzvidzora, moyo murefu, uye nepfungwa dzakashama paunowana nzira yako itsva yekumberi.