Zvemukati
- Kuremekedzana
- Vimba
- Tsigiro
- Kutendeseka
- Pfungwa yekururamisira
- Paradzanisa zvitupa
- Kukurukurirana kwakanaka
Pandinofunga nezveshoko rine hutano, ndinofunga nezve mamiriro ekugara zvakanaka; chimwe chinhu chinoshanda sezvazvinofanirwa kuve; kukura uye kukura zvakanaka; uye ndine chokwadi kuti unogona kuwedzera dzimwe tsananguro zvakare.
Ini ndichataura "hukama hwakanaka" ndichiti ndizvo chimwe chinhu chinokura, chinokura, uye chinoshanda nenzira yatakagadzirirwa kuita.
Ini ndakambonzwa mumwe munhu achiti "kuvaka hukama" vari "vanhu vaviri vanogona kutaurirana muchikepe vakananga kunzvimbo imwecheteyo, ”Saka heino tsananguro yangu izere yehukama hwakanaka.
Vanhu vaviri vanogona kuwirirana, vakananga kunzvimbo imwechete, vachiri kukura, kukura uye kukura pamwe chete nenzira inosimudzira hunhu uye mamiriro ehupenyu hweumwe neumwe. (wow, ndiyo tsananguro refu yehukama hwakanaka)
Makiyi manomwe ehukama hwakanaka
Pane makiyi manomwe andakawana pachezvangu anoshanda pamwechete kuvaka hukama hwakanaka muhupenyu hwedu.
Hukama hwakanaka hunosanganisira:
- Kuremekedzana
- Vimba
- Kutendeseka
- Tsigiro
- Kururamisira
- Paradzanisa zvitupa
- Kukurukurirana kwakanaka
Kuremekedzana
Kana rudo rwuri nzira mbiri nzira, "iwe unopa uye unogamuchira", saka ndozvakaitawo rukudzo.
Pane dzimwe nguva dzandinofunga kuti mukadzi wangu anogona kuve nehanya nezvezvinhu zvidiki-diki, zvisingakoshe muhukama hwedu hwakasimba.
Zvinhu zvakaita sekuti "ndeapi eaya mashanu mabhurauzi anotaridzika zvirinani neiyi siketi?", Panguva iyo yatatononoka kugadzwa kwedu. Panguva ino ndichafunga kuti "Ingosarudza imwe kare" asi nekuda kwekuremekedza ndingati, "iyo tsvuku inorumbidza magadzirirwo ebvudzi rako, enda neiyo (achiri kuisa yebhuruu).
Pfungwa ndeyekuti, tese tinonzwa kuti manzwiro emumwe munhu, mazano, hanya uye maitiro dzimwe nguva zvakapusa, ndine chokwadi chekuti mukadzi wangu anonzwa nenzira imwechete nezvevamwe vangu asi, isu kuremekedzana zvakakwana kuti tigamuchire mazano edu akasiyana uye tsika, tisingatarisi hutsinye, kutukana uye kusafunga nezvemanzwiro emumwe.
Vimba
Chinhu chinogona kunetsa kuwana uye kurasikirwa nyore. Imwe yenhanho dzehukama hwakanaka kuvaka nekuchengetedza kuvimba kusingazungunuke pakati pevakabatana.
Nekuda kwekuti vazhinji vedu takarwadziswa, kubatwa zvisirizvo, kusabatwa zvakanaka, kuva neukama husina kunaka, kana kuona kuti nyika inogona kuva noutsinye sei dzimwe nguva, kuvimba kwedu hakuuye nyore kana kudhura.
Kune vazhinji vedu, kuvimba kwedu hakuwanikwi nemazwi chete asi, nekuzviratidza kwavo kakawanda.
Panofanira kuve nechero chidimbu chekuvimba muhukama hwese kuti vakure vane hutano nekushanda.
Kana mukadzi wangu akabuda neshamwari uye akasara akanonoka, ndinogona kubvumira pfungwa dzangu kuzadzwa nemibvunzo yakawanda iyo inogona kukanganisa rugare rwangu uye kundiisa mune yakashata manzwiro paanodzoka. Akasangana nemumwe munhu achiri panze? Shamwari yake iri muchivande here?
Kunyange ini ndichigona kutanga kusavimba naye pasina chikonzero uye nekuwedzera kusachengeteka kwangu, ini ndinosarudza kusaita.
Ndinofanira kunge ndakura zvakakwana kuvimba kuti achachengeta kuzvipira kwake kwandiri kunyangwe tiri pamwe chete kana takaparadzana, uye ndomupa kamuri yekukura pasina kukanganisa hukama hwedu nemafungiro angu nekutya kunze kwekunge andipa humbowo husingarambike hwekusavimba naye.
Nekuda kwekuvimba, hukama hwedu hwakavhurika, huripo, hunoenda hwakasimba uye hune shungu kunyangwe kwapera makore gumi.
Tsigiro
Rutsigiro runogona kuuya nenzira dzakasiyana uye rwakanyanyisa kuti upinde muhurukuro yakazara pano asi, kune rutsigiro rwepfungwa, rutsigiro rwemuviri, rutsigiro rwepfungwa, rutsigiro rwemweya, rutsigiro rwemari etc.
Hukama hune hutano hunogadzira nharaunda inodziya uye inotsigira kwatinogona kuzvizorodza isu nekuwana simba rekuenderera zuva nezuva. Semuyenzaniso;
Mamwe mazuva Lonnie aibva kuchikoro akaneta chose mushure mezuva rinonetesa rekudzidzisa. Ini ndinowanzo bvunza, "Ranga riri zuva rako?," Izvo zvaizoburitsa mafungu ezvinetso, kushungurudzika, uye matambudziko akaitika mukati mezuva.
Izvi zvaizoenderera kwechinguva apo ini ndichingoteerera apo Lonnie achiburitsa manzwiro ake akachengetwa kubva pazuva rake ndisina kushora kana kutonga.
Mushure mekupedza ini ndaiwanzo kumuvimbisa kuti iye mudzidzisi akanaka uye achiita basa rakanaka nevana izvo zvinoita sekungodzikamisa pfungwa dzake.
Tinotsigirana munzira dzakawanda dzinotibatsira kukura uye zvese zvinobatsira kubva mukuva muhukama uye chikamu chehupenyu hweumwe neumwe.
Izvi zvinoita kuti tikweedzwe padhuze pamwe uye zvinoita kuti moto wekushuwira kwedu kune mumwe nemumwe.
Kutendeseka
Kukura sevana isu taigara tichiti, "kutendeseka ndiyo nzira yakanakisa," asi sevanhu vakuru, isu tese takadzidza kuviga chokwadi. Kunyangwe iri yekuchengetedza chiso, kuwedzera purofiti micheto, kugona mumabasa, kudzivirira kunetsana, isu tese takarasa zvimwe kana zvisiri zvese zvekuvimbika kwataive tiri vadiki.
Pane chikamu mune firimu "A Vashoma Vakanaka Varume" apo hunhu hwaJack Nicholas paaitongwa hunoti, "Chokwadi, haugone kubata chokwadi."
Dzimwe nguva isu tese tinonzwa mumwe munhu watiri kutendeka kwaari, haakwanise kubata nezvakaitika. Nekudaro, isu tinowanzo nyarara kusvika vazoziva gare gare uye mhedzisiro yacho yatowedzera.
Chimwe chezvinhu zvehukama hune hutano kuvimbika kana kuvimbika. Panofanirwa kuve neyakaenzana yekutendeseka, pasina iyo hukama husina basa.
Ini ndinotenda kutendeseka muhukama kuve kwechokwadi kwauri uye nemumwe munhu wawakapa nguva yako, simba uye nemanzwiro.
Kunyange isu tichikundikana pane izvi kamwechete kwenguva, tinoita zvese zvatinogona kuchengetedza izvi pakati pedu.
Pfungwa yekururamisira
Ini nemukadzi wangu tinowanzosvika kumba panguva chaiyo manheru ega ega nekuti kutyaira kuenda nekudzoka kubasa kwakaenzana.
Isu tese tinenge taneta, tine nzara, takashatirwa kubva kumamiriro ezvinhu ezuva uye tinongoshuvira chikafu chinopisa nemubhedha unodziya.
Zvino, nderipi basa rekugadzirira kudya kwemanheru uye kuita mabasa epamba?
Vamwe varume vangangoti, "ibasa rake, ndiye mukadzi uye mukadzi anofanira kuchengeta imba!" Vamwe vakadzi vangangoti, "ibasa rako, ndiwe murume uye murume anofanira kuchengeta mukadzi wake!"
Hezvino zvandinotaura.
Ngativei vakanaka uye tose tinobatsirana.
Sei? Zvakanaka, isu tose tinoshanda, isu vaviri tinobhadhara zvikwereti, isu vaviri takasarudza kusahaya musikana webasa, uye tese taneta pakupera kwezuva. Kana ini ndichinyatsoda kuti hukama hwedu hugare hune hutano, hatifanirwe here isu tiri vaviri kuita basa?
Ndine chokwadi chakazara kuti mhinduro ndihungu uye ndakazviratidza ichokwadi pamusoro pemakore.
Ehe hongu, ndakaedza imwe nzira, asi yaigara ichisiya hukama uchinetseka, uchishungurudza uye uchikanganisa kubatana kwedu saka heino sarudzo. Tinogona kusarudza kuve neruramisiro muzvinhu zvine chekuita nehukama uye kuva nehutano huri kukura kana kusava neruramisiro uye kuguma uri wega.
Paradzanisa zvitupa
Conrad, ndakafunga kuti tiri kutsvaga kuve mumwe muhukama hwedu, kupatsanura mazita edu kungabatsira sei kuumba hukama hwakanaka?
Ndafara kuti wabvunza.
Izvo isu zvatinowanzoita muhukama kuyedza zvakanyanya kuenzanisa zvitupa zvedu kumunhu watinaye zvekuti tinorasa nzira yedu pachedu. Izvo izvi zvinoita kuti tiite takanyanya kutsamira pavari pazvinhu zvese kubva pakutsigira kwepamoyo pasi, kune rubatsiro rwepfungwa.
Izvi zvinomboisa kusagadzikana kukuru pahukama uye kunopedza hupenyu kubva kune mumwe wavakaroorana naye nekumedza manzwiro avo, nguva, nezvimwe. Kana tichiita izvi, tinova vanovimba navo zvekuti kana tikasangwarira, tinozviteya hukama uhwu uye haugone kuenderera mberi kunyangwe usiri kushanda.
Isu tese takasiyana munzira dzakawanda uye misiyano yedu ndiyo inoita kuti yega ive yakasarudzika.
Unotenda kana kwete, misiyano iyi ndiyo inokwezva vatinoshanda navo kwatiri; iwe unofunga chii chinoitika patinotanga kufanana navo? Zvakareruka, vanofinhwa voenderera mberi.
Iwe unofanirwa kuda uye kukoshesa zvauri pamberi pekuti chero munhu angakoshe uye akufarire iwe.
Iwe ndiwe waunofanirwa kunge uri, saka chengeta chako wega, ndovaya vane chekuita newe vanokuda iwe. Pfungwa dzakasiyana, maonero nezvimwe.
Kukurukurirana kwakanaka
Zvinonyanya kusekesa kuti isu tinongobhururutsa mazwi kubva kune vamwe eardrums uye toreva kwazviri sekutaurirana. Kutaurirana kunoreva kuteerera, kunzwisisa, uye kupindura.
Uyezve tarisa:
Zvinoshamisa kuti mazwi akasiyana anoreva zvinhu zvakasiyana kuvanhu vakasiyana. Iwe unogona kutaurira mumwe wako chimwe chinhu uye kureva chinhu chimwe ivo pavanonzwa nekunzwisisa chimwe chakasiyana zvachose.
Izvo isu zvatinowanzoita mukutaurirana kuteerera apo mumwe munhu ari kutaura kuitira nzvimbo yekusvetukira mukati uye kupa edu pachedu maonero uye kuongorora mamiriro acho ezvinhu.
Uku hakusi kutaurirana kwechokwadi.
Kutaurirana kwechokwadi muhukama chero hupi kunosanganisira munhu mumwe anenge achitaura nezvenyaya iyi apo mumwe wacho anoteerera kudzamara bato rekutanga rapedza, ipapo wechipiri anodzokorora zvakanzwikwa kuti zvijekeswe uye kunzwisiswa vasati vapindura nyaya iyoyo.