Zvemukati
"Kushamwaridzana kwepamoyo chinhu chehukama hwehukama hunosiyana mukusimba kubva pahukama huchienda kune humwe uye hunosiyana kubva pane imwe nguva kuenda kune imwe, zvakanyanya sekudanana kwemuviri."
Kuvaka hukama hwehukama kunogona kutonyanya kukosha pane kutsigira kudanana kwemuchato. Muzvokwadi, hukama husina hukama hwepedyo hunogona kuparara uye kupera.
Nekudaro, nei zvakadaro kuti kunyangwe kana hukama hwehukama hwakakosha pakurarama kwemuchato, murume anodzivirira kushamwaridzana kwepamoyo uye achiona zvichinetsa kubatana nemadzimai avo.
Ichi chinyorwa chinogovana chaiwo-chaiwoiwo mienzaniso yevarume vasina kukwanisa kuwana simba uye ushingi hwekukurukura kwavo kusakwana kwemanzwiro nevakadzi vavo, izvo zvakakonzera kusagadzikana kwepamoyo muwanano yavo.
Uyezve tarisa: Zviratidzo zvinomwe anotya kushamwaridzana.
Nyaya dzehukama hwehukama hwehukama
Mumwe murume murume anehukama hwepamoyo nyaya achave nezvakawanda zvikonzero nei asingadi kuzvipira kuhukama kana kuroora.
Zvisinei, murume akaroora anozvidavirira kune mumwe munhu. Nyaya dzake hadziende dzichionekwa nekuti ane mukadzi anomuda, anomuda, uye anomucherechedza. Nyaya dzake inyaya dzake.
Murume akaroora uye murume asina murume anogona kunge aine zvakafanana nyaya dzepfungwa, asi kana murume akaroora akasashanda kuburikidza nematambudziko ake, matambudziko iwayo anogona kukanganisa hukama hwake uye pakupedzisira, imba yake.
Hukama hwehukama hwekare, kurambwa, chishuwo, uye yakaderera bonde kutyaira ndidzo dzimwe dzezvinhu zvakajairika zvehukama hwehukama mune varume.
Wese munhu anogona kutarisa kumashure kuhukama hwakapfuura uye nekunzwa manzwiro sekunge yanga ichingova nezuro apo, zvazviri, zviitiko zvakaitika makore apfuura.
Nehurombo, kana ikasiiwa isina kuongororwa uye isina kugadziriswa, dzakadai nyaya dzehukama hwehukama uye zvakashata zviitiko zvinokanganisa hukama hutsva zvisina kunaka.
Zvakaipa sei zviitiko zvinokanganisa hukama hutsva
1. Timothy anoda mukadzi wake, Angela. Anofara kuti haana kuzopedzisira aine mudiwa wake wekusekondari uyo akamhanya neshamwari yake yepamwoyo.
Zvaiita kunge zuro; akarwadziwa apo shamwari yake yepamwoyo paakamuudza kuti ivo vaive varoora, uye havana kureva kumukuvadza.
Akanga asina kana zano ravaidanana. Akanga ari vhiri rechitatu pamadheti aifunga kuti aive ake here?
Izvo zvave ikozvino makore makumi maviri kwehafu yeiyo akaroora; Timothy haakwanise kudzora muchivande kutevera mukadzi wake, Angela, kuti ave nechokwadi chekuti ari kutaura chokwadi nezvekwaanogara kana asiri naye.
Ari kuenda kubasa here? Ari kunyatso kusangana nevasikana kuti vadye here? Aitaridzika zvakanaka mangwanani ano kuti angoenda kumagirosa. Ari kuedza kusangana nemumwe munhu here? Iyi haisi mifungo yakanaka.
Timotio anoziva kuti hukama hwavo hunogona kuve nani zvakanyanya kana aigona kuzvibvumira kuvimba naye.
Anowanzo kumuudza kuti anonzwa kuti haana kuzvipa zvachose kwaari mushure memakore ese aya. Kana akabatwa achitevera Angela, anoziva kuti vacharwa zvakanyanya.
Michato mizhinji yakadzikira nekuda kwetrust nyaya neshanje. Timothy haazive chikonzero nei achibvumidza zvakapfuura kumukuvadza nenzira iyoyo.
Iye anofunga kuti hazvizokuvadza kuona nyanzvi, asi kakawanda uye, anotadza kutora matanho akakodzera kuti akunde kutya kwake.
2. Michael anoda mudzimai wake, Cindy, asi ivo vane nyaya dzekurara nekuda kwekuti anonzwa kusakwana mukufadza mukadzi wake. Anotya kurambwa mupfungwa muwanano.
Rimwe zuva, Cindy akabvisa ruoko akataura nezve "saizi haina basa" nekuti anomuda. Michael haana kumboziva kuti Cindy akamusarudza se "saizi haina basa nemurume."
Aive achinyepedzera nguva yese iyi? Munguva pfupi yapfuura, zvakamuomera kuti ave nehukama hwepamoyo naye nekuti anogara achifunga kana ari kuyera.
Michael haagone kuisa pfungwa yekuti anogona kunge asina kumukwanira, saka anoita zvikonzero zvekudzivirira hukama hwese, hwepamoyo, uye hwepanyama.
Akanzwa kuzvidzivirira uye achifunga kuti achamukuvadza riini nepfungwa dzake.
Iye zvakare akanzwa kuti kuvimba mumuchato wavo kuri panjodzi, uye kunyangwe hazvo kazhinji, anonzwa sekunge ari kuzvinyanyisa, asi haakwanise kuzviunzira kuti apfuure kutya kwake kuri kukanganisa imba yake.
3. Jimmy arikudzidzira Mukombe Wepasi Pese Wehuremu Hurema. Anoda mukadzi wake, Sandra.
Nguva nenguva, anozviwana achinzvenga kudanana naye nekuti bonde rinopedza simba rake kana ari mukurovedza.
Zvepabonde zvinorambidzwa panguva yekudzidziswa kwevhiki nhanhatu. Anoziva kuti anonzwisisa asi haasi kufara nazvo. Kamwe paanokunda, anoziva kuti zvichave zviripo.
Jimmy anoziva kuti vavariro yake iri kumuita kuti asawirirana nemukadzi wake, uye kutadza kwake kukurukura nyaya iyi pachena kuri kukanganisa hukama hwavo.
Kana akasakunda, achabuda mumutambo nekuti muchato wake unoreva zvakawanda. Kune rimwe divi, kana akakunda uye akaenderera mberi nezvake, ipapo vanofanirwa kutsvaga nzira yekusimbisa hukama hwavo hwepamoyo.
4. Jack, uyo akaroorwa naVicky, anoziva kuti anoda kuona chiremba nezve yake yakaderera bonde drive asi haagoni kuzviunza kuti azviite.
Panguva ino, Vicky ari kuomerera kuti abatsirwe. Anoita zvekugadzwa asi anokanzura kana yave nguva yekuenda. Haasati akamboita bonde repamusoro asi aisaziva kuti raive dambudziko kusvikira aroora.
Vicky mukadzi tsvarakadenga uye anofanirwa kugutswa nemurume wake, uye Jack anoyeuchidzwa nezve ichi chokwadi kasingaperi, izvo zvinoita kuti adzivise hukama hwepedyo asi hwepamoyo nemukadzi wake.
Pamwe chete, nyaya kubva kuhukama hwekare, kunyanya kuvimba uye godo, zvinogona kukanganisa hukama hwehukama muhukama kana muchato.
Pamusoro pezvo, chinzvimbo uye kudzikisira kurara pabonde zvinhu zvinopa kuti varume vadzivise hukama hwepedyo nevakaroora.
Saka, sei kubatsira murume nenyaya dzehukama? Izvo zvese zvinotanga nekutaurirana.
Kutaurirana kwakakosha kugadzirisa matambudziko ehukama hwepamoyo muwanano. Kunyangwe zvichireva kuti dzimwe nguva, vaviri vanofanira kuenda kunze kwemuchato kune munhu wavanovimba kana nyanzvi kuti vawane rubatsiro rwavanoda.