Zvemukati
Akambotarisa murume nemukadzi vakura vakaroora uye vakafunga kuti chakavanzika chavo ndechei? Kunyangwe pasina michato miviri yakafanana, tsvagiridzo inoratidza kuti michato yese inofara, inogara kwenguva refu inogoverana zviito zvishanu zvakafanana: kutaurirana, kuzvipira, mutsa, kugamuchirwa, uye rudo.
1. Kutaurirana
Chidzidzo chakaburitswa neCornell University chakawana kuti kutaurirana ndiyo nhamba yekutanga yemichato inogara. Vatsvagurudzo vakaongorora vangangoita mazana mana veAmerica makore makumi matanhatu nemashanu ekuberekwa kana kupfuura avo vanga vari muwanano kana rudo rwehukama kweanenge makore makumi matatu. Ruzhinji rwevatori vechikamu vakati vaitenda kuti matambudziko mazhinji emhuri anogona kugadziriswa nekutaurirana pachena. Saizvozvowo, vazhinji vevatori vechikamu vane michato yavo yakanga yapera vakapomera kushaikwa kwekutaurirana pakuputsika kwehukama. Kutaurirana kwakanaka pakati pevakaroorana kunobatsira kuchengetedza kuswedera pedyo uye kudanana.
Vaviri vane michato inogara kwenguva refu vanotaurirana pasina kunyepa, kupomera, kupomera, kudzinga uye kutuka. Ivo havabatidzane nematombo, kuita zvehasha, kana kudana mazita. Vakaroorana vanofara havazi ivo vane hanya nekuti ndiani ari kukanganisa, sezvavanozviona seyuniti; chinokanganisa hafu yevaviri chinokanganisa imwe, uye chakanyanya kukosha kune vaviri ava ndechekuti hukama hwakanaka.
2. Kuzvipira
Muchidzidzo chimwe chete chakaburitswa neCornell University, vaongorori vakaona kuti pfungwa yekuzvipira chinhu chakakosha mukuroora kwenguva refu. Pakati pevakuru vavakaongorora, vaongorori vakaona kuti pane kufunga zvekuroora mubatanidzwa wakanangana neshungu, vakuru vakaona muchato sechirango - chinhu chinofanira kuremekedzwa, kunyangwe nguva yehusiku yapera. Vakuru, vaongorori vakapedzisa, vakaona muchato se "wakakodzera," kunyangwe kana izvo zvaireva kuti vanofanira kurega mufaro wenguva pfupi kune chimwe chinhu chinogutsa gare gare.
Kuzvipira ndiko kunonamatira muchato wako. Mumichato ine hutano, hapana kutonga, nzendo dzekuzvipa mhosva, kana kutyisidzira kwekurambana. Vakaroorana vane hutano vanotora mhiko dzavo dzewanano zvakanyanya uye vanozvipira kune mumwe nemumwe pasina chero mamiriro. Uku kuzvipira kusingazununguki kunovaka hwaro hwerunyararo panovakirwa michato yakanaka. Kuzvipira kunoshanda seyakagadzikana, kuvapo kwakasimba kuchengetedza hukama hwakatarwa.
3. Mutsa
Kana zvasvika pakuchengeta imba yakanaka, tsumo yekare ndeyechokwadi inoti: "Tsitsi diki dzinoenda kure." Muchokwadi, vatsvagiri paUniversity yeWashington vakagadzira fomula yekufungidzira kuti muchato uchagara kwenguva yakareba sei, iine huwandu hunokwana 94 muzana. Izvo zvakakosha zvinhu zvinokanganisa kureba kwehukama? Mutsa uye rupo.
Kunyangwe zvingaite senge zvakapusa, chimbofunga: ko mutsa nerupo hazviwanzo maitiro ekutanga anokurudzirwa muhudiki uye akasimbiswa muhupenyu hwomunhu? Kushandisa mutsa nerupo kumichato uye kwenguva refu yakazvipira hukama zvinogona kunge zvakati omei, asi iyo yakakosha "goridhe mutemo" inofanira kuramba ichishandiswa. Funga nezvemabatiro aunoita nemumwe wako. Une chokwadi chekuita kana iye achitaura newe nezvebasa kana zvimwe zvinhu zvaungave usingafarire? Panzvimbo pekumuburitsa kunze, shandira kuti unganyatsoteerera sei mumwe wako, kunyangwe iwe ukawana iwo musoro wekutaurirana wakasarudzika. Edza kushandisa mutsa pane ese kutaurirana kwauinako nemumwe wako.
4. Kubvuma
Vanhu vari mumichato inofara vanobvuma zvavanotadza pamwe neizvo zveumwe wavo. Vanoziva kuti hapana munhu akakwana, saka vanotora mumwe wavo zvavari. Vanhu vari mumichato isina mufaro, kune rimwe divi, vanongoona kukanganisa kune vavakaroorana navo - uye, mune dzimwe nguva, ivo vanoto tarisa kwavo kutadza kune vavakaroorana navo. Iyi inzira yekugara uchiramba pamusoro pezvikanganiso zvavo ivo vachikura vachiwedzera kusashivirira hunhu hweumwe wavo.
Kiyi yekutambira mumwe wako pane zvaari, kuzvitambira pane zvauri. Kunyangwe iwe uchikwenya zvine ruzha zvakanyanya, kutaura zvakanyanya, kudyisa, kana kuita bonde rakasiyana newawakaroorana naye, ziva kuti izvi hazvisi zvikanganiso; mumwe wako akakusarudza, zvisinei nekukanganisa kwako kwaunoona, uye iye anokodzera kugamuchirwa kumwechetechete kubva kwauri.
5. Rudo
Izvo zvinofanirwa kuenda pasina kutaura kuti vaviri vane rudo vaviri vanofara vaviri. Izvi hazvireve kuti munhu wese anofanira kunge ari "murudo" newaakaroorana naye. Kudonha "murudo" kunenge kuri kwekungofungidzira pane kuve muhukama hwakanaka, hwakakura. Iyo fungidziro, yakasarudzika vhezheni yerudo iyo kazhinji isingagare. Hutano hwakanaka, hwakakura rudo chinhu chinoda nguva kuti chikure, pamwe nehunhu hwakanyorwa pamusoro: kutaurirana, kuzvipira, mutsa, uye kugamuchirwa. Izvi hazvireve kuti muchato une rudo haugone kuve une shungu; pane zvinopesana, kuda ndiko kunosimbisa hukama. Kana vaviri vachida, vanotaurirana vakatendeseka, vanogadzirisa kusawirirana zviri nyore, uye vanozvipira kuchengetedza hukama hwavo hwepedyo uye huri vapenyu.