Zvemukati
- Nyaya yekudzidza 1
- Huchenjeri uhu hunobva kune wechidiki.
- Nyaya yekudzidza 2
- Nhoroondo yako wega yekuti kunwa kunogona kukanganisa sei mhuri
- Yekupedzisira Kutora
Huwandu hwemhuri dzakaparadzwa nedoro muUnited States moga gore rega rega hunoshamisa.
Kwemakore makumi matatu apfuura, munyori wekutanga anotengesa zvakanyanya, chipangamazano, master Life Coach, uye gurukota David Essel vanga vachibatsira kuyedza kugadzirisa hukama hwakakanganisika zvakanyanya hwemhuri nekuda kwedoro.
Pazasi, David anotaura nezve kudiwa kwekuve wechokwadi nezve doro uye kunzwisisa kudhakwa mukati memhuri, kana iwe uchida kuve neakanakisa kupfurwa pakuve nemuchato wakakura uye vana vane hutano kwete chete izvozvi asi mune ramangwana.
Chinyorwa ichi chinoratidzawo izvo zvinokonzerwa nekudhakwa pamhuri, vakaroora, uye vana.
“Doro rinoparadza mhuri. Zvinoparadza rudo. Kunoparadza chivimbo. Zvinoparadza kuzviremekedza.
Zvinogadzira kushushikana kunoshamisa kune vana vanogara mumhuri mune doro rinoshungurudzwa.
Uye kunwa doro zvisina kufanira chinhu chiri nyore kwazvo kuitika. Vakadzi vane zvinopfuura zvinwiwa zviviri pazuva vanoonekwa sevanodhakwa, kunyangwe vachienda kunodhakwa, uye varume vanonwa zvinopfuura zvitatu pazuva vanoonekwa sevanodhakwa vachienda kunodhakwa.
Uye zvakadaro, kunyangwe neruzivo urwu, uye kunyangwe kuona sei doro rakaparadza mhuri dzakawanda kutenderera pasirese, muhofisi medu tinoenderera mberi pamwedzi wega wega kuwana mafoni kubva kumhuri dziri kuparara nekuda kwekushandisa doro.
Ndeapi matambudziko & mhedzisiro yekudhakwa pamhuri
Nyaya yekudzidza 1
Gore rakapfuura, vaviri vakauya kumisangano yekupa mazano nekuti vanga vachinetseka kweanopfuura makore makumi maviri nekunwiwa zvisina kufanira kwemurume nedoro uye hunhu hwehukama hwemukadzi, zvinoreva kuti aisamboda kuzunza chikepe kana kusangana naye nguva zhinji nezvekuti doro raiparadza imba yavo.
Mushure mekuita vana vaviri, mamiriro acho akatowedzera.
Murume anga asipo zuva rese Mugovera, kana Svondo rakazara kunze kwegorofu nekunwa neshamwari dzake chete kuti adzokere kumba akadhakwa, anoshusha pamoyo, uye asingaratidze kufarira chero kupi mukuvaraidza, kudzidzisa kana kupedza nguva nevana kunze kwekunge anwa ruoko rwake.
Pandakamubvunza kuti raimboita basa rei mukusashanda kwemuchato uye mukushushikana kwaainzwa pakati pake nevana vake vaviri, akati, "David, Doro harina basa mukusagadzikana kwemuchato, mukadzi wangu neurotic. Haana kugadzikana. Asi kunwa kwangu hakunei nazvo, ndiyo nyaya yake. ”
Mukadzi wake akabvuma kuti aivimba nekodhi, kuti aitya kuunza kunwa kwake nekuti pese paaiita, vairwa muhondo huru.
Akandiudza panguva yechirongwa kuti aigona kumira chero nguva pandakati "great! Ngatitangei nhasi. Isa doro pasi kweupenyu hwako hwese, dzosera imba yako, dzosa hukama hwako nevana vako vaviri, uye regai tione kuti zvese zvinofamba sei. "
Paaive muoffice, akandiudza pamberi pemukadzi wake kuti aizozviita.
Asi ndichienda kumba, akamuudza kuti ndaive kupenga, kuti iye aipenga, uye haatombosiya doro zvachose.
Kubva panguva iyoyo zvichienda mberi, handina kuzomuonazve, kana kuzomboshanda naye zvakare nekuda kwekuzvitutumadza kwake.
Mukadzi wake akaramba achipinda, kuyedza kufunga kuti agare here, kana kumuramba, tikazopedzisira totaura nezvekuti vana vake vari kuita sei.
Mufananidzo wacho wanga usina kunaka zvachose.
Mwana wedangwe ane makore gumi nematatu ekuberekwa, aive akazadzwa nekushushikana zvekuti vanoisa wachi yavo kuma4 AM zuva rega rega kuti vasimuke uye vafambe mumigwagwa uye masitepisi eimba yavo kuyedza kubvisa kuzvidya mwoyo.
Uye chii chaikonzera kunetseka kwake?
Amai vake pavakamubvunza, akati: "iwe nababa munogara muchipopotedzana, baba vanogara vachitaura zvinhu zvisina kunaka, uye ndinongonamata zuva rega rega kuti nemiwo mugone kudzidza kuwirirana."
Huchenjeri uhu hunobva kune wechidiki.
Mwana mudiki paaidzoka kumba achibva kuchikoro, aigara achirwa zvakanyanya nababa vake, achiramba kuita mabasa epamba, achiramba kuita homuweki, achiramba kuita chero chinhu chakabvunzwa nababa.
Uyu mwana aingova nemakore masere ekuberekwa, uye nepo aisakwanisa kuratidza hasha dzake dzinotyisa uye nekurwadziwa kuti baba vake vakanga vatomukonzera, munin'ina wake naamai vake, nzira chete yaaigona kuzviratidza yaive yekupokana nababa vake. zvishuwo zvakasimba.
Mumakore makumi matatu semupi wezano Master Life Coach, ini ndaona mutambo uyu uchitambwa uchidzokororwa kakawanda. Zvinosuruvarisa; ndezvekupenga, zvine mutsindo.
Kana iwe uri kuverenga izvozvi izvozvi uye uchida kuva ne "cocktail yako kana maviri manheru," Ndiri kuda kuti ufungezve izvi.
Kana amai nababa kana vari kunwa nguva dzose, kunyangwe imwe chete kana maviri zvinwiwa pazuva, ivo havawanikwe mune zvemweya kune mumwe uye ipapo kunyanya havawanikwe nemanzwiro evana vavo.
Chero ani anonwa zvehukama akaona mhuri yavo ichiparara airega kunwa muminiti.
Asi avo vari zvidhakwa, kana vanodhakwa nedoro, vanoshandisa kukanganisa, kudzora, kushandura musoro wenyaya uye kuti "izvi hazvinei nedoro rangu, zvinongova kuti tine vana vane hasha ... Kana kuti murume wangu anonetsa. Kana mudzimai wangu ane nzira yakanyanyisa. "
Mune mamwe mazwi, munhu ari kunetseka nedoro haazombobvuma kuti vari kutambura, ivo vanongoda kuzvipa mhosva kune vamwe vese.
Nyaya yekudzidza 2
Mumwe mutengi wandakashanda naye nguva pfupi yadarika, mukadzi akaroorwa aine vana vaviri, Svondo yega yega aiudza vana vake kuti aivabatsira nebasa ravo rechikoro, asi Svondo yaive yake "mazuva ekunwa pamagariro," kwaaifarira kuungana nevamwe vakadzi mu nharaunda uye kunwa waini masikati.
Paaidzoka kumba, aisazova nemamiriro ezvinhu kana chimiro chekubatsira vana vake nebasa ravo rechikoro.
Apo pavakaratidzira ndokuti, "amai makavimbisa kuti muchatibatsira," vanotsamwa, vaudzei kuti vakure, uye kuti vanofanirwa kunge vachidzidza zvakanyanya mukati mevhiki uye vasingasiye zvese basa ravo rechikoro kuti vaite musi weSvondo. .
Mune mamwe mazwi, iwe wakazvifungidzira, uye iye aishandisa zvinotsausa. Iye akange asingade kubvuma chinzvimbo chake mukushushikana nevana vake, Saka aizozvipa mhosva pavari, pachokwadi, ndiye aive mupomeri uye mugadziri wekunetseka kwavo.
Paunenge uri mwana mudiki, uye ukakumbira amai vako kuti vakubatsire Svondo yega yega nekuita chero chinhu, uye amai vanosarudza doro pamusoro pako, izvo zvinorwadza nenzira yakaipa kwazvo.
Vana ava vachakura vazere nekushushikana, kushushikana, kuzvitemba, kuzvitarisira pasi, uye vanogona kuzova zvidhakwa pachavo kana pavanopinda munyika yekufambidzana, vachatarisa kudanana nevanhu vakafanana chaizvo naamai vavo. nababa: vanhu vasingawanikwe pamoyo.
Nhoroondo yako wega yekuti kunwa kunogona kukanganisa sei mhuri
Semunhu aimbova chidhakwa, zvese zvandiri kunyora nezvazvo ichokwadi, uye zvaive zvechokwadi muhupenyu hwangu futi.
Pandakatanga kubatsira kurera mwana muna 1980, ndaive ndakadhakwa manheru ega ega, uye kushivirira kwangu nekuwanika kwemanzwiro kumwana mudiki uyu kwaive kusiko.
Uye ini handidade nenguva idzodzo muhupenyu hwangu, asi ndiri akatendeseka padziri.
Nekuti ini ndaigara hupenyu hwekupenga hwekuyedza kurera vana ndichichengeta doro rangu padhuze neni, ndakakunda chinangwa chose. Ndakanga ndisiri kutendeseka navo uye kana neni.
Asi zvese zvakachinja pandakasvinura, uye ndakave nebasa zvakare kubatsira kurera vana.
Ndakanga ndichiwanikwa mupfungwa. Ndaivapo. Pavairwadziwa, ndaikwanisa kugara ndichitaura nekurwadziwa kwavaienda nako.
Pavaisvetuka nemufaro, ini ndaisvetuka pamwe chete navo. Kwete kutanga kusvetuka ndozoenda kunotora imwe girazi rewaini sezvandakaita muna 1980.
Kana iwe uri mubereki uchiverenga izvi, uye iwe uchifunga kuti kunwa kwako doro kwakanaka uye hakusi kukanganisa vana vako, ndinoda kuti iwe ufunge zvakare.
Chekutanga kufamba ndiko kuenda kunoshanda nehunyanzvi, kuvhurika uye kuvimbika nezve chaiyo nhamba yezvinwiwa zvaunazvo zuva nezuva kana vhiki.
Uye chii chinonwa chinoratidzika? 4 maunzi ewaini akaenzana chinwiwa chimwe. Rimwe doro rakaenzana nechinwiwa chimwe. 1 ounce pfuti yedoro yakaenzana chinwiwa.
Yekupedzisira Kutora
Kudzokera kune vaviri vekutanga vandaishanda navo, pandakamukumbira kuti anyore pasi kuti anonwa zvakadii pazuva, izvo zvaireva kuti waifanirwa kutora girazi kunze uye kuverenga huwandu hwepfuti mune yega Tumblr yaaizadza, pakutanga akandiudza kuti aingonwa zvinwiwa zviviri chete pazuva.
Asi mukadzi wake paakaverenga huwandu hwemapfuti aakaisa mune chimwe chezviwisi zvake, zvaive zvakapfura zvina kana kudarika pachinwiwa chimwe chete!
Saka pachinwiwa chose, akandiudza kuti aive nacho, ainyatsonwa zvinwiwa zvina, kwete imwe chete.
Kuramba chikamu chine simba kwazvo chehuropi hwemunhu.
Usazviisa panjodzi yekukanganisa ramangwana revana vako. Usaite njodzi yekuparadza hukama hwako nemurume wako, mukadzi, mukomana, kana musikana.
Doro nderimwe remakuru anoparadza rudo, kuzvivimba, kuzviremekedza, uye kuzviremekedza.
Iwe uri wemuenzaniso, kana iwe unofanirwa kuve mumwe. Kana iwe usina simba rekurega kunwa nekuda kwevana vako uye nekuda kwemumwe wako, pamwe zviri nani kuti iwe usine mhuri yekutarisana nayo.
Wese munhu anenge ave zvirinani kana iwe ukangosiya mhuri kuitira kuti uchengetedze nyaradzo yedoro parutivi rwako.
Funga nezvazvo.