Zvemukati
- Kurwira kuenzanisa rusununguko nekuve chikamu chevaviri
- Tsitsi
- Kukurukurirana kwezvaunotarisira
- Kubatira pamwe
IUS inyika yakavakirwa pane zvinangwa zverusununguko uye kuzvimiririra.
MaAmerican mazhinji akasimuka kuti awane kuzvitonga uye nekutsvaga iwo mabasa ega vasati vatanga kudanana. Kutsvaga kwekuzvimiririra kunotora zvese nguva nekushivirira.
Iye zvino kupfuura nakare kose vanhu vari kumirira kwenguva yakareba kuti "vagadzikane."
Sekureva kweUS Census Bureau, avhareji zera rekuroora mumadzimai muna2017 yaive 27.4, uye yevarume, 29.5. Huwandu hwacho hunoreva kuti vanhu vari kushandisa nguva yakawanda vachivaka mabasa kana kuita zvimwe zvavanofarira panzvimbo pekuroora.
Kurwira kuenzanisa rusununguko nekuve chikamu chevaviri
Tichifunga nezve chokwadi chekuti vanhu vari kumirira kwenguva yakareba kuti vapinde muhukama hwakakomba, hazvishamise kuti vanhu vazhinji vanoita kunge vanowira pasi pavanodzidza maitiro ekuenzanisa kuzvimiririra kwavo uye kuve chikamu chevaviri.
Mune vakawanda vakaroorana, kuchinja mafungiro kubva pakufunga nezva "ini" kuenda kuna "isu" kunogona kuva kwakaoma zvikuru.
Ini ndanga ndichangobva kushanda nevakaroorana, vaviri vane makore makumi matatu ekutanga apo dambudziko iri rakatamba zvekare muhukama hwavo. Chimwe chiitiko chakadai chaive nechisarudzo chake chekuenda kunonwa doro neshamwari dzake manheru emafambiro avo vachipinda mune imwe imba ndokumusiya kuti atange basa rakaoma rekuburitsa ega.
Gare gare manheru iwayo aifanirwa kumuyamwisa kubva pakudhakwa kwake.
Muchikamu chedu, iye akataura kwaari seane udyire uye asina hanya apo aikumbira ruregerero nekunwa zvakanyanya, asi akatadza kuona kuti sei aishungurudzika nekufamba neshamwari dzake manheru iwayo.
Kubva pamaonero ake, akange apedza makore makumi matatu apfuura achinyatsoita zvaaida kuita zvisinei nekuti aida kuzviita. Akange asati amboona kudiwa kwekufunga nezve mumwe wake uye kuti anganzwa sei nekuda kwesarudzo dzaakaita.
Kubva pamaonero ake, akanzwa asingakoshi uye akadudzira maitiro ake kureva kuti aisamukoshesa kana kushandisa nguva kuvaka hupenyu hwavo pamwe chete. Mubvunzo wakave wekuti vaigona sei kudzidza kudzora shanduko yavo kubva pa "ini" kuenda ku "isu" pfungwa asi vachiramba vaine hunhu hwekuzvimiririra?
Iyi inyaya yakajairika kune vakawanda vakaroorana, uye nerombo rakanaka, kune hunyanzvi hushoma hunogona kudzidziswa kuitira kurwisa dambudziko iri.
Tsitsi
Imwe yehunyanzvi hwakakosha kugona mune chero hukama hunyanzvi hwekunzwira tsitsi.
Tsitsi ndiko kugona kunzwisisa uye kugovana manzwiro emumwe munhu. Ichi chinhu chandinogara ndichishanda pamwe nevakaroora. Tsitsi dzinonzwika zviri nyore asi dzinogona kuve dzakaomera vanhu vazhinji.
Paunenge uchidzidzira nemumwe wako, tora nguva yekuteerera nekunzwisisa zvavari kutaura usati wapindura. Mira uzvifungidzire uri mushangu dzavo, uye teerera kumanzwiro anomuka.
Izvi zvinokupa iwe pfungwa yekuti mumwe wako angave ari kubva kupi. Kana iwe usingakwanise kunzwisisa, tsanangurira mumwe wako kuti uri kunetseka kunzwisisa manzwiro avo, uye kumbira kujekeswa.
Kuita kwekunzwira tsitsi kuri kuenderera uye kunosanganisira kugara uchifunga mumwe wako uye kuyedza kuva nehanya nezvavanogona kuwana.
Kukurukurirana kwezvaunotarisira
Humwe hunyanzvi hunobatsira kugona kutaura newawakaroorana naye zvaunotarisira.
Ichi chiito chakareruka zvakare chinobatsira mukupinda mu "isu" pfungwa.
Dai mutengi ari pamusoro apa akangoita kuti chikomba chake chizive kuti aive netariro kuti angazoda kushandisa husiku hwavo hwekutanga mufurati idzva pamwe nekuti aida kukoshesa nguva iyi naye, zvaigona kunge zvakavhura musuwo kuti amufunge inoda uye zvido.
Kana isu tichive nekunzwisisa kwezvaitarisirwa nemumwe wedu, zvinotitungamira kuti tifunge nezvenzira dzakasiyana dzatinogona kuzadzisa izvo zvido uye nekuzvichengeta kumberi kwehuropi.
Vanhu havasi vaverengi vane pfungwa, uye kunze kwekunge taudza vamwe vedu izvo zvatinoshuvira, hatigone kutarisira kuti ivo neimwe nzira vazive kuti tinoda kuti vaite chimwe chinhu.
Kubatira pamwe
Imwe nzira huru yekutangisa kufunga nezwi rekuti "isu" ndeyokuita chirongwa pamwe chete chinosanganisira kushanda pamwechete sekubika chikafu, kuvaka chimwe chinhu, kana kugadzirisa dambudziko.
Aya marudzi ezviitiko haangovake chete kuvimba asi anokushora iwe kutsamira kune waunofambidzana naye kuti atsigire paunenge uchifamba nenzira dzakasiyana dzekusvika kumapurojekiti nekugadzira nzira yako pamwe chete.
Sevanhu vaviri, imi muri vadyidzani uye munofanirwa kuzviona muchikwata.
Muchokwadi, kuve shamwari uye kuva newaunotamba naye uyo anonamira newe zvisinei kuti ndechipi chimwe chakanakira kuve "isu" panzvimbo pekuti "ini."
Saka ive shuwa kurega kwako kurinda pasi, vimba nemumwe wako kuti akunzwire tsitsi newe, kumbira izvo zvaunoda, dzidzira kubatana pamwe kazhinji, uye nakidzwa kuve "isu".