Zvemukati
Kudanana chikamu chehupenyu, iyo nguva yatinotanga kufarira kune vakomana kana vasikana, chikamu chezvatinoda kusvika zuva ratinozofa, kunyangwe vakaroora vane hutano vanoramba vachidanana.
Nekudaro, kufambidzana nemumwe munhu hakukupi iwe yakasarudzika kuwana kune kwavo kwese kuve. Zvinongoreva kuti uri padhuze uye padhuze pane shamwari.
Kumisikidza miganho pakufambidzana inogara iri pfungwa yakanaka. Kuziva kuti ndeapi mabhesi akasiyana pakufambidzana kunogona zvakare kubatsira mukuona kuti haumhanyire muzvinhu, chengetedza vakashupika pakureba kwemaoko, uye usazvimisikidza kuti utadze.
Vanhu vazhinji vanofambidzana kuti vangowana zvavanoda kubva kune mumwe munhu uye vovarasa semapapiro akamboshandiswa mushure mekunge vapedza. Ndosaka munhu wese anofanirwa kutevera anotanga kufambidzana nemitemo yekunzvenga misungo yehukama hwakazara nenyaya dzakakomba dzemuganho muhukama gare gare.
Kugadzira uye nekuisa miganho muhukama hwekufambidzana mugwagwa une minzwa, vanhu vashoma vanozviona semhinganidzo kukusimudzira kwevaviri nekuti zvinhu zvakawanda zvinosiiwa zvisina kutaurwa.
Hauna chokwadi chekuti ungamisa sei miganho yekufambidzana ine hutano? Tarisa iyi vhidhiyo inonzwisisika:
Miganhu yemari uchidanana
Mutsika yechinyakare, murume aizoisa mari yezvese zviitiko zvekufambidzana kukwezva mukadzi. Ichowo chiratidzo chekugona kwavo kwemari semupi wekupa mudzimai wake weramangwana nevana. Zvino kune zvekare varume vazhinji vanongoda kushamisira kukwezva vakadzi.
Vamwe vakadzi vanoshandisawo mazango avo kuti vawane mafavour kubva kuvarume, asi zvekare, kune vakawanda varume vanoita zvakafanana.
Kuchengetedza zviwanikwa zvemari kubva kuvanhu vanonyengera vanoshandisa rudo uye kudanana kunhonga chikwama chako ndechimwe chezvikonzero nei uchifanira kugadzira miganho mukufambidzana.
Chinhu chekutanga chaunofanira kuyeuka ndechekuti kwete kunyanyisa kupa, kunyangwe iwe uchikwanisa. Iwe unoda kuti munhu adanane newe, kwete yako mari.
Maitiro aunoita iwe panguva yako yekufambidzana uye kufambidzana, inofanirwa kunge yakafanana makore gumi mushure mekuroora, nenzira iyoyo zvinotarisirwa zvinochengetwa chaizvo.
Kune vamwe vakaroorana vane zvibvumirano zvepamutemo (senge prenup) pavanogara pamwe chete kuti vazvidzivirire kubva pakurambana kunogovana kwekugovana zvinhu. Mari inofanira kuchengetwa yake, yake, uye pamwechete.
Kurukurai marongero uye gadzirai kumisikidza miganho ine hukama muhukama pane iyo nyaya uye kuti zvaizochinja sei mushure mekuroora.
Uyezve tarisa:
Miganhu yepanyama pakudanana
Kufambidzana kunoguma kwaita bonde.
Vamwe vanhu vanotozviita vasati varoora zviri pamutemo, uye kana vachizviita kazhinji zvakakwana, zvinogona kuvatungamira kuenda vakadzikama. Kune vamwe vakaroorana vanoenda kuburikidza nezviito zvekudanana, zvadaro mabhesi, kusvikira zvichizopedzisira zvaendesa pabonde, dzimwe nguva kunyange kuroora vasati varoorana.
Vakaroorana vanoumbwa nevanhu vaviri vakasiyana, pfungwa yavo yekufambidzana uye bonde inogona kunge isina kufanana.
Mumwe bato angave ane hukasha mukufambisa zvinhu pamwe pabonde asati mumwe wacho agadzirira mupfungwa. Kutungamira mumwe wako kunogona kukonzeresa kusanzwisisana uye kushushikana kunogona kupedza hukama nekukasira.
Izvo zvakakosha kuti ukurukure miganhu yepabonde munzira yekufambidzana zvinhu zvisati zvatsva uye zvichirema.
Kune zvakare nhanho dzakasiyana dzebonde.
Haasi munhu wese akasununguka nehupombwe, kunyanya nematoyi, weird fetishes, uye vanopfuura mumwe chete.
Kumanikidza mumwe wako kuti apfuure napo achishandisa kudanana kwakatsiga serezinesi kunogona kutungamira kune yakaipa hukama.
Gadzira miganhu yebonde neyepanyama, inodzivirira vanodanana kubva kumatambudziko.
Kune zvekare vanhu vane nyaya dzekubata nekugadzira paruzhinji. Kwavari, kujekesa, kuratidza pachena kwerudo kuri kudarika miganhu muhukama.
Izvo hazvichinje chokwadi chekuti vanoda munhu zvakadii, ivo vanongonzwa kusagadzikana neratidziro yeruzhinji yerudo. Izvo zvakakosha kuti bato rine hukasha rinonzwisisa mwero wekutsauka unosiyana pamunhu nemunhu, kunyanya kana ichionekwa nevanhu.
Panyama uye pabonde miganho yekufambidzana nevanhu inogona kuputsa nekufamba kwenguva, asi usazvimanikidza, funga makumi mashanu emvuri yegrey, ita shuwa yekuwana mvumo. Kubata chibharo imhosva.
Shandisa ruzivo kubva kuhukama hwako hwepakutanga uye zviitiko uchimisikidza miganho yemuviri muhukama.
Kumisikidza miganho yemuviri muhukama kunotendera vese vari vaviri kuti vanzwe kugadzikana uye kunovabatsira kuti vanzwisise muganho weumwe neumwe wenyama.
Miganhu yepamoyo mukufambidzana
Kufambidzana nemumwe munhu kunosanganisira hukama hwehukama hwepedyo.
Dzimwe nguva zvinonzwa kuti hupenyu hwako hwese huri pamaoko-pamunhu mumwe chete. Kana iri hukama hwakanaka, iko kunzwa kunowirirana uye kunodzoserwa.
Zvisinei, panofanirwa kuve nenzvimbo yakati wandei yekukura nekukura zvakanyanya semunhu. Kunyangwe iwe uchinzwa uchida kupa hupenyu hwako hwese kune mumwe munhu, haufanire. Kuisa miganho yakajeka munzvimbo kunogona kukubatsira iwe kuteedzera unofara uye hukama hukama.
Kupa mashoma ezviroto zvako zvehukama hwako hwepedyo chikamu chehupenyu, asi kwete zvese izvo. Zvinangwa zvako zvekutanga zvinofanirwa kunge zvichienderana nemumwe wako uye nehukama hwako.
Hazvina musoro kune mumwe munhu anoda kudzidzisa vana muAfrica kuvaka ramangwana ravo pane mumwe munhu anoda kuve programmer yeGoogle.
Bill naMelinda Gates vakakwanisa kuzviita zvese, asi izvo mushure mekusiya kutonga kweMicrosoft uye kuve mumwe wevakapfuma vakaroora pasirese.
Kunze kwekunge iwe uri weiyo yepamusoro 3% iyo inogona kuita mari yakawanda kupfuura inogona kushandiswa mune zana hupenyu, iwe unofanirwa kuve unoshanda zvakanyanya pakuronga ramangwana rako.
Iwe unogona kushamisika kuti chii chiri kubatana pakati pezviroto zvako uye nemanzwiro ako, zviroto zvako ndiko kunobva kwako kwekuda.
Sezvo maroto ako anochinja nekufamba kwenguva, uye kana achinge achidaro, ndizvo zvinoitawo zvaunofarira.
Kupa zviroto izvi kunoshungurudza, kuchitsiva nechimwe chinhu, semuenzaniso, vana, zvakare kunetsa kwazvo. Kugovera iwo manzwiro neako akakosha chimwe chinhu chakakosha kuhukama hune hutano, asi kuzvichengetera wega chikamu chekusimudzira wega.
Hukama hwepedyo hwepedyo, senge muchato hachisi chikonzero chekumisa kukura kwako pachako.
Iwe unofanirwa kuenderera uchishanda pazviroto zvako, kunyangwe zvimwe zvimwe zvakakosha sekurera vana zvichitora yakawanda yenguva yako.
Ita shuwa yekuchengeta miganho mukufambidzana, kuroora, uye hukama kuchengetedza hunhu hwako zvisinei nekuti mumwe wako ndiani. Paunofa, zvakakosha kuti iwe urangarirwe nezvako zvawakaita uye nezvaunosiya shure, kwete semumwe munhu wemurume.
Kugadzira miganho mukufambidzana kuchaita kuti zvive nyore kuchengetedza hunhu hwako paunenge uchizvipira kune mumwe wako.
Miganhu yehukama yakakodzera inogona kuve yenguva pfupi kana yekusingaperi zvichienderana nemamiriro ezvinhu. Kuraramira hupenyu hwako kune mumwe munhu kunganzwika kuve kwakanaka uye inzira chaiyo yekushandisa hupenyu hwako, asi iwe unofanirwa kusiira zvimwe iwe.
Rangarira, zvirinani zvauri, zviwanikwa zviwande zvaunounganidza, uye nekuwedzera iwe kugona kuita.
Kungofanana nemumwe munhu akatanga software software izvozvi rave rimwe remakambani makuru pasi rose uye kudzidzisa vana vazhinji mu Africa panguva imwe chete.
Kumisikidza miganho ine hukama muhukama hakufanirwe kuonekwa sechiito cheudyire asi as asiri–chikamu chinotaurika chekurarama hupenyu hunofadza uye hune hutano uchicheka huturu hwakakukomberedza. Nekudaro, nepo uchiisa zvinotarisirwa muhukama zvakakosha kuti uzive zvinotarisirwa nemumwe wako futi.
Kumisikidza nekuchengetedza hutano, miganhu yepakati haisi yekukanganisa mufaro wako, asi nezve kuchengetedza hupenyu hwako, kuti ugare wakatendeka pane zvaunotenda, uye uchengetedze yako kukosha system.
Seta miganho uye zviyero nemumwe wako kutanga kwehukama uye iwe unozogona kudzivirira zvakakomba matambudziko ehukama ayo anowanzo kukonzerwa nekutyora kana nemaune kutyora kwehukama miganho.