Zvemukati
- 1. Kupindira kwechitatu-bato
- 2. Dzidzira chibereko chemweya
- 3. Funga nezvenhaka yako
- Dzimwe nguva kuparadzana ndiyo nzira kwayo
Panguva dzekutanga kurairana nezvewanano, mubvunzo wandinobvunzwa kazhinji ndewekuti "iwe unofunga kuti tinofanira kusiyana"? Kazhinji kazhinji inobvunzwa nevaroorani vakaneta neizvo zvinoita kunge kusaguma kusingaperi. Vanoshuvira zororo uye vanoshamisika kana kuve kwakaparadzana kungabatsira kudzikamisa zvinhu.
Kusarudza kana vaviri vachiparadzana haimbove sarudzo iri nyore. Kune mativi maviri kune iyo mari kana zvasvika pakurarama wega mushure mekurarama kuburikidza neanopesana mamiriro. Chekutanga ndechekuti kupatsanurana kunogona kupa munhu wega wega nguva yekudzora kushushikana kwavo uye kutama kubva mundangariro-dzakapomerwa kufunga kuita zvine musoro-kuita sarudzo. Nguva yega ingashande kubatsira mumwe nemumwe kufunga nezvekukundikana kwavo muhukama uye nezvavaigona kuita kusimudzira muchato.
Padivi remari yemari, kupatsanurwa kunogona kushanda kungogadzira chinhambwe pakati pevaviri sevamwe kana vese vanowana runyararo rwunovatungamira kuti vatende kuti kurambana ndiyo chete mhinduro iripo yekubatsira kumisa kupenga. Mune ino kesi, kupatsanurwa kunogona kushanda senzira iri nyore yekubuda muhukama uye kunogona kutadzisa vaviri kuita basa rakaoma rinodiwa kuitira kuyananisa kusawirirana kwavo.
Iyo Anti-Kuparadzanisa Sarudzo
Panzvimbo pokusarudza kupatsanurwa, heano matanho matatu ekutora kune vaviri vari kusangana zvakakwirira zvekushushikana uye kupokana muwanano yavo.
1. Kupindira kwechitatu-bato
Nhanho yako yekutanga ndeye kutsvaga murapi ane ruzivo uyo akadzidziswa kushanda nevaroorani vari kunetseka. Naiye chaiye chipangamazano iwe unozogona kudzidza maitiro eku: kugadzirisa zvakakosha; kugadzirisa kurwadziwa kwepfungwa; uye tanga rwendo rwekubatanidza zvakare. Kana isu tiri mumatanho uye tichisveta kunze zvinoita kuti zvive zvakaoma kwazvo kuziva mhinduro kuhukama hwedu nyaya. Ikoko ndiko kune chinangwa, chisiri-chekutonga chipangamazano chinogona kukubatsira kuronga nemarara uye kutanga kugadzira nzvimbo yakachengeteka.
2. Dzidzira chibereko chemweya
Kana varoorani vakaita kutsunga vari kuzoshanda pahukama hwavo ini ndaigara ndichisimbisa kwavari kudiwa "kwekuva vanyoro kune mumwe nemumwe", kunyanya mumatanho ekutanga kana hukama husina kugadzikana. Kuratidza mutsa uye moyo murefu panguva yekudzosa muwanano zvakakosha zvakanyanya kuitira kubatsira kugadzira nharaunda inobvumira kutsamwa kuparara uye rudo kuti rwuvezve. Isu tinowana muenzaniso wakanaka wehunhu hwevakaroorana vanofanirwa kukurudzira kune mumwe nemumwe muna VaGaratiya 5: 22-23.
“Asi Mweya Mutsvene unobereka chibereko cherudzi urwu muhupenyu hwedu: rudo, mufaro, rugare, moyo murefu, moyo munyoro, kutendeka, kupfava uye kuzvidzora. Hakuna mutemo unopesana nezvinhu izvi. ”
Kuchinja nzira yemuchato wakashata kunoda shanduko mumaonero. Zvinoreva kutarisa kuseri kwezvakashata izvo zvakave zvakareba dombo rekona remuchato uye pachinzvimbo kutsvaga kutsvaga nekuziva maropafadzo mazhinji aripo muhukama uye muhupenyu hwako.
3. Funga nezvenhaka yako
Pawakaroora pamwe hauna kufunga nezvekurambana sehurongwa hwezviitiko. Kwete, iwe ungangodaro wakatora mhiko ye "ikozvino nekusingaperi" zvakanyanya uye uchifunga kuti watanga rwendo rwunotora hupenyu hwako hwese. Asi roorano haisi kunyatso kusangana nezvamunotarisira saka inguva yekubuda nhanho kuruboshwe.
Asi ndiko here iko kusviba kwaunoda kupfeka? Kuti wakundikana muhukama hwako? Ko kana uine vana? Iwe unoda here kuti vatende kuti kuroora hakusi kuzvipira kwehupenyu hwese asi pachinzvimbo chimwe chinhu chaunogona kungofamba uchibva pazuva raunofunga kuti hausisiri mufaro?
Kana kuti pamwe ungasarudza kuenda pasi uchidzungaira mukuyedza kuita zvese zvinobvira kununura imba yako kuitira kuti rimwe zuva kana mwana wako mukuru auya achiti imba yavo iri kunetsekana unogona kushanda semuenzaniso weiko kushanda nesimba uye kutsungirira kungareva kuchengeta. muchato uri mupenyu.
Dzimwe nguva kuparadzana ndiyo nzira kwayo
Zvakare zvinofanirwa kuratidzwa kuti pane imwechete mamiriro ekuti kupatsanurwa kunofanira kukurudzirwa uye ndipo apo mumwe wako paanotambura nekushungurudzika mupfungwa, mumuviri kana pabonde. Hapana munhu anofanirwa kugara mumamiriro ezvinhu aya uye kupatsanurana kwakakodzera sezvo mumwe anenge achitadza achiwana rubatsiro rwaanoda kuti arege tsika dzaanoshusha.