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- Vana vanoita zvakanaka kana vachikwanisa
- Regai vana vagadzire avo mhinduro
- Tora nzira yekubatana kugadzirisa matambudziko
Sevanhu vakuru, isu tese tinoda mazano edu akateererwa, akabvumidzwa uye akasimbiswa. Padivi rerutivi, sevanhu vakuru, isu tinowanzokundikana kukoshesa kuti vana nevechidiki vanonzwa zvakafanana. Kuziva kuti kunyangwe vana vadiki semakore mana ekuberekwa vanofarira kusimbiswa uye nemukana wekutaura mazano avo, zvinogona kutibatsira kwete chete kudzidzisa vana nevechidiki kunetseka kugadzirisa, asi zvinogona zvakare kugadzira kuwirirana uye nyore hupenyu hwepamba.
Ndiine pfungwa iyi mupfungwa, Dr. J. Stuart Abalon naDr.Ross Greene vakagadzira Iyo Kubatana Dambudziko Kugadzirisa (CPS) Institute (2002) muDhipatimendi rePsychiatry kuMassachusetts General Hospital. Kutevera izvi, Dr Abalon veFungaKids.org vane kuburikidza nekutsvaga kwavo, vakaenderera mberi nekusimudzira nzira yeCollaborative Dambudziko Kugadzirisa (CPS) yekubata mamiriro anonetsa nevana nevechidiki. Maitiro aDr Abalon anonyanya kubatsira kuvana nevachiri kuyaruka vatinofunga kuti "vanoputika." Maitiro eCPS akave nekiriniki kuratidzwa kubatsira vana, vechidiki nevabereki vavo kunetseka kugadzirisa nekugonesa mwana kana wechidiki kuburitsa uye nekutaura nemhinduro mhinduro kumatambudziko ari kusangana pamba, kuchikoro kana mukutamba. Maitiro aya akawanikwa achishanda kuvana nevechiri kuyaruka vane huwandu hwakasiyana hwekunetseka kwemanzwiro, magariro uye hunhu munzvimbo zhinji dzakasiyana kusanganisira imba yemhuri. Kushandisa nzira iyi kunogona kuenda kure kunogadzira imba inofara isina kunetsekana uye kunoratidzwa kudzidzisa hunyanzvi hwakakosha hwekudyidzana.
Vana vanoita zvakanaka kana vachikwanisa
Dr. Abalon vanoomerera kuti "vana vanoita zvakanaka kana vachikwanisa," mune mamwe mazwi, patinopa maturusi nehunyanzvi, vana vanogona kuita zvakanaka. Pfungwa iyi yakatosiyana nemaonero echinyakare ekuti vana vanoita zvakanaka pavanenge vachida. Vana vese vanoda kuve vakanaka uye vanoda kuonekwa sevakanaka, asi vamwe vanonetseka kupfuura vamwe nekuti havana hunyanzvi hwekugadzirisa matambudziko hwavanoda kuti vakwanise kuva "vakanaka".
Regai vana vagadzire avo mhinduro
Pfungwa yekutanga yemaitiro aya ndeyekutendera vana kuti vagadzire yavo mhinduro kumatambudziko anowanikwa kumba kana mune mamwe marongero. Munhu mukuru achatanga hurukuro nenzira isiri yekutonga isiri yekumhan'ara nekutaura chimwe chinhu chakadai, "Ndazviona kuti ...... zvinei nazvo?" Izvo zvino zvakakosha kumirira mhinduro pasina kukanganisa. Zvakakoshawo kuvimbisa mwana kana wechidiki kuti "haasi mudambudziko." Munhu mukuru aitevera nekutaura nyaya yacho (zvakare - asingamhan'ari, asingasaruri, chingotaura nyaya yacho), uye wobvunza mwana kana wechidiki kuti anonzwa sei, kana zvavanofunga nezvenyaya iyi. Kumirira nekushivirira panguva ino kwakanyanya kukosha uye zvinogona kutora nguva. Izvo zvakare zvakakosha kuti ushandise kuteerera kuteerera kuti mwana kana wechidiki azive kuti urikuteerera maonero avo zvakanyatsoteerera.
Kana munhu mukuru aine pfungwa yakajeka yemafungiro emwana kana evechidiki, vanogona kubvunza mwana kana wechidiki kana vaine mazano ekuvandudza mamiriro acho ezvinhu. Izvi zvinogona kutora nguva zvakare uye chero mazano akagadzirwa nemwana kana wechidiki anofanirwa kuteererwa, kukosheswa uye kusimbiswa. Maitiro acho ane zvikamu zvitatu zvinodaidzwa kuti chirongwa A, chirongwa B uye chirongwa C, imasimba akasimba uye zvakave nesainzi kuti ine mabhenefiti chaiwo. Kazhinji kwete anoshandiswa panguva yakakwenenzverwa zvakanyanya kana kuputika asi achiteedzera kana mwana kana wechidiki achikwanisa kugamuchira uye kubatanidzwa mukukurukurirana. Kunyangwe nzira yacho ichitora imwe tsika kuita yakakwana, vabereki vanodzidza kushandisa nzira iyi zvinobudirira vanenge vachiitira vana vavo uye vechidiki basa rakakura nekuvadzidzisa maitiro ekugadzirisa pasina kuputika kana kuratidza humwe hunhu husingadiwe.
Tora nzira yekubatana kugadzirisa matambudziko
Iyo yekudyidzana kugadzirisa dambudziko nzira inotora imwe nguva uye kudzidzira kuita yakakwana asi inofanirwa zviripo kuedza. Vanamai nababa vanoshandisa CPS vanowanzo shamisika nekuti nzira iyi inotanga kuchinja nzira iyo ivo pachavo dambudziko kugadzirisa munzvimbo dzese dzehupenyu hwavo. Chinhu chikuru chekutsvaga zvimwe nezvekuti ungaite sei CPS inowanikwa paDr Stuart Abalon webhusaiti www.thinkkids.org.
Mabhuku maviri pamusoro penyaya ari Mwana Anoputika naRoss Greene; bhuku rinobatsira mukurera vana "vanokurumidza kuvhiringidzika, vana vasingachinjiki," uye Vakarasika Kuchikoro, rimwe bhuku rakanyorwa naDr. Greene rinotsanangura kuti sei vana vechikoro vachinetswa nehunhu vachinetseka uye "vachidonha nekumuka." Ose ari maviri mabhuku akakosha kuverenga kana iwe uri kubereka mwana anonetsa, anonetsekana nyore kana anoputika kana wechidiki.