Zvemukati
- 1. Bonde chinhu chekare
- Yakakurudzirwa - Sevha Yangu Yekuroora Kosi
- 2. Nhaurirano yakafa pamwe nedodo
- 3. Izwi rekuti 'vekumba' rinoreva hukama hwenyu
- 4. Ura hwako hwomuzvarirwo huri kukuchemerera nekuti chimwe chinhu hachina kumira zvakanaka
- 5. Unotarisa zvakanyanya pane zvinodiwa nevamwe
- 6. Warega kurwa
- 7. Hupenyu usina mumwe wako ingori fungidziro yaunofarira kusangana nayo
Kana iwe wakaroora uye iwe uchinzwa senge zvakagadzirwa kana kuputsa nguva, kuziva nguva yekubva muchato idambudziko. Izvo zvinowanzo sanganiswa nekuvhiringidzika manzwiro uye kutya pane kwako chikamu pamusoro pekuti hupenyu hungazove hwakaita sei mushure mekurambana.
Hazvishamise kuti vanhu vazhinji vasingazive nguva yekubva kumuchato vanowanzo gara uye kugadzirisa kusagutsikana pane kutarisana nehupenyu chete.
Asi nekutsvaga kwakabvumidzwa kuGottman Institute (nyanzvi muhukama) kuratidza kuti vanhu vari muwanano ine hurombo vanoratidza kukwirira kwakaderera, kushushikana, uye kushushikana kazhinji haisiyo sarudzo ine hutano kana ukasarudza kugara mumhando iyi yemuchato.
Saka unoziva sei nguva yekubva kumuchato kana kuti zvakakosha kuchengetedza?
Heano mimwe mienzaniso yezvikonzero nei mumwe munhu achizosarudza kusiya muchato, kuti akubatsire iwe kuita sarudzo yakasimba nezve idungamiriro yaunoda kutora hupenyu hwako.
1. Bonde chinhu chekare
Imba isina bonde zvachose pasina kutaurirana nezvekuti nei imba yako isina bonde inogona kuve chiratidzo chekunyevera kuti pane chakashata muwanano yako.
Mushure mezvose, ndiko kushamwaridzana pakati pevaviri kunochinja hukama kubva kuplatonic kuenda kudanana.
Kana iwe usingakwanise kusvika pasi pechikonzero nei imba yako isina bonde, iwe unenge uchizofanira kufunga nguva yekubva muwanano kana kana uchifanira kugara ugamuchire kushomeka kwehukama.
Kunyangwe isu tichifunga kuti kugara kungave kusiri kuzadza kune vanhu vazhinji.
Yakakurudzirwa - Sevha Yangu Yekuroora Kosi
2. Nhaurirano yakafa pamwe nedodo
Kana hurukuro yako yakadzikiswa pasi kuita mirayiridzo mupfupi kana makomendi nezve hupenyu hwako hwezuva nezuva uye pasina hudzamu ipapo zvachose, uye haugone kurangarira nguva yekupedzisira yaive yekuti iwe waita hurukuro yakanaka newawakaroorana naye wozvitora sechinhu kuti chimwe chinhu hachina kunaka muhukama hwako.
Kana izvi zvikaitika muwanano yako, danho rekutanga rinofanirwa kuve rekuedza kutaura newawakaroorana naye nezve mafambisirwo awakaitwa uye kuti ungazvigadzirisa sei.
Unogona kunyange kutsvaga kupihwa mazano ekukubatsira iwe kuti uwane nzira yako yekudzoka kune mumwe nemumwe, asi kana izvozvo zvikasakubatsira uye kunyanya kana iwe uchigara mumuchato usina bonde futi, mubvunzo ungangove hausi 'riini' kusiya roorano chero zvimwe zvingangodaro kuve 'sei' pachinzvimbo.
3. Izwi rekuti 'vekumba' rinoreva hukama hwenyu
Wakatendeuka here kuva vaunogara navo panzvimbo pevadi muhukama hwepabonde? Muri kurarama mese hupenyu hwenyu asi kungogara pasi pemba imwechete here?
Kana iwe iri nguva yekuita hurukuro nezve izvi uye edza kubatanidza zvakare.
Zvikasadaro, ichi chiratidzo chinokubatsira iwe kuziva nguva yekubva kumuchato - kunyanya kana uri kubvuma mamwe mapoinzi muchinyorwa chino.
4. Ura hwako hwomuzvarirwo huri kukuchemerera nekuti chimwe chinhu hachina kumira zvakanaka
Huturu hwedu hwomuzvarirwo kazhinji hunogara hwakarurama; ingori kuti isu hatidi kuuteerera kana kuti hatiite kuwirirana pakati pemabhero e alarm ayo ari kurira uye mamiriro atinozviwana tiri.
Kana iwe uine ura hunhu kuti imba yako isiri kushanda, pamwe kusvika padanho rekuti iri kukonzeresa kufunga paunofanira kubva muwanano, saka ungangoda kuita izvo chaizvo.
Usati waita chero mapundu ekumhanyisa hazvo, hazvikuvadze kuti utarise mukati mako kuti uone kuti inguva iyi yanga ichikuzivisa sei kune dambudziko. Icho chiri chazvino pamwe kubva pawakatomboparadzana kana kuti chagara chiripo?
Kana zvagara zviripo, inguva yekuteerera uye kusiya muchato asi kana zvakangoitika kubva zvawakatiza ipapo pamwe unogona kuyedza kubatanidza usati waita zvinhu zvekupedzisira.
5. Unotarisa zvakanyanya pane zvinodiwa nevamwe
Vakadzi vazhinji vanowanzo gara muhukama hwakareba kupfuura zvavanofanira nekuti vane tsika yekuisa zvinodiwa nevamwe pamberi pavo.
Uye sezvo vakadzi kazhinji vachiwanzo kutora chinzvimbo chevatariri, ivo vanogona kurasikirwa nezvikamu zvavo zvega uye nemanzwiro ezvavanoda pachavo mukuita.
Kana iwe ukazviwana iwe uchinyanya kufunga nezve hupenyu hwevamwe pane kushanda pane hwako hupenyu, inogona kunge iri chiratidzo chekuti iwe uri kuramba, kana kuzvitsausa pachako kubva kune chakakosha chinhu.
6. Warega kurwa
Kana iwe newawakaroorana naye musiri kutaurirana uye musiri kurwa futi izvo zvine mukana wekuti iwe warasikirwa nechishuwo chako uye wakarega kuedza kuti zvinhu zvifambe. Pamwe inguva yekukotama?
Isu tinoziva kuti zvakaoma kuziva nguva yekubva kumuchato, asi kana usiri kungofarira saka ingangove nguva kunyanya kana uchikwanisa kuenderana neinotevera poindi zvakare!
7. Hupenyu usina mumwe wako ingori fungidziro yaunofarira kusangana nayo
Kana ramangwana rako rekufungidzira pasina wawakaroorana naye achifara uye asina hanya, pane dambudziko hombe pano. Iwe unogona kunge watove munzira yekuzvidzivirira iwe pamoyo kubva kuhupenyu hwewanano.
Iyi inzira yekuzvigadzirira iwe izvo zvisingadziviriki kuitira kuti kana iwe uchisiya muchato, iwe ugone kuzvibata. Kana icho chisiri chiratidzo, inguva yekubva. Hatizive chii !!