Zvemukati
- Chii chinonzi kudanana kwepamoyo muhukama?
- Chii chinoita hwehukama hwepedyo hunotaridzika?
- 1. Rudo
- 2. Kuvimba
- 3. Kuremekedza
- 4. Kushuva
- Hukama kana muchato hungararama pasina hukama hwepedyo here?
- Mhedziso
Isu tose tinoshuva kushamwaridzana.
Ini handina basa kana uri wekutanga kana anoshamisira, mudiki kana mukuru, asina kuroora kana akaroora; isu tese tinoda kunzwa kwekuve padyo nemumwe munhu.
Vanhu vazhinji vanoparadzanisa hukama hwepedyo mupfungwa dzavo sehunhu chaihwo. Kana iwe ukanzwa mumwe munhu achiti ivo vave nehukama hwepedyo nemumwe munhu, pfungwa dzako dzinogona kukuendesa iwe chaimo muimba yavo yekurara. Icho chiitiko chechisikigo, asi hachisi chokwadi.
Kushamwaridzana kunogona kuita zvese zvepanyama uye nemanzwiro. Izvo zvakakosha kuti isu tirege kungoziva mutsauko asi tinzwisise kuti kushamwaridzana kwepamoyo ndiyo hwaro iyo iwe yaunogona kuvakira irwo rudo rwepedyo rwepedyo.
Chii chinonzi kudanana kwepamoyo muhukama?
Kubatsira kutsanangura hukama hwehukama, zvingangove zviri nyore kushandisa kwedu kwese kunzwisisa kwehukama hwepanyama sepadura yekutangisa. Kana vanhu vaviri vaine hukama hwepedyo, vari kutsvodana, kubata, nekubata padhuze. Ivo vakabatana, kungave kuri kuita rudo kana kukwatira pamusoro pasofa.
Kushamwaridzana kwepamoyo zvakafanana asi pasina muviri wenyama. Zviri pedyo maererano nerudo uye kunzwisisa. Pane kubatana pakati pevanhu vaviri nekuda kwekuti vanonzwa sei pamusoro peumwe neumwe.
Uye, isu tese tinoshuvira kuswedera padhuze nepamoyo, kuti hukama nehukama zvienderane.
Muchinyorwa chakabva Focus on the Family webhusaiti, Shana Schutte inotaura nezvehukama hwekutamba semutsara wekuti "in-to-me-see." Kana mumwe munhu achinge aona mauri uye achikuda iwe kune iye munhu anogara mukati mukati, uye iyi ndiyo inokodzera manzwiro ehukama hwepedyo tsananguro.
Chii chinoita hwehukama hwepedyo hunotaridzika?
Kana iwe uchinetseka kuti ungave sei wepamoyo, pane nzira dzakawanda dzaungagone kuburitsa yako yemwoyo manzwiro kune mumwe wako. Asi, zvinoreva kushushikana kwepamoyo hazvina kufanana kune wese munhu.
Tsananguro yehukama hwehukama hunogona kusiyana kubva pamunhu kuenda pamunhu sezvo munhu achigona kuve neakasiyana manzwiro. Ngatitarisei pamanzwiro anowanzo kuve nechekuita nehukama uye newanano uye wozvitarisa kuburikidza neiyo lens yehukama hwehukama hwehukama.
1. Rudo
Kana rudo rwuchiratidzwa muchimiro chehukama hwepamoyo, vanhu vaviri vanobatanidzwa vanotarisana. Kana iwe uripo pamberi pavo, unogona kunzwa kubatana kwavo uye rudo rwavo rwakadzama kune mumwe nemumwe.
2. Kuvimba
Kana kuvimba kuchiratidzwa muhukama hwepamoyo, unoona kuti vanovimbana nehupenyu hwavo. Iko hakuna kuzeza mukutenda kwavo. Yakavakwa pamusoro penguva kusvika pakusingaputsike zviyero.
Ivo vanoziva kuti ivo vanogona kuturatidzira meso kune zviitwa zveumwe wavo, uye ivo havanganyengerwe.
3. Kuremekedza
Ruremekedzo rudzi rwehukama hwehukama mumuchato hunoshuvira vakawanda vakaroorana.
Kana ruremekedzo ruchiratidzwa muhukama hwepedyo hwepamoyo, unogona kutaura kuti vanhu vaviri vanobatana mukuremekedzana.
Iropafadzo kune yega yega pati kudiwa neimwe, uye ivo vanoratidza kukudzwa ikoko mune zvese zvavanoita.
Vanoitira chero murume / mukadzi wavo chero chinhu uye zvese nekuti vanovaremekedza zvakanyanya.
4. Kushuva
Kushushikana ndiko huni kune vazhinji vanehukama hwepamoyo. Funga nezveiyi manzwiro sebhiriji pakati pehukama hwehukama nehukama hwepanyama. Vakaroorana vane chishuwo chakakura vanoonana mune yavo yakasvibirira fomu uye vachiri kuvada zvinotyisa.
Hukama kana muchato hungararama pasina hukama hwepedyo here?
Muchidimbu, kwete. Zvirinani kwete mairi ndiyo fomu ine rudo kwazvo. Vanhu vanogona kukwegura uye vachiri kugara pamwe vasina hukama hwepamoyo, asi hauzove muchato une hukama hwakadzama uye chishuwo.
Wati wambonzwa mumwe wako, kana pamwe shamwari, kuratidza kukamurwa mukati mehukama hwavo? Kuregedza ikoko kushayikwa kwehukama hwepamoyo. Zvinoreva kuti vaviri vacho vanga vaenda kwenguva yakareba vasina kushanda kuti vagare padhuze kana kumbozvinetsa nekuita iro basa pakutanga.
Kudzokera kushoko raSchutte rehukama hwepedyo richionekwa kuburikidza ne lens ye "in-to-me-see, ” zvakakosha kuti uzive kuti zvinotora mapato maviri kuti vave nehukama hwepamoyo. Murume anogona kudurura parudo, rukudzo, uye kushuvira kumukadzi wake, asi kana asina kuvhura pazviri, haazomboswedere padhuze sezvaanoda.
Anofanirwa kutendera mumwe wake kuti atarise maari, uye anofanira kuvhurira murume wake uye amutendere kuti aone zvese zvakanaka nezvakaipa pamusoro pake. Pasina kuvhura musuwo iwoyo kutendera mumwe wake kuti atarise mukati, unova nzira-nzira iyo iye chete ari kufamba pasi.
Iye anongova mucherechedzi wezviito zvake mukati mehukama.
Mudzimai anokwanisa kuratidza zuva rega rega nerudo, kuyemura, kuremekedza, uye kuvimba nemurume wake, asi iye, zvakare, anofanira kuve akavhurika kuti agamuchire. Varume vanowanzo gara vakavharwa. Havatenderi vanhu vakawandisa kupinda, saka vanowanzove bato rinopinda munzira yehukama hwechokwadi hwepamoyo.
Kana murume aifanira kuzvivhura, mukadzi wake anokwanisa kunyatsoona zvaari. Runako, kukanganisa, zvidimbu zvisina kukwana. Zvese!
Asi zvinotora iye kuve ari panjodzi uye akavhurika kuti hukama hwepedyo huitike.
Tarisa vhidhiyo iyi:
Mhedziso
Isu tese tinoshuvira kushamwaridzana, asi vamwe vedu vanotya kwazvo kuita basa rinodiwa. Zvinotora kusagadzikana nedanho rega rega kune munhu wauri kushamwaridzana naye.
Kushamwaridzana kwepamoyo hakusi kwevakasimba-vanoda kana kuomesa musoro. Izvo zvinongouya kune avo vari kuda kupomhodza yavo yekunze yakaoma, bvumira vamwe kuti vatarise mukati, uye vade ivo zvavari. Pasina chiito chekutanga chekushinga, danho rehukama hwehukama hahuzombosvika pakukwanisa kwaro chaiko.
Nekudaro, kana iwe nemumwe wako muchinzwa kusabatana uye muchida kuve nehukama hwepamoyo, tora wechipiri uye utarise mukati.
Wakavhura here? Uri kudzidzira kushupika here? Kana usiri, tanga ipapo. Iwe haugone kuswedera padyo nemumwe wako nekuzvichengeta padanho rakachengeteka.