Zvemukati
- Kusarudza kubvuma
- Kugamuchirwa ndicho chikamu chisinga tsanangurike cherudo rusina magumo
- Sei kudzidza hunyanzvi hwekugamuchira muhukama?
- Kugamuchira mumwe munhu zvaari muhukama
Vakaroorana vanotsvaga rubatsiro rwemazano vanowanzokumbira rubatsiro nehunyanzvi hwavo hwekutaurirana.
Ndinovaendesa kuti vatange kuvandudza hunyanzvi hwekugamuchira muhukama. Chii chinosimudzira uye chinosimbisa rudo hwehukama hwepedyo kudzidza kudzidza kuburikidza nekugashira panzvimbo pekutonga.
Iko kutya kwekusaziva kuti hakuna kukwana "_______" kwandiri ndiko kunoita kuti kutonga, kunyadzisa, kupomera nekutsoropodza kuitira kuyedza kushandura iyo yega kana imwe kuitira kuti pave ne "_______" kwandiri.
Maitiro aya anodzinga rudo kure pane kurisimudzira.
Rudo uye kugamuchirwa muhukama kunosimudzira hurefu hwehukama uye kuvaka hukama hwakasimba hunogona kumira chero dutu. Rudo rwechokwadi kugamuchira mumwe munhu sezvaari.
Kusarudza kubvuma
Kuzvigashira uye kugashira mudiwa wako ndizvo zvinopedza hondo nekukudzosera kune hukama kubva kunzvimbo yekudzikama. Kudzikama uye kudzikama zvinokutendera kuti mutaurirane neshanduko dzinodiwa nemumwe musinganzwe kurwiswa.
Iyi nzira yekugashira uye isina kutonga kwehukama inoitawo kuti zvive nyore kusabvisa kana kuchengeta zvakavanzika kubva kune mumwe nemumwe. Kuisa panjodzi kurega yangu chaiyo inobata izvo zvandinowanzo kupa kune wangu anozviitira, inondidzosera kuchokwadi changu chisina njodzi panzvimbo pekuzvidzivirira kwangu kurinda.
Patinonyanya kudzidzira kuzvitambira pamatanho akadzika, tinowedzera kusimba uye kuchengeteka patinotaura kubva kune chaiyo, yechokwadi uye isina njodzi nzvimbo.
Kugamuchirwa ndicho chikamu chisinga tsanangurike cherudo rusina magumo
Kugamuchirwa kuchanyatso kuendesa izvo mutongi kana mutsoropodzi ari kuyedza kuunza kune wega uye nehukama.
Nhanho yekutanga ndeyekutangira newe. Sezvo iwe uchidzidzira kukumbundira ako ese manzwiro uye ako ese mativi huviri huviri hwekuyedza kuuraya kubvisa zvakashata zvikamu zvega uye kuwedzera, zvikamu zvakanaka zvekuzvimirira zvinomira kuzvipatsanura pachako muzviviri uye iwe wotanga kushandisa kubatana musiri pane kuve unopikisa.
Kubatira pamwe kunoshanda kupfuura kuyedza kwemunhu. Kuzviziva iwe senhengo yechikwata kunotendera kubatana kwakawanda uyezve kukunda-kuhwina mamiriro ezvinhu kunogoneka.
Sei kudzidza hunyanzvi hwekugamuchira muhukama?
Heano mhinduro nhatu dzinogona kuita kuti hukama hwenyu huve hwakanaka uye kubatsira mukuvaka hukama hwakasimba.
1. Uyai nemhinduro pamwechete sevanhu vaviri
2. Kudzidzira kurega zvinhu zvidiki
3. Koshesa runako runopihwa neupenyu hwezuva nezuva
Pandinotsiviwa naTe kunyange kurwara kunova kusagadzikana. Malcom X
Kutsvaga mamwe matipi ekuvandudza hunyanzvi hwekugamuchira muhukama? Heano maitiro ekugamuchira mumwe wako nezvavari.
- Iwe haufanire kunyorera kune imwecheteyo yekutenda sisitimu yemumwe wako, uye zvirokwazvo une kodzero yekutevera yako wega kukosha system. Asi unofanira bvuma maonero avo uye dzidza kusaremekedza kusawirirana.
- Hukama chiitiko chinonyudza uye iwe unofanirwa kudzidza kuzviita kumbundira zvaunokanganisa uye kusakwana kwemumwe wako zvisingabvumirwe sezvaunogamuchira hunhu hwavo hwakanaka.
- Usamanikidza maonero ako kune mumwe wako kuti avamanikidzire kuve ivo vaungade kuti vave. Iva simba rinotungamira, inoshanda kubva panzvimbo yekutsungirira uye mutsa. Remekedza kupesana kwako.
- Kana zvisarudzo zvavo zvikakukanganisa kana iwe ukaona kushayikwa kwekuenderana pakati pezvinangwa zvako navo, edza kunzwisisa kwavari kubva. Iwe haufanire kuktow kana kubvumirana navo, vanoisa kuvimba mune kugona kwavo kuita sarudzo.
- Iva munhu akura uye usakanganise kudhirowa kuenzanisa kusiri iko. Chinhu chinorwadza zvakanyanya iwe chaungaite kune mumwe wako kuzvienzanisa nevanhu vakakukomberedza kana vanhu vawakasangana navo munguva yakapfuura. Gamuchira uye ukoshese hunhu hwemumwe wako.
- Usadzorezve uye ushumire zvivi zveumwe wako zvakapfuura kwavari, zuva nezuva, pakudya kwekuseni, masikati kana kudya kwemanheru. Regerera, rega uende mberi. Ruregerero hazvireve kushivirira hunhu husina kunaka kana hunhu. Asi kana iwe wakasarudza kuregerera chako chakakosha chimwe uye ivo vakachinja kuita zvirinani, usarega zvikanganiso zvavo zvakapfuura zvichitsanangura yavo yazvino.
- Bata mumwe wako semumwe wako akaenzana. Rega kudzikisira kana kurerutsa mumwe wako uye shingairira kuumba hukama hwakareba hwakaenzana newawakaroorana naye.
- Kunyange zvichinakidza kuita zvinhu pamwe chete, bvuma kuti imi mose muchave nezvimwe zvido zvakasiyana zvamungateedzere mumwe nemumwe. Kuremekedza zvishuwo zveumwe neumwe zvaanofarira muhukama hazvitaurirane kuhukama mufaro.
Kugamuchira mumwe munhu zvaari muhukama
Rudo kugamuchirwa uye kuda mumwe munhu zvakazara uye zvisingaite kune zvavari.
Maitiro ekuita hukama hwakasimba, kugamuchirwa kwakasimba muhukama kunogona kubatsira kusimudzira rukudzo, rudo, hanya, uye kukura muhukama. Nzira yakanakisa yekukudziridza hunyanzvi hwekugamuchira muhukama kudada nematanho emumwe wako akawanikwa, makuru kana madiki.
Ziva kukunda kwavo pachena, bvuma kuoma kwerwendo rwavo, uye uvarumbidze pahunhu hwavo, kunyemwerera, kufunga, tsitsi, uye zvimwe zvinhu zvinoverengeka zvinoita kuti vakoshe.
Nekusatarisisa kutadza kweumwe wako uye kudzidza kuzvigamuchira izvo zvavari muhukama uchaunzira mufaro wechokwadi mumazuva avo asina kusimba, uchivakurudzira kukura semunhu ari nani.
Kuzvigamuchira pachedu, kudzidzira kuzvinzwira tsitsi uye kuratidza kutenda kune mumwe wako nekuvepo muhupenyu hwako zvese zvavari, uye zvavasiri, zvinopa simba kuhukama hwako. Rangarira kutaura hukama hwako sehukama hwechokwadi hwevakaenzana vaviri.
Ini ndinoshanda neEMDR, NLP, kufungisisa, kufema uye kurudziro yekukurudzira kusimbisa vese vanhu kuitira kuti hukama hwugone kuchinja zvachose. Dzidza kuzvida iwe uye pachinzvimbo chekuedza kushandurana, gamuchira mumwe wako sezvavari.